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You are not okay at all...So, hunting guns can't be use to kill humans? Until they carry AK47 before we accept they are up to no good deeds. You are part of the problem in Nigeria.

MelesZenawi:
MURIC should rise and Condemn this act of profiling their fellow Muslims..

These are dane guns used mostly by hunters and not Ak-47.

What if they came to SW for hunting and maybe the species of animals they specialises in hunting and killing all lives there.

That man called Adedibu ehn, the ,an head dey touch well well. I Bet if he was alive during the LG election then, he would've made Sunday Igboho a LG Chairman for real even as the dude is an illiterate.

From the lengthy write up, you sure talks too much. This is a turn off for any man.
When having a discussion with your hubby or anyone, be concise!

Vevejoy:
Plesse forget the errors and focus on the content.

So here's my issue.

I've been married for 6yrs and it's been a blissful journey- of course with minor issues here and there but nothing to worry about until May 5th 2020 when I'd say things turned upside down.

We live abroad and struggled to have kids but God finally blessed us with a beautiful daughter in Sept 2019. Child care being super expensive here, we wanted one of our moms to come help us with the baby when I return to work after my maternity leave. So on the eve of our wedding anniversary which was the 4th of May last year, I asked my husband for the say 10th time about beginning the procedure of bringing a mom over to help since I'll be returning to work. He asked which mom and I said in my exact words; "of course my mom" because I know that when a woman gives birth, her mom usually go to help her. Did that change our story? My God, marriage has been one hell of a thing since that day.

My husband said I am selfish, disrespectful, and want to dominate him. He said things will never be the same again and since then, my marriage has been a stress zone.

My husband is numb to my feelings. He's been ignoring me, I've been a nag I'll admit since tue incident last year. I now talk alot and mostly complain about everything whenever we are together. It's sad and I've actually had conversations with myself to ignore him and stop nagging but I continue to do it, I need help on how to shut up and observe.

I can cry from now to die kingdom come and this man wouldn't be moved. He cannot shift his stance because of me at all. He does whatever he likes and disregard everything I say. E.g before this crisis, we had an appointment to see our Dr to start trying for baby number two because the Dr's advised that since we just had a baby, it's best to try for another soonest given that we had challenges conceiving the first one. This man cancelled the appointment with our Dr and has blatantly refused to start trying for a baby right now. He says when the time comes he'll let me know. Up till now the time has not come despite the fact that delaying may impact our chance of conceiving again. What a life!� � �.

Also, he has decided that no parent will come and I'm back to work already. My poor baby who use to sleep till 9am now suffer in this winter getting up at 6am to be dropped off at daycare all because her father is angry and want to make sure he doesn't do anything that will make his wife smile. He'll rather spend thorns of money paying for daycare even after I've told him that I don't mind his mom coming. Mind u, I have a very good relationship with my inlaws, especially my mom inlaw so it's not an inlaw fight.

The worst of them all is that despite living abroad for 17yrs, this man believes so much in native doctors to the extend that I can't even explain. Infact it's something that I've always fought him about and talked against. I've even complained about it to his family. And guess what, when I talk against, he tells his native drs who of course has ignited the fire in our home. Can you believe that in this chaos this man took me on a vacation in August last year that he wanted to clear his mind so we can start a new chapter and be happy again only to tell me that I have been trying to use a charm on him in the past months thats why things got rough. He said the 3 women I am using appeared to him but he is stronger ����. I am laughing because I felt pity and ashamed for him. How can a grown man be this vulnerable to suitsayers? I have never in my entire life visited a native doctor for myself not to talk of going to take a charmI didn'tvisit the native drs when I was strugglingto have a baby and this man thinks I'llvisit one now to charm him. Wondering y he will even believe such a thing. Infact I don't even know any native doctor. So when he said that, I told him that if I had known that his change of attitude is because of this stupid reason, I would not have fought for my marriage like I did. Of course I got so mad and told him a piece of my mind. I am even ashamed of telling people that despite this man's exposure he consults native Dr's in Africa more than even the people in Africa. Infact if they say yes that's what he listens to. He has even paid a flight from here to Africa because a native Dr told him that his dad who raised him to be the man he is today is trying to kill him and he should come for protection.

