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Friendly vs Friendship! There's nothing wrong with being friendly with everyone/guys. But friendship with guys must be limited/allowed to the guys that ideologically, realistically and truthfully shares with you the same intent that necessitated the bonding. The most important thing is that you must have to be truthful and altruistic to yourself, by allowing only the goal(s) - which must not be romantic - that both of you have in common, to be the bond that hold the friendship, and make sure it never cross the line.

Friendship is not lesser in form than love. The only difference between friendship and love (parental love or erotic love) is that friendship unlike love has no observable biological necessity.

Basic123:
You will see Igbo(s),they will start taking him serious,they've started doing already self.

Kindly use the word IPOB instead Igbo when next you wish to make this kind of statement. I'm a bona fide Igboman myself - many of us do not subscribe to parochialism and sentimentality that are major hallmarks of an average IPOB proponent. . . . Even though most of the things they''re agitating for and saying are right and facts.

By the way, the mentality of an IPOB is akin to that of OPC in the South West, reformed NDVF in the South South and Kwankwasa in the North.

This man doesn't have shame at all. According to him, Sheriff will defeat Markafi at the supreme court. Also, according to him, Jonathan will win 2015 election. . . Take the man serious at your own peril.

I know that no sane and sound person ever take someone like this Ayo Elijah of a man serious.

The same man that irritatingly boldly said God told him that Sheriff and his faction of the PDP would emerge victorious at the supreme court.

He equally claimed in the time past that God told him that Jonathan would win the then 2015 election.

I've never seen any of his predictions cum prophecies that ever manifested in the last 15 years.

Loyalblak007:
I was told if you read your book, you will pass and have plenty money



I was also told that if you cheat, you will fail


You must either be A Doctor , An Engineer, A Lawyer ,A Banker to succeed



add yours

Believe you me, that your number one still remain sacrosanct. Your teachers didn't lie. I've never seen anyone that read his/her books - valuable books - well, hear, know and understand what's said in the valuable books, that's poor. Non.

Many are poor because, they either didn't read valuable books or they do but only hear, know but understand nothing. Conceit remains God's gift to small-minded people. 95 percent of conceited people are found among the class of people that knows everything but understand nothing. . . The articulate incompetents.

Come on! The logical thing to put into consideration is the size and revenue of the said law firm/company - she sought for employment - that offered her the employment and such salary.

Those are characteristics of a covetous woman/person. One is either ambitious, non ambitious or covetous.

Well, the worst risk/mistake any sane and content person would ever take is having as life/business partner, a covetous person. . . Non ambitious people, as bad as they're, are better than covetous people.

While ambitious people are powered by grit covetous people are powered by greed.

Also, while ambitious people live their lives on principle covetous people live theirs on expediency - anything goes.

More so, while covetous people are money conscious ambitious people are success conscious.

Covetous people's hallmarks are opportunism, insatiableness, ungratefulness and denigration. I loathe them big time.

I really won't blame her but you. Because had it been that you have defined yourself/achieved self-realization, you wouldn't be here seeking this type of advice.

Supposing that you already laid your principle before now, you ought to have known the type of woman you intend to have as a wife; a virtuous one or an evil one. And this would have enabled you to decide her case the very moment she started acting up.

If you're looking for a virtuous woman for a wife, she's not one.

Forget story. Political parties in particular and politics in general anywhere always has the elite godfathers and gladiators as the tune dictators.

The populace aren't better than the elite morally, intellectually and economically. So, unless when one wishes to be hypocritically disingenuous, would one resort to a statement like this political party is of and for the populace.

One principled political godfather/gladiator equals the strength of a million feeble-minded populace. Major hallmark of the populace is feeble-mindedness, thus, the reason why they will always remain a pawn in the hands of political godfathers and their ilks.

So far so good, what the country need now are politicians that are proponents and practitioners of politics of principle and conviction, irrespective of political party affiliation, class, gender and tribe.

This infamous news has been on the net since past 3 years, with variations in location; some says Togo, Ghana, Liberia, Nigeria etc. . . actual fact; some says pregnancy, hormonal imbalance etc.

So people, whenever you begin to believe in everything you read on the news, it's about time you stop reading, for the benefit of your sanity.

You aren't in a healthy relationship. Where true love exist you can never see any trace of guilt trip.

Only small-minded men do turn servile to ladies that turned down their advances, for whatever reason, just to have the same lady.

As far as I'm concerned, a lady's physical attraction/intellect will make me to fancy her, her good attitude when I approached her will make me to value her and give me courage to consider her for relationship/friendship while her good attributes will make me to sustain the relationship with her under many conditions expect when she becomes to manifest evil as attitudes.

In summary, I live life based on reason, I acknowledge everyone's right to free-Will and I only go to/stay at places where I'm celebrated. . . You can never see me for too long at any of the places where I'm neither tolerated nor unwanted. I'm no snub, I've no pride yet, I have my self-esteem.

