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Ctorch:
Oore of Otun Ekiti, Oba Adekunle Adeagbo was part of the delegation that represented Ooni of Ife, Oba Adeyeye Ogunwusi, at the unveiling of new Olu of Warri, Prince Tshola Emiko, recently. In this interview with BOLA BAMIGBOLA, he speaks on his experience witnessing the event

Why was Ooni’s intervention in the Itsekiri stool controversy important?

It was very important because the Itsekiri kingdom is part of the Oduduwa nation. The Itsekiri came from Benin, through Oranmiyan from the source, Ile Ife. So, we are all under Oduduwa nation and Kabiyesi, Arole Oodua, Ooni of Ife, Oba Enitan Adeyeye Ogunwusi, the Co-Chairman, National Council of Traditional Rulers of Nigeria, will not want any town under our reverred lineage to be under siege. So, we had to intervene at this criticial time to ensure peace and make sure there is tranquility in Itsekiri land vis-à-vis the entire race.

What was really the crux of the matter on the Itsekiri stool?

The crux of the matter was the nomination. The present Olu of Warri-designate, Prince Tshola Emiko, is a son of Ogiamen, the Olu of Warri before the immediate-past king and they were saying that he was not right for the throne. But then, the entire traditional council, the Itsekiri General Assembly and the entire Council of Chiefs said he has a right to the throne because he is a son and a prince of that dynasty.

A section felt the mother of every Olu must be Itsekiri or Edo, but the entire Itsekiri General Council said the Itsekiri nation is a Yoruba nation and the mere fact that the mother is a Yoruba makes its a plus, and that he should be nominated after due consultation with the oracle and he should be made the new Olu of Warri

You just mentioned that Prince Emiko’s mother is Yoruba; is she from Ile-Ife or where is she from?

She is from Ogun State and she is a princess. She is from the Remo axis and she is maternally a princess from Lagos State, from the information made available to us.


Of what significance is the emergence of Prince Emiko as Itsekiri monarch to Ile-Ife?

It is quite significant, because our political sage and father, the late Chief Obafemi Awolowo, was at the enthronement of the father of this present Olu-designate. That was the last official outing he attended before he passed on. The Itsekiri nation is very dear to the Oduduwa dynasty and its quite important that at that critical time, we must intervene to put things aright for the peace and development of several millions of members of the sophisticated Yoruba race worldwide from the Oduduwa kingdom. So, it’s quite critical and I thank God that the intervention was timely.

You said the Yoruba and Itsekiri have common ancestry. Can you speak more on this?

There are five clans that make up the Itsekiri nation. Three from Yoruba, one from Edo and one from Igala, so, that clearly tells you the kind of importance of the Yoruba and the Oduduwa connection to the entire dynasty and when the Itsekiri man speaks, you can see the connection in the language. It is clear and evident that the Itsekiri nation is connected to Yoruba nation and our ancestory has same source from Oduduwa.

Can you speak about the specific charge that the Ooni gave you when sending you on that assignment?

The Ooni is a lover of peace and progress. He is a visionary and he wants everything to be done in peace and harmony and what he sent us to do was to go and see to it that everything done follow due process in terms of traditional norms and when we got there, we observed that people saddled with the responsibility carried that out as tradition demands. We saw how the passage of the late monarch was announced, showing the end of an era. We also saw the unveiling of the new Olu. There was a gunshot salute service to show that the Olu of Warri had passed on and that the new one was about to come in. So, our mandate was very clear – peace, harmony and reconciliation. Though in a contest, you will always have people that are angry, but as a leader, you have to reach out to them, because they are all of the same family. There was a need to console them and tell them that we are all going to do this thing together. So, that was the mandate, to make sure that the traditional processes were complied with and also to make sure that all parties work together for the development of the Itsekiri nation.

How were you able to prevail on the decision makers in Itsekiri kingdom to pave the way for Prince Emiko’s emergence?
We didnt intervene like that because some of these things are organic. The people themselves must decide, so what we went there to do was to witness. The entire council had decided, we have met all the chiefs and traditional council, they were all present, they had chosen him (Emiko). We only went there to witness and not to interfere with our presence. It was not as if we went there to choose, no. They had chosen and planned; we met council of chiefs that rejected Prince Okutebo, we were only there to witness and we thank God that what we saw was what we wanted. There was peace and harmony and we thank God and we saw the love and happiness on the faces of the Itsekiri people and it was done in Ode-Itsekiri, the ancestral home and all of them mobilised, and moved there, a sign that Prince Tshola Emiko is popular and he is loved by his people.


