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She is either very transcient psychologically or has hormonal imbalance. If you want her hot when you are together, you have to set her on Fire. If you know, you know.

XshegzzyeeiX:
I've had my fair share of bedding several women, but I'm surprised in the last 10 years, the girls I got intimate with never wore this.

Our women, what's happening?
Why is it so?

And you are proud of having beded several girls, but your type are the quickest to castigate ladies with many "body counts". Only God knows the number of body counts on you now, I pity your wife or whoever you marry.

Issybilla:
Hi
To those that have probably been there or have an idea about it.
How do you handle sexual urges especially if your partner is not available.

It happens that hubby has been away for quite some time, eight month precisely and he isn’t coming back any moment.

These days has just been messy for me as I am always Hot and wet as fhhuckk, whenever I get up from bed, my pant is always soaked. I have tried to suppress the pressure to touch myself or use objects but it seems the pressure is overcoming me, damn I hardly even concentrate on any other thing, my mind is just fhhhuccked up right now, all my thoughts are bordered on dirty wild sex almost all day.

Are there therapists or some kinda experts one can talk to, I really fear for myself.

That is more reason it is not advisable for husband and wife to be far apart for a long time. Temptations of various forms will be coming and it takes a strong determination not to bow for any. My wife too has been away on a course for about 2 years now though we see each other about twice in three months. What I will tell you is to keep yourself busy by engaging in a job or business activity. During your leisure times, you can occupy your mind with reading or watching movies.

She is probably still enjoying the lies and deceits from another guy somewhere. By the time her eyes clear, the tears will be premium.

Be right back.
Modified. I'm back. From your tone towards the conclusion of your message, it seems you still love her and I fully understand because the love between husband and wife can be so strong. Even couples that are divorced sometimes miss eachother and still have a spot for the other partner. I'm sure she must have read yoir rebuttal and I expect that by now, she must have seen her follies and feel sorry for her misdeeds towards you.
It is clear she also loves you, reason she posted her earlier narration which portrays her regret and sorrowful countenance but she is full of pride and arrogance and bad mannerism. I want to believe she is already coming to her senses and ready to apologize and become a better wife. I salute your determination to stand your ground and refuse to yield. Your silence is louder than any ranting you could have made with her. She will respect you now for maintaining your ground and proving that enough is enough and that you are more than able to live without her.
If she calls or comes back apologizing, be sure she's really changed and not just seeking a temporary reconciliation before you make further commitment. I pray may your home be filled with peace, love and joy, amen.

She is simply a devil incarnate, I can't stand one week marriage with this witch.

ontarioache:
Hello all,

A mutual friend has drawn my attention to this thread

https://www.nairaland.com/7357845/complex-marital-issue-thoughts-please/15#117128240

MY RESPONSE.
First let me thank our mutual friend Imelda for drawing my attention to this.

Well, I am here to set the record straight.
I did not see any need to respond, but some commentators really got me laughing hard so let me indulge you all.

To kick start, I am in touch with my 2 kids on almost a daily basis, and the event she described is not the first time. Hanging up on me is a routine since we married, it has happened un-countable times. Also the guys that said I am childish are right, when they finish reading they will truly know that, no man will behave the way I have, except a child. Lastly, I am fully responsible for the upkeep of my family, every penny and not much age difference between us. I have never hung up on her for one day. She has even blocked me on phone over some arguments while we live in same house. (LOL)

For the readers, what happened is this :

You called me that you were going to made some budget and you will be spending … amount of money on that plans- you know the plan. I told you it was okay and we kept on talking about It. ( I did not raise any issue immediately to avoid conflict) so after some days, I told you that next time, it will be appropriate that we ought to discuss such plans together and that it was not the best for you to decide all by yourself and only informed me of what you have chosen to do for a decision that affects the both of us. You flared up immediately that I do not have the right to tell you that, and THAT YOU ARE ALONE WITH THE CHILDREN (like you always say) and furthermore, you said you have many things that you are doing at the same time. I then replied you that I also have many things going through my mind. ( I replied you this way because you always say this, anytime I want to have a discussion with you. You even say this even while we were together, and I will just be amazed). You flared up and insulted me then hung up.