No wonder I'm about the only man on earth that has never suffered heartbreak from any woman - despite the fact that I've been into the game for too long.

Funny and witty reply from the EFCC. They're called Economic and Financial Crime Commission not Envy and Persecution and Chastise Commission.

As I always say, neither quality education nor riches can make a woman of noble class to become an evil personified. Just as lack of quality education and wretchedness can never make an evil personified woman to become a virtuous woman.

A woman/person's ethical leanings will always constantly manifests in his/her attitudes. So, a man of noble class should endeavour to marry someone that's of same noble class and vice versa. Meanwhile, those of the small-minded class should always take whatever comes their ways.

Long story cut short; two major hallmarks of someone that love money is that s/he tends to be money conscious rather than success conscious. Also, such a person do live life on expediency rather than on principle.

@OP

Not until people like you understand that skill can be either mental or manual, would I begin to take anyone of you serious.

What everyone, not just women, need is to have an understanding of something valuable (i.e. skill) and commercialize same for the betterment of self and others. . . When you commercially better the lives of others through that which you understand, what you will gain in return is money.

I bet you, someone that's intelligent but has indignation for manual work can never make any headway should she go ahead to acquire skill in such line of act and vice versa.

If you intend to do it conscientiously and altruistically then, it worth it. However, if you are to do it opportunistically and feeble-mindedly, kindly refrain from doing it and save both yourself and the potential beneficiary needless stress and agony in the future.

ImaIma1:
Dishonesty in its totality.

All acts of lie are dishonesty but not all acts of dishonesty are lies. I sure know that when you understand this then you will find out that truly, you can accommodate a dishonest person who doesn't tell lies - diplomat. Well, I know that the kind of person you wouldn't accommodate is a perfidious person. And truly, no person of the noble class would contemplate putting up with a perfidious person.

While an act of a perfidious person/liar is detrimental to the other party, diplomacy which literally is an act of dishonest, but not an act of lie, isn't detrimental. Example of a diplomatic dishonest act; honey I'm coming to meet you where you're now, what's your location? While your honey is at home under the captive of armed robbers, for the love he has for you he doesn't want you to fall into the captive of the same armed robbers too, he says oh darling, I'm in the church, please stay where you're at present until I come over to pick you up.

From the analysis above, you can see that why he's dishonest to you about his location, yet his dishonest act - diplomacy - was to save you from danger.

Well, to the OP, even though your question is for those already married, that notwithstanding my status as a bachelor, let me chip in my thoughts. . . I can never put up with a perfidious, covetous, greedy and conceited person. I'd rather remain single than to tolerate any woman that possesses these four negative attributes.

Emotional abuse is worse than physical abuse. So, to avoid either, in case one mistakenly find himself/herself in such situation, separation/divorce is the best routes to follow.

One who lives on others opinion is as good as a dead person. . . This doesn't mean that one shouldn't seek for advise and make decisions based on other people's reasonable opinions.

@OP, believe you me, your major problems are; you're not self-willed, thus the reason why you're more concerned about what others think and your high regards to their dictates. Secondly, you haven't achieved self-realization yet. . . Because connotation of your message points to a man who doesn't know yet what he really wants.

Try to defined yourself first, and prudentially map out your needs, then make your decision on that basis.

Escabado:
@ op Lol I can't stop laughing , shey na una want date and marry educated girls and classic girls . Lol 90% of educated girls in Nigeria are feminist and broke . They don't have any atom of respect for men

Believe you me, neither quality education nor accumulated riches can make any lady evil personification. Yes, all wannabe feminists are evil personification. . . Their ethical leanings do. Riches and quality education only helps make such class of ladies to be bold enough to exhibit their evil attributes. Those among them in this ignoble class who aren't fortunate enough to acquire quality education and riches are always left with two options; when they are lucky to marry a man of goodwill with money, they pretentiously become servile to the man. But when nature unfavours them with a never-do-well man, that's where you see them make life a living hell for such man.

In summary, quality education and accumulated riches aren't the reason wannabe feminists - my love for real feminists is unquantifiable - exhibit their evil attitudes. A virtuous woman can never be caught possessing domineering and conceited attributes, which are the hallmark attributes of evil personified women.

@OP

You met a wannabe feminist. That's their way, they propagate female domineeringness over men - which is the same evil the true feminist are fighting about against small-minded men. Only small-minded people of either sexes propagate and practices/have the wish to practice domineeringness against other people.

I love true feminists. True feminists are proponents of live and let live philosophy. They're conscientious and free will proponents for all.

Even though I don't hold brief for the governor, but it baffles me whenever I hear people go to war intentionally or otherwise and still expect their opponents to treat them with kid gloves. Pathetic. Senator Ita-Giwa should learn how to fight like a warrior.