Is this the first time the Ooni will be making this kind of intervention?

Not even in Itsekiri, but across Yoruba land, Ooni has always been asked to intervene whenever such intervention is considered necessary. I can remember in 1903, when there was an issue like that in Lagos and the Ooni had to be called to settle one or two things. By what we read, the white man that was in charge at that time was told that it was only the Ooni that could settle such a matter and the then Ooni told them that he doesn’t leave his palace. The Ooni also said for every river he crosses, the expatriate must kill a black cow, and the white man agreed. He went for that meeting and resolved the crisis and there was peace. So, I think the Ooni is a father to all Oduduwa sons and daughters worldwide and we thank God for his life, that under his reign, the entire Yoruba nation is prospering, expanding and increasing. He is a leader full of knowledge and wisdom, very agile, very potent and what I will say is that God Almighty will continue to increase him on every side and strengthen him the more.

The Ooni is a father and anywhere there is disharmony, he intervenes and he is just making sure that all parties negotiate and discuss. That is the message of the Arole Oodua and when we got there, that was what we did and we thank God that it was successful.

How did the Ooni feel when you returned with the mission accomplished?

Immediately he heard that we were back, the Ooni was excited and he was happy that we went at that critical time. The programme was on Monday, April 5, we got there a day before and everything went well, so Kabiyesi thanked God that what we prayed for happened, which is peace. So he was excited that we delivered on our mandate and we thanked God that made it possible.

Will you describe your task as tough or easy

It was quite tough. It was a Herculean task travelling from Ekiti by road to Warri and also by boat again to the Ode-Itsekiri. But we thank God. It was not an easy journey at all.

If Prince Emiko had been denied his right to the throne, what would that have meant?

We believe that kings are chosen by God, nobody becomes a king by himself. For you to be king, the person must have been ordained, so we believe in the power of our father, Eledumare. The only thing we would have done is to pray for peace and harmony and then reach out. I think that would have been our position.


As one of the prominent traditional rulers in Yorubaland, who is the Oore of Moba, if you are to describe the stool in few words?

The Oore of Otun Ekiti is the paramount ruler of Moba land and the permanent Chairman of the Moba Traditional Council of Obas and Chiefs.

The meaning of Oore is Oloore and that is Oloore Oduduwa. The kingdom has been around for over 1,000 years and to the glory of God we are deeply connected to Ile-Ife and we appreciate God that the Oore is among the ‘Pelu pelu’ Obas in Ekiti State. I am the great-grandchild of Oore Okinbaloye, that signed the Ekiti Parapo Kiriji war peace treaty in 1886. He was the one that led all other Pelu-pelu obas to end that war. So, we have a very rich history in Yorubaland and we are for peace, tranquillity, progress and we are happy that we want the Yoruba race to excel. The Yoruba race has several millions sophisticated people worldwide and we are doing exploits all over the world.

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etrader:
Factors that affect the price of Plantain in Market

These factors may either increase the price of Plantain in the market or decrease it. These are :

1. The sizes of your plantain. (Big or Small sizes)
2. The season you harvest your Plantain
3. The market you choose to sell your Plantain
4. Inflation in the country

On different occasions I have explained all these factors before, but people are keep asking for it later, that is why I will need to explain a bit on this page.

1. The size of your plantain took a lot , This will determine the amount you will sell your plantain in market. The biggest size and full, if I say full, that mean those who have 20-30 fingers fruits. This is also call No 1. Most buyer go for this kind of plantain. They choose to buy it at any amount you call it.
For smaller sizes, there are some buyers who can't afford to buy big bunches, they go for smaller or medium sizes. The price for these will be determine by market force. How many numbers of trucks come to market to sell and buyers capacity..Demand and supply will determine.
This is where we need efforts of ministry of commence and industry to wake up from there slumber, they should introduce weight scale method for us. So that there will be win-wun situation like fish and other frozen products.