I called you immediately many times. I called you again at night, I sent you several messages, although I did not apologize directly but the messages I sent reflected that I was sorry. In one of the messages, I explained that I was critical of the amount you intend to spend , because you do know we have other more pressing plans that we needed funds for, and that what your budgeted was a bit too high. But you refused to let go like you have always done for these 8 years. Every week for 6 weeks I sent you messages that you never replied to.

In this period, you also changed apartment without even deeming it fit to tell me. (Yes I know before this misunderstanding, it was already the plan that you will be changing apartment. But the anger still did not allow you tell me as at when you finally moved to the new apartment, till now, it has been more than 3 months that you moved, you still did not inform me although the children told me about it, you know they did, but I expected that at least you should tell me about it by yourself.)

I did not just stop picking your calls because I wanted to stop, I did it for my self respect and sanity. It is the first time I am refusing to pick your call, or even not to talk to you after 8 years of marriage.

Have I ever held any grudge against you for more than 24hrs ?, have you ever had to apologise more than once on anything without me accepting your apology immediately, that is even if you choose to apologise at all. ? !. Rather you are the one that reminds me at every giving opportunity that I know you can decide not to talk to me again and stay on you own, and that I am the one that will suffer. In precise terms, you always do this, while I was at home. You can stay on for weeks and months without talking to me for the slightest misunderstanding, I am always the one that will try and make peace, and each time you either humiliate me by refusing to make peace till whenever you are satisfied. It has been like this for these 8 years. Even if I want to hold a discussion with you at home, it is either you are busy on the phone, and If I try to ask you to focus you just tell me I should summarize and that you listen with your ears, and not your phone or your hands. However, sometimes ( like 20 per cent of cases) you do listen to me.

Even when the children are being difficult, you threaten them by telling them to go ask their father the kind of person you are, and that you do not tolerate nonsense from anyone.(lol, when I was young, our mothers threathen us with our father) Yes, you are right, I wonder why you are so proud of these difficult attributes of yours.

Recall that before that very day that you hung up on me,( in fact also since the beginning of the union), you have been insulting me on each time I call, If we are discussing and I ask you a question about what you have said, you always say that I don’t pay attention. You accuse me of not caring about how you managed the children alone by yourself. I understand it is hard to raise 2 kids under the age of 6 all by yourself, however like I have always told you, lets thank God, it could have been worse- not having children is hard, having children is also hard.Remember at home, your mother and your sister once said that, I show too much care for the kids and that is the weakness that you are using against me. This is from your own family. Imelda was also there !

I can barely talk to you on phone, each time I call you, you tell me you are busy with the kids, and most times you just ask me to summarise and then you hang up even while we were at home together, you say the same thing.

Recently before this sad event you even said if I do not call before 9.45pm, I can no longer reach you, few times when I have to call like few minutes to your deadline, no matter how important our discussion is, once it s 9.45 pm, the phone disconnects and that will be it.You can not even bend that rule for me. You barely return my calls, if you see my missed calls, sometimes it may take you days and most times you do not return them at all, if I ask, you are quick to say, you are alone managing the children and that your are already too stressed up to be bothered about missed calls.

Much earlier than this incident that you hung up on me, you asked me never to wish you any kind of good wishes like happy birthdays, Christmas, mother’s day and all those. Because you said I do not care that it is all lip service. I thought it was just frustration, but for the last 1 year, you have consistently refused to respond to my Christmas, New Year and even your birthday wishes.You ignored all my wishes!
5 months before that faithful day that you escalated your disdain for me to a whole new level, you talked to me on the phone with reckless abandon, even on my birthday, you managed to call me around 11 pm and your birthday wish to me was this “ I WISH YOU WHAT YOU WISH YOURSELF”, I told you it was not a fair wish, and the next thing, it led to outburst again and that was that, and you hung up.

Remember, you forgot my birthday for the past 3 consecutive years.

Obviously, in the preceding 5 months, you have been looking for what I will do so that you can cut me off, the opportunity came and you took it like a Viking.

How often can a married woman stay without getting in contact with her husband for this long over a matter as simple as that, and she is not bothered at all.

I needed to let go for once. I am tired of fighting for the advancement of this union. It has been 8 years of this gruesome treatment. You think everyone is wrong apart from you.