I decided to tell his mom about the accusation. His mom told me she scolded at him and warned him never to say such nonsense. Well I just pity him and I'm praying for him. But truth is I regret my marriage to him because of these his believes. I just don't believe in divorce and don't even have the heart to move out I would have done so. Mind u, I am 100% independent so it's not an issue of being scared of surviving alone.

Well one Sunday night as usual I talked to him like crazy and he said "all he wants is for our relationship to work and he will put in his best effort with support from me. I said I want same and will put in my best effort with support from him too*. This happened around september and things have been like normal on and off since then.

I have a few worries which I'd like you to advise me on the way forward.
- My husband is heartless. No matter how I lament, cry, beg, approach him nicely. Infact no matter the manner in which I bring up an issue to him, he doesn't get moved at all. He stays on his stance and doesn't care. How am I suppose to live with a man like this. He goes mute when I try having a conversation with him.

- I have a weakness of talking alot which I acknowledge and I'm doing my best to work on it though I'm yet to change completely. But I can say there's a huge improvement. Infact I'm able to walk away now.

Can a marriage really work out out without a compromise from both parties? I feel like I am compromising alot but this man is doing whatever he likes. In all of these he doesn't cheat but has abused me physically 4times in our 6yrs of marriage which I'm still pained about. The worst abuse right now is emotional abuse and I've told him so several times.

We use to be an exemplary and happy couple up till this may 2020. What will you do in a situation like mine With? With a man like my husband who I'd say lacks empathy and a concience how do I deal with him? His mom said she talked to him but I don't see any difference.

I feel miserable right now in my marriage. Since I got married this is our hardest hit and unfortunately it got prolonged probably bc of his native Dr's who told him I am using a charm on him which he believed.


Help me out please

I get job for you....

If only you knew what their eyes have seen & how these guys are being killed front, back left & right by the deadly boko boys.

These guys are given obsolete weapons to combat boko boys that are using sophisticated & more advance weapons. Going to battle those guys is just like embarking on journey of no returns!

Not to talk of poor welfare and remunerations provided by the idiotic government.

I Think they made a good decision by resigning.

SilverNorGold:
Ok.. But these are cowards that joined the Nigeria Army just for the financial gains; and the khaki, which they use to intimidate and brutalize innocent civilians... They never joined to fight any nonsense insecurity. Reason they always CHICKEN out when the BULLish terrorists charge at them... Glad the bloody cowards are resigning by themselves! LOL!

Nigeria, the giant of Africa, deserves courageous, gallant, committed, agile, intelligent, and patriotic soldiers! Not these bloody sissies!

God bless our gallant soldiers.
God bless all patriotic Nigerians.
God bless the Federal Republic of Nigeria.

Oshey!!! Bolu "oGAYdemgbe" okupe of aGAYGAY Local government...Tueh!

This is sad! The same dude he helped accommodate caused his untimely death.

May we not help who is going to kill us or cause our death o!

Mr Oga, you're just being selfish here. Better forget about your ex and concentrate on building your new relationship.

Money2000:
Hello NLers... Sometimes ago, I was in dilemma to leave my loyal and faithful girlfriend...
Guess what? I finally caught her cheating. She was double dating for 3 months (dating myself and one other guy).

I have dated this babe for 4 years, until I caught her cheating. I was so angry that I ended the relationship.
I am in a new relationship anyway, but I can’t seem to find the friendship I had with my ex.

I sometimes feel I go extra miles to impress this new girl (not like she bills me, but I caught her one time receiving money gift from a guy, whom she claims that they are just friends, and that she would stop talking to him) although she appreciates every little thing I do. She has also been supportive.

My ex apologized and beg me to reconcile things with her, but I thought I love this new babe more than her... so I told her to move on. After like 2 months, she has finally moved on oh.

The problem now is that, I am beginning to miss my ex so much, the friendship we had, the mind blowing s*x and some other experience we had together, how we have helped each other grow in life financially (my ex was with me when I was broke and had nothing) P.S: my new gf is kind of boring in bed, her pre-intimacy game and s*x is nothing compared to my ex (I prefer my ex)...

These days, any small thing, I am dreaming of my ex, seeing her in my dream, which makes me very happy... but when I wake up to reality, I become sad because it’s just a dream.

I have taken this my new gf to family, and I’ve also met her family too...

Now, I am in a dilemma if to go beg my ex for reconciliation because I miss her so much... I think I have actually not moved on...

I need your advice pls

Greed almost cost him is life.

