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Are you Bi?  Be a polygamist, you can have a 3some. 

I am not trying to be rude, but really if you believe in your BF loving you and that is all that matters. If you really believe in that?

You may not be the brightest person around and so you better hold on to him and his other future wife, because that might be the only successful future you may have.

Feminism - when women decided to become like men Women have been trained to be as men. They like to compete on all levels, so they now chase us men. The men are becoming like women, turning women down, unless they have something to offer.

Crazy woman made it harder on yourselves.

michelin89:
Why don't you simply say you want customers for your brothel?

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After this post, I was thinking naija women are prostitutes for clothes and shoes.

Nice to see one naija woman who is not a prostitute.

Women wake up and smell the roses. The older you become the less desirable you will be. Men like younger women. We think about having children and as you age your productive years decrease. Do not waste your years waiting on a man to make a decision to commit. Most men like to stay single, but with some encouragement, we commit.

Your 34, you still ok to be married. Your selection of men are less, because all the good men are taken by smart women thinking about he future. Most men in your age group are married or divorced with children and married again.

Stop wasting your years, keep your options open and seriously think about finding some other guy. If you wait until your 40 to finally get married, you might find a 70 year old gramps, cause no smart man will select you with all the women available.

Dude, be a man with some authority(testicles)  take charge of the relationship.  She is a starving student. She is a winner!!!! better than most women. She has ambition and dreams. She is a bad azz woman because she is putting her self through school. 

I hear you, I hate women telling me all the material things they want.  You can invalidate her by simply telling her, after she finishes school, she can get a job and get those things for herself.  Stick to that response.

Don't be the rescuer, Be there to help her, but be careful, your not her saviour. if you do rescue her you will get resentment from her, because you are not empowering her.  Remember to always empower ambitious people to live their potential or they will hate those that hold them back.

Worry about yourself and you own needs.  Stop being her best shopping friend and be a man and get some of the pssy.  Isn't that what men really want?  Unless your a Gay Boy!!! 

Figure a way out to let her know your intentions.  You have what she wants, and that is stability in her unstable life.  Don't give it away for free.  NOW go get some pssy and stop being a Gay Boy!!!

lol Nigerian beauties,

I'll take the one with the fake blue contact lenses and the straightened relaxed hair.

Sounds like your friend has a skeleton in the closet.

Come on dude. She is a poor woman. If your in a serious relationship, why don't you want to help her?

Nothing more intimate than helping someone you love. Key word is love, make sure she love you also.

then help eachother get ahead in this world. It is tough out there.

Your post has been hijacked by a bunch of haters.

I am American, and I had no problem dating the few African women I met. They play harder to get, but in reality, they looking for a meaningful relationship just like any other woman.

Just learn a better game(communication) and they can love you as well as an African as well as an European.

Yeah, train those girls while they are young. You can get her heart set on that 1 carot diamond ring when she gets married.

funny thing is all this talk about african tradition and kneeling to groom. Has it always been a tradition to have cake at the wedding? Seems to me a lot of your traditions have been washed out with Western ideals.

Maybe she wanted to save it for a snack later on. It's a well packaged protein shake.

Yes, we frown sometimes. Really with the right partner you will do more smiling then frowning. I frown when the wife is PMSing, She is a real pain in the bum.

I piss her off sometimes also. I guess when your married, you can really let your reservations go and be the real you. When your a dating couple, we put our best foot forward.

Y did he have to get a Nigerian GF when there are so many single lonely African American females in the USA ?

Oh I get it, cause the African American female has to much attitude and men are just tired of putting up with it.

there are plenty of fish in the ocean.  In fact I know a lonely dwarf friend. He is not very attractive, but if your friend has a good heart, she may deserve my dwarf lonely friend.  Let me know, I will hook her up.  FYI: he is poor, and still lives with him mum.

Point is: there are lots of people alot worse off then your friend, so stop being a cry baby for her.

lol, this is funny. All women want to be chased and sought after. It is called social validation. Understand that and you can get into any woman's panties.

U need househelp from Nigeria? Sure go import a fine young sxy woman for the husband. See what happens.

Why is it that most successful women are the ugly ones?  They get all those degrees, house, and car. Then they say,"I don't get it, how come I can't find a successful man?"

The truth is that most successful men are not interested in successful women, because they do not need them. What they want is a good looking woman.

