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VictorUSA:
Can you imagine?


The daughter of my boss wants a relationship [color=#005500]with me but....

We cant imagine.
Follow your mind and stop disturbing us, shikena.

TheSameGuy:
I'm holding my laughter looking at igbinedion.

His facial expressions is that of who is about to cry out loud

LOL, baddest guy ever liveth. You no get chill at all

This is happening in 2022 and there is a Governor in that state?

Happy birthday

Onewayup:
A friend of mine in Lagos found out that her husband is gay on their court wedding night. Can this type of marriage be annulled(instead of divorce) so that it does not enter the book that she was once married? Such annulment is possible in abroad if marriage is less than 2 years. Today is less than 3 months to the marriage

Such marriage is null and void. Any marriage where a partner pretends to be what he/she is not, or deceives to get married is invalid.

Psych412:
alright then

Better.

Psych412:
I can't take such thing from a former drug Baron....I prefer my leggedez Benz

I don't know why I can't believe you on that.

Psych412:
make I hear

I'm serious and you know it's true.

Psych412:
third picture.....my God, what is this

That man you are looking at can single-handedly buy you a private jet.

JJuanMiguel:
Are you saying you can get married to someone you don't love?

You can give that person a chance for a relationship. Love grows. I know what I'm saying.

Ebenman:
I meant a lady 3 months ago. After we talked, she began to show interest in me, but she wasn't my standard, so I wasn't feeling the same way.

My standards are:
1. At least she must be a graduate
2. She should be self-sufficient (earning something reasonable)
3. At most 5-6 age difference between us
4. Looking calm and understandable
5. She must be an average-height lady

This lady, in particular, is an NCE holder, working as a teacher, earning little because of her level of education. She is just in her early 20s, and I am almost 8 yrs older than her. She is from a poor background and has 2 other younger siblings. She is also not tall and looks like an average girl.

She is very decent (a virgin) and loyal to me. I have told her severally that she is not my standard and I wasn't interested in her, but she refused to listen and began to feel very insecure. Maybe because I earn well and she knows I will soon get married.

She now comes to my house almost every weekend because I am very accommodating. Recently she has been telling me to delete the pictures of other females friends, in which I asked her on what grounds I should do that.

Note: I don't want to invest in a lady that is not my wife, and I am afraid her family will see me as a rich guy from which her other siblings can benefit if I proceed with her.

Should I block every contact with her, or should I forget about standards and risk and look at the good side?

Please advice

I gave somebody this advice yesterday and I will still repeat same to you.
By the time she meets a guy who will value her and love
her genuinely while you are about changing your mind, it will be too late for you. Talking from experience, most relationships and marriage initiated by women are usually the best. When a woman loves you first before you love her, count yourself very lucky. If you give her a shot I'm sure you will fall in love soon and wont be able to imagine losing her. As the saying goes, marry the person that loves you, not the
person you love. Know this and know peace.

klonboi:
Brother see h!

If we had translated our books into our various native dialect and everyone is being taught in it's tribe in Nigeria, we would have been far far ahead of so many countries.

Most of the people that can't read English can also not read their own languages when written. Being able to speak does not automatically mean being able to read or write.

klonboi:
Don't you think if I'm been taught in school in Hausa as my native dialect my retentive capabilities would be 99.99% compared to when taught in English?

But you wont be able to stand at international level and your certificate will be worthless for job outside because your language is only useful in your country and few other North african countries.

jaeyking:
Yea there are students who can't speak English
Only their indigenous language, either pigdin, hausa, igbo or Yoruba.

Well he should flush out the teachers and employ new ones

Where are the new ones, unless he imports them from the south.

AndroidAI:
Your girlfriend was right to break up with you. What sort of noise is this? I was shaming your shame as the music was blasting through my speakers. I had to save my neighbourhood the torture by turning it off almost immediately. You lack the voice, and the talent. Even autotune couldn't help you, to show how serious this is. Please go and look for a job, or enrol in a musical school. This is garbage!

Why nah? The guy offend you before? The savagery was epic abi are you related to Tiwa Savage?

Happy birthday.

KristaPretty:
In summary, you're 35 and you need men to toast you and leave the 20-25 alone?

This savagery is too much sis, are you related to Tiwa Savage?

4teenblaq:
Good day to you all.

There is this girl that is head over heel for me and I don't really like her much. I just take her as a normal friend but she is showing me too many green lights (even to an extent a blind man would sight it even from afar).

