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so ur mama wan turn you to widower
na waooo

Francis609:
My wife gave birth in November but we lost the baby 2 days after. What shocked me was when my younger brother sent me a voice message of what they had discussed about my wife and my mum was not remorseful, she said she is not happy that the baby has died she wish it was my wife that died in the process and the innocent baby lives , he recorded her without her knowledge because he didn't like what she was saying.

I immediately called her and play the voice, I taught she will be sorry for what she said, she didn't give a damn. She said she is not an hypocrite, she never like my wife and she can't pretend. I cut the phone with a broken heart even taught she never like my wife she could have at least show forget about the hatred and show her some love in this difficult situation.
My step mother has been taken care of my wife I am grateful , my mum has never bothered to call to know about her health and I haven't call her either. I disowned her. I don't hate her but I don't want nothing to do with her anymore because she is a disgrace to womanhood.

Please advice me if am I in the wrong

polygamous house,,men should try avoid it by all means ,it doesn't end well ...

Kelvin3476:
U ARE VERY CORRECT , BUT HOW CAN A BROKE MAN EARN SUBMISSION FROM A RICH WIFE ?

the question is this ,is the brokenness for ever ,,
the humiliation a man doesn't forget is the type the wife or girlfriend makes at him for not having money ,trust me if such a man rebounds ,he will search for love else where when the money comes .....

then you hear stories like after all I have done for him he left me ,,baba there is a big difference bw humiliation and motivation ,most ladies these days humiliate their husband/boyfriend

jadyclem:
That's some men's definition of submission - control. They want to control the woman and expect her to always do as they say. The moment the woman have any different opinion from theirs or object to any of their orders, you'll hear them saying that she's not submissive. Submission no mean say she no go get voice or say for the family Mata, is all about how she treats you and makes you feel.

every man has a definition of submission ,if a lady can relate with me as a friend , sister ,and wife we are all ready submissive to our self ...
if she relate with you only as a wife ,bro na problem you don enter

pozehnani:
Well... Thats the demon behind money. It makes people think higly of themselves than others especially if they don't have the spirit of God.

baby girl , spirit of god na another topic be that o,,,,who lack self control will have difficulty managing family and money be it a male or female,I kw of a family relative when money enter e hand no body fit talk to am again ....,,,na give away em they do steady .

x123xlolls:
True, He's Right. Hustle Continues. Thats:

1. Man and Female saw the certificate differently.

2. He have a lot to cover... no time to take pics.

3. He hardly made it....while she can simply made it through different ways.

4. the girl...pics and brags... the man ( conclude it for me)

I am not sure I even have my nysc pics I swear ,the moment u serve finish na immigration office I go immediately .. while others still kept posting I made it ,,this life

pozehnani:
So it's a slowpoke you want?

If you want a woman to worship you, then be responsible for her 100% . As long as she's independent and responsible for herself then don't expect her to be 50% submissive to you. That's just the truth of I'm going to be honest with you. So you being "afraid" of approaching them is not out of place because you go hear am if you dare to cross their path.

na war zone such ladies go carry come marriage o ....don't forget,you can't turn a man to a puppet Bec you get money pass am ,last last he go tell u to pack out ,I know many ladies will jump to such a conclusion of leaving the man ....don't trade your family Bec of your money,it doesn't end well

Divoc19:
Women are most likely to misuse power because they can be are very emotional and sensitive being, that was why God spelt the duties out to Eve the Bible.

A financially stable lady is hard to control, unlike her male counterpart who can be seduced by something easily.

Control issue is big deal in a relationship. I am currently facing one now. Not good at all

you tell her wait ,don't do dis ,and she still choose to do watin day her mind ,when it back fires she will want you to help her out for solution and if you don't give a fuvk she says you arent careing ...... forgetting for she to date a guy older than her there are some end result the guy has encountered back to back which she hasn't ...

when u have money aging shouldn't scare you ,

BlueQ:
. What takes 40 to 50 years to develop. Are you aware there are organizations that will pay 200,000 for that tortoise? You filling soul

exactly ,,,and it's so pained that nairaland are in support of this nonsense

BlueQ:
Are you this miserable? Do you know the number of years it will take for nature to support a tortoise to this stage of development.?


