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did a internet search: Recent statistics suggest that 40% of women (and that number is increasing) and 60% of men at one point indulge in extramarital affairs.

Stop generalizing about men cheating. 40% of women cheat!!!

Cheating is not about gender. It is more about relationships. The friend in your post should really look at her marriage and figure out why her husband is unhappy with their sx lives.

Good luck

To answer all your questions:

It is better to be single and happy than to marry the wrong person and be unhappy.

Marriage is good, but make sure you marry the right person. We all struggle, but when you overcome you struggles you over come a challenge. What does not break you makes you stronger.

Everyone has a right to live there dream.  Your dad's was to have a son. He has my respect, despite what your mom and you daughters objections, he stood fast to his goals.  You should learn from your father, when you move to your own future, remember, everyone has a right to be happy and pursue their dreams.

Now if we can get people like your mother and sisters to support their men. We might be happier.

You left something out.  LOVE, divorce or happiness.

You can have love but still be unhappy,  if this is the case, stay married things will pass.

If no Love, and no happiness, then choose divorce.

She is all used up, and lost all her hopes. She has nothing to give you cause everyone else has taken it. She is an empty shell, Move ON!

Can't rescue people playing or falling into the victim role. Only way they learn is to let them handle the problem themselves. Learn to take charge of your own life. That is what you need to learn.

skylo:
, they still dn't appreciate you and otherwise,they still complain, educate me the more, what else can we do as ladies, ?sorry to say,dnt think men really loves.

Sadley, sounds like your making a bunch of internalized assumptions. Also you might have a victimized perspective of men. Go look up the "Karpman drama triangle" Your conditioned to fall into that trap if your words are really your views about men. You have some other issues. If you let go, you might discover there really is love beyond self views.

Nowadays, lots of guy are trying to get the taller model types. They are more attractive and a status symbol. Taller is in.

Sad story of a dying family. Bought tears to my eyes. This woman is scared and is having a difficult time confronting dying alone. The man sacraficed to comfort her.

I know this picture, it is from a United volunteers on Project hope article. Why would you people think they are having some kind of relationship?

You Nigerians get stranger by the minute, thinking everone wants to get some Black Nigerian penus.

I do not care what anyone say's, women control pregnancy. Best way to remove this control, if for men to get a vasectomy and put their seed on ice.

Not only that, but a lot of women will give more sx, knowing the man is sterile.

Always been this way.

Dummy, Get on with your life. Stop putting up with being a sxual recepticle for a man's seed.

Get the hint? Stop letting yourself being USED!!!

Get some help

We are doing it. We are waiting for our visa to go through. We use lots of skype, cyber sx, If I am lucky I get a sx fashion show. We see eachother about every other month. It is costly.

@ googles,

There are plenty of us dragons. While your waiting for you knight in shining armor, mind if we hook up. It is ok, We are not looking for meaningful relationship. I realize we are second to your imaginary future partner. I know you must have endless nights of frustration. Us dragons can help out with that. See, there are a lot of us guys out there, who are not looking for commitment. We just want to be:

Friends with benefits, No strings attached,

about $22,000. She is well worth every penny.

Dear Dummy, stop messing with the neighborhood goodies, and start spending more time with the wife.

If not, you will end in divorce and you children will be lost.

U should be happy you think you may be in love. Must take a lot to let go completly. I want to find this feeling.

Stop being so chicken sh.it. and just jump or you will be in the same place you are.

Your to critical, cut and dry, black or white, either or thinking.   People like you are quick to judge, you may even be negative or pepessimistic

Can't you just learn to relax and accept things for what they are.  Your going to end up with an ulcer.  Take what you can from every moment and enjoy!!!

She is a flirt,  enjoy that she is.

Give the problem to your sis and bud out, miss busy body.

Prenups are for the rich and wealthy or people with business organizations who are not incorporated. It is a tool to protect others, not necessarily yourself.

I think it is good.

I would be cool if you adopt a white baby. Go see the movie,"The Jerk" with Steve Martin. He plays a white man who was adopted by a black family. It was not until he was older that his black father told him he is actually white.

Go get a taste some of that black berry. Start at the top and lick all the way down. Go up and down, like a wet snake. Stop at the berry and go for a nibble.

Problem is lack of commitment to the institution of marriage.

Move on and stop being so weak!!!

Man wants your friend back cause he is weak also.

U or your friend are home wreckers!  Leave that family alone.  Not only that, but being that they only marry from the same town; no new genetics are introduced to that town.  Sounds like a bunch of incest!!!!  Stay away, he probably married his sister or aunt or something weird like that.

Thats the problem with the 80% of unhappy married Nigerian men. They do not know how to keep power in their own homes. You weaklings should learn to leave the wife and not put up with sh.i.t. !!!

U dumped the first guy, now your thinking of dumping the second guy. Your not a good woman for any guy. You treat us like used toilet paper, discarding us.

Someday, your going to loose your youthful looks and figure, and someone might dump you in the garbage.

Nice to look at. You can look, but you can't touch the goodies. Women are magical creatures.

If you guys are ok with your level of privacy, than it is ok. Everyone is different

It all depends on social class. If you are upper class and white, than of course it is a man's world. If you are middle class, of course it is a woman's world.

I would prefer the wife to earn more. Masculinity or Male authority is not based on money or earnings in a relationship. If it ever becomes this way, than your manhood is on a week foundation of a false ideals.