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Blackfyre:
You are making the submissive thing sound wrong and misinterpreting it at the same time. Also you should have emboldened the part i did.


Being submissive is not the same as being a Yes woman to everything he says. It's about respecting him as the head of the home. That does not mean if he errs you wont call him to order with respect due to a man that is the head of your home. There is a difference mister.

Go and check the meaning of submission. It is totally different from RESPECT.

@op, there are many guys like us that don't want our ladies to submit to everything we say. We just want you to be open to reasoning, and also to correct us in love when we are wrong, and also to accept correction when you are wrong. We should be able to sit down and reason together to agree on the best way forward on every issue. But you have to make up your mind on what you really want so that you will not start seeing the guy as less of a "man" because he yields to some of your views.

So, look for a guy who is not crazy about you being submissive and enjoy your marriage.

Madam you made the right choice! Stop regretting anything! Ladies when your man starts feeling like demi gods for no justifiable reason, learn to call his bluff. It is not only women that should be advised to fight for their marriages, men should also learn to stay and fight for their marriages.

Nonsense!

MaziOmenuko:
Good application of their skill and knowledge;

- Identify easy terrain for okada to pass.

- Know the shortest distance between two points, this requires Geological knowledge.

- Survey areas and decipher which possible route to take to avoid traffic.

- Determine population density easily so as to know which areas to comb for passengers.

- Apply knowledge of migratory tendencies of humans to know routes to take.

The prof is right, geologists can be the best okada riders.
Nb: pls don't quote me, I am not feeling fine.

Lmao ;Dj

I'm sure op must have started mocking his wife about having 9 miscarriages before she changed to what she is today. He must have told her that the witches in her village were responsible for those miscarriages or even accused her of being the witch herself. Yet like many nigerian men who give to their wives what they can not take, he is here lamenting.

You abandoned your daughter for a whooping five years without carring about her welfare and you think that forces of nature will allow you to bear more children in this life. Better start taking full responsibility for that child, and apologise profusely to your wife for whatever emotional trauma you may have caused her. Otherwise, lamentation shall continue to be your portion.

olusegxz:
Plus I said technically. Ofcourse no one needs anyone to function. I was referring to prescription and dispension of drugs.

Your saying that doctors tell pharmacists what to do was wrong,because though the doctor generates the prescription,the pharmacist vets such prescriptions and make corrections where necessary due to his superior knowledge of drugs. In the developed countries, doctors go on ward rounds with the pharmacists so that they could help ensure that drugs are properly administered to patients by checking and correcting doctors prescription errors. That was the reason for the introduction of the pharm.D program.

So considering the above scenario, who tells who what to do?

Before a lady can attain the position of the number 1, that means she has been exposed enough to know about sex, so chances are slim that that poor, illiterate lady would be better in bed.

CEEcey:


Thought men don't nag?


I prefer none, I would rather be single

The man can nag for Africa and in the process he would start using all sort of abusive words on his wife, and the lady is the quiet type who doesn't talk much, so when he starts she will just be there crying. She is regretting getting married to the guy.

I have a lady friand whose husband doesn't drink but can nag for Africa. Infact, he nags a 100 times more than women. Worst he doesn't see his nagging as a fault so he is always bragging to his wife about how lucky she is to marry a man who doesn't drink. But for me i think a man who drinks responsibly is better than a pathological nag like that man. The wife also doesn't trust him on the issue of fidelity.

So ladies which do you prefer

selfmadeboss:
Yes, kissing is disgusting

I can't marry a lady who can't kiss me. That's why i am very selective of the kind of ladies i date. Sex without kissing is borring.

LesbianBoy:
Mr man, posting what nairaland ladies (the foolish ones though) want to see won't make them like you!

I am not looking for women on nairaland. I have a relationship ! Nairaland ladies can confirm that i am not in the league of guys who send pm to every female moniker on nairaland. They can as well confirm that i am also against cheating ladies.