You're a goat. Your education is a waste. That's why Africa is backward. Their stomach leads them

I just don't understand we claim to be the most educated but wat we do behind our house is unthinkable,,,na hunger reach this one so ....una claim say canda no gree open way make una travel ,,,but there is an easy route which many smart ones have used ...only those who think will know it ...na wa for black man oo..and the idiot is even proud of saying it ,, eating an animal that's is running extinct already

Tunagee:
My wife started behaving strangely immediately I lost my job in April 2017. She leaves home to her mum at the slightest disagreement without even communicating or making to express her feelings; and to worsen it, her mum gives her a great welcome with a room and parlour for her to stay, without even calling me to discuss what the problem. Whatever her daughter says is always the final, and she concludes on that.

My wife literarily destroyed my image before my in-laws to such an extent that I can't even visit them again. She tells them i insult her and her parents, and i make negative remarks about them, that i abuse her verbally at the slightest provocation. Several lies against me that I did not allow her travel out, I don't give her money, I told her not to have another kid, that I told her not to work, her mother has decided to keep her with her as I speak without even calling me to discuss, even despite all my appeals. She has been with her mum now for almost ten months(my wife is a fully grown legally married faithful woman of almost 40 years)

All these disrespect, probably cos I lost my job two years ago of which I fulfilled all responsibilities to the home. i don't drink, i don't smoke, don't womanise(even till now) I have never beaten her, I never another child out of my matrimonial home, and never impregnated another woman.

Rather than resolve her marital problem by discussing with her husband, she takes it to her family claiming emotional abuse. Fine, I agree I get provoked cos of her persistent shortcomings, and of course, frustration which leads to unguided vocal utterances towards her, but this could have been resolved easily without having to involve her whole family. Now what she keeps telling my family is that her family said she should still hold on at her mum's place. This is the 10th month since October 2018.

The last time my mum went to her mum's house precisely June last month, she was asked if she was still interested in her marriage, and she said yes, that she does not intend leaving her marriage; but we should give her time. Her mother practically told me to go and do something meaningful, and that there is time to marry, separate, reunite and hustle. Her mum is the one controlling her movements and everything about her for now; not even giving her room to give me audience.

Pls advise on what to do.

We are legally married.

where is your father inlaw

Miracle1991:
check your brothers before giving that advice. Was the man like that before marrying your aunty? If yes, then she knew him before marriage that is why she is not complaining. If no, then she is the cause.

exactly that was just my comment to her ,that dude was like that even while dating phase was on .....

zedegit:
The man doesn't provide for her. He's a loafer; always in one betting shop or the other but feels entitled to food.

He bares her from coming home after 7pm and often locks her out of the house.

Yet same nincompoop comes home anytime he wants. What should she do?

She's tired of his nonsense.

i believe your aunt husband has been acting same way even before they got married ..if not for locking her outside ,but playing bet definitely he has been into such ......the issue we have in relationship is most ladies don't ask guys questions Bec they assume men should do the talking ....some issues are really difficult to change after marriage o

mayorcon:
I got a job of 70k a month but I resigned the following month simply because; 1. I was the only one working with my boss (this means I can't be productive where I am the only staff, I love to see people around me when I work), 2. I am a creative person and I hate to do things that follow the same routine every day, I get bored easily.

Funny enough, I just dropped my resignation letter yesterday.

The bottom line is that I so much pay more attention to my happiness and mental stability more than I place on money.

Don't even think I have cash reserve ooo. lols.

you can't work unsurpervised that's the meaning

goldenarrow:
As you no sabi am so, is it not better for you to desist from condemning something you don't know anything about?

ok bros

kechywillz:
Emefiele will have a bitcoin account ,most of politicians do have cryptocurrency where the convert there stolen monies to avoid investigation

and do you think that's a good thing,, haven a wealth that is untraceable.... my guy ,I fit no sabi this bit coin o,but if bitcoin isn't Traceable then there is problem o

it wasn't obaseki who built that project ,and why show ceiling ...bed space might be there but did you interview anyone for questioning ?

YorubaPrince:
OP... It's OK to move on quickly from these stupid girls but why block them? It shows you sef get issues... Blocking a lady that turns you down shows you find it hard properly dealing with rejection, you get angry being rejected, you're being a simp trying sooo hard to form toughie or perhaps, that's ur best way of dealing with it.

