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Zahra29:
You guys are derailing the thread with all this relationship talk. @Justwise please do the needful

Joking, couldn't resist 😂😂

sconp:
Just curious, can he not call the police on her and report the matter first?

PalestianIsrael:
Hi Elders,

Had to create a new account to hide my identity.

Need urgent advice. Domestic Violence.

I’m male based in UK.
Wife and I have been having arguments/fights.
Things have gotten physically unfortunately.
I don’t initiate it.
She says I trigger her by being on my own when we quarrel about couple issues or when I’m with my phone. She’s told me to leave the house. When I come back at night to sleep or when I’m using my phone/laptop around her, she will come and disturb me and start struggling with phone etc. She has smashed my phone. She has fought with me. Things are so bad she will bring out knives and say I should just stab her or use it to hurt her since my silence is “emotional stabbing” to her.
Our physical struggles lead to bites, cuts etc. on each of us. I repeat, I keep running away or holding myself (absorbing slaps and knife pokes etc.)

Long story short, this has happened too much. At least 3 or more occasions. I no longer feel safe. I think we need to separate while things escalate to our families etc. for reconciliation/solution.

Challenge is:
- we are on Tier 2 visa. I’m main applicant, she’s spouse. We both work.
- newly weds, no kids
- shame of failed marriage etc.
- we share a flat. Our lease is up, we are just paying a rolling month on month. That can be cancelled with 30 days notice.

I need advice from Elders who have either experienced similar issues or know people that have. We bought have pictures of the injuries we inflicted to each other as ammunition if things escalate to police.

I’m really confused. Please help!!!

abuhusna1:
Your evidence is meaningless if you have cut a woman. Better talk to her heart to heart iron out your differences no perfect marriage just learn to compromise and accommodate her. The day you call it quit is the day she will plot your downfall in the uk and call police on you for domestic violence

dduchess90:
Hello

Not allowed on this platform

That is encouraging scam marriages and deceit

Attracting a 10year ban when caught

@Justwise please help

Cheers

Taal17:
I doubt the abuse of COS is their primary concern. People are willingly paying to get COS . Most of that cash paid isn't traceable to the specific care agency. Ppl probably paid middlemen and likely they paid the naira equivalent .

It's the optics of reducing net migration, as well as the news coverage of people with families stranded in the UK.selling ALL their properties move to the UK. That doesn't help the politics of the party next year.

if they were truly invested in stopping the abuse of COS care jobs they would do more than just remove COS license (which doesn't stop the care agency from operating).
They won't cancel that category either not whilst NHS gan has shortage.

Taal17:
From the paragraph shared , seems they are targeting health and care visas that don't have prerequisite qualifications. i.e care assistant jobs. Limiting those to no dependents allowed leaves them for single ppl, students in the UK and excludes migrant families. That answers to the political posture of reducing legal migration numbers.

Zahra29:
Only for the health and care visa though:

In a further development, Home Office sources have confirmed reports that Braverman is supporting plans for foreign care workers with fewer qualifications to be blocked from bringing family members to the UK. She wants to tighten the rules for the health and care worker visa, which allows migrants to move to the UK to work in social care and bring dependants with them.

Schoolhike:
Sorry do you mean they are proposing a new change to tier 2 dependent as well?

dduchess90:
Hello

Not allowed here

@Justwise please help

Cheers

Chetas81:
10 country you know that privatised their refinery if you know any

jedisco:
Hehe... the prevalent notion of recent has been that in a free country, it's not the business of the government/others to decide or regulate what what sexual union or practice consenting adults engage in as far as it brings no harm to others. Always wondered why this does not apply to polygamy..




Consent does not preclude slavery or exploitation. The first rule on safeguarding. Poverty is the largest driver of vulnerability.

maasoap:
You are naive again to think that Abacha's family or Diezani are not enjoy their loot.

Chetas81:
Kindly mention the one you remember

maasoap:
Lol. You have to be naive to have said this. This is because most of the looted funds are stashed abroad.

jedisco:
I chose the words carefully- modern Britain, akin to slavery...

Many of the terms we have today- child abuse, sexual exploitation, gender discrimination have a much different definition to what they had 200yrs ago.

For someone local, who has a gamut of options, and knows the means to seek redress, care roles are another option. For some sponsored immigrant, many of whom paid several sums (yes I know not right) and have to stick with unreasonable constraints and an overhead tax, it is quite akin to slavish conditions. Sadly, their country may not offer them much better but after years of undergoing such here, they'd have an understanding.