2. Season.
This another major factor, this is because we have glutting period and scarcity period of plantain. This is not only peculiar to plantain alone. Also on other crops too.
During glutting period, majority of farmers on cultivated on upland harvest there produce toward any of the year. This will lead to massive produce of plantain. Damand and supply will set in, where products is more than demand, automatically the price will fall down in the market.

This is between late October till early February of everything year. If you notice, you will see that around this period, people will be eating roasted plantain. When it March till October of every year the demand for Plantiain will be minimal this because only those farmers who have farm on swamp area will be have plantain this period and only small portion of upland. This price of plantain will be on higher side. Only few people can consum or eating roasted plantain around this period because the price is on higher side. The peak of this is May/June. People will rather go for corn to eat than Plantain or roasted plantain.

The only factor that may affect this is level of rainfall. Like last year in southern part of Nigeria rainfall was poor between July till October. This really affect farm produce which affect the harvest from that region. Till the price of foods community in on higher side.

3. Market

This is another factor that affect the price you sell your Plantain. When you are planning your farm you will need to think of market where you intend to sell your products. This market must not be too far from your farm because of transport fare.

Because you choose market where you sell your and you need to consider those people that are patronizing the market, if they have financial muscle to buy your goods. For example if you choose to sell your goods at Mile 12 in Lagos and another farmer choose to sell his or her market at Ajah market in the same Lagos. They will sell the same product at different price. People reside in Lekki, VGC and Ajah will have financial muscle to buy it any price you choose to sell it while people in Mile 12 will keep dragging the price with you.
In short both of them will end up sell at different price. This is also applicable to other local market too depend on people patronizing them.
Another example is Bidija market in Ibadan, you can't compare the price you sell your products with Mushin market in Lagos.

4. Inflation In country
There is general inflation in country as a result of poor management of economy system from government. The price of all commidiity has been sky rocket, where plantain is not left out. Ever since 2010 I started plantain farming business, no matter the sizes or how big it may be, a dozen have never sold for 50k. This can be observe this year. To my surprise I sold a dozen 50k at Mile 12 market. You too can findout today. Visit Mile 12 market at Owode-Elede along ikorodu road Lagos. Be there very early hour around 6-7am ask for how much they sold No 1 dozen. You will be surprised to hear the price they will tell you.
I think this as a result of inflation in our economy also due to lack or rainfall by middle of last year which force those who has upland farm out of market. I am very sure that these and some of this may lead to high cost of farm produce....

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etrader:
Marketing at Mile 12 Market in Lagos...

All Lagos main market are well organized, but you need to know exert sectors of market you intend to visit.This because farm produce are place sector by sector. Vegetables and Pepper are in the same sector, while fruits and some orhers are sell at different sector. Plantain has is on sector too.

If you are need at Mile 12, plantain sector is at Owode-Elede...direct opposite Enyo Gas Station.

If you want to bring you goods I will advise you to move in the night or early in the morning before day brake. Not because of anything just because of Lagos enforcement agencies like LASTMA, VIS and Police they will extort you, be vigilant.

If this your first time to come to the market, Olobe will be approaching you they are there to help you sell your goods. You will drop your goods and it will be in their custody till day brake. By 6am market is open for sell. Buyer will be available to buy your goods. The buyer will price your goods base on sizes, I mean how big it's and season or period you want to sell it.

Olobe will be show that this is amount the buyer want to buy it, did you agree. If you agree he will sell it. Remember you sell per dozen. If you are note certify with the amount you can decide that you can't sell it at that price. Another buyer will definitely come.till you are ok with the price.Olobe will not collect anything percentage from your money, unless you wish to dash him some fraction. He will collect owo-iso from buyer per dozen. It is buyers that will pay owo-iso...N500 per dozen and if decides to cut the Plantain into pieces buyers will also pay 100 per dozen owo PSP....

If you follow my post I will still explain on factor affect the price of plantain on my next post....

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Olaone1:
https://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2014/10/26/1414343038679_wps_67_Some_of_the_current_super.jpgAround 80 per cent spend between £15million to £25million on a residential property, with ten per cent spending more than £30million

Olaone1:
Wealthy Africans spending almost £4million on London property every WEEK as they snap up some of the most exclusive investments in the capital



Super-rich oligarchs spending almost £4million-a-week on London property, new report by estate agent reveals
More than £600million has been spent in the capital by Africans within the last three years and its on the increase
Cultural ties, education and wealth all factors in move to UK, as well as risk of terrorism in home nation and Ebola
Report shows the wealthy buyers are mostly from areas in Nigeria, Ghana, Congo, Gabon, Cameroon and Senegal.