Please if there is any FALSEHOOD in what I have written, I will be glad that you tell your audience. IMELDA YOUR SISTER IS READING THIS AND SHE CAN TESTIFY TO ALL THESE. Moreover, this is just one small aspect of all that has happened these past 8 years. I just decided to skip a thousand others.I only choose to focus on this alone. You know there are a thousand things that are worse than this that you have done.

I am glad that the vast majority of your audience could not be manipulated by your story.

Maybe I would have just stayed back home in Nairobi 7 years ago, may it could not have been this bad. This is my Canada reality!

I would be a liar if I say it has not been daunting and I do not miss you. However, I have since come to the realization that no matter what , no man should dine in the table where love, respect and dignity are not served ! This is my new reality!

Dear Wife, Enjoy your own reality that you created for yourself and stay blessed...!

I will be back with my response.

Most quack mechanics are actually the enemies, not the innocent villlage people.

LexusIS:
Nairalanders I'm here again. Well I noticed my ac sometimes it freeze at early morning like 7am,8am,but when the sun is st a ridiculous degrees, if I don't turn it to maximum,I will be sweating small small. So for this reason,I went back to the ac man,and he checked,gas was still there,went to another samething,so he told me to go to car wash to wash the radiator and all,that it seems some places a re blocked. So later I went to car wash,did total body wash and radiator wash from top. So after abt 50mins ,my car was ready to move.

Immediately i started the car,I quickly panicked because the sound I heard,was like helicopter fan speed. At first,I was confused. My guy came to driver side,started the car,same sound. So I felt maybe it has not dried yet. So we drove down like 2km,and suddenly even at 1000 rpm,the fans sound like its on 5th gear fast speed,I started feeling heat coming from radio area ,plastic opp steering,inside the boot,middle arm storage. So we stopped to check what's wrong. Ipened the hood,it felt so hot and the radiator was just vibrating like aggressive vibration while engine was on. Temperature guage was about 3 pins downwards,still the aggresive vibration esp during traffic. Please what could be the solution,or is it cos of the force of cold wash from car wash nozzle that caused it. AC was never on,engine was never washed... JUst a very high aggressive vibration from radiator and condenser feels so so hot..... what's the solution

No car name, no model, no year and you think people already know everything about your car, do you think you have come to babalawos for advice?

1. Tomb Raider 2. Salt 3. City of Sin

Racoon:
They will never get sense until Nigeria is auctioned on Ebay, OLX or China /other creditors will take hold of Nigerians as slaves.

Lol. It is more painful to read from the supposed learned Minister of Finance, Zainab Ahmad, saying Nigeria is still below 40% threshold set for borrowing limit. From the look of things, Nigeria must have crossed 150% by now, it is when another party wins the presidential election in 2023 that we will see the true picture.

Aremson14:
What abt for full time staffs? Any idea on job security as a full time ?

You mean the core staff right? They don't have job security either. They are given target and once they begin to fail in meeting their targets, their career begin to dwindle. That is why most of their female staff dont mind offering their bodies to meet target and secure their job. And for those thay are not in the marketing department, they lack rest of mind, battle stress everyday and are at risk of high BP due to various transactional exigencies, management's appraisal of their performance and customer needs.

abba99:
Good morning all,

Please I need a matured and straightforward advice.

I did my youth service in 2017, started work with one small company like that and was able to build my own house from the job. Now the company has closed due to covid related issues. I applied for a job in one of the new generation bank, i wrote their test and attended interview, later I was asked to go for medicals which i also passed, currently we are just waiting to be call for training, about 40 of us.

During the interview we were all asked if we can work as a marketer of which we all answered in affirmative, that means we can end up working as a marketer which I honestly don't like.

Last month my boss asked me if I can work with a state government and I agreed, and he said I should get ready to resume work by January...I'm at the moment confused and need guidance.

I'm from the north, married with one daughter....

my questions :

1. Does it means the bank will employ us as a marketer just because they ask us during interview if we can work as a marketer?
2. Can I grab the bank job or state government work ... what's more important in the long run

State Government work all the way. Bank jobs especially for contract staff always end in premium tears. You will regret it if you miss the state government work and accept the bank marketing work. You will not forgive yourself.

Hardaydayjee:
Good day group..
.I need your advice.

