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You must be mad at 26 to think about marrying a 38 yr-old woman. If na the sex dey sweet you, make you continue but make you find younger woman to marry

Oh Yes oh

Crazy pervert

You will fast compulsorily to pay back the debt

Living alone for a lengthy period of time eventually catches up with you because you have become so selfish that anyone in your space becomes a problem. Therefore, you are likely to have problems living with any partner in future

Maybe the guy don hear say women wey dey here no get men and some of them don dey desperate. You think say the guy no get sense? abi you think say girls no dey for the guy street? na to find the one wey him go take make him life better him come here for

Does this mean that every man was exploiting every women in the days and in places where the women did not wear anything to cover their boobs?

It was never the case that the men in those societies were abusing the women just because the boobs were exposed. it is depravity disguised as civilisation which has brought humanity to this point where the main thing on the average human is sexual in nature.

I remember telling someone that I never saw any girl in my church in distracting trousers. . . the next service I actually saw girls in trousers . Before then, I just never thought about what any girl was wearing - they had been wearing trousers all along but I was not intrested in what they wore.

I dated a couple of slightly older girls (1 and 2 yrs older) but I knew there was not going to be anything serious. In my mind, I knew I was just playing although they took it seriously, especially the first one

That's trouble brewing already. You better agree on the way forward with regards tithing before you go into marriage. Little things can become serious problems within a marriage. I would say that you can either have seperate accounts so you do what you like with your money or there'll be trouble eventually.

So the woman is Ijesha. Are they not supposed to be osomalos?

Nothing wrong with it but I will be absolutely disappointed if my son was to introduce his girlfriend to me and she is older than him. It's not meant to be that way

Too many do-gooders will come out and crucify the man. Why dont they do the same for the women. afterall the women knew he had other wives and they kept agreeing to live with him. it's a whole lot of nonsense to start persecuting him because he has gone public and they feel he has brought shame upon their community.

Nothing is impossible but the thing no easy and there are extremely few success stories from such marriages, when one compares to the numbers that get married

abeg forget that matter. You should ask what kindda woman she is if she can be seeking advice on such a thing. The deed's probably already done anyway.

My understanding is that dowries are tokens, just to fulfil cultural practices.
Surely, no one would want to burden anyone with dowries such that he is then handicapped in taking care of his wife

Calabarian language is best language o.

No one can beat it

People who cant read and understand abound on nairaland.

How difficult is it to see that the white reference was to Sean who was suggesting Britney etc to someone in search of an African name?

People, learn to read with understanding

Say the couple were to divorce, do you get a refund?

funny

Personally, no gifts in whatever shape or form. We have to stop indirectly levying people during marriage, birthday, naming ceremony, funeral etc. If you're not up to it, don't do it.

@blackmamba, i like your post. It's tasteless when people have ceremonies just because they are looking for others to give them gifts. If anyone cant afford anything, they dont have to go into it. Why go into a marriage and expect the public to fund it? If the same public start interferring in your marriage, you'll complain about their interference

Mpele, I went to see a football game in Italy while on a visit a few years ago, so you have no point there. Have you ever tried going to Glasgow in UK? Try wayching a Rangers match at Ibrox and you'll understand what racism is.

Mpele:
Okay then Landis and Justgood, take your black assess to Rome and while there attend a soccer match in at the stadio Olimpico where Lazio plays their home matches.

I acknowledge the fact that the countries I mentioned are also racist, but not to an extent of the Italians. Now imagine the in your face, smug attitude of a Nigerian against the right wing Italian man. Thats a recipe for disaster. The catch is that the Nigerian must at the end of the day acknowledge the fact that he is in the Italian territory.

Most West Africans especially Nigerians don't respect other people, instead when they're in a country they behave as if they belong to that country, thats why where ever they are people are always complaining about them. This is now affecting the whole region of West Africa. When we look at Nigerians, Liberians and all their neighbours we see the same people.

