₦airaland Forum

MissIfe:
I find it sometimes annoying the way people blame everything on marriage. I wonder, would these same people be happy if they were single ? Serious matters aside (domestic violence etc.), I don't think so. Most people I know who are in healthy and happy marriages are healthy and happy people, and they were before meeting their spouses : financially independent and wise, good at maintaining cordial relationships with everyone, good at keeping close friends over long periods of time, having healthy relationships with their own family, having dreams and goals and working towards them and so on.

My point is, if you can't make yourself happy before getting married, there is no way marriage is going to make you happy. You need to stand on your own two feet (emotionally, financially etc.) before thinking of going there. I see many people going into marriage with huge personal issues : low self esteem, bad relationships with parents/siblings, character issues etc. Those are already bad conditions to meet a good partner, but if you carry all your burdens and problems and doubts into marriage hoping the union will solve them... and your partner does the same, no wonder marriage ends up being a big mess !

Marriage is what you put in it. You should know yourself enough to take care of yourself and preserve your other half from your flaws, and make sure you bring the best to the union. That's why we say marriage is hard work.

you've made a lot of sense here...
if you're not happy before marriage you can't expect to find it INSIDE married life...
marriage is what you PUT INSIDE...don't expect to take out ....
those points just makes your take perfect!
thanks.

delay was and will always be dangerous! next time go for it and damn or bear the consequences... that's life!

Blackhawk03:
And the kids?

good question!

SLIDEwaxie:
You no go Italy go learn shoemaking, na China you come go.

U sha wan improve on the overall fakeness.

What kind double-wahala be this sef?

shoe get size!

manitobor:
I was in a similar situation myself, however in my case it was my friend's girlfriend who was so into me and giving me the green lights for us to date years after we graduated.

She is very much up to marriageable age and literally throws herself at me, calls me all the time , visits me at home, trying to seduce me. She obviously sees me as the perfect husband material. But I ain't interested one bit.

kai! see reversal!!
I honestly don't think I can date two ladies who are friends even after their not in the same location.
well...it's your call and I really wish you well...

dingbang:
Now someone is being real with you, you are calling the person desperate...

Me thinks you don't deserve this lady.

seconded!

Just heard this and want to share...
Paul and Jude are best friends and share a room in their days at the university. Paul's girlfriend Carol, visits frequently and passes the night whenever she wants....Jude is aware Paul and the girl are only enjoying each other and the relationship will never get beyond the walls of the university...
years pass and Paul and Jude are done with school and are facing life as graduates...Jude finds a way to reach out to Carol and tells her he wants her as wife...she's shocked and turns Jude down...Jude traces her to her hometown and proposes to her there...she eventually succumbs...
they're now married with a kid...Paul is also married...
how many men can live with the thought that your wife was once your best friend's girlfriend?
how will Jude feel when Paul comes visiting?
Can Jude leave Paul with Carol alone without his heart skipping several beats?
Guys/babes...what do you think?

chai! the same Egbema wey work carry me go 4 years ago! lucky that work no take place cos I really wonder how I would have coped with all the terror attacks and fear these guys inflict on communities!
sometimes I ask, WHERE ARE THE PARENTS OF THESE KIND OF PEOPLE?

seankay:
African footballers don't strive to get better. Iheanacho has the potential to easily lead Leicester city's attack but just like most African players, when Lil money arrives, they easily lose focus. It's a pity he will only move to a lower team than Leicester City.

you took the words right outta my mouth!
Nigerian players especially, one season wonders!

shumuel:
Shout out to the Photographer
Extra: When you came alone, No meat, No Friend, No babe

and no hope of getting any "likes"! chai!

shumuel:
4. When they did not serve only you any meat at the party.

but trying hard to imagine the meat in the jeans a few feet away from your face!

my bro...be strong. I was in 200L when I had to leave home and stand by myself cos of overbearing demands and actions by my parents and let me honestly tell you, as long as you did it like you described the Lord will guide you. if I hadn't run from home I would not have achieved the little level I have today...my dad who promised heaven and earth passed on 4 years later and because I had taken the decision earlier I was able to stand firm.. most of our parents had us at tender ages yet they wish to see us in their homes at 30+..
its not ideal.
face your business squarely and calmly treat all opposition with maturity...don't see anyone as your detractor...in time God will vindicate you...cheers.

Sellfish:
I Remember how this dude's wedding and child dedication trended on nairaland.....So many VIPs present at both.... Now he is lying dead, none of those VIPs have come out to claim him as their friend

I really don't want to think it was pure unadulterated greed that made that girl marry this dude ... In order to keep my sanity, I will just assume she married him under grievous threat/duress

I agree....look at her smile, it's just on the surface!
so sorry that some ladies are driven to bear shame, fear and compulsory relations with some sub humans!

well, I'm a strong advocate for proper dressing and decorum for men, husbands, guys or mere boys as well as women, wives babes and mere girls.
you never know with humana and thoughts! any form of exposure can be improperly translated and before you blink you just might bleep!
what an unfortunate situation and this will live with this family for as long as they're together!
it won't be the last incidence of this kind but anyone who has read this one must and should be careful!
like someone said above me..."horniness is no respected of persons"

rebirthforgoody:
Yes ooooh .my dad is the best thing that ever happen to me and my siblings

N.I.C.E!
I love to hear this kinda statements!
God bless your dad!

