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*Hauwa*:
naija men like beating (except few ones) when their mouth is not up to yours, they retort to hitting/beating.

every form of abuse is bad and never acceptable. it doesnt matter where it is coming from male or female. you fight with your mouth and come here saying hiting and beating is awful. i have zero tolerance for any kind of abusive behaviour. it is never acceptable

Ebony-Silk:
I think it's becoming more of a fetish for them now. Very sick minded

very sick minds indeed. talk talk or Jaw jaw better than war war

savanaha:
Oddly enough the thread about how is it that AA women have come to look so sexy was started by KB1/hero. Coincidentally he is the one that called the omatayo "a hot little Mulatta" and P-sqaure ugly. Maybe you should reread my post before you start defending white women, usually something ill has to be perpetrated on someone before another defends them. Or are you defending Hero I mean KB1

i defend no one  just getting tired of the black women better than oyibo. naija women better than  AA,  urhobo better than  yoruba women business.  una no dey tiure for this lame arguments. who are p square and omotayo by the way?

sleeping open eye o is definately by a girl. pls pls people dig it out and thanks for your help. merry christmas

why not google it.

savanaha:
Wow hero, I mean KB1 you sure go crazy for light skinned women. Are you sure you don't want to marry a white woman? Are you one of those men that shout black power but can't get their minds off the white women, the former forbidden fruit?

what is wrong with white women? one minute something is wrong with AA, next other tribes now white women. what is the matter with racist and tribalists?

topup:
[color=#cc0066] I have also seen other couples, who also had the opinion that they didn't work, but because of the love they had were unable to break off the relationship, and worked hard at it. The obvious difference between the two couples is their committment to one another, their ability to distance themselves from their emotions, or love block as I have called it.

I believe older couples have more to lose/risk so of course, they make more rational decisions,
Opinions?[/color]

you are right. i say it again you are mama arugbo. we still find it hard to believe you are as young as you say.

your mind is your personal property.

Sisi Jinx:
10 bucks. . . One of 'em will come here and say "Jeez, another Naija guys bashing thread" completely ignoring that our lovely OP had GUYS not Naija Guys in the title.

you bet they are coming

iice:
[color=#9900ff]Whilst i do agree that men sometimes think they are the greatest thing since sliced bread, females can be crazy.  Not everyone needs that kind of closure.  If he doesn't want anything to do with you - neon sign!
My sister always says, 'You suppose know when to get lost, especially when you arent wanted'.
Love is not blind.  People just like to blind themselves.[/color]

is this a thread for all my favourite ladies or what?  may truth never cease in your mouth.

You suppose know when to get lost, especially when you arent wanted

this is true. however most people dont see it and  let relationships die natural quiet deaths.

mery christmas and a happy new year to you

topup:
[color=#cc0066]It is the most mature way I think, adjust your breakup strategy to the girl, if she seems a little unstable don't tell her she has a problem. But the liesssssssss, oh the liess! I'm sick of the excuses. They're funny though. I guess I know that I would really appreciate the truth and honesty and a low-key chat, compared to some crazy public display.[/color]

you know you are very matured for your age and have a very good understanding of these things most people dont do it the gentle way. it has to be drama nollywood style. i like the low key chat style chat because i hate arguments in any form.

Sisi Jinx:
Lmao! Au contraire mon amour. . . Love isn't isn't blind, people just chose not to see.

Love ya too

I thought it was a good teacher? Ah, if it is bad. . . where is the incentive to want to experience experience?

you have only one heart and life.  some things can break you beyond your wildest imagination.  it is better you read about it as other peoples experience rather than go through it yourself. always worked on that small phrase my life is my personal theatre so i choose my audience carefully.  some people are not worth travelling with for an hour let alone a lifetime.  on the thread "taking back your gifts", i mentioned a relationship that nearly ruined me. only God knows what would have happened if i was younger.  i hate to say this most people are not worth allowing into your life. love should never be an act but life as the daughter of jethro said to moses.

true love wait. some people were never meant to be in your life for a life time. hold on to people lightly. it is God we should should hold tightly unto.  only Him can direct the right person into our lives

2 of my favourite people @ work. why do i love you girls with minds like this? love they say is blind. you will get wiser as you see more years. experience is a very bad teacher

topup:
[color=#cc0066]Don't show her, as can be very upsetting. Just have a dignified heart to heart chat with her, instigate it too, don't do the whole sulking/silence/distance thing that guys do, to prompt her to confront you. You should step up and tell her the deal.[/color]

mama arugbo as they say. most guys do the distance thing because of the fight and the agro that goes with it. one of the scariest things anyone can face. thank God i have done that and past that. it is notthe end of the world though

topup:
[color=#cc0066]There have been a lot of interesting replies especially from DUDUSPACE**, HOLLASLYD, BLUESPICE and OUTLAWS. Well, I agree with Hollaslyd's point about immaturity, and willingness. Yes, I agree with others that it is possible to decide to back out of love, however, there are several teenagers I know and speak with who are always talking about being madly in love with someone and that they are so involved that they are unable to make rational decision, so I believe though it is typical of youths to back out and love block, I actually believe it's more likely for older people, who have serious consequences to think of, work, life, family & other responsibilities. For example let's say the teenagers have just found out that their parents are going to prevent them from being together, or they found out that one has a disease that would affect their future together or one is to move away, I have heard a lot of teenagers attempt these hard relationships, but heard a lot less adults do the same thing. In the case of the teenagers finding it easier to back out, I would say the majority of cases would prove opposite. I think teenagers have a lesser ability to love block, after all they are still mostly naive about love, and it is through the experiences in life that we begin to become harder and more rational about everything.

