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you guys should be showing us pictures of the snakes BEFORE and AFTER killing it! That is; while it was alive and if it showed aggression and so on...

Sayymalvin:
Hahahahaha, the Recession hold me here pass you..

recession dey bully you?

Kanto47:
Being friendly with your kids helps a lot. Some parents' behavior and character can scare the hell out of a child. Imagining a child being scared or afraid whenever Dad or Mum is back at home, such child will not be able to speak up whenever he or she is facing with challenges. Parents-Child relationship matters a lot. Now, some one said to my daughter ( 9 years old) that one day, I will rape you. when she came back that same moment, she told me, Daddy this is what that uncle said. I didn't waste the next second I got him arrested and he confessed to the statement. What am I trying to say, because we, her parents always encourage her to say out anything that happens to her, in her school, church just anywhere, God help parents and our Children.

Hmmm...my 11 year old daughter went on an errand and someone said to her FOLLOW ME TO MY HOUSE. Because she could talk with us as her parental she told us immediately we stepped into the house and of course I went after the guy...his nose will continue to bear him witness for ever!

bjtinz:
How exactly does a parent bully his children. You mean if I flog my child that's bullying?

I really think some of you guys are taking this thing too far.

Flogging or administration of discipline to a child by a parent or even a teacher isn't bullying, but if you read through my comments I never said correction or discipline is bullying. But when it borders on intimidation just because you can as anyone even as a parent then don't you think that's bullying? And no one is taking this too far. We must talk about it just like anything that needs to be talked about.
While in school in Nigeria I was bullied I never told anyone then and I overcame by God's grace. My 3 kids experienced it but because I had told them my experience they confided in me in good time and I handled the bullies in such a way they'll think thrice before bullying another child!

nextstep:
First of all, RIP to Sylvester.

I'm seeing these posts of abuse and bullying... knowing fully well that these same parents complaining are the worst at abusing their own househelp and even their own children. Then they will come and pen some crap about how it's wrong. Please fix the log in your eye, etc.

Thanks for this!

Sayymalvin:
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I can send my children to live with you sir knowing you understand how to treat yours!. Thanks for this

bjtinz:
How exactly does a parent bully his children. You mean if I flog my child that's bullying?

I really think some of you guys are taking this thing too far.

Flogging or administration of discipline to a child by a parent or even a teacher isn't bullying, but if you read through my comments I never said correction or discipline is bullying. But when it borders on intimidation just because you can as anyone even as a parent then don't you think that's bullying? And no one is taking this too far. We must talk about it just like anything that needs to be talked about.
While in school in Nigeria I was bullied I never told anyone then and I overcame by God's grace. My 3 kids experienced it but because I had told them my experience they confided in me in good time and I handled the bullies in such a way they'll think thrice before bullying another child!

On one hand, some of these bullies actually picked it up from HOME! Do you know that most mothers bully their kids without admitting it? What about fathers? They are not left out as they too in a bid to show that they're in charge they bully wives and this trickles down to the children.
Let's look inwards, how you treat your kids reflect on them.
How you treat your husband/wife is seen by the children!
How you treat your domestic servants isn't hidden either... Since you can get away with it so also the child who become a bully feels powerful!!

Explorers:
1. Crying too long after being beaten.

2. Not crying after being beaten.

3. Crying without being beaten.

4. Standing where elders are sitting.

5. Sitting while elders are standing.

6. Walking around aimlessly where elders are seated.


7. Eating food prepared for visitors.

8. Refusing to eat.

9. Coming back home after sunset.

10. Eating at the neighbour's home.

11. Generally being too moody.

12. Generally being too excited.

13. Losing a fight with older age mate.

14. Winning a fight with your age mate.

15. Eating too slowly.

16. Eating too quickly.

17. Eating too much.

18. Not finishing your food.

19. Finishing your food and Scraping your plate.

20. Eating and talking.

21. Eating your meat before finishing the food.

22. Dropping oil on your clothes while eating.

23. When you eat your launch before 2:00pm.

24. Sleeping while the elders in the house have already woken up.

25. Dragging your feet while walking.

26. Stumbling and falling while walking

27. Looking at the visitors while they are eating.

28. Looking at an elder eye ball to eye ball.

29. When an elder is talking to you and you blink.

30. When an elder is talking to you and you stare and not blink.

31. When you look at an elder through the corner of your eye.

32. When your mates are playing street football and you join them.

33. When your mates are playing and you don’t join them.

34. When you don't wash your dish after eating.

35. When you wash your dish improperly.

36. When you almost break your dish.

37. When you break your dish.

38. When you bite your nails.

39. When you don't bathe.

40. When you bathe too quickly.

41. When you take too long to bathe.

42. When you take too much toothpaste on your brush.

43. When you’re beaten in school for misbehaving.

44. When a car almost knocks you down.

45. When a car knocks you down and you don’t die.

46. For not answering when spoken to.

47. For answering back when spoken to.

48. Beaten for going to Church or Mosque late.

49. Beaten for borrowing shoe/wears from friends.

50. Greeting/prostrating with only one hand or hands not touching the ground. Ladies going on one knee.

51. Misplacing your pencil, biro, erazer, sharpener or mathematical set in school.

52. Misplacing your Songs of Praise(SOP).

53. Misplacing your Brighter Grammer.

54. Writing on your textbook or coming home with torn textbooks or notebooks.

55. Coming back home with dirty, rough uniform/socks and damaged sandals.

56. Sending you on errands and you stay too long.

57. Sending you on errands and you forgot what you're asked to buy, or you bought something different, or you broke the egg or poured the grind pepper away on the way.

