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This is why many ladies end up unmarried! Please for God's sake don't give up your male friends for a guy who is just a boyfriend. Until he has proposed marriage and you accept, never give up other male friends. What if he dumps your assz in the future when your market values have depreciated? You will start going from one prayer house to another and insulting all men.

This is why it is better to keep an open friendship with guys who show interest in you without having sexual relationship with any of them until that one who is serious takes a bold step to propose marriage, comes to meet your parents and puts an engagement ring on your finger. Then you will know that your relationship is marriage-bound.

Gungnir:
It can never happen that you will be led to.marry someone with a bad attitude. That person will have to undergo proper teachings before even being advised to seek for a partner.

And yes, anyone who marries without consulting God, i can bet my life on it, such person is set up for failure.

Not everybody consult god before getting married, yet they enjoy marital bliss!

I know many atheists who are happily married.
The issue is not about praying or fasting, one just needs to look out for compatible attitudes in one's partners before tying the knots.

Op, forget that girl and move on. A girl who dumped you in that manner does not deserve your care.


Move on already!

I'm reading and learning from your inputs. Keep them coming!

Jupxter:
This is it here : Perhaps, some of them dumped the guy that would have made a better husband just because he was not lying to them and was treating them nice so they termed him "weak man" And many times, they make the errors between 24-25 years old. Ask any woman who has such regret, they will always point back to this age gap, its the age gap for error for women...80% fall into this snare......


The nice men are weak men syndrome is what i call the excessive rationalization problem...they scrutinize and scrutinize not knowing it places an emotional toll on the man they makes him tired, angry and walks away

Ok, i get your point now.

lefulefu:
a babe"s friend introduce her to one guy wey she say is godfearing in september.cos the guy rides a clean venza and wears gucci clothes she rushes to marry the guy by december.the guy starts abusing her and showing her his true colour. tell me why wont she regret.

That's it! Many ladies choose their men for so many ABSURD reasons without paying attention to his CHARACTER.
Imagine a lady choosing a guy just because he is from one particular tribe, state, town and without paying attention to the guy's personality, Or like in your own instance just because the guy rides a venza. Or because he is tall and has red lips...lolz, they forget about every other thing and focus on that frivolous reason until they are married, and after few months of marriage they get tired of that frivolity that got them hooked and come to terms with reality. Marriage is indeed an eye opener.

Jupxter:
Excessive rationalization forces people out of good people, they scrutinize and scrutinize and scrutinize and then they push good folks who get over-burdened by the process away, in the quest to fill the void, they settle for one whom they feel validates their objections, theories and beliefs, but then they don't know you measure people not in good times, but in bad times, not when they aren't under pressure, but under pressure..not in good treatments, but in a mixture of conditions. Because they don't develop love/emotional bonds, they jump into marriage, exhaust themselves in the bed room and then drama is what's left....


Because at age 24-25 ladies skip good men that come for them in this age gap, we phiolosophers call it the age gap of women error, once they make this error in this age, many never recover, hence the regret of choice of a spouse

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I laigh when i hear people say they didn't do too much check..It's too much checking that leads to pushing away good people who can't stand the scrutinty much longer, and they settle for straws...Because it meets their fantasies and wishes

I don't agree with your last paragraph. I believe many fall into wrong hands because they don't do thorough checks devoid of emotions.

MissJoy29:
Chai! And I had all that in ONE guy! He was unarguably the best. Wherever you are EM, this post is dedicated to you for being everything up there and more...

You dumped him because he was "too nice" i guess?

This is common among ladies. I have seen many who swore that if they had a second chance to choose a man for marriage they would never choose their husbands.
Is it that they were carried away by "love" and forgot to do proper checks on the man's attitude, or that they were lured with sweet lies??

Or that their village people did a wonderful job on their cases, hence blinded them from all the man's faults

One was complaining to me that her husband nags the hell out of her, and does not care about her, and i was like: Was i there when the two of you were doing your lovey-dovey?
Perhaps, some of them dumped the guy that would have made a better husband just because he was not lying to them and was treating them nice so they termed him "weak man".