She started chasing me since 2020, initially I didn't take it serious. I didn't even know her then, we met on Facebook. She told me she knew me right from our days in high school(secondary school), so she told me that she was my immediate junior brother's classmate. That she always get to see me whenever I visit my brother's class. I was like alright but I don't know you physically, can I get to know you and see you?

Knowing her and seeing took like months but I was only seeing her pictures on Facebook but I could not make out who she really was.

One day, I finally go to meet her. She is amazing and a good person and also kind of naive!


She is not beautiful, she is just average but she is good!

But I am not really into her like she is into me.
This girl calls me almost everyday!!! It is as if I had her kidney..
Sometimes I ignore her calls and I don't even call her at all but she keeps doing her calling like it is her job.

I was hoping she would read the message I was passing to her but she was not..

What made me think so is the fact that recently, she told me that she turned down someone because she likes me..

I was shocked! Guys, I don't want to waste her time, how do I tell her I don't really like her without hurting her feeling.

By the time she meets a guy who will value her and love her genuinely, you will seek for her with tears and it will be too late. Most relationships and marriage initiated by women are usually the best, ask Ruth and Esther in the Bible. If you give her a shot I'm sure you will fall in love soon and wont be able to imagine losing her. As the saying goes, marry the person that loves you, not the person you love. Know this and know peace.
NB: I dont know you and I dont know the girl, I am only advising you as a living witness and out of my vast experience. Mods pls move to FP for more opinions.

GOFRONT:
Jeromestark pls come oo.......See one 17 yrs old is Hot looking for her boyfriend to devour her.......Instead of her to hold onto her virginity she is here looking for a guy to drill her.

So Jerome, if I may ask, at what age bracket do you think you can get your Virgin girls to marry since you are an advocate of Virgin marriage??

GOFRONT you just dey make me laff. Is she a fabrication material or a mine site to be drilled?
And the Jerome you are talking too might not even be aware of this post yet. So funnnyyyyyy.

She is either very transcient psychologically or has hormonal imbalance. If you want her hot when you are together, you have to set her on Fire. If you know, you know.

XshegzzyeeiX:
I've had my fair share of bedding several women, but I'm surprised in the last 10 years, the girls I got intimate with never wore this.

Our women, what's happening?
Why is it so?

And you are proud of having beded several girls, but your type are the quickest to castigate ladies with many "body counts". Only God knows the number of body counts on you now, I pity your wife or whoever you marry.

Issybilla:
Hi
To those that have probably been there or have an idea about it.
How do you handle sexual urges especially if your partner is not available.

It happens that hubby has been away for quite some time, eight month precisely and he isn’t coming back any moment.

These days has just been messy for me as I am always Hot and wet as fhhuckk, whenever I get up from bed, my pant is always soaked. I have tried to suppress the pressure to touch myself or use objects but it seems the pressure is overcoming me, damn I hardly even concentrate on any other thing, my mind is just fhhhuccked up right now, all my thoughts are bordered on dirty wild sex almost all day.

Are there therapists or some kinda experts one can talk to, I really fear for myself.

That is more reason it is not advisable for husband and wife to be far apart for a long time. Temptations of various forms will be coming and it takes a strong determination not to bow for any. My wife too has been away on a course for about 2 years now though we see each other about twice in three months. What I will tell you is to keep yourself busy by engaging in a job or business activity. During your leisure times, you can occupy your mind with reading or watching movies.

She is probably still enjoying the lies and deceits from another guy somewhere. By the time her eyes clear, the tears will be premium.

Be right back.
Modified. I'm back. From your tone towards the conclusion of your message, it seems you still love her and I fully understand because the love between husband and wife can be so strong. Even couples that are divorced sometimes miss eachother and still have a spot for the other partner. I'm sure she must have read yoir rebuttal and I expect that by now, she must have seen her follies and feel sorry for her misdeeds towards you.
It is clear she also loves you, reason she posted her earlier narration which portrays her regret and sorrowful countenance but she is full of pride and arrogance and bad mannerism. I want to believe she is already coming to her senses and ready to apologize and become a better wife. I salute your determination to stand your ground and refuse to yield. Your silence is louder than any ranting you could have made with her. She will respect you now for maintaining your ground and proving that enough is enough and that you are more than able to live without her.
If she calls or comes back apologizing, be sure she's really changed and not just seeking a temporary reconciliation before you make further commitment. I pray may your home be filled with peace, love and joy, amen.