What you need at this juncture isn't necessarily another piece of paper but an aptitude on valuable things that will make you to become productive to yourself in particular and the world at large. When you have an understanding in something important - aptitude - together with some good attitude, careful planning and little start-up funds, you'll appreciate nature.

A virtuous woman that has a high status career, and married a man of goodwill, can never experience trouble in her marriage.

However, when a woman is evil personification, her high status career will make her to become more bold in exhibiting her evil attitudes and that automatically will brought about trouble to her marriage, unless she married a dummy. Also, in the event that she's virtuous and unluckily marries a small-minded/evil man, trouble in the marriage will sure be inevitable too.

In summary, people's ethical leanings will always define how their relationship with others can be. So I wonder why one would marry someone of different ethical leanings when same person can get one that shares the same ethical leanings like him/her.

HARDDON:
Con what?
Is that the term u players use in describing men worth their balls? Men who dont go scavenging everythin in skirts? breaking lil gurls hearts?


Paint it anyhow u will: disappointed/heartbreak.... they are all thesame n every1 that has ever related with the oposite sex intimately must pass through itz freaking fangs . Just like all men experience wet dreams n d chest of gurls protrude to b00bs


Ur last paragraph shows u have read n r a follower of Dating Drills . Probably twisted the drills n applied them negatively........No?

Boy! I don't join issue with small-minded people like you. This virtual world has given every Tom, Dick and Harry an avenue to overestimate their importance.

From all indications, I'm old enough to father you. Now vamoose and look for your mates elsewhere.

[quote author=HARDDON post=58015875]Don't act like a conceited person. Conceit is God's gift to small-minded people.

For your information, I'm so gifted that once I come into contact with anyone, it never takes me more than 2 meeting occasions to dissect such a person's attributes.

I still maintain my earlier position, no lady anywhere in the world has ever broken my heart. I can only feel disappointed. . . In the occasion that maybe someone I assumed from afar to be of goodwill turns out in close contact to be evil. Disappoint shouldn't be mixed up with heartbreak.

I only go to places where I'm celebrated but you can never find me at places where I'm tolerated least of where I'm not wanted.

HARDDON:
Very Wrong!

What they luv is your been easily manipulated to do their bidding.

Nice guys always eat left overs from bad boys. Even some left overs still rub their noses on d dust of humilation

Dating ladies isnt logical

To each his own. Always remember that you don't have monopoly of knowledge.

I'm a realist. No lady has ever broken my heart before and I've been around the game for a very long time. So, I'm seasoned when it comes to issues of this nature.

By the way, a sane, sound and smart lady/person can never be found within the ranks of people of the manipulative ethical leanings. Perfidiousness shouldn't be mixed up with cleverness just as conceitedness shouldn't be mixed up with intelligence.

Every sane lady loves a nice/good - loyal - guy. However, what sane ladies don't love is gullible/feeble-minded - servile - guys.

In fact, it's not just only ladies that dislike servile guys. Every sane person normally dislike someone that's servile. . . At most a servile person can be admired in his/her presence, but such a person never commands respect and love of others.

This is same philosophy that makes it usually impossible for those that ass-lick their bosses or people above them in social class from gaining meaningful things from them.

A very sane, sound and smart person knows that behind the nice persona of a servile person is a hypocrisy personification.

The importance of self-realization, self-will and willpower can never be overemphasied.

Self-realization makes it very easy for one to dissect another within few days of close contact while willpower enables one to make rational decision as quick as possible. . . Someone who has willpower can never see raging fire and walk into it with hope that it'll abate when s/he enters into it. Meanwhile, self-will will save one from accepting what nature throws at him/pressure from small-minded people instead he does things according to his conscience.

Yes, people do change thus the importance of marrying someone who has achieved self-realization just like you ought and supposed to have achieved before going into marriage.

I for one, for instance, I know that the worst thing I can do to myself will be to marry someone who's not of same belief systems like me.

Come on! The simple rule is; don't seek for refuge in any place/organization where you aren't ready to commit your unwavering loyalty. Obedience is better than sacrifice hence more glorifying. The little girl goofed.

My submission herein notwithstanding, religion of any kind remains an object of subjugation. I despise religion. If you need religion to do good you simply lack good morals. . . Change your ethical philosophy instead.

For the first time, in a long time, Ohaneze ndi Igbo has a sagacious leader.

Living a life on conviction and principle remain the best and most effective way to live in peace with others irrespective of one's stratum. More so, it's a sure secret to both inner and out peace.

In Nnamdi Kalu, I always see a power monger, an unwitty one at that. A potential dictator without fortress. He and his IPOB miscreants should respect themselves. His disposition and uncouth utterances always depict him as a lowlife, even though on principle every sincere person could see the truth in most of the causes he's championing.