Are you alright freedom of speech where & how? Haven't you been following what has been going on in the US in the last 4 years.

Where white supremacy aren't afraid to flag off their confederated flags, bully people of color, just 'cos one of them his the president.

Racism is super high right now in the US cos of this man. Policy making is Zero and any one that tries to put him in order or advise him; he fires them.

Nigerians don't know how corny this fat ass is, if only y'all knew.

Barka00:
I pray the supreme court will rule in favour of Donald Trump.

Trump does things that supports the freedom of his people but many are blind to see.
Joe Biden/Obama would have made face mask compulsory hence vaccination will also be mandatory. But Trump let people do what they believe in.
He didn't impose lockdown because the crash of the nations economy will domore harm that the virus itself

There is no right reason to hate this man. We all know he is not perfect but he is the only person in the right position to prevent some inhumane things from happening. In Reality they are after us not him, he is just in the way.
Trump 2020.

Does anyone here know his Instagram handle and/or his contact.

I need to reach out to him in respect of his basketball dreams.

My experience was kinda similar with yours. over a decade ago after my NYSC I was offered a job where I served but due to the fact that the money wasn't huge for a person like me that "my mouth is wide"

I relocated to my base in Lagos,& within a month got various offers from different companies, among them was a new generation bank.

I weighed my options and settled for the best among my offers & resumed at my new job exactly a moth after my NYSC. I never regretted moving back to Lagos after my service.

If you don't exploit new avenue, you'd be stagnant at your comfort zone hence you'll be limited.

Why does it have to be a black person with Nigerian root they chose to do the talking when they have their leader Dr Simon Gold & other white folks over there.

They're gonna milked him dry and still send him to jail. Invectus Obi did pass this and yet they forced him to accepts he was guilty of all charges.

Yankee aint like Naija that Mompha was able to hired SANs to secured his release from EFCC den.

You are one of the men that keep turning these ladies to single mom. Imagine, you married the first one, she wasn't good enough for you; you moved on.

On to the second one, you indecisive again whether to stick with her or hop out of the relationship to another. Listen up "a rolling stone gather no moss". Sit your butt down!

MKO won the election.

JAMO84:
But your people refused to vote for him in 1993. They voted for their Fulani slave masters as usual.


Who on earth would vote for Bashir Tofa over MKO Abiola?



I AM DONE TALKING

Young man are you the same way you were in 2015 ? absolutely no! Growth is inevitable, as we grow older so does our body too.

Besides, those ladies may have probably gone through childbirth as well. Your topic is baseless and childish!

Have read some funny comments on this thread, swears!

The environment one grew up from is one of the factors that influence how you converse with a girl/boy too.

If you grew up in area like Surulere, Mushin and its environs in Lagos, you'd know that wooing a girl is as simple as ABC.

During my teens in Surulere in Lagos, we guys would be placing a bet among ourselves to woo girls in the neighborhood. That boosted our morale & confidence.

During my undergraduate years, I was already a don in the game that I usually positioned myself in such a way that it was ladies/girls that would be coming closer to show interest in me

you all are MAD! Repentant boko haram members ? After all those killings- Nigeria is finished! All the vagabounds in power are animals....

Fury is too fast for AJ. Dude got hands for days, sometimes he makes two punches so fast that they sounded like one.

His head movements too is top notch for a man his size, not to talk of his stamina.
All these are missing in AJ -Dude is stiff AF & easily get tired after couple of rounds. He got no swift movements too.

He's going to take lot of works, Luck and God's grace for AJ to beat Tyson Fury. I ain't need to be biased in my opinion, just cos I'm originally from Nigeria. Wish him luck though!

Make he locate nearest better 'Buka" buy soup chop the fufu before e cold oo. Make he no go lose both sides!

Greed kills too. He wanted to buy iphone 7+ for 20k, but got i-Fufu unlimited instead

Why would someone lie about their marital status. TBH, telling these ladies the truth of your status wont change anything, some ladies will still date you irrespective of your status.

I know how many single ladies that are on my neck even as a married man that I am, no jokes!

Ahn ahn! Tosin, person can't even joke with you again. you brought our private matter here. I'm twins, it's my twin brother & his wife you saw on the facebook profile

IyaTola:
Not almost.We met on facebook as usual.We have been speaking for about three months. I usually travel to go shop for my store.You will never see a trace of this man anywhere.