She is simply a devil incarnate, I can't stand one week marriage with this witch.

ontarioache:
Hello all,

A mutual friend has drawn my attention to this thread

https://www.nairaland.com/7357845/complex-marital-issue-thoughts-please/15#117128240

MY RESPONSE.
First let me thank our mutual friend Imelda for drawing my attention to this.

Well, I am here to set the record straight.
I did not see any need to respond, but some commentators really got me laughing hard so let me indulge you all.

To kick start, I am in touch with my 2 kids on almost a daily basis, and the event she described is not the first time. Hanging up on me is a routine since we married, it has happened un-countable times. Also the guys that said I am childish are right, when they finish reading they will truly know that, no man will behave the way I have, except a child. Lastly, I am fully responsible for the upkeep of my family, every penny and not much age difference between us. I have never hung up on her for one day. She has even blocked me on phone over some arguments while we live in same house. (LOL)

For the readers, what happened is this :

You called me that you were going to made some budget and you will be spending … amount of money on that plans- you know the plan. I told you it was okay and we kept on talking about It. ( I did not raise any issue immediately to avoid conflict) so after some days, I told you that next time, it will be appropriate that we ought to discuss such plans together and that it was not the best for you to decide all by yourself and only informed me of what you have chosen to do for a decision that affects the both of us. You flared up immediately that I do not have the right to tell you that, and THAT YOU ARE ALONE WITH THE CHILDREN (like you always say) and furthermore, you said you have many things that you are doing at the same time. I then replied you that I also have many things going through my mind. ( I replied you this way because you always say this, anytime I want to have a discussion with you. You even say this even while we were together, and I will just be amazed). You flared up and insulted me then hung up.

I called you immediately many times. I called you again at night, I sent you several messages, although I did not apologize directly but the messages I sent reflected that I was sorry. In one of the messages, I explained that I was critical of the amount you intend to spend , because you do know we have other more pressing plans that we needed funds for, and that what your budgeted was a bit too high. But you refused to let go like you have always done for these 8 years. Every week for 6 weeks I sent you messages that you never replied to.

In this period, you also changed apartment without even deeming it fit to tell me. (Yes I know before this misunderstanding, it was already the plan that you will be changing apartment. But the anger still did not allow you tell me as at when you finally moved to the new apartment, till now, it has been more than 3 months that you moved, you still did not inform me although the children told me about it, you know they did, but I expected that at least you should tell me about it by yourself.)

I did not just stop picking your calls because I wanted to stop, I did it for my self respect and sanity. It is the first time I am refusing to pick your call, or even not to talk to you after 8 years of marriage.

Have I ever held any grudge against you for more than 24hrs ?, have you ever had to apologise more than once on anything without me accepting your apology immediately, that is even if you choose to apologise at all. ? !. Rather you are the one that reminds me at every giving opportunity that I know you can decide not to talk to me again and stay on you own, and that I am the one that will suffer. In precise terms, you always do this, while I was at home. You can stay on for weeks and months without talking to me for the slightest misunderstanding, I am always the one that will try and make peace, and each time you either humiliate me by refusing to make peace till whenever you are satisfied. It has been like this for these 8 years. Even if I want to hold a discussion with you at home, it is either you are busy on the phone, and If I try to ask you to focus you just tell me I should summarize and that you listen with your ears, and not your phone or your hands. However, sometimes ( like 20 per cent of cases) you do listen to me.

Even when the children are being difficult, you threaten them by telling them to go ask their father the kind of person you are, and that you do not tolerate nonsense from anyone.(lol, when I was young, our mothers threathen us with our father) Yes, you are right, I wonder why you are so proud of these difficult attributes of yours.

Recall that before that very day that you hung up on me,( in fact also since the beginning of the union), you have been insulting me on each time I call, If we are discussing and I ask you a question about what you have said, you always say that I don’t pay attention. You accuse me of not caring about how you managed the children alone by yourself. I understand it is hard to raise 2 kids under the age of 6 all by yourself, however like I have always told you, lets thank God, it could have been worse- not having children is hard, having children is also hard.Remember at home, your mother and your sister once said that, I show too much care for the kids and that is the weakness that you are using against me. This is from your own family. Imelda was also there !

I can barely talk to you on phone, each time I call you, you tell me you are busy with the kids, and most times you just ask me to summarise and then you hang up even while we were at home together, you say the same thing.

Recently before this sad event you even said if I do not call before 9.45pm, I can no longer reach you, few times when I have to call like few minutes to your deadline, no matter how important our discussion is, once it s 9.45 pm, the phone disconnects and that will be it.You can not even bend that rule for me. You barely return my calls, if you see my missed calls, sometimes it may take you days and most times you do not return them at all, if I ask, you are quick to say, you are alone managing the children and that your are already too stressed up to be bothered about missed calls.