Please people, what do you think is responsible for this?

Share your opinions on this matter so we can all learn

erico2k2:
I know a person in here who bought a property in Lagos for N220m . He dnt make noise . Some people do not k ow there are different life appart frm Nairaland

I tell you! They think that all nairalanders are broke teenagers or students with no means of livelihood.

gtrader:
GTBank would lose thousands of customers directly and indirectly. People on Nairaland are talking nonsense, how many of them here could afford over 400k as bank charge every month but many guys I know are doing it.

You underrate nairalanders because you relate with them here. Familiarity they say breeds contempt.

Some of these guys and ladies with funny monickers clowning about on nairaland are multimillionaires who are just here to catch fun and kill boredom. Many of them would prefer nairaland because of the anonymity it offers to write what they would ordinarily not write on fb or other sm

Good move!

I wish other investors will follow his step. We need to do this now to teach some tribal bigots how not to dabble into tribal politics at the expense of their business.

Seun is another person that need to learn how to avoid tribalism in his business, but i think he is improving gradually.

When we say that people sell their souls to satan to make wealth or talk about money rituals, many of you think that there's any other being called satan or that money rituals involves someone vomiting money somewhere. That's not true!

Selling your soul to make wealth means accepting those things which other people consider evil as the ultimate path to wealth. Wealths are sometimes hidden in the evil paths such that only those with the evil mind would see them and have those wealths become loyal to them.

@Op, that man might just be testing how desperate you are to make wealth. Perhaps, if you had played along and made him see the desperation in you, he would have connected you. My thought though.

Nwamaikpe

The worst people to interview female job seekers are MEN.

The man is just plain selfish and that is common with many male offspring. If it were a female offspring in his position, she would have taken good care of her mum and family, but males would rather spend on their side chicks. This is why i laugh at those that prefer male children to the female ones.

thorpido:
Something is wrong somewhere.I hope his spouse has not turned his heart away from the family.

This is the mistake many people make. Always quick to accuse the man's wife of turning him against his family, forgetting that many men are selfish and don't want to help others.

Those who want to end their lives don't announce it first. Op you ain't serious!

I love this lady for not allowing what the hypocritical nigerians are saying to discourage her.

Even those that engage in paedophilia and all manner of sexual pervasion still have the guts to call her names.

Go girl! Never mind them!

This thread is hilarious!

See as guys are hyperventilating upandan as if the op struck where it hurts more.

Lolzzz.

Anyway, i don't believe in the head and tail concept in marriage. I believe that marriage is a partnership between a man and a woman where mutual love and respect should be the watchword.

Op, like seriously?!

Though i am an agnostic, if i am to choose between islam and Christianity, i will choose Christianity anytime any day because of the freedom it allows people, and because it fosters peace all over the world.

I hate islam for the following reasons:

1 It encourages violence and war
2 It encourages polygamy
3 Muslims hit their foreheads on the ground. It disgusts me!
4 I hate their kind of dresses. For crying out loud, why cover one's body like a masquerade
5 Their men don't get circumcised
6 They treat women as if they are inferior to men. I hate it!
7 Etc

Op, all what you are going through are due to your mind playing games with you.
You got your mind messed up and that is why you are suffering!

Tell yourself today that both Satan and God are a philosophical creation of men to control humanity. See yourself as a superior being that you are, yet learn to love yourself, humanity(even when some people seem to hate you, love them)and the universe as a whole. Free your mind!

Ever wondered why atheists don't complain about being harassed by any demon It is because they understand that demons, satan, God etc are a creation of the mind.

Mbaka is one of the coded scammers of our time! I know him very well. Na 042 guy i be.

From the lies about Chimaroke sending assassins to kill him where he claimed that bullets did not penetrate him to this one, all na wasssshhhh!

michlins:
bring your own personal problem here and leave your aunt out of it. Don't make mockery of here in the name of pity

Exactly! Even from op's comments, it is clear she is here to mock the lady.

jamariwolf:
seems you're forgetting we're in naija.
I don't know if she's happy for sure, billions of people put on a facade of happiness everyday.

