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Whether men of God or not, bible says "Judge not that you may not be judged, ". Only God is in the position to judge any man.

@GeeCee,

Truth be told. Your are right!!!

@feelgood,

There is still a lot we do not know.

What exactly was the cause of the argument? What kind of things have happened in the past to warrant the woman leaving her matrimonial home? Was the husband a wife-beater? Was her life threatened? Was her pregnancy at risk (though she lost it)? Was her husband performing his duties as a husband? What exactly happened? Has he been cheating on her with other women?

You see, to begin to make fast deductions will be unfair to both parties. However, I will like to state that except in cases where the wife is constantly being battered or physically assaulted or her life is being threatened by her husband, is she required to leave her matrimonial home (till issues are resolved, if at all they are). It makes no sense for a woman's life to be unsafe in her matrimonial home and she still remains there. If on the other hand, the reasons for her leaving her home isn't part of the ones given, then, I believe its better we hear her side of the story.

They both however, have a lot to learn about conflict resolution. 6 months is too short a time for this type of thing happening. For the woman to have involved her mother to help settle a score with her husband is not too good. What is still annoying is why will a mother not intervene positively to help settle the matter but rather refrain her daughter from returning home?

I really can't make anything from the story. How long has she been away from home? I sense that the man's ex-girlfriend must have contributed to the mess. Cos how do you explain a situation where she is still readily available after the wife left.

To the man, I will say, take heart on the loss of your mum (and baby). Please, don't allow a "strange woman" in the person of your ex-girlfriend destroy your home. The fact that she was there and you married your wife right before her eyes and under her nose, should tell you that your wife is better than her in many ways. The ex gf being there for you when you needed someone to be with you during your mum's illness might just disillusion you from seeing your wife the way you ought to. Remember your ex gf will cease the moment to play "good girl" so you can consider her to be the next in line(wife).

To both parties - Love covers a multitude of sins! If you both love yourselves, there is nothing that you both cannot accomplish together.

To the ex-gf - Abeg waka far !!!!! Go find your own husband!!!

Just as no one is born a robber!

No one is born a prostitute!

No one is born a lesbian!

No one is born a nympho!

No one is born a pervert!

No one is born a homosexual!


All these things come as a result of choices that have been made by these people. The choices have been made as a result of lack of moral standards and discipline and above all, lack of the knowledge of God!

How did you treat people? Search yourself, there must be something u are not doing right.

Offenses will come but woe to him by whom the offense comes! On your part stop being easily offended!!

All your friend needs is peace within!

He should try to seek God personally first, and seek less of 'prayer merchants'! He is not under any spiritual attack but might just be having a slight confusion of voices!

Has the wife done anything bad to him to warrant doubts?

GOD: MY PEOPLE PERISH FOR LACK OF WISDOM!

Your going for the wedding depends solely on you. I would rather you not go but call her and wish her well. Why do you want to put yourself thru emotional stress when you know you do not need it? Since it appears you have not forgotten the pains of the past, your prayer should be for God to provide you with your own mate with whom you'll walk down the aisle just like your ex.

@v3,
Please be mature in reasoning. Going to another person's wedding to cause havoc is truly uncalled for, immature and needless(remember you both were never married but just dated).

Who says you cannot get a perfect gown for less than 75,000naira. One thing a lot of bride-to-be's do not realise is that many designers seek to exploit you because they know you are willing to part with large sums of money in the name of wedding gown. Your wedding gown need not be very expensive. I got mine for far less than that and it did not reduce me from being the cynosure of all eyes on my wedding day that is to say, it was perfect on me. If you have excess money, I advice you keep it because after the occasion is when you'll realise that you have a lot of needs. Trust me, I'm speaking from experience e!!!!!!!!!!

@ Poster,

You are the architect of your destiny, that is why the decisions you make today can make or mar your destiny. If you make a choice to marry or not to marry her, both ways still make up ur destiny!!!!! In either case, choose wisely and prayerfully!!!

@ ololomu
Are you saying you married at 11years. What do you mean by you are 20years

BABIES!!!!!!

Great idea, Keep it up!!!!

If you will help your child cheat in school, then be prepared to help them cheat all through life.

@ POSTER,

Concerning your relationship - Did her mother like you?