Much earlier than this incident that you hung up on me, you asked me never to wish you any kind of good wishes like happy birthdays, Christmas, mother’s day and all those. Because you said I do not care that it is all lip service. I thought it was just frustration, but for the last 1 year, you have consistently refused to respond to my Christmas, New Year and even your birthday wishes.You ignored all my wishes!
5 months before that faithful day that you escalated your disdain for me to a whole new level, you talked to me on the phone with reckless abandon, even on my birthday, you managed to call me around 11 pm and your birthday wish to me was this “ I WISH YOU WHAT YOU WISH YOURSELF”, I told you it was not a fair wish, and the next thing, it led to outburst again and that was that, and you hung up.

Remember, you forgot my birthday for the past 3 consecutive years.

Obviously, in the preceding 5 months, you have been looking for what I will do so that you can cut me off, the opportunity came and you took it like a Viking.

How often can a married woman stay without getting in contact with her husband for this long over a matter as simple as that, and she is not bothered at all.

I needed to let go for once. I am tired of fighting for the advancement of this union. It has been 8 years of this gruesome treatment. You think everyone is wrong apart from you.

Please if there is any FALSEHOOD in what I have written, I will be glad that you tell your audience. IMELDA YOUR SISTER IS READING THIS AND SHE CAN TESTIFY TO ALL THESE. Moreover, this is just one small aspect of all that has happened these past 8 years. I just decided to skip a thousand others.I only choose to focus on this alone. You know there are a thousand things that are worse than this that you have done.

I am glad that the vast majority of your audience could not be manipulated by your story.

Maybe I would have just stayed back home in Nairobi 7 years ago, may it could not have been this bad. This is my Canada reality!

I would be a liar if I say it has not been daunting and I do not miss you. However, I have since come to the realization that no matter what , no man should dine in the table where love, respect and dignity are not served ! This is my new reality!

Dear Wife, Enjoy your own reality that you created for yourself and stay blessed...!

I will be back with my response.

Most quack mechanics are actually the enemies, not the innocent villlage people.

LexusIS:
Nairalanders I'm here again. Well I noticed my ac sometimes it freeze at early morning like 7am,8am,but when the sun is st a ridiculous degrees, if I don't turn it to maximum,I will be sweating small small. So for this reason,I went back to the ac man,and he checked,gas was still there,went to another samething,so he told me to go to car wash to wash the radiator and all,that it seems some places a re blocked. So later I went to car wash,did total body wash and radiator wash from top. So after abt 50mins ,my car was ready to move.

Immediately i started the car,I quickly panicked because the sound I heard,was like helicopter fan speed. At first,I was confused. My guy came to driver side,started the car,same sound. So I felt maybe it has not dried yet. So we drove down like 2km,and suddenly even at 1000 rpm,the fans sound like its on 5th gear fast speed,I started feeling heat coming from radio area ,plastic opp steering,inside the boot,middle arm storage. So we stopped to check what's wrong. Ipened the hood,it felt so hot and the radiator was just vibrating like aggressive vibration while engine was on. Temperature guage was about 3 pins downwards,still the aggresive vibration esp during traffic. Please what could be the solution,or is it cos of the force of cold wash from car wash nozzle that caused it. AC was never on,engine was never washed... JUst a very high aggressive vibration from radiator and condenser feels so so hot..... what's the solution

No car name, no model, no year and you think people already know everything about your car, do you think you have come to babalawos for advice?

1. Tomb Raider 2. Salt 3. City of Sin

Racoon:
They will never get sense until Nigeria is auctioned on Ebay, OLX or China /other creditors will take hold of Nigerians as slaves.

Lol. It is more painful to read from the supposed learned Minister of Finance, Zainab Ahmad, saying Nigeria is still below 40% threshold set for borrowing limit. From the look of things, Nigeria must have crossed 150% by now, it is when another party wins the presidential election in 2023 that we will see the true picture.

Aremson14:
What abt for full time staffs? Any idea on job security as a full time ?

You mean the core staff right? They don't have job security either. They are given target and once they begin to fail in meeting their targets, their career begin to dwindle. That is why most of their female staff dont mind offering their bodies to meet target and secure their job. And for those thay are not in the marketing department, they lack rest of mind, battle stress everyday and are at risk of high BP due to various transactional exigencies, management's appraisal of their performance and customer needs.