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funkmrflexx:
We Have Been Dating For 1 Year and 6 months now. I’ve met her parents, we wanted to get married last year but her dad told me to wait till she finishes school which is supposed to be next year. I’m 25 years old and she’s 22 .

I live alone in the city while my mom lives in the village. My younger sister who I’m sponsoring through school sometimes comes to my place during holidays and weekends. My girlfriend practically lives with me because she comes from a type of an Abusive family. So she lives with me and I even assist her with school fees and house rents sometimes. I’ve spent even more than her father for her school.

Everyone In my family knows her and she’s a very wonderful girl. Typical wife material. She supports me every time even when I’m broke. I’m not the type of guy that dates a lot of girls . I don’t even cheat on her. Since I met her I’ve done away with a lot of ladies. I’m 100% committed to the relationship

But the problem is that she Has very bad anger issues. I mean she can destroy your property when she’s angry and I’m the quiet type. I don’t like hitting a lady execpt once in a while a general brain resetting slap. When she starts she doesn’t listen to anyone. Not me, not even her parents. So anytime she’s angry like this I will just find a way to make her laugh. Both of you can just be eating and she will get angry if you ate the fleshy part of the meat and left oily part for her (we have quarreled because of that I mean serious quarrel) . Sometimes I get tired of the whole situation. At the end even when she’s wrong I’ll let her for peace to reign. So I try to manage the anger at home so it shouldn’t go out

So we went to visit my mom in the yesterday. Because of curfew we slept over. So my mom bought us mangos this morning and told us to carry.

My girlfriend then said she doesn’t like mango that if I want to eat my mango I should carry it myself. Then my mom (she is the type that always shouts at every body. The real wahala woman) told her that if she can’t carry the mango then she should just put it on my head for me to carry na (If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na).

That was the only thing my mom said. Then she sparked. Started shouting at my mom. That she should stop talking to her like that, that she doesn’t like it. In fact she’s going home. So she carried her bag and started going home. Every one in the compound started saying it’s ok (Na dat thing why dem tell u Dey make u Dey vex so) she was still shouting. I was even try to calm her down but no way. She was still shouting. Even my sister who had never seen her angry before became angry (na so you b? She said). I was really disappointed In her

The issue is what even made me angry is how she reacted. If she didn’t like what my mom said made her angry. At least she should have waited till we got home (this was the first time we were both sleeping over) then she would tell me. Or she could have called my sister and told her what my mom said. After all the fracas, she went inside the room till we left. I just told everybody to just leave her.

So when we got home I told her what she did was wrong that she shouldn’t have reacted like that. Na there war start. She started yelling and shouting at me that if my mom talks to everyone like that she won’t take it (my plan was to tell her that she should apologize to her. Because my mom already apologized that she won’t talk to her again like that. Which I know she will o . So we can just forget about the issue. But she never accepts she’s wrong ) She said I took her to my village to intimidate her in front of my family people, I was really angry and called her uncle and told him what happened. He said there was nothing wrong with what my mom told her (If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na) and that he would talk to her .

I even scolded my mom before I left that I didn’t like what she said what she did that’s she was just causing issue. My girlfriend said when my mom said the word (If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na) that I should have immediately rebuked my mom. But me sef no see anything wrong with what my mom said( If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na)

I just Dey follow her uncle advise and leave her be until she calms down and I talk to her

So my people what’s offensive in this word? If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na)

But this her attitude don tire me. Break up is not on the card for me at least not yet. She always thinks that they are other guys out there because she has a lot of toasters but I know they can’t do quarter of what I’m doing for her. In this modern time it’s difficult to see a guy who will allow his girlfriend stay with him thereby losing his freedom to do certain things. A guy who doesn’t cheat, a guy who takes care of her does everything for her .

I just think the things she went through in her family is affecting her physiological. And sometimes when I think about leaving her I feel pity because she can’t go back to her parents house.

If this is not fiction, then you urgently need to see a Psychiatrist.