The issue is that nigerian men are becoming more irresponsible by the day and it is worrisome

Benita27:
I can't come and kill myself for a man that doesn't respect the institution called marriage. The second they start cheating, they inadvertently sabotage that institution.

Exactly !
Ladies should stop acting as if the responsility of keeping the mariage is theirs alone. This is what gives irresponsible men the guts to cheat.

yaqq:
faithful men? No

Ofcourse many responsible single guys can date her.

Benita27:
I don't need to be married here to know my deal breaker. I'd tell my spouse the day I say "Yes, I'd marry you" that any day he finds out I'm cheating and I'm guilty of that charge to divorce and through me out, while I file for divorce when I get a whip he's cheating. That's one thing I can never tolerate and would not. Marriage or not, kids or not. I can't be happy knowing my man is a dog.

I love you for this.

Say no to irresponsible men !

yaqq:
where will she see the man u talking about? perhaps u

If you think married ladies don't have men chasing them then you need to think again.

Another hasty generalization !

You guys are good at pulling out fallacies from your assez and posting them on social media to deceive gullible people.

That one bittchh was so unlucky to have rejected a nice guy does not mean that all ladies are like that.

Op your decision is good. Never tolerate a cheating man. How i wish you are in America, you would have easily have him thrown out of the house. Imagine, the useless man is not even remorseful hence he continued to cheat. If he was geniunely repentant he would have endured till now. One year of abstinence is not too much of a sacrifice to make to show that he has truely changed.

Op since he is not ready to change, get yourself a man who is ready to stay faithful to you. Don't throw in the towel unless you see genuine repentance in him, else he Will take his infidelity to a higher level.

Better still, go to court, get a divorce and have the property sold so you can have your own share of the money recovered from the sale.

It's high time ladies stopped taking sh1ts from men but have them lead responsible lives.

Windflower:
If he doesn't want a submissive wife,then what exactly do men want. Even if sexual compatibility is the issue here,the man is the problem here,he saw my aunt as an ATM machine,refused to work after they got married.He was even the one handling her atm, my aunt would only receive alert on her phone despite this he brought his girlfriend into the home and introduced her as his sister,he stocked up her shop with my aunts hard earned money.Even at the point of divorce,he carted away all the valuables from TV to gen,he wasn't even the one that owns the property. He left my aunt with a loan she collected for him from her place of work. The truth is life is just unfair to her. Its the reality,runs girl are very lucky when its comes to settling down.

If I may ask, did the man actually come for your aunt or your aunt was the one who threw herself to him in the name of love? Because the man is exhibiting the attitude of a man who was begged or cajoled into marrying a woman he never had interest in. If you dig deep you would discover that the man might not have an iota of love for your aunt.

Windflower:
That's the irony of life,I have noticed that runs girl gets the best husband. I have two aunties,the one who is a runs girl is happily married and the other who was very submissive to her husband is now divorced and left bankrupt by the husband

Maybe the man doesn't want a submissive wife . The runs babe may have unravelled her husbands craziest sexual kinks and capitalized on them to hold the man spellbound while the "good" wife is boring her own man with too much submissiveness.

IamKashyBaby:


This is a torture for me sha...

Better start learning it now

IamKashyBaby:
Ooh phuleeaasee...

Reading ur comment gives me a goosebumps & i feel my stomach churn..

Hmmmm. So how do you cope with your guy? Are there really guys in this modern age who don't enjoy kissing?
U can't date a girl who can't French kiss.

IamKashyBaby:
HARAM...

One babe once got me hooked with French kissing. She was damn good at it and I enjoyed every bit of it.

Provided the person doesn't have bad breath, I'm cool with kissing

IamKashyBaby:


I wudnt mind kissing him any part of his body but DEFINITELY NOT ON HIS LIPS

what if he doesn't have mouth odour? Wouldn't you still kiss him?

Me I enjoy kissing o. French kissing at that.

IamKashyBaby:
Nope..NOT AT ALL...

You are missing ! Sex without kissing is so borring !

Ibenny:
Well, the thing is, people respond to sex in a different way which is what you are doing.