. exactly,

anochuko01:
I am just like the op so i totally understand what he's saying.
I have spent over two years chasing just two different girls, but i presently wont do that for a month because ive realized it doesnt change anything.
The interesting thing is that ladies who are in their late 20s wont do that because theyre readily available to be married asap. So when op reaches that stage/age, he would face less stress or resistance.
Some of these ladies think the world was made for them alone, so one needs to put them in their places keep your respect intact.

e get woman ,way no get stress,,yes u are right when most ladies hit 25 above , reality comes on them ,a serious man who is stable has no time to waste playing pranky pranky games ,but still op is definitely still going to met more ladies who have been hurt emotionally while in their early 20s so they will still find it hard to believe op Makin them give attitude just as op described

so boss ,op still need to learn patient ,last last

advanceDNA:
The man be like........never again...

I would rather be homeless than live with you...

the problem I have is ,why man go day suffer ,u prefer to give him problem ,what the man did is what others wouldn't do ,but will go extreme such as killing her after a little fight in the hux

roli21:
i looked it up on reddit and they said the disease herpes,that everybody might have it. and its no big deal

if africa in african don't comment on it on reddit ,,,u need to ask further bro ,,

Bola146:
See me laughing seriously here ""..Imagine always trying to lay claim to 3 pieces out of 4 "" " FFO but she can't contribute ordinary #500 toothpaste OMG

No matter how small the amount is, if your spouse is not stingy, please contribute financially and materially to your relationship!!!! She is stingy! Haba now, she would have not returned the paste to her bag. You can tell her if she will change, maybe she doesn't know it's a bad thing, tell her please

When I started dating my girl, I will not lie, I spend money o, but I over started sing on her ear babe make u spoil me na.... And eventually she did it, she took us out bought things at the restaurant /mall and I still gave her back the money ,,,it was all a test,,, my guy if your woman can't do the same, abeg forget it,, 1kobo day pain am to spend am on e guy,,, na hospital dat guy go die put

InventTech:
If you have decided to be celibate or unmarried then you are good, but if you envisage to be married, then you have to urgently work on your tolerance/flexibility because women can be unusually irritating - and you are going to be getting a heavy dose of it (directly or indirectly) on a consistently level when they live with you.

There needs to be balance in everything.
Cheers.

I was just, reading comments with guys cheering him up as a real guy man, and I can bet you most of these guys hailing him never reach 30years,,,, when time to settle down come your desk if you eventually become successful u will need some one to handle your business ...then the reality will don on op...... Op better learn the spirit of patients ...I myself am dealing with it, though my bae is very understanding... And I will get better daily

Ademola47:
When I first saw the sensational and sarcastic headline, I was expecting something like a school setting (with boards, chairs and desks) where the upcoming fraudsters will be taught formally by their senior colleagues (as the lecturers). I was disappointed.

This is a normal thing in Lagos.
You'll see young boys of 16,17 etc being under the tutelage of their supposed 'boss'. They're usually around 6-9 boys in the 'academy' who will be initially fed and clothed (with like 2 designer polos and 2 slide pams each) by their senior colleagues till they 'cash out'.

Good move by the EFCC I must say.

yahoo will not stop in nigeria untill ,the govt make it a dead sentence , Bec it seems the govt are having fun , seeing this destroy the country reputation,,, yahoo is no different from robbery

Divinehealer:
Not their star no good. Their head just dont like people using them bashubashu with bad intent. I am can guess Op isnt planning those sexcapades for his wife to be.

lol how you take know say op isn't planning the same sexcapades for his wife to be ...

Divinehealer:
I hope you sleep with the one that will burry your star and destiny finally. Lets see who will really surffer

hmmmm,,,so some ladies star no good

what year is the car ?

geendi:
I remember some years ago when a guy approached me to tell me what
my BF back then was doing behind my back.

and what happened,I like talk

princenomics:
N3,500:00 as at yesterday.

okay thanks man

sgtponzihater1:
Which area for Benin good to look for Land now?

may be by pass

soonest:
3300 at OGG depot at Oluku

okay thanks