₦airaland Forum

I believe in gbaja because I know he's one of the sound minds in Tinubu's government.

I hope he'll not disappoint

Introverts are not dull. They're not just being placed in their proper environments in this part of the world.

When educated properly, they make the best RESEARCHERS and INVENTORS because they think and are more analytical.

Nice one



Make them live am for Tinubu abeg

Some esoteric stuff they. But many won't understand.

I'll not explain further because esoteric knowledges are meant to be kept secret

DamnnNiggarr:
How is that my business?

Ladies, roll with hardworking and responsible guys during your courtships, they say No, instead like moving about with hooligans, chewing gum boys and fuckboys whose only ambition in life is get little money from God-knows-where, buy the latest clothes in the market without minding what the future holds.

Men being lazy does not magically begins from old age, it starts from the youthful days, and I'm sure the wives didn't get to know their husbands from older age, and I'm also sure that they must have seen the red flag and signs of laziness from the very beginning during courtship and dating, but chose to ignore due to useless love that blinded their eyes.

This was the same reason why I didn't marry from my state. I lost both parents (may their souls continue resting in the bosom of our Lord Jesus Christ, Amen) at a very tender age, and as such, didn't have the time to look fresh like other guys because, I devoted all my time building myself and hustling to survive, raising funds for my tuition fees at Unizik.

There's this lady from my state that I would have married in those days, but guess what; she said I was too local for her liking. She started rolling with big boys in the hood and luckily for her, she ended up with one, they got married, I became devastated because I loved her as at that time, it also delayed my chances of getting married for a very long time. After about 4years into their marriage, the husband was traveling from portharcourt to somewhere in Abuja to deliver a consignment but nabbed by the NDLEA and consequently arrested by the agency. He was charged and jailed, but because he had strong legal backups, he was given a lighter sentence. He served for not up to 1 year and was out of the jail. Because he doesn't have any handwork, he isn't educated, in short, he doesn't have any humanly possible skills to start a new life after being released from the prison and his properties confiscated, he started roaming around the city, drinking excessive alcohol, spending time in lotto centers and betting centers while she caters for the wellbeing of the family and payment of bill.

One day, she became fed up and said enough is enough. she filed for a divorce and it was granted. She disappeared with her kids.

Don't mind those confused beings!

Bukola94:
why did you said that? Your sincere reasons pls, I use to heard of this Mr Eze but I don't know anything about him. I'm not a politician, but has a citizen of Nigeria, I want every government to succeed ,touch and make meaningful & major impact in all the regions in Nigeria. I do hope for a better Nigeria, irrespective of parties. In fact my kind of party is NC,NW,NE,SE,SS,SW,middle belt&minority (rs7,8 ) 6regions,7&8 agendas. All regions should be carried along ,irrespective of populations in the North & Southern. Everyone should have stakeholders and be giving a level playing ground. Something like rotation, all regions must be develop to Abuja,Lagos, Ph City and better still new York City standard. By God grace,the present FG,SG,LG will succeed in all state,if they learn from past government success, mistakes and bad policy.

He is one of the criminal capitalists that connive with corrupt politicians to loot monnies meant for development. Most of the FG infrastructures in the SE that have been paid for but not executed or poorly executed can be traced to him.

It'ld be better if FG executed projects in the east directly or use external contractors.

That's the much I can type for now

If Tinubu wants to make any meaningful impact in the southeast in terms of development, he should better keep men like Arthur Eze far away from his projects in the region.

A word is enough for the wise!

Tell Amara to contact me. I can neutralize any demons hanging around her and wife her if she meets the criteria.

Who collected your babe?

My guy endure am, you go collect another guy own one day.


Na so e be for igboland.

frozen70:
I love amd respect men especially those who have shown thst they are responsible

They will always earn my respect

My problem with the man was thst he doesn't provide amd still make them starve for days

I never supported her having a sugar daddy amd I Sam's so in my earlier post

Now that she is stranded under man's roof

What do you want her to do in the interim whereas the man is busy rocking his world outside

That money he is spending out, is it not enough to feed his starving family

Some sensible men spend jolly time with women outside but yet the make sure the home is stocked with food

Food is one essential thing in life, no one can survive with empty stomach

I am working and I don't have any reason to have a sugar daddy to will support me to feed my children

In her own case she is jot doing anything, what do you expect

And now the man is depressed

What is making him to be depressed if not what he brought upon himself

The way you're hyperventilating over this matter and casting aspersions on the supposed husband not minding whether the story is true or not, makes it look like you have some bottled up anger against the menfolk.

This story may just be some imagined or perhaps one-sided one. Even if the story is true and exactly as written, the woman in question has no justification whatsoever to resort to adultery as a means of catering for her children.

Many wives have had similar experiences but stood firm and salvaged their families through some dints of hard work and through helps from family and friends. I personally know one lady who was able to weather such storm and came out victorious.