Consent doesn't rule it out. That a person consents to being trafficked for sex or consents to polygamy or donating their organs for money or slavish conditions doesn't mean they are not victims

jedisco:
Tough job it is moreso parts like dom care and the working conditions in todays Britain is akin to slavery.

Always known the pay was minimum wage level. Recently, I got to know that Dom care workers are not paid for the time in transit. So you do a 12hr shift running aroud peoples houses (pets, dirt e.t.c) and only be paid for 8 hrs. Worse still, the clients/relatives many times are very entitled folks and offer a trail of insults. These carers are expected to remain calm and stomach these insults. Meanwhile someone stacking shelves in Aldi makes much more.

Gerrard59:
He is a billionaire but did not generate his wealth from his dominant environment. Tonye Cole stays in Switzerland and returns to Nigeria for electioneering. If tomorrow he becomes a Swiss, should we technically consider him a European-made wealthy man whereas he did not generate his wealth from his dominant environment?

Gerrard59:
Already checked.

Gerrard59:
Already checked.

Gerrard59:
Using Forbes and Bloomberg, no black billionaire in all of Europe. Adebayo Ogunlesi could have been one, but he is not a dollar billionaire. Meanwhile, there are substantial British-Indians and British-Pakistanis who are dollar billionaires. If a black billionaire is to emerge from Europe, the UK is the most likeliest of places. I don't see France or Italy producing such. I for Impossicant.

BTW, which kind entrepreneurship una wey dey UK dey do sef? E get why I talk say Nigerians are not entrepreneurial. Close to or more than 300K British-Nigerians in the UK, no billionaire. God bless the US sha. If capitalism didn't dey, e didn't dey.

dduchess90:
Hello


So you are a scam dependant

We don’t encourage such discussion on this thread and hope you get caught

@Justwise please help ban


Cheers

Gerrard59:
Mathematically, it is appropriate for the wealthy to reside in their dominant environment. The wealthiest Japanese reside in Japan, ditto Chinese in China or Singaporeans in Singapore. Expecting your wealthiest folks to reside outside their dominant environment is an aberration. The tale that they won't get the level of respect abroad as at home is even more reason they remain in their dominant environment. Wealthy Chinese who relocate from Mainland China tend to move to Singapore or Hong Kong, where the majority look like them.

The mathematical reason is also why most black billionaires come from Africa, not the US or Europe (no black billionaire in all of Europe anyway). Sub-Saharan Africa is the home of black people. So, statistically, it should produce more black billionaires.

Taal17:
I should think if she comes on a visit visa she can also the exam OSEC exam
That seems a lot less expensive
I mean doctors fly into do do Plab

advanceDNA:
I get your sarcasm.....but corruption is the problem Nigerian isn't doing well....not because the rich is paying low or flat tax rate with the poor

The emiratees are oil producers like us....they don't even levy income tax on on its citizens weda rich or poor.......

madone:
In abroad you can't have line in house help, you can't have a gate man. You can't have a washer man, all these domestic staff are not easy come by. But in Nigeria you csn have as much as you want and still maltreat them.

Mind you some people can't do without house help.

advanceDNA:
Why would u want to go to where tax is crazily high for the rich when u can be in nigeria, pay less, and flex on the poor...

essentialone:
Why do most wealthy Nigerians prefer to live in Nigeria than to relocate abroad permanently?

bigtt76:
Ha ....wetin de wrong with these people naau?

pretty1986:
Good evening My Boss,I really appreciate all your contribution in this wonderful family and may God continue to bless and give you wisdom to direct us.Pls sir I have this idea want to share with you and I want you to tell me if is feasible and advice me how best to apply it.My Wife is a Registered Nurse here in Nigeria,but want to relocate to uk to practice,but due to Nigeria is in Red list, which make it very difficult for Nigeria nurses to get job offer in uk while in Nigeria.Now,she is planning to get admission in a University in uk for Masters degree program in Public health which is a One year course,so that when she enter uk through study route with her NMCUK documents and write her OSEC in order to get UK Pin as a uk Registered Nurse,then she use it to get job in uk as a Nurse while studying.when she then finish her study,she will then switch to 2teir visa and get COS to bring her family.pls sir,what can you advise in this idea .I hope to hear from you Sir.Thanks Justwise.