07 July!

myners007:
My predictions for 2018:
1. Fayose and Aregbesola will cease to be governors of Ekiti and Osun states respectively
2. PDP will continue its criticism of President Muhammadu Buhari
3. Lagos will generate more IGR than Jigawa
5. Only one country will win the 2018 FIFA World Cup
6. Nwankwo Kanu will not be on the Super Eagles team to the World Cup
7. Arsenal will not win the Premier League
8. A Nigerian male celebrity will have a child out of wedlock
9. Nigerians will insist on paying for the lavish lifestyle of their religious leaders
11. They will condemn America for legalising LGBT and pornography but still fast and pray for visa to modern day Sodom
12. Many people will spend more time in places of worship than they do working to earn a decent living.
13. Politicians will not stop stealing
14. Police and LASTMA will collect bribe in the open
15. Some people will not believe these prophecies

your prophecy will be fulfilled! no controversy!!!

cassidy1996:
BABA GOD! please give me my wife

she go soon dial your number...stay focussed!

you didn't include Mohammed Farah Aideed Somalia warlord

arma in Science
This new species of spider is only found near the coastline in Australia. The spider is discovered by a team of researchers headed by Dr. Barbara Behr of the Queensland Museum and named Desis Bobmarleyi after the name of famous musician and his song Hight tides and low tides. According to the reports, the experts explain the spider with their two relatives from Samoa and Western Australia. This creature is unusual than other spiders it is truly marine. It covers in barnacle shells and builds air chambers from silk which enables them to breathe underwater.
After that, they hunt insects on the surface of nearby rocks, plants, and corals. According to the findings in this species, the females are larger than males. The team examined the female species measured around 9 mm while the male is about 6 mm. Both the male and female of this species are classified by primarily red and brown colors. The legs of the specimen were orangish-brown and capped by the long dark grey hair like structure.
The name of the species was on the name of the musician and another key impact that inspired the researcher was the song. The song High tides or low tides encourages love and friendship in spite of all the struggles of life. Bob Marley’s music aided a field trip to Port Douglas in Coastal Queensland, Australia, to gather with a highly unique biology. A blog post by Dr. Mike Gray explained that how these marine spiders had been surviving for quite some time. This research detailing the new species of spider was issued in the Evolutionary Journal. Both the gender of the species were seen living on coral across the shoreline near the Great Barrier Reef.
Scientists believe that these new species have decreased in last few years and maybe these spiders are close to the extinction. Thought marine spiders are known from many areas of the Australian Coast, but it appears the people rarely notice them.
Experts continue that more research is required to understand the function and how these species behave to unlock the key secrets of marine spiders.
Apart from the research, the scientists used the paper to pay tribute to a German naturalist Amalie Dietrich from the late 19th century. They also gave tribute to the famous singer and writer Bob Marley by this discovery, both these figures represented different fields but shows the example of adventurous and resilient at heart in pursuit of freedom and independence. This finding will also help determine the features of marine spiders.

travel

that's the place the first landing on the moon took place! so it's on the moon!

sad sweet dreamer.

very in formative!

IAmSkinny:
Hahaha, for real? This could make a great comedy skit storyline.

as true as daylight my bro! the guy still dey village and he prospered! he keeps saying "not all thieves are bad"!

sunbilor:
I have been laughing hysterically here.

this story was related to me 3 months ago and I'm still laughing.... do u know what? the guy reach the village and honestly he prospered!
now he says "not all thieves are bad"
funny guy!

sunbilor:
I knew a man who lived in one room with 5 children. Was wondering where and how he was sleeping with his wife to make those babies.

hmmmm...my uncle's friend in Lagos had 11 kids...1 room...it was talk of the town!
until the day robbers broke in and in vexation told him to leave Lagos under one week! I tell you the robbers gave him cash to leave! they told him he had failed humanity and should relocate to the village in Benue state...they saw him off as far as Benin before disengaging!
some guys dey try o!

good to see that they have a carnival, but I would have loved to see a seminar organized as to how to improve the lives if the youth in science technology and agriculture... social events are so many and the results are not inclined towards development!
let's enjoy.


but let's develop too!

interesting!
so many who want to have their cake and still eat it are bound to gag when they read this! unfortunately the trappings of opulence and social status doesn't accommodate scripture purity!

Missnande:
Smiles really funny. The formerly ugly or clumsy ones who turn out to be the hottest at the reunion.

my God! this is exactly what happened in my school's reunion!

openmine:
I mostly blame the passengers.....
U see a poor vehicle,U go in and pray hoping God will lead U to ur destination using that bus...yet God gave people eyes to see!
A driver is over-speeding...instead of cautioning the driver,they say a prayer and take a nap yet God gave humans a voice to speak!


The Road safety agency to me is trying to the best of their ability(though i admit some of the officers are corrupt) but most Nigerians are too stubborn....
"Don't drink while driving"....that's when U will see some one heavily drunk driving a car!
"Don't answer a call while driving"...U will see our so called educated men & women making series of calls!

Most of us like flouting laws and yet go on social media to complain when some few officers are trying to bring sanity to our corrupt and battered system!

now a sensible person has made a good comment.
thanks bro...your observation is appreciated!