Not that I'm in anyway encouraging men to be irresponsible and not cater for their families, but any woman who chooses to prostitute herself with the excuse of catering for her children is irresponsible and should never be praised. In this time and age, women have more opportunities at paid employments and even some businesses than men, so no excuses for prostitution.

frozen70:
When the man kept her idle at home how do you want her to cope

Most men doesn't want their wife to work because they don't want her to get too expose

What if it happens that the man is no more just suddenly

How do you expect such woman to handle the family

Assuming that woman is working, she can take care of herself and her children in situations like this

But you have to condemn the man who neglected his family

To the extent that the children were starving
No woman can stand the starvation of her child

Why do you always find a reason to blame men in everything As if we don't know that many of you ladies crave men who would keep you at home as housewives? That is why you look for an already made men for marriage? Even after wasting spaces in schools and even when you have gainful employments Now, you're making it look like the man prevented her from working against her own will, like though you were there when he did that.

Mindlog:
Is your environment not in Nigeria?

You think bonding is tied to staying at home with children? Truly, you have no idea of the psychology of children.😂😂😂

I don't mean the man should stay at home, but that is the excuse many of you give here. I have read many of you here allude to the fact that the man making money and paying bills is not caring enough. Making me wonder how else you expect a man to care for or bond with his children, given our kind of environment.

Mindlog:
You can't demand for care and love from relatives, it naturally flows from bonding.

Majority of adults who feel indifferent towards their parents are aftermaths of ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences). Children who had secured attachments with their fathers during childhood and adolescence, are more likely to have their fathers close to their hearts in his old age.

In my environment, it is out of place for a man to stay home and start bonding with his children. He's expected to be out there working and paying bills. But after all the years of working and paying bills, he's still considered as not available for the kids and so, no love nor care for him at old age. The mother gets all the love.

Most men have made peace with that arrangement, so they try to make themselves happy the way they can and expect less from anyone.

Mindlog:
Is this evidence based? Please do share data.

It is what it is. In the environment where I live in Nigeria, men are seeing as liabilities should they demand care and love.

They are meant to work their asses off, marry, care for wife and children, and just about the time the children are ripe enough to care for their parents, he dies leaving the wife to enjoy all the benefits.

Even when he defies death and lives on, he dares not demand love and care from his family, else he'll be considered a liability and less of a man.

That's the reality most men have come to accept in my environment.

LilMissFavvy:
Definitely not all men lose interest in their wives in future. However any woman who finds herself in this situation should calm down, draw the children to yourself alone, tell them the pain their dad is causing and make sure you have one or two sources of income. Then as the man begins to get older, then you can go ahead and punish him very well. This is where people begin to talk and blame women, they forget the man is reaping what he sowed. Matchew

Most men don't need your care at old age! No man gets loved nor cared for from the adulthood. So, by the time they're old, they would have gotten used to not being cared for.

Jennyclay:
Please can you just shut up and let us hear word

You broke men are the most disgusting and irritating men living on earth. Why would he go on a date without holding enough money

I’m very sure the lady was on her own jejely when the broke fool asked her on a date.

How much is 12k that the broke fool refused to pay?? Eh?? How much??
If a guy take me out, only a bottle of red wine I will order alone is over 8k and we haven’t even talked of food and other things.

Big shame on all broke men!!! Shame!!

And a bigger shame on all broke ladies who want to consume what her father can never afford.

Broke ladies are the most disgusting and entitled people inhabiting this planet earth.

Mbah was in a position to get special treatment from NYSC given his position as commissioner then. The reason why he took things for granted is what I don't understand.

EriMma1:
So what do you suggest the married woman do to get their husbands attention and fully attracted to them?

Practical tips o.
Types of outfits suitable for indoor parole and other tips on their looks.

They should keep fit and shed all the fats. Do everything to avoid having potbellies.

There are sexy outfits that can be worn to turn a man's head. They should avoid granny panties and wear sexy lingeries. Above all, they should understand their man's sexual fantasies and take advantage of that.

The woman has always been a wh0re all along. Forget the excuse of the man not providing for her. Assuming the man doesn't provide for her, is she handicapped
All the other women her age who are succeeding in business and different vocations, do they have two heads

EriMma1:
I want to believe this the cause because one day the woman approached me and said I should make the cream I'm using for her saying she wants her color to come out. I was shocked cos I felt she's dark and don't know which color she wants to come out again. Or is it because the man is always jokingly calling me girlfriend... I don't know but I suspected she was feeling less attractive or what? Hmmm....

Most women become unattractive once married. That's why married men cheat.

Imagine seeing one hippopotamus with oversized grandma panties everyday. The man is bound to lose interest in her. If not for children and what the society would say, most married men would chase their wives away after few years of marriage.

Because women go out of shape once married due to excessive eating and laziness that hinder them from exercising and keeping fit.

Before you know it they become potbellied, oversized and unattractive. So it is natural for the man to lose interest in her.