I am Currently working in Lagos on a salary of 50 to 55k on a 12 hrs(8am to 8pm for a shift and 8pm to 8am for other shift). You can find a place to sleep over if you decided not to go house. But before next year there will definitely be an opportunity in the same organization to be a permanent staff on a salary of 80k on the same 12hrs but with a monthly leave, 13 month salary, incentive bonus.

There is also another opportunity in Ibadan on a salary of 50k and a daily meal but 7 to 3pm for morning shift and 2pm to 10pm for the other shift, a day leave every week, after a year the organization will be paying 13 month salary, accomodations and if I decided not to stay over, just 200 naira to my place in Ibadan, bonuses every festive period both cash and food.

Thinking of going for the Ibadan job and using the remaining hours after work to learn a skill because self employment is the key. But career wise, I need your advice.

The Lagos job is my line of field while Ibadan is deviation to another field

If I were in your shoes, I will not think twice before I grab the Ibadan offer with both hands and relocate with immediate effect. Lagos is a glorified city of suffering and smiling.

kendological:
I suspected this, if she is willing to be loyal and content with me, I will marry her. But I am also confused about her intentions towards me, and I don't think I am in good financial state to raise children, but I can keep a loyal, woman who is willing to plan and settle with me.

I wanted to tell her about my intentions before, but I was sceptic and unsure of her love for me, and her willingness to settle for me(beyond sex). Do I start making her know?

If she ticks all your boxes for a dream wife, make your intention known to her. However, you must be emotionally strong incase she totally declines your proposal.

[quote author=Lvgirl post=117220758][/quote]If you want him to blow, he has to go join ISWAP or Boko so that they can use him for suicide bombing, he will surely blow once the bomb is detonated

I think she wants to be sure of what you want first. She is not sure whether you want marriage or only sex.

Festus30:
My plan was the moment she enter the building, just a powerful whiplash on her head and she's dead, I felt so cold inside of me, I was also shaking while holding the hammer and feeling so heartbroken. Then I heard a deep voice inside of me saying "YOU WILL REGRET YOUR ACTIONS" (twice)

Then she called me that she's there, I already sighted her through the window, I came out and I told her to run away and never come back anywhere around me again. She was still begging that she's sorry. And I said if only you know what I'm about to do, you will run.

She left, I just sat on the floor feeling so heartbroken.

Thank God you didn't kill her, you would have become a murderer and yoi would also put the owner of the uncompleted building into a big problem. Just leave the girl and move on with your life, it is very devastating to be disappointed by someone you love so much.

casualobserver:
Nothing wrong with Burna boy being on the list

Did you really mean the above? You'd better remain as casualobserver instead of commenting rubbish.

Adeolaeniola:
Oga op, please how do you narrate assault ooo,
Assault is generally defined as an intentional act that puts another person in reasonable apprehension of imminent harmful or offensive contact.
With this assertion sir, the contact is offensive and definitely is an assault.

He is an APC urchin that always checks his facts through APC binoculars.

KaLuCh:
If you expect people to follow your blog, then blog rightly. You saw that video and said that wasn't an assault? Yeye fact check.

The so-called fact checker is an APC miscreant. He always see things through APC lens.

Noted. Meanwhile, I dont what gave Buhari the audacity to make himself Minister of Petroleum Resources when he has zero knowledge of Geology or Petrochemical Engineering. Does he think because he was the Chairman of the Petroleum Trust Fund under Abacha, so he now qualifies to administer the Oil & Gas sector? Nonsense and ingredients.

Where is the 306?

Core i5, 128GB SSD is a bit fair but that 4GB RAM is too low. You should go for a minimum of 8GB RAM but if this is all you can afford for now, go for it. It is just a starting point.

JackDaAlienz:
My dear,
I'M NOT GAY AND NEVER WILL BE GAY

people called Jesus worse names and they even mocked him as "King OF jews"
Because Jesus said the Truth

We all know that people don't like to hear the bitter truth, they begin to call you names,insult you and ridicule you for saying the Truth.

You can call me gay
You can call me a bastard
It won't change the hard bitter truth.

Nobody in history of mankind has spoken the Truth and people applaud him.