You're headed for destruction Sir. Kindly write your will soonest. Cheers

Op. While you're still in this generous mood. I need just 20k. Thank you

Starberg:
Poor broke ass girl... always acting LovePeddler before they fend for themselves. Anyway if you don't mind, send me your account details.

Please don't use a leech to prove financial capability. Men full here wey go appreciate your kind gesture

sisikemi23:
Guys are always complaining about broke girlfriends but an average Nigerian man will start feeling insecure when you start bringing out money from your pockets, the same ones complaining feel threatened when you do the spending.

Abeg me I won't complain. When can you start. Let me experience real magic in this my life time.

Teeboy15:
Well I didn't. Although I had all the opportunity but didn't have the time. No way I'll compromise my daily bread cos of pvssy. Also, her attitude was a big turn off for me, to the extent of almost avoiding her. Imagine someone I had not nacked putting so much responsibility on my neck. Did I also mention she started lamenting about incomplete house rent to my ear? Would even call to tell me nepa came to disconnect her light cos she hasn't paid bill. Guy with all these things we had barely known each other two weeks. I never nack I don incur, what if I come begin nack steady and the thing come get plenty honey inside, that means she go include me for her papa building committee for village.
Any experienced person in the game can easily sight a leech and pull away. Like I said previously, sometimes the juice is not always worth the squeeze
She still calls me though

Na man u be. May God give most niggas this wisdom.

angelfallz:
What are you even saying? Have you even gone to Quora to verify what I said about American Women mostly white women using their men, white men as meal tickets?
It's like you just want to believe that it is only Nigerian women that have that sort of behaviour. You're the one that's naive.

https://www.opencourt-basketball.com/the-crazy-story-of-stephen-jackson-literally-leaving-his-fiance-at-the-altar-because-she-didnt-sign-prenup/

The guy try self. I dey mad. No ring self until you sign the prenup ooo

Stevecreativex:
Me if I remember I use to smile and swear for her with my smile
She's grace, fondly called Gracey, I met this werey when I was serving at Abuja 2014, But with the way we met seems like God wanted us together.

She works where I did my PPA, The first day we met I was working on some files and she was kinda asking her colleague who Steve is when she walked up to my desk, she called my name I looked up and she lost it like I could remember we both lost at each other for like 60 seconds before the lady sitting beside me called her name loud( that one don grab watin dey sup)

To cut the past lost story short.. we started talking we exchange contact and weeks later we started dating... Later she came over to the apartment whey I rented, I could tell her reaction she does not like the place (it single room thou )

Months later our relationship became so close that people started noticing in the office, exactly August they paidsalary and to my surprise, as we were going home together she gave me her August salary asked me to add some few bucks to it I should move out of the one-room apartment am staying saying she doesn't want me sharing toilet and bathroom...

Like I was wow. To be very honest that night I was so happy to the extent I had to cut all my spouse contact off and focus on only her... Like that night I vowed not to cheat on her ever...

So I finished my NYSC in Abuja and luckily my PDTF scholarship application was successful I was preparing to move over to Greece for my masters...

I and Gracey parted ways but we still dating, we call each other text each other... Months later I started sending money to grace for our building project, all the money I sent was around £125,500+ (54,233,804.62 nairas)

During this process, grace sends me pictures of the land she brought and how the construction is going on.....

To round up this painful crab only for me to come back home to meet my wife, married with a kid...

I arrested her and all she could say was "she thought I was just joking with her" that she never thought I still love her... Out of 54m, she could only recover 2.5m...

I was hospitalized for two weeks then... I sort I almost died the shock and trauma almost killed me... But thank God later I just have to return to Greece and start all over again... But what she did then is still the reason why am single today...

The truth sef is I insult any Nigerian girls I see in Greece... Nigerian girls in Greece are all lonely so anyone of then that comes across Nigeria guys is always waiting to be loved but I can't stop hating them...

The trauma still lives..