Wealthy African buyers are spending almost £4million on London property every week as they look to snap up exclusive investments in the UK, it has emerged.

Super-rich oligarchs are taking their vast resources and investing them in the safe haven of London property - with more than £600million spent in the capital in the past three years.

A mixture of traditional reasons combined with increased terrorism and the outbreak of Ebola is said to be behind the dramatic influx of African money to the capital.
While African buyers only account for 1.5 per of transactions in the 'ultra prime' London market, they make up five per cent of sales by value - up from two per cent.


Nigerians are the biggest spenders, with wealthy nationals forking out £250million on London homes in the last three years.



The new wave of super-rich includes Aliko Dangote, a Nigerian business magnate who, with a £16billion fortune, is Africa's wealthiest man.

Folorunsho Alakija, a billionaire oil tycoon, fashion designer and philanthropist from Lagos, is also a big investor in the London property market. She recently bought four apartments in One Hyde Park, the super-exclusive development in Knightsbridge.

Her British-born nephew Rotimi Alakija, who also goes by the stage name of DJ Xclusive, has also invested property in the capital.

It is thought other tycoons have also been eyeing up homes on Kensington Palace Gardens - known as Billionaires' Row.


Gary Hersham, managing director of Beauchamp Estates, revealed he has had three super-rich Nigerians enquiring about homes in the past week alone. This is despite the average person in Nigeria earning just £850 per year.

He said: 'I've had an upturn in African buyers over the last few months.

'The situation in West Africa at present is pushing rich African buyers back into Central London at a significantly higher level than is normally experienced.

'While war, disease and terrorism in West Africa grab media headlines, actually for super-rich Africans its domestic wealth, cultural ties to London, general safety and education for their children that are the key attractions for buying a home in central London.'

Mr Hersham said these super-rich look to buy property in the 'platinum triangle' which is made up of Mayfair, Belgravia and Knightsbridge.

Around 80 per cent spend between £15million to £25million on a residential property, with ten per cent spending more than £30million.

If they are not buying, they are renting luxury homes for up to £15,000-per-week and staying for between six weeks and three months per year.

London's reputation for having a residential property market, which is secure and a stable investment, is one of the main reasons wealthy Africans are buying, according to Beauchamp Estates.

Another reason is historic cultural and community ties.

Nigeria is a Commonwealth country and there is a community of 70,000 in London. There are a similar number of Ghanaians in the capital.
It is thought the property tycoons have been eyeing up homes on Kensington Palace Gardens - known as Billionaires' Row (pictured)


The third reason is education, with King's School Canterbury, Wycombe Abbey, Cheltenham Ladies College, Eton, Harrow and Bradfield are among the favourite private schools for wealthy families from Africa.

According to the Nigerian embassy, Nigerian nationals spend more than £300million-a-year on tutoring, accommodation, fees and equipment at British schools and universities.

Mr Hersham added: 'It is going to be the African century.

'Continental African buyers or luxury tenants in London are currently where the Russians and Ukrainians were five years ago.

'At present virtually all the transactions are for end use, not rental investment, which indicates that the African buyer market in London has significant room for growth and maturity.

'Nigerians have been long standing property purchasers in the central London market, going back to the early 1980s.

'However, in the 1980s and 1990s they typically purchased houses in North London, in Hampstead, St Johns Wood and Primrose Hill.

'Now, enhanced wealth has enabled them to move into the ultra prime market in Mayfair, Belgravia and Knightsbridge, and have been joined by affluent purchasers from other West African and French equatorial states.'



Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2808556/Wealthy-Africans-spending-4million-London-property-WEEK-snap-exclusive-investments-capital.html#ixzz3HLu7HJZI

Queenslander:
Just saw this on my timeline... what do you guys think??

