₦airaland Forum

Shy-One:
That is horrible - just nauseating - I don't even know what to say.  God help the people in this situation.  I could not be his wife.

Well, its not second hand information. Him and his wife have 3 kids together. He helps his mistress out financially, last year he built her a N50 Million house in Abuja. I bet you his mistress, her friends and mother will never say this man is stingy. It's the mindset of the bulk of naija women.

Once again, like many other initiatives, putting the cart before the horse. Where is the infrastructure to facilitate these bills.

Let me tell you what is really sad. I know someone who is married and has kept a mistress for almost a decade. He treats his wife like garbage. Besides almost killing her last year, he makes his wife take a taxi to work (he has 10 cars by the way), while he has bought a car for his mistress and even her mother! His wife literally has to "beg" him for money while he takes his mistress with him on his international business trips, flying first class everywhere and splurging on her.

Sad thing is that many of these women in naija would say this man is NOT stingy. I'm sure his mistress would even say he truly loves her because of all the money he splurges on her. The point I'm trying to make is that this is what things have come to in naija. Shame. Behind closed doors, these same chicks who men are splurging on are making fun of these men who "help them out financially" and calling them mugus behind their backs, while these men are busy thinking they are being  "REAL MEN."

lovedgal:
@lax75, I don't have a car oo. I kind of helped someone and that is why I am low on cash. I do not live in a flat perse,  and I cut my coat according to my size!!

OK! So now you're talking. You basically incurred an additional expense that knocked you off course. Well, I would still say ask for help from your bf, but you can't call him stingy just because he didn't volunteer. I will tell you why? There are all sorts of no good women who mess things up for the FEW good ones. Maybe your man has been a mugu in the past and he doesn't want to make the same mistake again. It is just the unfortunate and messed up world we live in. You meet a chick that is unapproachable and has a chip on her shoulders, but you don't know where she's coming from and what guys have done to mess things up for the good ones.

So ask him. And if he flat out says no to you, even when you are certain that he is capable, then you can make an informed decision from there. Hope this makes sense.

Lastly, there is a difference btw WIFE and GIRLFRIEND! I once dated a girl who felt that she had the right to question why I would get my mom a blackberry before her. She was gone/fired the next day. Why? She should have known her place. She was a girlfriend and not my WIFE. Basically, I'm saying don't carry this sense of entitlement that has plagued the minds of many of these women. You are his girlfriend and NOT his WIFE. If there was no distinction, then there wouldn't be such a thing as saving your best for your last (WIFE) and she (WIFE) shouldn't feel special.

@ Poster and Everyone:


Seems like no one is asking the poster (unless I missed a comment skipping the pages in btw) WHAT is making her broke. Are you living beyond your means? I ask this question because I have a friend who recently asked me for help. I am not her man, neither is there anything going on between us. I didn't hesitate to help her out, however, when I asked her some questions, I got to the root of her problem. She chooses to drive a car that is draining her pockets (it has cost her about $1,000/month to maintain this unreliable vehicle) and at the end of the day, she was short on her mortgage. When I advised her to sell the car, she insisted that she will still keep it. So basically, she let me know that in the future if she is short on her mortgage again, I know who to blame and I would feel sorry for whoever she marries.

Some of you have told the poster to "go get a better paying job." That's all fine and good, but I'm sure the poster would have done that if it were that simple. But none of you have asked the poster what her expenses are like and questioned her budgeting skills. She said she has rent, school fees etc. Didn't you budget for your expenses before you went to find yourself a flat etc.? Did you bite more than you can chew? These are the questions that need to be asked.

If you are a chick that lives beyond her means, then I would run away from you as your bf because it also shows what kind of wife you will be, since you also want to measure his marriage-worthiness by your observation of him being stingy.

Wow! Grabs popcorn and sits back.

This NL na serious entertainment ooo. LOL!

And the plot thickens   Those darn IP addresses sha!

silvertuke:
WHO SAYS CARS' NAMES HAVE NO MEANING?, NOT ME
BMW - Brings Me Women
FIAT - Failure in Italian Automotive Technology
FORD - For Only Rough Drivers
HYUNDAI - Hope You Understand Nothing's Drivable And Inexpensive
VOLVO - Very Odd Looking Vehicular Object
PORSCHE - Proof Of Rich Spoiled Children Having Everything
KIA - Kills In Accidents
OPEL - Old People Enjoying Life
TOYOTA - The One You Only Trust, Always
GOLF/GTI - Girls Only Love Fun / Get Them Inside
HONDA - Hung Over, Now Driving Away
Nissan= Never Ignore Safe Sex And love-addicts
I wonder which is yours? , Add meaning of those types i missed out or propose
new meaning(s) to the ones above. Let's enjoy the weekend.

FORD should be [b]F[/b]ix [b]O[/b]r [b]R[/b]epair [b]D[/b]aily

MsDarkSkin:
exactly. miss trinidad is a MESS! 

and usually Trinis dominate in the looks department! 

in my opinion Miss Haiti, Miss Grenada, Miss Jamaica and Miss Dominica are the prettiest!

Miss Jamaica's complexion tho is a bit iffy and she kinda needs some foundation make up 
but she is beautiful none the less. She looks Cameroonian

What are the odds?   

Miss Haiti is DRIPPING hot.

@ Poster

With the way a bunch of people on here (names withheld) butcher the English language, together with the stupidity that comes out of their brains that end up as senseless posts on here, I don't even want to bother attempting to imagine what they look like. Waste of brain-space and time.

Some people take this ish too seriously. A nairaland crush? Might as well ask which disney character I have a crush on. Seriously.

;d

@ Poster

What if she is faking the pregnancy? Girls do this a lot. I know a girl who did this in order to manipulate her guy into marriage and it worked. But today, he resents her and they are separated because the foundation of their covenant wasn't love, it was deceit.

I will pull 10 wolis from incarceration to pray for you all and pour holy water on all y'all heads. Amen

Marrying a chick after two months of knowing her is like asking for everything that can go wrong, TO go wrong.

Don't do it. She will kill you.

None. I don't take peeps on here seriously and don't intend on meeting any "NL chicks." It's all entertainment.

Once kept it from an reserve in thex tht I was a reservist soldier. Knew how she felt about guns and war and didnt want her getting this info to my mom in naija.

^^^^ It's all about learning to "fight fair." Quarrels should only be a form of communication that stems from frustration and not a weapon to hurt the other person.

Hausas - love their language and the way it sounds. Very cohesive group of people who are simple and not loud/noisy.

Ndigbo - love their courage and adaptive nature. Ndigbo will survive and thrive anywhere, even if na afghanistan dem dey.

BTW - LAx, alias wine-n-dine bobo, is Yoruba.

My advice always is to keep a low profile. You know how our people love to floss and attract attention. Most of these kidnappings are facilitated by inside informants. Those who know the kidnapees business. Unfortunately, the situation will get worse before it gets better.

Lax is no wolee ooo. I bust wolees for a living, u dig? However, we can work something out. Just be sure that you wear short skirts whenever we have a meeting . I promise to look you in the eyes and not thighs as we parle, U dig?
So you dey naija? Was thinking you're in Canada.

Mynd_44:
Another scammer outta ideas

The bobo think say him na genius. Einstein of scamming, Yeah right.

^^^ I had to change the picture.