Omo this one is deep oo. Thank God for your experience. I will never ever try such I'd I'm in such a position. Sorry Bro

DelTel:
AJ sent lots of food - rice, beans, semolina - to Fela Shrine to be shared around few days ago. From my estimation the rice should be 10kg, beans 10kg and 2 sachets of semolina 1kg which should be around #1500, #1000 and #800 respectively in open market.

To my astonishment, most of the recipients sold the 3-combo pack #500 to a man parked few metres away.

Some companies and individuals have been sharing stuffs to alleviate people's suffering but all ends up in fights, disruption of the process and wastage of the items.

G...n lotto gave 100 bags of rice and other foodstuffs to a community, some elders connived to share only 50 bags keeping the remaining to themselves; the youths of the area have been at loggerheads with the elders and food left undistributed for over 2wks now.

Welcome to the shit hole

Shibaraba:
This is why I fear 9 to 5 jobs. I've been on phone with my guy since he learnt that ejigbo branch has closed. Man is scared. He just wedded ni o. So glad I didn't give one slot away to one snake. If everything goes south he'll be getting a better job with juicier pay.

Bottom line. Always have a contingency plan. Life can dribble o

Is there still another slot?

Davash222:
Advice him to get a second wife, so you can be relieved of your DUTY!!

This advice may ultimately be their future. At op if you like be looking for ways to manipulate your hubby so as not to give him his right. Last last nairaland will need another story later for us, you may just be that story.

Otunba2004:
still it doesn't add up my brother,all our politicians are bunch of criminals and thieves southwest,south east,south South and entire North don't take sides plz God will expose all of them, covid19 will locate all our leaders including their families

Amen. Any family member that wants to unnecessarily quote us will have his/her life filled with perpetual sorrows.

Adams011:
Lol true, but wish you knew the figures attached to that contract, it's like a starting point according to my pops

Why not help people that need help here? Instead of looking for a way to spend money on someone who doesn't value you.

Chicken Change.
Takes care of you
You vowed never to give men money.
You're willing to see your so called boyfriend go hungry.
Nigerian men seems we have to really take to the advice of dose who asked we focus only on women from other races.
@Op just break up with the so called boyfriend. If you have to ask strangers this question, then your search for a true relationship hasn't reached it's conclusion.

HammedOlanaija:
This one is saying someone is cute without seeing her. Lol
I pity your life. Lmao

Na transgendered

HammedOlanaija:
This one is saying someone is cute without seeing her. Lol
I pity your life. Lmao

Na transgendered

MARX77:
Permit me to list out a few things

1. From the beginning of the relationship, you have probably given this girl d mindset that if she leaves u, u r done for.

2. Bro, if u use money take open relationship, ready to dey drop money... So all this your expenses here and there na u cos am. Never use money as a means to hold down a woman, they're always in need, and most of them will go for the highest bidder.

3. I don't know who needs to hear this, except the girl na ur wife, never ever let a lady influence decisions that u know can make your life better. NEVER DO THAT. Make decisions to better ur life, Bleep whatever she thinks.

4. Boss, any girl when dey look for consent to marry you don go already. Forget her...

5. You're lucky you passed your exam, you for know afa

6. I can bet my left ass that your lady has someone already promising her the moon and the stars. SHE'S GONE BRO.

MY ADVICE: Brace yourself, retrace your steps and before she drops the bombshell on you,
Break up with her in a very dope way, like stars do, no fight, no insults.

YOUR FUTURE IS BRIGHT MAN, take it from me, ON GOD.

*Drops mic*

Louderrrrrrrrrr

Giwoni:
My Love Experience

Good day NLanders

I'm a medical student, and gf ( not sure what to call her now) is in MLS. We are both in same level (500l).

It all started in 2015, when we gained admission into the University. We began to read together and subsequently I started teaching her. Later on, she made me to read and susummarize her course topics (which I did for up to her 300 level) for her as she usually found it difficult to read with textbooks and understand the contents.