Moses in the bible was adopted by Egyptians
They raise him like Prince.
Feed him daily, cloth him, care for him

Only for Moses to grow up and join the isrealites and destroy the same Egypt that raised him.
Blood is thicker than water
If you like go and adopt anoda person blood
Anything wey you see, take am like that

I hate to meddle in your arguments but I need to let you know that your analogy does not hold water. You talked about Moses being raised in Egypt yet destroyed Egypt that raised him. No Egypt was destroyed by any Moses. Meanwhile, if you are Igbo that does business in Kano and prospers, then ethnic crisis started and the Hausas in Kano started killing the Igbos at sight in Kano, you as an Igbo man in Kano, will you join the Hausas to kill your fellow tribesmen because you are doing well in the Hausa's land or will you rise up and defend yourself and your tribesmen against their killers? Let the answer keep pounding in your mind.

pinkPUSSY:
Atiku knw that his then stronghold is gone hence his desperation in renting crowd to constitute nuisance at the Airport...

Hes now focusing on NE and NW for votes which is not bad as a politician ..


The issue here is Bola..Tinubu running away to London is not the best thing to do.. He should step down for Obi to ensure that power comes to the south for political equity and stability of the nation, not trying to be a spoiler.

I dont knw where he intends to get his votes from because no sane southerner will support his candidacy neither would any sane northerner support him because the handwriting is obviously on the wall

BAT believes so much in the power of dollar. That is what is giving him confidence that he will "win".

Meteoritey:
Due to work, my husband and I live in states, and my husband lives in Canada. 3 months ago we had some serious skirmishes during our phone conversation and in the heat of the argument, I told him that he does not appreciate the fact that I am raising the kids and doing everything alone.

To my disappointment, he told me that he is overworked more than me. This really angered me. This got me angry and I hung up. Although He tried to reach me for 4 days, and also sent me some messages, I cut him off without replying, about 9 weeks later, I sent him just a message on an unrelated issue, he ignored my message, after another month, I sent him another message, he also ignored. It has been 3 months now we have not spoken to each other.

Recently my brother had a baby, and he only called once to congratulate them. Moreover my younger sister got admission to a university to study the same course that my husband studied, so naturally, my sister contacted him. My sister said he advised her on what to do and what she should expect. This was about 2 months ago. I personally did not inform him about my sister’s admission myself.

After about one month, my sister also called him for more information, but he has not been picking my sister’s call.

My sisters fiancee also called him to inform him about their upcoming marriage (my same sister that got the admission) he only spoke with my sister and her fiancee once, he stopped further communication with them on both issues of admission and marriage, and that he only spoke with them the first time about the admission and the marriage out of the respect he has for them.

He gave my sister the excuse that it was not proper, for him to speak with her fiancee' because he said that I have not told him anything about the marriage, therefore he can not relate further with my sister as per the marriage. And that it was out of respect that he even called my sister initially to advice her.

What are you thoughts and opinion please.

No.1 thing husbands want from their wives is Respect. No matter how high and mighty you are, you should never belittle him and his efforts. He must have been really hurt and could have cried secretly within him. You knew you hurt him and yet, you went mute for weeks only to surface again with a different conversation, that is unwise. Don't be surprised he may be processing a divorce. It will be better you speak with him and apologize. Men value their ego and they are really hurt when it is deflated especially by theirwives. It may take sometime to completely resolve the issue but make sure you didnt let him rest until you are sure he has forgiven you. Cheers!

MALIGNANTGuest:
We know why we keep saying ZOOOOOOO We are not ill-informed This is Black Vs Black! Even the devil has started avoiding Nigeria, before Naija possess it.

Bakassi Peninsular, not in Nigeria.

Divay22:
Awww
Congratulations...una hold tight o

Thanks my sister. It was not easy, we've been through a lot. We often broke apart and still came back together again. We couldn't let go of eachother. The love was just too strong.

Michelle70:
wow.
My own girlfriend on 2go was using another persons pic.

When i saw her facially, i felt like i was duped
Babe was so ugly like wtf

That is common with babes. Most girls sound sweet on phone and are perceived to be beautiful during chats, but when you encounter them physically, the case will be different.

My girl and I were among the pioneers of 2go back then. We quarreled like crazy on 2go. We are happily married now.