Yes i know we are in naija where people fail to mind their business but poke nose into other people's affairs.

I also know that there are many unmarried but happy people(both men and women) living their lives to the fullest in this same naija.

So, since the lady hasn't complained to you yet, i beg you to let her be.

Everybody must not marry! What's more important is her happiness. Op, did she complain to you that she is not happy

If she didn't, then i'll advise you to mind your business and let the lady be.

With that pretty lady as my wife, i will definitely accelerate home without looking back.

I can always transfer money to baby mama. I don't intend to have one though.


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eyinjuege:
Why do you believe they don't have things in common?
They may have similar tastes in music, arts, films, religion, hobbies. Heck, thry may even have similar or closr enough social background. I know a rich man's daughterbwho didnt go to a tertiary school because she just wasnt cut out for formal education. "She no know book". Her parents accepted their fate, she learnt a skill and is doing well in it. Her siblings are all excelling in the corporate world, but she's fine where she is.
Being a hairdresser doesn't make one a low lifer.
There are loads of graduates, both men and women that are as dull as anything, can't hold up a conversation, their thinking so backwards that you wonder.
I learnt Bisola of the last big brother nigeria didnt go to a tertiary institution.Yet she speaks good English, she's talented and definitely sounds intelligent enough, worldly enough to say something about what's going on in her society. She may decide to be a tailor, and she will succeed in it and be respected.
I learnt Alakija, richest woman in Africa started as Maryam Babangida's hairdresser. I'm not sure of her educational qualifications, but for sure she must have been a hairdresser with a difference and a sound mind. At a point in her life, i learnt she sold plantain bunches.
Please not all people who are not formally educated are stupid.
Infact, a lot of educated folks are stupid from my experience with some people and you just want to choke them for their stupidity.
I think we should all learn to respect other people's choices.

Well, if the guy really wants to settle for the lady, let him convince his parents on why she is the best for him. But then this doesn't change the fact that another person who doesn't want to marry an uneducated person or a school drop out is also right on his/her choice.

This guy's case may also be that he is about to make a wrong choice due to sexual attraction. We don't know them so no one can be sure. Besides, some guys really don't know how to make choices of women they roll with. It is not a matter of having even a PhD. They chose wrongly based on mundane considerations. This also applies to some ladies. This is why the rate of divorce is on the rise.

Why do you think marriages lasted longer in those days when parents were the ones that chose spouses for their children? It is because such marriages were built on substance not on frivolities. Parents ensured that their sons married from families that shared some things in common e.g son of a catechist in the catholic church marrying daughter of C.M.O
chairman, or son of a politician marrying daughter of a politician too.
In the same way, a graduate marrying a graduate also strengthens the union because none of them feels inferior to the other, or feels that the other should worship him/her such that there is mutual respect in the union.

To me o, i think people should marry from their class.

TRAILBLAIZER:
u r a biochemistry graduate now lemme tell u something during ur time am very sure u were one of d few students hu really passed through biochemistry as a course what am saying is most bch graduates do not actually focus in their course Dats y u see dose flopping during deir IT its good to see an intellectual mind who is actually d product of biochemistry the course is not for small mind sha
can I email u??

The email address i used for this account is not working anymore.

TRAILBLAIZER:
for someone who calls one an slowpoke it was very spiny and dirty of u to stoop low and critisize MCB and bch degree holders for ur info some of d greatest minds in d pharmaceutical industries today are biochemists/microbiologists I wuld av expected a great mind like u to av acknowledged and accorded due respects to d courses sorry if my choice of words r offensjve I Actually respect u but dt was jst unruly

Well, i am a biochemistry graduate myself now in the pharmacy profession. I had a bad experience with many biochem/microbiology graduates working in the pharm. industry where i did my IT. Those guys live in anger and beef pharmacists instead of talking to the management about whatever issues they have. It is bad!

Even that guy i quoted made his comment to mock the pharmacists, hence my reaction.

I respect those who respect themselves.

Thanks for your advice though.