Months before my 2nd MBBS examinations, I began to notice changes in her attitude and behaviour towards me, up to the point that she told me that if I did not pass that examinations that, she will forget about me. But as God may have it, I passed successfully.

Financially, it started right in year one as I celebrated her and her mummy's Christmas from my own pocket. It got to a point that I usually give her her money almost every day (for up to 5yrs) Whenever, I'm traveling in any of our vacations, I usually give money for upkeep until I'm back.

In 300l, I bought her gift worth almost 30k and also celebrated her birthday which she demanded I get her 'point and kill cat fish' that cost 9k.

I usually pay for her textbooks and seminar work as we are all in medical school, I really do a lot for her, as she always told me she would never leave me right from yr 1 to 500l after which she started telling me, their people from Anambra will not let her marry people from Ebonyi State.

She's has known this for all her life, but decided to bring it up just now, when I'm beginning my marriage plans with her, She's started giving me unnecessary excuses in one form or the other.

In 400L, my elder brother told me that I should leave my medical school here to go and study the same medicine abroad. Because of her, I told him that I want to finish my school here since I am already in 400 level. That after my MBBS degree, I can then go abroad for my Masters degree...

This January, my elder brother told me that since I would be graduating in 2022 (which supposed to be 2021 but due to strike before the 2019 election) which is two years time, that I should be planning to get married before I leave this country.

This made me to ask her again if we are ending up together and she told me that she has to seek for her mother's consent, and would give me a feedback.

Before, she travelled (this is just before the lock down) as she was complaining that she does not have any money on her to eat and she want to go and learn how to plait hair which will cost her #8,000, I gave her #16,000. The next day after collecting the money, she told me that she received a call from her mother that she must come back to her State and she travelled with that money without learning anything.

Yesterday by 8:24pm, I called her to tell me the outcome of her mother's discussion with her. She told me that her mother insisted that she cannot marry an Ebonyi man, and she cannot go outside her mother's decision.

In conclusion, she told me that she cannot marry me.

Well, as expected, I'm bracing myself up for insults, (I really don't mind this right now) but amidst the insults, pls advice a brother who's fighting emotionally.

thanks

Dear Nairalanders is there a way I can upload that song. Anyway it goes thus. Omo see Broda, Broda, Broda wey mumu...

doggedfighter:
See this one

Wetin happen na. Shey make person no shot him shoot ni

doggedfighter:
See this one

Wetin happen na. Shey make person no shot him shoot ni

Veefierce:
what if they don’t hv a degree n can’t do manual labor ? U Bleep a guy n get 10k n make more than 100k a month , n u work in a filling station getting 15k every month , you will still Bleep around with other men , that will still use n dump you !! Leave them alone abeg !!

Na today prostitution start??

There r well groomed girls who r prostitutes ,home training doesn’t put food on anyone’s table.

Men r giving naked girls on ig live 20k but if they plainly beg them with nothing involved they will never give n u are blaming women. If the men wants women who r liability what’s the problem? Every man n their spec n kind of woman! Same with ladies .

I am speaking for their perspective, I will not insult them or say all sorts, just so u see me as morally groomed !! This is life!!

Hmmmm. Your talk touch me oh. Last last you can't heal the world.

Casalindal:
I cast a love spell on my partner

Looooooooooool. Menses on his food kinda thing bah. Looooooooool

ehmmy11:
am so surprised at how easy it was for you guys to convince those girls to "lash" ..pls kindly tell how you did it?? Cos am at a loss

Dude it's quite easy. Good Apartments, Good Ride, Dress and Smell Nice, Have spare cash to ball, there's hardly any pussy you won't smash Sir.

tiffanyfan:
Am very sure you don't know what you are saying

Dang. you're cute. Can we get to know each other. I'm Joshua

GuestLog:
My best friend found my ex I've lost contact with and decided to sleep with her before telling me he got in touch with her. My other closest friend had a fall out with the first friend and decided to share the secret with me. I didn't react.