I don't care how successful a woman is. No guy going to sleep with an unattrative women. Maybe those successful women should go get some liposuction and breast augmentation. Also read up on some Kama Sutra books.

sure i would change some. We all do without realizing it. It is natural. What do you think, U live life on an island? Egocentric.

Crazy Germans

Africanas are so funny, everyone in the world is laughing at you.

Do not marry out of pity. U R hurting the person you are marrying. They deserve to be married for love and nothing short of that.

mutter:
The dressing problem already starts with the kids.
There is no more children's fashion. Kids now wear cloths made for adults only in smaller sizes.
Even for babys you have some outfits on the market now
I see many little girls of African decent at about 9- 10 running around here with outrageous cloths, heavy make up and attachments and wigs not appropriate for kids.
It just looks cheap and these kids get exposed faster to sexual experiences, even from older men.

Capitalism at it's worst. The fashion industry is marketing to children for the Almighty dollars. It infuences the western world, and before you know it you have a generation of slutty children. How can you combat world culture?"fashion industry"

I had it done.  I have two children from two different women from two different times in my life.  After the second, unplanned pregnancy, I decided never to put my fate into a woman's hands.

The operation is minor.  Doc used a local anesthetic and I recovered later in the day.  The nurse, she told me she had 6 children and had her husband get it done.

When the women found out I had it done, they really wanted sex all the time.  Many women do not like to take birth control and I do not like condoms.

If any man wants children later on, he should consider getting their spermatozoa frozen.  It will last indefinitely and later used to impregnant any future partners.

Sounds like your friend is hurt which is understandable. Any advice would be self-evident. She already knows what she has to do. Now she just needs the strength to move forward. I would face the fear of moving forward to the healing process. Hopefully she is not afraid of being alone for a while. She will probably harbor fears of trust, cause of the parent thing. Yuck - more baggage, so work on that also.

Do not listen to the Witch Doctors or Evangilist of this post. Believe me Staph is a very serious infection that can end your life.

My daughter caught a staph infection on the corner of her mouth, It entered all the way along her jaw and to her neck. The doc said it could have infected her jaw bone and would have been transported through her bones. Luckily we caught it just in time.

It can kill in minutes when it infects the organs.

Point is only way to cure it was with different antibiotics. My mother in law died from a staph infection from a simple gall bladder operation.

As I said, do not play with staph.

Outsiders(single girl friends) and the grass is always greener on the other side. Afterwards, she wanted to come back, but it was to late. I had found someone else and fell in love.

My new lover became my wife and knows better. The ex is a lonely woman desperately seeking the ever elusive love and commitment.

Obviously you two are not evenly yoked. Hopefully her passion is the same as yours or she just might seek something else on the side.

Sorry to hear the bad news. Stats show 40% of women do cheat. It is just the way it is.

It is a dam shame!!! I do not think I would want to stay in that situation. I probably would divorce for something like this.

with young children it's not big deal. We are family. When my daughter became older she does not like to UnCloth or vice versa, but she is ok about either one of us undressing in the same room, but she will tell us she is undressing so don't look. I do the same cause I accomodate her comfort level.

My son, he does not care, but I think guys are like that.

My mom, she is an asian woman and has no problem about me seeing her nude. She is an old woman in her 60's. I think it all just depends on your family culture.

do you homework.

If your a US citizen and married to a foreigner, file the I-130(spouse or relative visa) U will recieve a NOA(notification of action). I think you said you got one. After you received the NOA, make a copy of it and file the I-129. There are no additional fees cause you already paid when you filed the I-130. The I-129 is a fiance visa, but it can be used for spouses as well. The I-129 is about a 6 month process. You will have a finacee visa until your I-130 gets approaved.

pinkielove:
any ideas on how to deal with someone who s always defensive and proud to admit and say sorry will be welcome

It's called the Karpman drama triangle.  You and hubsband are playing two roles of the triangle, victim and perpertrator.   It goes back and forth, you two will be switching roles cause eventually you'll feel victimized, so he will end up being the perp and you the vic.  Later you start feeling resentment and you become the perp and he the vic. 
Best way to avoid the roles of the drama triangle is to recognize when you are going to be snarred in this cycle.  When you see it avoid it.  Try giving a non responsive response to his objections. 
husband vic will prob say something like, "You don't trust me, ect."  Your non response should be validation, but come back to your own needs of understanding where the stain has come from.  Non response is saying something like,"Yeah, in this case I do not trust, so I just want to know for my own sake."  When you validate you repeat back what he said, It usually shuts people up and gets them moving to solutions.