Educonsults1:
2 Weeks ago, Most Nigerian Forex and Binary Traders, regsitered with the IQOptons Broker was alarted about one Adekunle Adeoye, who was the Number 1 Trader of the week for two weeks straight.
This isnt the news, the news was that this Mr Adekunle Adeoye was leading the leader board and that gap between him and the second place in the Country was more than $2500. With his on daily interest going to about $7000.
This grading was not sorted by numbers alone but by amount of successful trades carried daily.
It was a good news to Nigerian, as we showed on the First 100 in the World Leaderboard.
His Contact is not yet out but a good lead is coming up. But you can contact me for more information and update. 07037997864

Also anyone with the Trader in the second Category should also share his details..

This was the picture i got from a source. But I'm working on more.

Priscy01:
Celebrity disk jockey DJ Cuppy has dared a Twitter user to arrest her because of her fashion sense, Igbere TV reports.

The 28-year-old stated this on Thursday after the troll said she does not know how to dress in spite of her riches.



https://twitter.com/CaramelDutch3SS/status/1382526403757887493?s=20

Replying in her usual carefree manner, the daughter of billionaire businessman Femi Otedola said

https://twitter.com/cuppymusic/status/1382609861339451394?s=20

DJ Cuppy recently dropped a libel and defamation suit against Davido’s aide Israel Afeare who accused her of owing Zlatan Ibile money from their 2019 song ‘Gelato’.

Afeare was forced to apologise after Cuppy filed a law suit against him.

dachilino:
Ifu Ennada has joined the growing list of Big Brother Naija ex-housemates who bought a new car, after leaving the reality show. 

Ifu Ennada who showed off her new car on Instagram, wrote;

Blackmoran:
I once shared a experience on this forum on how I met a girl on a community group chat in Facebook back in 2012, she was base in Enugu while I reside in Lagos.

our friendship started mutual and later it went intimate, on are profile pics and uploaded picture if am to rate her from 1 to 10 i will give are a 7. and what make me fall for this girl is are funny Igbo accent wish sound weird to me.

to cut the story short after 6 month we decide to meet each other so she traveled from Enugu to lagos the night of the day she was to come I couldn't sleep, all that was in my mind was this girl that night I can't count how many times I checked her picture...

the next morning she called me she was at the park, I rushed got dress with great joy and rushed to the park, on getting there I called to locate her.
That day I thank God I saw her first before she saw me, I was so disappointed my joy just turn to rage this girl I was looking straight ahead was big like a whale if me and her where to walk hand in hand for a moonlight stroll our shadow will be like number 10, she is times 3 of me..

God forgive me that day I just switch of my phone and head back home and I never picked her call again, I felt bad for what I did but logically I think she deserve it, cause she was deceitful she was using a picture of many years ago when she was still younger...

this is back in 2012 and when I thought it's just a one off things this year I met another lady on Instagram, cute pictures.. she is into selling of men shoes and cloth, at first I started as a customer when I order she sent her junior kid brother to deliver at my place so I never met her personally until one conversation lead to another our discuss became romantic, so we decided to met early last week..
But this time I wasn't lucky she saw me first she ran to hug me at that moment I felt the ground should open up and swallow me, I don't like calling people ugly but in my life time I will never walk up to her to ask her out if we are to meet in person.. but thank God it was evening...

this habit now is getting out of hand I don't know if it is a problem with Nigeria girls or its something global, but anyhow girls please I want to ask why do most of you like using old pictures of what you are not alike again?

XhosaNostra:
How's that one in the picture anywhere near attractive though? When it's a bit narrower, maybe, but not this one looking like Goofy.

Blackmoran:
Intelligent conversation to women won't pass gossip, entertainment, latest fashion, latest trend, when you going to change the furniture and rebrand the kitchen, what happens in zee world, nagging about how you are not going to church, asking you maybe she is adding up, and most time I lie "babe you perfect" just to make her happy, how she is confused on which cloth to wear, how her shoes is so much that she as never wore some of them in my mind I keep wondering why you keep buying them when you have abundance, while me have only 3 pairs of shoes, how a guy irritate her at her place of work, in my mind I know she likes the guy, if I go on and on she fit suspect say na me..... Wetin concern me with your intelligent conversation, for work na joke I dey crack abi wey dey put food for table.... Just be feminine and look good am OK... If I need intelligent conversation I need logical thinking which I can not get from her, cause most women reason with emotions....

