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what's the hoopla about?

Dpnt they have a constitutional right to make laws forbidding certain things?

I'm not saying I support freedom restrictions but why must anything that opposes western ways be criticised? Why is it that the western media has to highlight all the things that dont seem to agree with whatever they love and paint such things negatively?

Why did they not, for instance, compare the situation in the North to that in the South? They chose to focus solely on that which suits them.

Someone needs to call the dogs in Unilag registry to order about this kind of behaviour. They are a disgrace to the Unilag that I attended several years ago

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Calling Obama black is an insult to his mother

Barack Obama is not black. He is the first mixed- race politician ever to get this far in the onerous and arduously testing American electoral process. In the US under an over- arching American patriotism, separate ethnic categories are clearly labelled and race ghettoes (real or imagined) are commonplace. In such a severely organised society, Obama’s achievements are all the more astounding since he fits neatly nowhere.

A caveat. Only in one important sense can Obama be legitimately termed “black”. In the US and the UK too, until fairly recently, “black” was a political identification, shorthand for “not white” in the long game of power held almost entirely in white, male hands.

So his win does represent, as with Colin Powell and Condi Rice, an historical shift as some top jobs finally get into the hands of non- white Americans. But the adjective has become an identity and racial marker for the Democratic nominee, and used that way, “black” is disingenuous, and in my view, iniquitous.

Successful mixed- race Americans are pushed to call themselves “black” as a badge of honour, evidence that they are not ashamed of that background. And that too is wrong. When the legendary golfer Tiger Woods said that he was African, Caucasian, Native American and Asian, he was denounced by African - Americans for denying his “true” heritage.

During the times of transatlantic slavery, biracial children (most born out of rape by the master or overseer) were branded black so as to deny them white paternity and concomitant rights. Now the descendents of that history demand that same denial, because many of them, too, despise amalgamation.

Maria Root, an American clinical psychologist, writes: “The existence of racially mixed persons challenges long-held notions about the biological, moral and social meaning of race.” Such conservatism surely needs to be thrown off in the 21st century.

Woods and now Obama are heroic examples to, and of, that wilful wedge (growing and alarming many nations) of individuals and families made up of many parts, who cannot be held in man-made reservoirs of biological and cultural purity. They leave the gene pools of sterilized waters; swim out instead into the saltier, messier, yes dirtier, unpredictable seas full of unknown creatures and perils-but also freedom.

Obama’s parent-an African man and American woman-didn’t make it together. Their son, though, came through stronger and wiser, because he had to. Some with the same stories do, but never forgive, like Malcolm X; others do and self destruct. I agree with the British psychologist Professor Ann Phoenix, who said nearly 10 years ago that we need “a separate history of people of mixed race … [otherwise] they have no past, no heroes or heroines with whom to identify.”

And an honest history would have to acknowledge the white men and women who are rubbed out by the label “black”, erased ruthlessly. Obama would be nobody – he wouldn’t exist – without his mum. She wasn’t perfect, and makes mistakes, but it look a brave lass to defy the social order, as we read in the autobiography. It is only by calling himself “biracial” loudly and proudly that Obama can integrate is mum into his success story.

He should remember how many white parents feel when they are systematically demeaned, diminished and sometimes removed together from the biographies of mixed- race children, even when they have being the ones doing the parenting. Darcus Howe, the father of several children brought up white mothers, once memorably asserted that all the sprogs were “black” and absolutely had to be.

In other enlighten countries, they have thankfully moved on from the views expressed by Howe. Assertive mixes- race couples and children have ensured that progress away from just another kind of bigotry. The US lags far behind.

Many more biracial Americans that Britons, for example, feel obliged to marry black (the darker the better) in order to repurify their biology and group belonging. I wonder how many African- Americans would have supported Obama if his wife was Anglo- Saxon or Hispanic? Here, politician like Bernie Grant or David Lammy happily chose white partners without such hang- ups.

One suggests that expediency, if not honour, should persuade him to come out: “Maybe,” says One, “he should calculate how many votes he will gain if he embraces his whiteness as much as his blackness. Some of those backward Appalachians need to hear about his mum and gran, their consistency when his dad buggered off.” Maybe the argument may just move the next- one hopes- first multiracial President of the USA.

Seun:
Thanks for the suggestions. Who do you think can really do the job?

BigB1

Ellyptical:
One thing is for sure. The lady is terrible!!!
1) She made a married man leave his family.
2) She cheats on him even after that
If it were that the man had already divorced his wife before he met her, it would have been a different thing. In this case she made him leave his family for her! The mere pain that the ex-wife would be feeling due to this is enough to put a spell on her.
I really think you should warn her seriously and if she does not change, ask the man to interrogate his maid and kids well when he returns from his journey so that he can find out for himself how low his wife has fallen . . . dating a 19 year-old.

Please get over that. The man is not Tata. He is a mature man and made a decision to leave his wife for the prospect of having a younger girl. He is reaping what he sowed; perhaps the girl will eventuall reap what she is sowing now.

Nigeria is so sick that a man can come out openly to t[b]each others how to steal[/b]!!!

Who will combat fraud when there is fraud and corruption almost everywhere you turn to? Almost everyone is involved!!!

The nation is sick!!!

I am disappointed that Nigeria1 has not posted any satellite pic here yet

Nigeria1, please could you prove to me "satellitically" that there are some people on nairaland who dont understand you.

I suffered the same fate from the same Unilag registry.

That's why it's funny when Nigerians complain about the state of the nation. Alomost every Nigerian contributes his/her own quota to the destruction of the fibre of Nigeria. Most of them are engaged in corruption and bribery and they blacme government officials for corruption.