Instead the next week, I travelled to Abuja and told his present girlfriend I was in town and we planned to meet (the only girl he ever loved and swore to marry). That day eh! I lashed day light out of that girl and realised why he loved her. she was really sweet. So, I stayed a week and lashed her everyday till I returned back to my state. Till date, I never told anyone what I did.

MODIFIED:
Some have asked why I had to revenge since she was an ex?

We didn't break up officially. We lost contact after a massive riot in the north. Though I gave up the idea of ever finding her, I never stopped talking about how lovely it would be to reconnect with her. He found her after 7 years.

Na juju una dey use abi these ladies are that cheap?

StarUp:
My own problem is that NCDC should stop always sending me SMS like their new found love... I no get joy this period o, na only alert go give me joy.

Chai. U set ooo. I want to harvest u

Rozz:
The primary responsibility of an envagelist is to preach God's words, telling people simply and clearly what God says about his messengers and what He has done for us all. It is the duty of an envangelist to deliver God's message and be faithful to every word.

However it is a difficult task for single ladies who have passion for evangelism. Most of the opposite sex do not really have interest in your message but romance and believe me some can go to any length for this.

No doubt I have passion for evangelism but my pastor has advised me against it as it brings everything controversial for all the moves I have made towards it, even online is not left out.

Pastors in the house, do you think I should give up this passion? Am I going against God's passion in me if I stop?

I change my mind. With that your dp please coman evangelize me biko.

You should stick to Transport Evangelism till you get married. If you like no hear word. Wetin your eye see you go take am like that.

chijokz:
Exactly the same question I asked a friend who reached out to me last week for financial assistance to feed his family.
He said he attends a mega church in Lagos and had been paying tithes for many years but hasn't received any assistance from them yet despite reaching out.
I told him it makes no sense that his church has billions of Naira in their various bank accounts and some or majority of their members are suffering and in desperate need for help.
I also told him if he had saved 10% of his income for years in a savings account earning him interest, he would have tapped into that savings during this time to feed his family.
I later helped him and hoped he used it wisely.

The most important thing you gave him is knowledge. Remain blessed Sir/Ma. If he likes let him continue building Daddy GOs account balance and neglect his own.

DWJOBScom:
First you must a relationship with the author of tithing - God.
He will explain himself to you and in every way you desire. He doesn't need your money o and he still doesn't instead he calls you to fellowship and obedience .

In summary to have a better understanding about tithing -ask Jesus into your life and he will teach you.

Something he didn't teach when he was alive. He will magically teach you now that he is in heaven. This has got to be the funniest thing I've read today...

Tolubigyansh:
There's nothing bad in being gay as far as you don't touch me

Make everybody dey their dey

Tolu where is the big yansh

Tolubigyansh:
There's nothing bad in being gay as far as you don't touch me

Make everybody dey their dey

Tolu where is the big yansh

Newdawn30:
Everything was fine BTW us till late last year when she started changing. Our sex life was great till late last year, whenever I make a move to touch her she always say she was tired or not in the mood. It was strange cos she has a large appetite for sex. Then every weekend she hardly spend time with me, it either she had to for her a week training or she had to go home to see her parents which was odd . Even when I told her to stay she refused, it was always one excuse or the other.Then we began having fights even over the silliest things. I was away for a month and I came back early because of the lowdown. I decided to check her message, that's how I learnt that she had been having affairs with other men(3) Including married man she introduced to me as a friend. Same girl that hated ladies that sleep with married men was doing same.
I feel so broken cos I never expected such a thing From her . We are supposed to get married by 3rd quarter this year... I still have feelings for her cos she has been begging and saying she regrets her action begging me not to tell her mom. Her mom is the only person I can trust to knock some sense into her. I'm scared that if I forgive her she might do it again.
Nairalanders I need your advice. I had built my world around her

Don't worry. Keep on the path. Look forward to another thread from you soon. I won't tell you what it'll be about sha. Ciao

Leezah:
Single people, please how are you guys coping in this period?

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If you stay in an accessible area in Lagos I can show you how to cope.