58. Going to neighbors room&parlour to watch TV.

59. Going to a girl's house to ask after her from her Dad/mum sitting outside in the evening. You've killed her.

60. Sleeping in the Living room.

lose a shoe , book or toy you get so frightened you cannot tell your parents else the beating is one in town!
you get beaten for asking about the money uncle dashed you that your mom is "keeping" for you
You are dead the moment that girl who visited you leaves!

Acidosis:
Exactly.

When a girl says I'm in a relationship, believe her and leave her alone o. Be friends with her if you want friendship but never force, beg, or coerce.

absolutely! men need to hear this and heed this!

Sometimes, men push women to marry them by being tooooooo persuasive, sending relatives to beg women to marry them and especially when a woman tells you she has a serious relationship yet you compel, coerce and connive to convince her. The results are mostly what brings this kinda situation.

What a tragic event! Mysterious too.

Senomi:
This idea may even be the worst alot of students are already fending for themselves through hookup n yahoo as majority of them are from poor homes...... instead parents should try and provide adequately for their kids untill they graduate n get jobs, most girls won't go into prostitution and boys into yahoo it's mainly their parents fault that they venture into these things

ok, but understand my point, in this life there are good and bad people we are all aware of that, so if good upbringing is inculcated in a child with the true dignity in labour then a person will grow well in a decent environment. Yahoo yahoo and hookup no be decent job even if its "paying" at the moment. So parents dont need to provide everything because most parents cant afford everything!
Anyone willing to excel will definitely do so even in a bad environment but with proper advice and grooming the chances are better. I always say, if as a guy you can kiss agirl then you are old enough to fend for yourself. Dont go and be sleeping with a girl then asking your parents for chop and handout money

when we start overprotecting and pampering our children and sit with the educational system and make it viable and plan it in such a way to allow these students work and pay their own school fees and meet their own basic essentials then this attitude will diminish as much as possible.
when every aspect of a students life is in the hands of his or her parent then the result is idleness and lazy attitude. They should work part time and make ends meet else the future will be hard on them. too much time on their hands is the cause of all these freedom to roam free.
once i met a guy who was in his third year at the university and i asked him if he has anything he does for a living as side hustle to add to what his parents give him he said no, then i asked him if he has a girlfriend he said yes, then i asked how he takes care of her and himself, he smiled. It means the small change his parents give him is what he also spends with his girlfriend!
those who have lived abroad or schooled there will tell you that students loans are obtained and paid back, this means you must work hard to offset this loan right after school! the thouhgt of that will give you nightmares and make you up and doing! But when we are entitled to everything as students because our parents will "take care of everything" then time on their hands .... they roam free! And engage in unwholesome activties!

Mstick:
OP can you please remove the picture of his corpse?

RIP to your uncle.

OK that's the more reason i used a picture that's not too clear at his lying in state
But let me try and edit that. Thanks

InTheCloudySky:
This was actually why I thought the gifts would go in the tomb. I read your comment about the gifts accompanying him and thought of the ancient Egyptians who were buried with what were known as grave goods. These were personal belongings, foods/favorite foods, drinks, games, furniture, etc., needed to provide the dead with what they would need in the afterlife. Was this symbolic feature of the ceremony channeled after the ancient Egyptians' funerary practice?

Thank you again. The tradition requires the gifts to be presented in front of guest and only symbolicly "accompanying" the deceased.
The Egyptian culture is different and I think more elaborate and interesting too.

InTheCloudySky:
Oh okay. Thanks for the explanation. You could've said it was "symbolic" earlier but your use of the word "accompanying" made it seem like they somehow go with him, lol.

thanks for the correction. I think the 'accompanying' aspect is like the one the ancient Egyptians did to the Pharoahs old. They loaded the tombs with provisions and other items to take with him to the afterlife!

InTheCloudySky:
Do these gifts go in the coffin with him?

usually the gifts are shared to family members after the internment, so it is only symbolic as though he is been given provisions going to the hereafter

InTheCloudySky:
Do these go in the coffin with him?

No please it is only symbolic.
Usually it will be shared among family members after the internment

InTheCloudySky:
May his soul rest in peace

Amennnnn!!
Thank you

the coffin on display

some women trying to console his family

a solemn moment ....his daughter

sweets and perfumes are included in the items carried by the maidens

maidens carrying gifts as a rite of passage for the dead...we believe in life after death and these gifts are said to be given to the deceased to accompany him along the hereafter. They include soap, creams, wine, handkerchiefs etc

elders in the family

section of pupils from the school he taught for many years who came to pay the last respects

more teachers at the event

teaching colleagues adding color to the event

mourners

lying in state

Tool of his trade

my uncle fell ill and battled for a while before succumbing to the illness. He was a teacher and his children desired he be buried in a tool of his trade, a BIRO!
Also on display are some cultural attributes of our people Ashanti region.
On the morning of the funeral, as early as 5am the wailing begins and thats the aspect that really pushes your emotions!
then a service is conducted especially if the deceased is a christian before internment at about noon.
The family then sits at a large open place to recieve condolences from visitors who also contribute to the family in cash as a way of support.
Here are a few pictures

I won't walk alone, Liverpool my club since I was 10! Chaiiii....walk onnnnnn