Stephenomozzy:


First of all; Individual differences must be put to account. That is you should know the girl and the things that interests her. Those topics you know when brought up usually ends up making her all chatty and excited to talk endlessly.

What most of them refer to as unintelligent conversations; are having close ended statementsthat often border around repetition and unnecessary questions (have you eaten, how was your night; what did you wear today) and ending the discussion there without expanding on it.

Notwithstanding, small talks are nice and can be a good way to drive into a more interesting conversation.

About why they don't initiate such conversations, it still depends on individuals.
1. Some think it's your duty to make them find you interesting to chat with; so you should do the research and find what pleases her (almost like sex lol).
2. Maybe you didn't take their submissions serious in previous conversations.

Discussing hypothetical situations can be a good discussion topic: matters relating to romance, relationships (not erotic - but depending on your communication level), career development, personal development, fears, weaknesses, strengths et al.

Long story short, know your woman and you can bring out her chatty button to even initiate such intelligent conversations herself

ubunja:
understandable.
but if your disagreements takes a third party to intervene then WTF!! are u gona always rely on others to help u solve your domestic issues.


i never was a fan of mind games. if someone goes mute while u try to understand her problem only to get pissed when u do give her space its a big red flag. she is immature.

sweetetlove:
she just needed you to hold her, women are complex and sensitive beings maybe she was having period cramps or just emotionally down. Next time just pull her into your arms and make her feel like she has someone that cares

phr0nesis:
Some Nigerians overwhelmed by the use of Yoruba language in a new video commercial by Chelsea football club have taken to social media to express their excitement.

Twitter has been flooded with reactions since the English Premier League club posted the video around 9 am on Friday (today) on their verified Twitter handle @ChelseaFC.

The one minute 53 seconds commercial announces and prepares fans for the London derbies coming up during the Christmas and New Year breaks.

http://community.thenationonlineng.net/forum/video-nigerians-excited-as-chelsea-use-yoruba-language-in-new-com?fbclid=IwAR0HhgZ50s4bXC_l30la5VVm4DyiXoZr3otkjKnU5YWdcCdIbhPJ2GuitoQ

Martin0:
There is little to no concrete
definition of "space" when it
pertains to a certain closing stage of
a romantic relationship. When
someone you were dating claims
that he or she needs "space," the
recipient has no idea what this
person means other than the fact
that they aren't going to see or talk
to each other as much as usual.

It could mean many things, ranging from
"I need to able to have sex with
somebody else and not feel bad about
it" to "I need to prove to myself that I can
go through the day without seeing your
face and hearing your voice" to "I'm so
sick of hanging out with you but I don't
have the heart to say it."

The one conclusion we can draw from
these different interpretations is that "I
need space" mostly always has a hidden
meaning or intention.

!!!!

ImaIma1:
Sexual sin is not the only sin people face consequences for. So you can see a virgin committing sins that grieves the Holy Spirit too. Sex is not the only sin.

And, the non virgins you mentioned probably dated different people and were faithful to each one of them while in the relationship. It doesn't mean they were sleeping with multiple men at a time.

So she also has also cultivated the habit of being faithful to one person. And it could be that she was unlucky with her choice of men.

On the contrary, a man that has had multiple partners in the past can get married and drop the habit because he has seen it all. While a man who married as a virgin, will easily fall into temptation when faced with a very tempting one.

I am not an advocate for premarital sex, having multiple partners, etc. I am just someone that has seen both sides that has formed my opinion. I am also someone who sees reason before judgement, just like Christ.

ImaIma1:
Sin...not just sexual sin. There are more sins greater than sexual sins (losing virginity)...pride, greed, envy, etc.

I doubt very much that virginity is being treated with levity or demonized. In fact, many.ladies still carry it with pride. I have a friend who got married in her 30s as a virgin.

Unfortunately, your assertion about not being a virgin being the root cause of divorces is erroneous. Go research more and especially with cases around you. Even a "virgin" married" personal friend lost her husband to a single mum. Another I know is having a good marriage.

There are greater demons to fight in marriage than if the lady was or wasn't a virgin. If a lady has a bad character, is disrespectful, rude, secretive, etc, even if her virginity lasted for a month in the marriage, that marriage will be troubled.