I ask this because i can't seem to understand how any reasonable mother will encourage her daughter to MURDER her unborn child. Even if it were in the nane of religion, all i expect any reasonable mother to do is to speed up things for you both to be married early enuf so the child is not born out of wedlock. The only reason I think the mother encouraged her to terminate the pregnancy MIGHT be that the baby was not for you which she was aware of and would not encourage her daughter to give birth to another man's child under your roof.

I will suggest for now that you leave each other for a while. I mean break up for now. If you claim that you have forgiven her and still lover her, try as much as possible to be her friend, while watching her from your end. If it turns out that she has truly changed, then you can decide to ask her hand in marriage, otherwise, Abeg RRRRRUUUUUUUNNNNNN!!!!!!

Most importantly PRAY!!!

Dumb question,

Is a whale not a fish?

@ kaecey,

[quote][/quote]How did your parents die? You sound as if you were responsible for their deaths!!!!!

@ osilekan4u,

I suggest you should still relax a bit. You are still quite young and have a lot to learn in the ocean of life before making a final decision. Who knows, there are things that both ur parents have seen that you can not perceive for now.

Give it more time and pray, if you are for each other, the marriage will happen in God's time!!!

cheers

rubbish

i agree with yemmight,

Go for a PGD and masters, while you are still working on the job. Don't think of BSc at ur stage.

Its well

What makes you think that if you tell the truth, you will not get the job?

I was asked to lie about my age and my marital status to get a job and i did not and ou know what, I didnt and I got the job!

@ Banom,

You need not have so much hate for your fellow man. I strongly believe that [b]you are not in any position to judge him because you are not a saint in any way.

As for the man God chooses, his works will always be backed up with proofs. There are so many proofs of Gods hand in Papa's life. How many proofs can anyone see in your life?

Free ur mind from resentment and try to direct your emotions into something more productive, instead of feeling bitter about what anyone has prophesied.

@ Ekakids,

I strongly believe its the duty of any/every responsible man to take care of his wife. Come to think of it, how many men truly understand that keeping-house is actually serious work. It is not easy to be a housewife, cos she has to cook, wash, clean, take care of the kids(which is not eeeeaaaassssy), among other duties. it takes only a God-fearing and responsible man to be able to appreciate the wife and compensate her with personal allowance every month.

However, in as much as I understand, I'll like to discourage any woman from being a housewife. Try as much as possible to be involved in some kind of business, no matter how small. Have an income source that u can rely on in case of any eventualities. Staying without a meaningful income source is a defenseless state. In front of your inlaws(no matter how nice) they seem, you'll earn more respect as a working woman. So pleaseeeeee, try to get urself involved in something productive or at best, get a salaried job.

All da best!!!!

Hi,

Just make sure you study ur graphs very well, also some IQ questions will do. There's a lot of comprehension, so learn to speed-read, and of course some mathematics.
About 100 questions in all. Taken their test before. Pray hard and read harder.

Hello fellowlanders,

There is this new coy that seeks to recruit "all and sundry" into their organisation. You can check their website: www.avris-ng.org for more info.

But one thing baffles me- After logging on to their website, to apply, they asked that all applicants must first make a cash payment of 1000naira.

Has anyone had such experiences? Also, anybody with any info about the org should pleeeeaaaasssseeee share!!!!!

Best of luck

Congratulations,

Thank God and don't complain. God that has provided job for you will also provide the transportation fares or whatever u need.

By the way, u never mentioned the type of job and the company you are working with or is it not worth mentioning?

Cheers!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hi,

The test comprises of 100 questions in all. 50 questions in each segment, with a total of 24 mins to answer all (i.e, 12 mins for each segment) . They are all simple questions (simple arithmetics and english), but what matters most is your speed and accuracy.

I took the test on the 18th of April. Make sure you relax and do your very best.

Best regards.

Hi,

Thanks for the information. I just filled the form and it was quite assessible.

Best regards.

Hi,

No Good and well organized employer of labour will ask you to "pay" in order for you to be employed and start getting PAID!!!! They're just a bunch of nobodies. Please IGNORE the offer and pretend you never saw it!!!

EVERYONE beware.

Heya,

This is just the beginning of great things to come for you. CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! Keep praying for the rest of us o!!!!!!!