Octopusssy:
I don't usually get involved in parental drama. The kids can chook mouth once in a while o, but for the most parts we don't get involved. They have been together before we were born so they know each other better than we ever can.

Speak to your mum, express your displeasure at her attitude towards your dad in the most respectful, heartfelt way possible, and leave it that. They will sort themselves out.

I hope you'll repeat this same advice when the woman is the victim

Desperation due to pressure from friends and family has led many to accept slavery in the name of jobs.

Belafonte:
Lol you're so desperate to be a victim. I'm so sorry for you.

I have met women who detest the feministic ideology and these aren't women who have no interest in me romantically. I have met good women, I'm currently with one. The bible says he that finds a wife has found a good thing, however to find good things tpu have to open up yourself to attract them.

If you think only witches exist, I promise you the universe will furnish you with a confam werey.

Now with regard to unfortunate switches by Nigerian women in the west, I hope you know there are also thriving marriages in that same west. No go dey zuzu. You get what you attract

If you decide to cultivate a negative mindset, your results will only be negative

Abegi. I want you to know that I did not just arrive at my believe about women without a proper observation. As a matter of fact, an average woman does not care about the well-being of a man. They're only concerned about what they can gain from the man. When it comes to relationship with men, women are extremely selfish! That is why I encourage men to always endeavor to protect their interests first when dealing with women.

Belafonte:
I think you're confusing yourself here. Feminists and normal women are quite different so it's quite unhelpful to conflate both kinds of women. You shouldn't punish normal women for the perceived crimes of their abnormal look alike

Having said that, men and women naturally and generally crave and appreciate totally different kinds of affection (love languages if you will). A normal woman would appreciate you providing for her and strive to give you value in ways you'd appreciate as a man. I may be wrong but as a man, I doubt you're interested in a woman spending her money on you to show you care, if I am wrong then you'd be an outlier.

My advice would be for you to find a woman that is sane and doesn't have feministic tendencies ✌️

Where you are getting it wrong is thinking that there are women who're exceptions in the feminism ideology. Although some of them may be more outspoken about feminism, that doesn't mean that the rest don't like the idea. They're just good at pretending to be against feminism. When you place them in an environment that encourage feminism, the demons in them come out.

We've heard stories of supposedly traditional Nigerian ladies who changed and became feminazis once they were taken abroad by their Nigerian husbands. Some even threw their husbands out of his house.

So, in order not to be taken unawares, I have resolved to accept feminism as a norm. However, I have also resolved never to accord any woman any special treatments or see them as my responsibility to care for. And yes, I'll be very okay with and accept the idea of my woman spending her money on me. In fact, that would be the only condition under which I can spend my money on my woman ie if she equally spends hers on me.

Belafonte:
Smh. No amount of idealism will dissuade women from wanting to be taken care of by their men. Know this and know peace

So, men don't want to be taken care of too?

According to feminists, men and women are equal. If that is the case, then women should stop seeing men as being responsible for taking care of them. If my woman cannot spend her own money on me, then she should not expect me to spend mine on her.

I don't blame you ladies sha, I blame some stupid and thirsty men who spend money carelessly on women just to get laid. Such men disgust me! Immediately I discover that a guy is in that category that see women as some kind of trophy that should be won by spending on them, I lose respect for such men and cut all ties with them.

Unijos is still in 2020/2021 academic session

Too bad!

highness25:
Dem go expect tire from my side. They will not see anything. If a man does not deserve to be cared for, a woman/girl does not also need to be cared for.

Don't mind them o

Men should learn how to take care of themselves and only care for ladies who reciprocate the gesture. No more slaving for women in the name of meeting some rubbish societal expectations.

highness25:
"A woman needs to be well cared for"... What does a man need?

A man needs to suffer until death! He's expected to work his azs off all his life, care for one ungrateful thing called wife and their children, and expect no rewards for all his sacrifices.

That's what the world expect from men!

As a man, you stand to gain NOTHING from marriage. I don't know why many of you worry so much about marriage. Must you marry because you see others getting married Would you jump into fire because others are doing that

mediclife1987:
Nowhere would I force a woman.

Even Naija girls wey hungry dey catch I no dey force them once them do shakara, na Oyinbo pussy I go come force?

You no know me oh, people actually think I'm gay, cos I honestly don't give a flying fvck meen.

I've fvcked willing pvssies and I know how cheap, free and sweet they are.

If I don't get that, I simply masturbate and drink alcohol, once I do this, I start questioning what I wanted to kill myself for in the first place.

Enough women no dey my phone, wey dey wait for me make I initiate, I no even get their time sef, na Oyinbo pvssy I go come dey worry for.

Men are built different from women bro, we far different, and to be honest, pvssy is the least of my worries man.

I just need to geddifok outta this country, maybe and only maybe then, I might understand the hunger you guys have for Oyinbo pvssies.

One other upper hand is I'm fair, so I got love for black girls, not whites. Whites are unattractive to me...

Your head is there bro. Only guys who don't mastvrbate run into sexual troubles.