West Africans must learn to behave, but I'm not condoning what happened to those poor guys. Why don't these people leave Europeans alone. I've said it before in this forum that, some people will jealously guard their own countries and even go to an extent of killing. Example, Australians, most Europeans and xenophobic South Africans.

You must be ignorant of majority European mentality if you think Italians are more racist than others. They may be more open (like Germans) with their racism but the racism is in equal measure. In Britain, the white man who smiles and has a drink with you will be the same talking to his friends about how bad black people are. He will also be telling you about other black people, and say to you that you are different from the ones that are undesirable

I attended another party on Saturday and guests were mainly Nigerians. No one was rushing any of the food. Everyone ate decently.

I was actually on the look out for the so-called scramble for food some people have mentioned here and there was no such thing. In fact there were quite a number of people who did not even go near the food.

ikamefa:
hummmmm na wah for nonsense oh

na real wah for your nonsense o. As the e be like say the missile reach you, make you go make amends

Nonsense. It doesn't really happen again in this day and age. What if the 2nd wife (problem) only has female children as well? Maybe he'll then take a 3rd wife (additional problem) and the express train keeps going till he has 89 wives and 150 daughters

olukemih:
How responsible is the guy?

A responsible man won't give you condition before you say i do, if he really love you

Stay away from such, he has nothing to offer.

Is that really a sign of irresponsibility or a right to decide what he wants? The lady also has a right to decide if she wants that kind of man or not

ayomifull:
WHY?

Is't it obvious that there are many girls here who know that they can never get a decent man? So it makes sense that they'll try a man online who may not know much about them and if that man falls properly, they'll only make his life hell as they've done to others before him.

Besides, I believe that if a man is a good man he wont need to look far to find a good companion: same applies for a lady.

Mpele:
What were they exatly doing in Italy. Do they know the language. Don't they know that Africans go England, US, France, Canada, Australia, Portugal and New Zealand.

I mean really now, everybody knows that Italians and Spaniards are the most racist. Why did they go there. One will never understand West Africans.

Who says Africans only go to England, US, France, Canada Ausralia, Portugal and New Zealand? There are more Africans in Italy than there are in Australia.
Do you know that probably the most racist nation in the world against non-whites, apart from Asian countries, is Australia? Do you also know that the Portuguese have their own language?

You are wrong to say that Italians and Spaniards are the most racist; all white countries are racist in equal measure against black people: most especially the white people in South Africa

It's a matter of choice. The guy has a choice and the girl has a choice - she either does that or she finds another guy who wont mind her waiting till after marriage. Who knows what other things the guy is likely to come up with after marriage?

People need to grow up and think before going into relationships because human beings are all different and the so-called love thing is never enough to sustain a relationship. what will sustain a relationship is more of understanding and a willingness to learn and to sometimes allow the other party get away with things that you dont agree with.

if you are the stubborn type who wont budge for anything, you need to find yourself someone who is very laid back because that's what suits you - reality of life is different from what a lot of people and a lot of books tell you

it is more than likely you'll regret it later if you do so

Reasons

*Wrong decisons
*bad attitudes
*Ugliness
etc

Maybe if a woman is too ugly, she'll be a single parent because she'll just get pregnant for any guy who happens to be too drunk to see her ugliness. or if she is (like some here) badly behaved and knows that no man will agree to stick with her with such behaviour

Those types of women abound in nairaland. Unfortunately their type are never able to land any man for long as men find out about them sooner than later

we'll get a "life" when you get one. At least we're still young. What's your excuse? Agbaya -itis

How much is your yahooze boss paying you for your questionnaire. Olori bu alabajo.

karmamod, you are iwere olochi buruku
If I am yahoozee, your whole family will be gone into extinction by now

Why were you so loose as to go to bed with a man the first time you saw him? Na una dey allow people dey insult our decent girls.

Anyway, I wish your child all the best in life