As a sexual fatancy and method of arousal, it might interest you at the beginning stage but as time goes on, you go deeper and deeper in it; which explain the deeper urge for 'masochism or sexual sadism' and this is where it all becomes bad and unhealthy.

Is not as if you wont find a giver if you look for any cos unlike what you might think, there are ladies in Nigeria who might be paid to do this things in Nigeria but thing is, you are hurting yourself.

Trying to satisfy ever gratification of this urge is like creating a bigger space for it in your life. Have you ever thought of the bruises, scars and skin damages that leads to It? as a result of the whips, lady's shoe heels, burtal intimacy gadgets etc. You are having a sexual disorder because any sexual actions that brings pains to the receiver or giver is abnormal.

You are not alone with this problem and through therapies like behavioral or cognitive therapies or rehabilitations, you can survive it. You just need to visit a psychologist and soon it will be over.

Peace...
G

Great response !
Op take note.

dollyjoy:
Some guys are generally dumb by default. Show them all the signs in the world they still wouldn't know what up.

Maybe they ain't into you as well.

Na wa o !

Everybody with im own kink.



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lifedynamics:
Excuse me?
Did you just say the woman should quit her job?

LMAO some times I feel like the only guy who doesn't let his ego compromise him

She earns more and??
Those saying she'll disrespect you are no different from girls who say guys will take them for granted if they ask them out (They're all pre-thought worst case scenarios, they're all in their heads)
I mean seriously, I earn 1mill and she earns 1.5 or 2...
LMAO more money for us to go on a vacation to Hawaii
Lol.. Humans need to stop worrying about things that won't happen

Most of those typing here are typing from personal expérience. 1 in 10 ladies think that it is an abomination for them to earn more and shoulder more or thé family's financial burden than their m'en. For this reason, they tend to disrespect their m'en. That's m'y only problem with some féminist.To me, à true feminist is that who sees it as normal when she earns more and shoulders more financial burdens than her man Who earns less, without seeing the man as less of a man. This is bécause most times our earning power reflects the level of training we've got.

Also, most guys believe that they should be thé ones to chase the ladies, so when à lady does the chasing they consider it as abnormal and see the lady as one with loose morals. The tendency is that they don't take the lady seriously. So those ladies that don't do the chase also have good reasons.

LadyGoddiva:
How? I agree with only some of their tenets. What I'd never understand is why some of them are trying to be like or equate themselves to the opposite gender. I mean God wasn't stupid when he made woman "woman" and made man "man". As long as we got the boobs and not dicks, we can never be like men. Or maybe I'm just a bit old fashioned.

Just admit that you don't know what feminism is about.

It is one of the many false opinions circulating in our society. I've heard people saying that they prefer those that readily express their anger regardless of whichever way they do it, whether by verbal abuses or even by fisticuffs. They say this because they believe that those who would rather not indulge in violent altercations at any slight provocation would hold grudges against their offenders for long. But the truth is that the quiet and reserved guy might just be better in anger management than the other guy who reacts readily to provocations.

alexis22:
no it doesn't sound rigid..... I have been submissive to my man and it's so wonderful he appreciates my humility all the time and the rules sure works. although a time I was influenced by this gender equality stuff I started misbehave and honestly I almost lost my bf .. and please note I wasn't doing that out of desperation neither am I getting old and looking a husband sharp sharp.... am just 22

Submission in marriage should be a mutual thing. Men are not more intelligent than women neither are they better decision makers. As such, it is inappropriate for all ladies to just submit to the whims and caprices of men just because they are men. The society will be better for it if ladies learn to stop living in subjugation to the menfolk.
Men should come down from their high-horse and treat the ladies as equal partners whose view s should count when such views are superior. And don't even think that the status quo is the natural order because matriarchal societies have shown that men are indeed not naturally wired to dominate the womenfolk. It is all human(men) arrangements.

Mutual submission is the way!

Weird fetishes here and there!

But I can never do this one. My ancestors forbid that.