I believe you can view when decisions have to be made as maturity, that a mature and rational person can easily withdraw from the sensations of love and make a rational and logical decisons, which benefit them, but jeopardises the relationship or the 'love' between the two people. But I also think you can view it as immaturity, in the sense that the person seems to be unable to attach to anyone significantly, (which contradicts the fact that we are able to make more rational decisions, the older we get), surely if you don't have enough feelings for someone enough to want to compromise any part of your life, you may not have been seriously involved, it seems like selfishness at times even, especially when a decision about where a relationship is going is based solely upon what's the easiest way for you and you only.

I have seen many couples break up because they were going to travel, and they didn't think long distance (LD) relationships work, so instead of trying, they broke it up, I have also seen other couples, who also had the opinion that they didn't work, but because of the love they had were unable to break off the relationship, and worked hard at it. The obvious difference between the two couples is their committment to one another, their ability to distance themselves from their emotions, or love block as I have called it.

I believe older couples have more to lose/risk so of course, they make more rational decisions, I believe older people (not saying they are old, but >20 years) have been conditioned from life's experiences to make rational decisions, to focus on themselves, they may have been taught these lessons the hard way, through heartbreak or failed relationships, but I think the older we get, the easier it is to love block, and then maybe when we reach the age of desperation (where most singles, just want somebody!) then our ability to love block greatly decreases again.

Opinions?[/color]

will come back to this in the new year.

sangreal:
I believe in all of ur amen but it would defintly start with u and i i wish u all a wonderful new year

busybein:
merry xmas

thanks merry christmas and God blessings be multiplied to you both this new year. yu make NL a better place

karma, have you heard the [b]sleeping open eye o [/b]song? cant find it here

merry christmas

lalaboi:
Sorry Music person. But songs are not gauranteed on this section. People who uplaod songs do it at their own leisure.Hope you understand. stil, will try and sort something out for you.

i understand that very well. thanks for your help

rubi:
I want my marriage to be like the way Christ love the church unconditionally because copying people marriage they don't tell you the detail they only tell and show you what will tickle your ear/eye so if you follow other people you will be disappointed

God bles and merry Chritmas. may you get what you want and more in Jesus name

for 2 years plus now i have been looking for the song  sleeping open eye o, open eye.  a girl did the number. do you guys have it?

merry christmas

earTHMama:
You can then claim that parents that let their children baptized or join the girls scout or whatever are also demented since tribals marks also have cultural and spiritual implications. Practicing your culture is now classified as dementia.

earTHMama:
FGM is not entirely different from tribal marks. I am not supporting either one by the way but what i don't agree to is that the parents perform it on their kids because they are wicked parents. They do it because they are concerned only that they don't exactly know the consequences of what they are doing.

like i said in the other thread it is not good to quarel at christmas . i want to remind you and your old femi nazi's that this is contrary to your opinions/arguments on the FGM debate 2 yrs ago. it is so good to see my aunty do a damascus road conversion. it is so good to see my beloved aunty change her views. what next my aunty marrying, running for political office and getting the grey hairs. when i was a child good old paul said.

of course you know i still think the world of you as they say. merry christmas and God blessings

earTHMama:
You brought US into the question. Some pastors pray on phone for Nigerians here and they request for dollars along the line. That was my question. It doesn't matter where the pastor lives although majority of them live in Nigeria by default.

my dear aunty you know i love you. go back to your first answer. it is not good to be seen arguing with my auntie especially at christmas but truth be told you know the people phoning for prayers and the so called pastor are mostly God users. by the way there are loads of american religious organisations charging for prayers too. in my book they are all scums and thieves.

how did aladuras become aladura without adura? that should be the question.

OMO IBO:
listen son, i don't know what planet you come from but you just don't do away with tradition because you can't afford pride price.

na real pride price. some people and stinginess. you cant make it up as they say. dem get money take buy bling not the one to tell their girl papa and mama thank you for bringing up a good girl.

RichyBlacK:
Even if the IDF bombs your village, your blind support for the Apartheid Jewish State of Israel will excuse the massacre!

They abuse, oppress and persecute Christians on a day as special as Christmas and you still defend them?

How long will it take the imbeciles running Israel to know that those who committed the Holocaust are not Arabs but Europeans?

Shame on the evil Jewish State of Israel and her continued persecution of Christians!

what makes you this mad over matters that should not concern you my brother?

earTHMama:
They don't have such practices in American christianity. It's a Naija thing and they keep claiming they are the ones that have the purest form of christianity.

as in naija pastors in america dont do it or it only happens in naija? what do you mean?

mazaje:
Its only in nigeria that liars like pastor adeboye, chris oyahkilome etc pray for the masses and are believed. by the way how has prayer helped in solving nigeria's problems? why do christains go to hospitals, when the bible tells them that prayers are enough? thats besides all the prayer warriors and miracle healers that are all over the country. why do people still go to the hospital and not to prayer houses? can christains tell me how their prayers has helped in developing nigeria even though they pray all the time for nigeria?

how has whatever you believe in help naija pls tell me

thieves that is the name