He even said he wanted us to relocate to another country, but I notice he hardly pick his calls late at night .But i will be wondering, he will give me one excuse or the other.

So I went to Lagos we were suppose to meet up.I lodge myself In a hotel,I got into lagos so late.This guy said he was coming,today tomorrow I have not seen him.

So I came on my Facebook,on my message request i saw a lady have been dropping messages to me.She even added me on Facebook .Come and see message,I read the message then went on her page. Oga is married with two kids and another one on the way.The woman started calling my Number. She told me how she is pregnant the guy will not respect her. How he gave her STD. I was so lost ,don't even know how to console her over the phone.She said she got my number from her husband phone.

After that call she said she want to be my friend that I'm a nice person.I just block her so called husband including her.She even added me with another Facebook again.That made me put up a bio on my Facebook. After that rubbish.


Second experience
I almost oo hmmmm, Mr man lied he wasn't married and he was seeking for a serious relationship. Myself i just came in to the states of recent b4 he approached me.
But my ex thought me something on how to check on someone via Facebook with their digits. So, that taught came to my mind and i decided to give it a trial.
Loo and behold Mr was with his so called wife on profile pics.
At first i was like..., why will this man lie for not being married� or is he a divorcee... But he never said so to me.
Next thing i did was to chat a lady who was always tagging him in her Post and this lady looks like the lady he was with on his Profile pix.
I chatted her, we got talking i asked her if she knows the man, shockingly to me she admitted being his wife and the MR man has 4 grown Kids. Iyameeee oo church dismissed that was how i sent him a message telling him to please go and take care of his family oo. Mr man Got shocked and AHAHHHH TOSIN TOSIN.... Till now he still claiming to be single, even after i saw his Facebook account, this guy still claim it was because of travelling he did the wedding, promising Heaven and Earth,he would come to place late hour claiming if he was married how would he be staying out late....... Men Men Men some of them Devil is just learning from them. Chai.

Abeg, where can I order this kinda spirit that keeps telling you the truth?

QuinModah:
It was back then in 2013 while I was still in school. I asked this guy if he was married, he said no but my spirit kept telling me he's married.

So one day, I used my lodge mate's phone number to put a call across to him telling him am mama Ada that I want to speak with his wife that her line isn't reachable and I really need to repay the loan she gave me before I squander the money, on hearing that he started screaming ''Mummy mummy bia onwere Onye na akpo gi'' (mummy mummy come someone is calling u). I quietly switched off the phone . I later asked him if it was worth denying your wife and kids because you want what you may never get, and he couldn't answer.

Is the judge okay? Why is judicial system in Nigeria like this for goodness sake.

Just 2 years for a grievous crime ; Raping a minor. What joke of a country.
That man should be jailed to 20 years or more.

Read my comment again, now slowly! I said Love & respect are needed...the other factors i added was just to expatiate further for better understanding for OP.

Oluwafhemmi10:
wot are u saying gan, itz wen love dwells in ur heart dat u can be compassionate; always saying d truth by not hiding anything from each other and d issue of compatibility is just another broad-brimmed scenario...

No long talk!

Both LOVE & RESPECT are needed to sustain a marriage. In addition there're many other factors aside the two aforementioned above like compatibility, truthfulness, compassionate e.t.c

You dig

I don't even entertain such discussion at all, once I hear "I have a package in the US"...I don japa
Their next line would be 'send me your yankee address to help receive it.

Alaye, if you get package for yankee contact DHL or UPS to ship it to naija for you na.
Yankee of all places, there's no acceptance of negligence in law court.

Anyone that approaches you for stuff like this is your enemy, block their asses!

Why do you still have him on your contact? block his butt already....dammit!

STENON:
Very true. Best to be very smart with them too .
Even the ones in abroad are not left out too.

I heard the term "azza" first from my Nigerian coursemate who was trying to play smart game with me, he asked for my friends "azza" details to help send naira equivalent to his account in Nigeria and I became suspicious when he said he will reward me if I can do it

Another even chatted me on whatsapp to send my account number for a tuition fees deposit for his sister, I said I am not an admission officer for his sister's school , he should pay directly to his sister's school account.

If you are from Nigeria, You will be smarter than them

You don't reveal your home address, account number and other details to some people just like that. Odikwa risky

Eleyi gidi gan oo!

you don even get pikin wey you dey breastfeed for the spirit realm.
My sister you need better deliverance oo.