I hope God helps you in your endeavour to get yourself some further education. Those animals in unilag registry dont care about destroying anyone's life in their greed to make a few hundreds of naira

damiso:
paedophilia is not really a crime in nigeria but sincerely this[i] pastor[/i] is shameless.na real wa i can't even imagine my 18 yr old sista coping with marriage.Later when the girl open eye and sees the youth that she has lost they will start quoting bible that she is not submissive.i think every female should be given the liberty to experience the carefree life of being young and single at least up to 21 before marriage coes on the card.(even though i know my dad would have an apoplexy if i told was getiing married at 21.even tho i don graduate my papa still dey fume at boyfriend).

who talk so? show me any man wey dey play with small pikin body make you sabi whether no be offence

I am absolutely certain that if you both turn to God, this problem can be resolved. I know it must be excruciatingly difficult for you and I am very sorry

I always suspected that Junkie was not a Nigerian and had some deep rooted bias against Nigeria and Nigerians.
Anyway, I dont think the moderator should be a permanent one so that the position does not get misused. Maybe the owner of the site should assess the performance of moderators quarterly in order to ensure that moderators dont tick off members.

I like BigB1 but I cant stand his love for an unrepentant kleptomaniac like Babangida

They dont want to release their faithful servants.

People who should be motivational speakers employed in industry are now parading as pastors teaching people motivational theories and mixing them up with the word of God.

The Bible says the Just shall live by faith. Have we considered what that means?

The thing dey for Bible? Abi we just want add am to scripture?
Shebi Bible don curse anyone wey add anything join God's word

Dem go dey roll yansh for church.
Some of those wey no fit get husband sef go still dey show cleavage for church make men for dey look.

There is nothing that some women will not try just to justify their immoral and loose life lifestyles. Maybe they think if they can convince human beings, then that will nullify God's word.

Let them keep fornicating and they have their rewards awaiting them

Do you know how many mothers in Benin are still trying to help their daughters get into Europe?

I dont look for designers. I just buy for I believe I should buy for my kids. Thankfully, my kids are not bothered about such things.
My first told me he liked a jacket recently that my wife bought for a new arrival here - the jacket was from primark and I bought it for my son. He likes it

When a much older man seeks to use a younger girl to boost his ego and whatever else, he should know that this kind of thing will eventually happen.
They are both using each other

@Udode,
Speaking for myself here - I'll be disappointed to have such a brother who is developing into a serial divorcee. However, I am not in a position to tell anyone how to live their lives so I'll have to accept the way he chose to live his life.

The fact that he is taking you to meet his family before marriage means that he is serious about you and you are best keeping an open mind. I'll advise you continue being the way you've always been and not let the trip trouble your mind.

I'll also advise that you watch out for advise that may sound like 'looking out for you' but may be misleading, especially from some around here.

All the best

BTW do you have a child for him?

Since when did it become abominable for a man to state his choice or preference?
The same people who scream about freedom say something else when they feel that another person's freedom is not favourable to them.
The man has the right to chose how he marries and the woman has the right to accept or not.

The guy dey find shag and visa

pemkad:
/Ok time for me.
Someone said that man is cheating when woman is not taking her "responcibilities" ha ha ha. My boyfriend cheated on me first time after few onths being together. Fine i forgived and what now? After one year he left the house for 3 months and jumped to bed other girl. Did i took all my responsibilities? I'm sure i did. What i did wrong? Hmmm nothing. And stil he couldnt keep his d. inside his pants.
I know lot of people i know lot of cultures. But motly i hear that nigerians are cheaters to be honest? There is no one on this world who could prove me that I'm wrong.

absolutely daft.
you are not married and he's cheating but you are willing to accept it. You'll then talk later about how your husband is cheating. Most women who have cheating husbands knew their husbands would most likely cheat on them but they dont care at the time. I know someone who met a guy while he was dating another girl. he succeeded in taking the guy away from the girl and they got married. of course, the guy cheated regularly on her after marriage and she's now alone. I wonder if she needed a soothsayer to tell her that the guy would be that way.

Pemkad, please spare us the sad stories after you get married

Marriage is nothing like paradise on earth - please dont think that way so that you wont be disappointed.
It is not as easy and blissful as some like to paint it. It could be very frustrating especially at the beginning but it gets better with time especially if both parties are of one accord and they have unity of purpose and vision. It takes more than what we call love for marriage to work successfully. A lot of patience has to be exercised and it will turn out right.

In my opinion, it's extremely important that both partners have singleness of purpose, vision and beliefs. It helps to keep both parties having same focus and singleness of mind.

It's one of the reasons I advise people not to enter into inter-racial marriages because there'll come a time when that great difference will rear it's head and the partners will not be able to deal with it because they see things differently. it will sound unreal to most people until they get into the marriage and they regret it - I have seen it happen too many times.

May kelly:
No doubt, you have been heart broken by a woman, but sorry, you hear

Oh yes. I thought I was heart broken after secondary school when my girlfriend left Nigeria.
Just for your information, I am married with children.

If a woman is not filled with serious issues, she wont consider becoming a single parent.

iceblue:
orisirisi dey this nland o! severe myopia is becoming an epidemic here

There is no myopia involved in the fact that a man or woman who has to search far to get a partner definitely has problems and needs to examine himself or herself.

If all the people that a person meets are not good, he/she needs to examine what kind of person he is otherwise he will meet good people. It's either that the person is bad himself or herself or that he needs to re-examine his or her life. There's no long story to it.

The fact that a search needs to be conducted or that one tries hard in order to get a wife/husband shows that the possibility of failure is high. One of the problems that many Nigerians abroad have is the inability to actually look inwards at themselves and see what is making them unable to settle with a decent person. Instead, they point fingers at everything.

rubi, it's not hard o.
if a woman does not respect herself, a man should be entitled to help that process by using her to satisfy himself selfishly

I hope we all know the meaning of love