But some guys want to hinge the success of a marriage on virginity as if it covers all flaws and inadequacies. A close relative of mine told me how since his wife got pregnant, he hasn't been allowed to sleep with her. Nothing he hasn't said to her but she said no. He said he is frustrated, that he is at the verge of cheating. It's been a whole 7months.

And he said something that struck me. He said he wishes he had married a regular Lagos babe who understands some things. I told him to be patient that it will get better.(the one he married was a naive one from his town)

Virginity is awesome but it's not what makes a marriage work.

efficiencie:
You highlight individual cases by I am highlighting a likely statistical regularity. I am not disputing the existence of exceptions to the rule like the case you mentioned but I am saying that behaviors don't switch off and on like you seem to suggest. Habit formation is a fundamental determinant of behaviour (several theories in Psychology and Economics prove this). This implies that you can reasonably find a large proportion of people repeating behaviors that they engaged in in their past because such behaviors have morphed into habits. The very act of having multiple sex partners continuously over a period of time could render one conditioned to keep having multiple sex partners. This is why very nice, well mannered ladies still fall for infidelity...they fall not necessarily because they are wicked, rather they fall because they have been conditioned by years and years of moving from man to man. This same dynamic applies to men. You can never make a man that is used to moving from one woman to the next loyal to you. If you like be the best cook, have the sweetest physique, be extremely well mannered and be a well rounded wife he will still cheat because cheating has become a habit that he has to keep feeding...there is no on and off switch in our brains for certain behaviors and this is why virgins have an advantage over hoes. I am not saying all women who married as virgins are better than all other women with regards to fidelity rather I am saying most of the women who marry as virgins have a less likelihood of falling for infidelity than the women who have lived a very sexually loose lifestyle before marriage!

Yes, God's mercy applies to us all but God's mercy does not always undo all the consequences of sin. God had mercy of Peter but it doesn't change the fact that for generations Peter's record of denial is available for all to see. I'm sure Peter would wish he could tear out that part of the Bible where he denied Christ. What about David the man after God's heart. God had mercy on David, yes, but God's mercy did not bring back Uriah from the dead, the man that David killed and whose wife David stole. There is always a consequence to bear as far as sin is concerned. A lady that loses her virginity cannot regain it because she became born again. Yes God has mercy on us but sin leaves an indelible scar on our lives and that is why we must advocate for men and women to repent from sexual sin.

efficiencie:
You were literally waiting for this moment, lol...The event I mentioned happened in the first few weeks of me knowing her and I did not have intercourse with the said lady...rather I flirted with her and I called myself out on that. As far as I am concerned flirting is cheating. In the end, I am not saying I am a saint and I deserve a virgin. I, in my previous posts, said even men who have had extensive sexual damage from their past also need healing. I knew this and was deliberate about breaking off from my past and healing all the damage I did to myself...and it paid off because since I started with my wife I have never had intercourse with another woman (particularly my EXs) even though we were in a long distance relationship 70% of the time. I have heard men say they cannot have a long distance relationship with their girlfriend or wife because they are very sure she will cheat but in my case after leaving my woman in one state to further my studies and look for job in another state (more than 800km away), I still returned to her, after spending several months, to find her intact... it was such a great honor to have such a woman.

I do not deserve her but I realize the importance of marrying a virgin for the sake of a sustainable marriage and avoiding stories that end in suicide...this is why I say again ladies should stop spreading their legs before marriage, they should remember that what they call fun leads to sexual damage and a sexually damaged person can only bring sorrow and pain even though they don't mean to. If more ladies closed their legs, fewer men will find the opportunity to cheat but today many men are so confident that with a slice of pizza and a glass of juice he can get almost any lady to spread her legs up to 180 degrees and allow him vaccinate her until her body starts to drip with vaccine...

ThePlainTruth:
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Chummynoni:
virgins have categories. there are some that are only virgins thru their p**sy but their ass*s have been broaden by different poles. there are some that both holes are still sealed but their mouths have sung with different mic. if you meet a real/undefiled virgin like us, your mind wud always be@ peace no matter where you are. it is always soothing when you think about the fact that you are d first man to ever kiss your woman /do romantic stuffs with her.

A real virgin is a shy woman, and a shy woman wont allow anoda man see her naked except on rare occasions. i talked based on my experience .#peace

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