@ tolutara, sober up and re read the post yourself of the 14 post only two are neutal. The other 12 said NO to the posters question. This is a NL forum so use some sense and realize it is around NL people. I am just defending men and showing people you don't have to believe in this idiot stereo type that men are cheaters. It is a stereo type to degrade and disrespect men. Why don't we thinking of women that way? Let's be equal.

Girls want a lot, and stupid men cater to them. Before you know it you have a monster on your hands. Treat them like children and do not spoil a woman. Make sure they give in return. You should have posted what a man wants as well.

read your own words.  Your not ready for one reason or another.  Your just not ready. Never let a woman control you.  

Men control commitment and women control sx.  Don't allow the women to play both gender roles, unless your a submissive man.

He gave you a blackberry and you took it

You are well on your way to prostitution. Eventually playing your game your going to have to give up the Pssy. Nothing is free, so you will learn how to earn things on your back with your legs wide open.


Lesson: Don't take things from men, you are disgracing yourself and making it harder for all women.

"how can i handle this situation without affecting my marriage and digracing my former girlfriend"


Hey Mr. Dummy OP. Why you worried about disgracing the former girlfriend? Loser man you don't deserve your wife. You are to much into your own vanity and your ego is exagerrated by you pitiful former girlfriend. The only victim I see is your wife. The wife should dump a weak man like yourself, because you lack commitement to her. You should not have any children and get a vascetomy.

@OP

Get over it and move on from her. She is in the past, stop living in the past and come to the Present. Take care of your commitment to the here and now. You obligation is long gone, and only place it lives is in your memory.

If you do help her, you current Girl should dump you for being such a weak man. Stop sharing yourself.

Interesting to read everyone's view of the NL men.  Seems the overwhelming response is that your men cheat no matter what.

I think it is sad that you actually believe in this stereotyped view of your men.  You must think of them as lacking integrity and commitment to their families.  You look at them as being weak.  Even the men posted the same view.  It is really pitiful that you perceive your own men in this way. 

If I were a woman from NL I would not even consider a LTR in a culture where the men are predispostioned to cheat and damage their own families.

Just plain pitiful.

It's a free country so go ahead and think of yourselve this way.

It not only on BBC news, it is in the USA. It has to do with women, education and carreer goals. Educated women are waiting longer to have children, and educated women are higher up on the economic social class.

Your reading to much into the text. Your assuming. Go call her and find out what is up? Maybe she has a doc appt?

Dyt:

walk up to er one day n jst land er sexy lips wit kisses

^^Funny, going to get this guy slapped!!!

Poster, try candid expression: Before you talk to her, see what you can offer her to make yourself interesting to her. Are you a decent guy, looking for a relationship? Want to get to know her, cause she seems interesting? Offer her something, after the offer, tell her your interested in her. Let her know.

Dump her. She probably will be the type that won't give you lots of BJ's

Tell her you want to spend some time away from her, because you think she is to reserved.

If she gets dumped enough by different men, her attitude will be adjusted and she will eventually be conditioned to fit better into society.

Women blame men, cause society usually puts the blunt of the responsibility on the MAN. Women are trained or conditioned this way from a young age.

Think about all the stereotype women put on men:

Cheaters
chauvinist
perverted
abusive
Lustfull
etc etc

By the time they become adults and start seeking a relationship, they have a hard time valueing the male gender. Women get a free meal ticket for being born with a coochie.

If she lesbian or bi, it can acutually be fun. But if she was introduced to this lifestyle in secondary school by some school mother, she could have been damaged mentally. I would not want to marry a mentally damaged women, cause other problems could be there.

Just be yourself!!!  If your a good guy, then be good or you will never be happy being something that your not.  Nothing more admirable that someone with integrity and honor.

The problem is when good guys are WEAK!!!  People get confused thinking a good guy is a weak guy.  These are two different types of men.  Obama is a good guy, but he is not a weak guy.

You sound like a weak guy.  You can change into a good guy.  Learn how to socially interact with women.
Do you even know your expecations?  What you want? or are you trying to accomondate some women.  Which woman wants to be with a man who does not know what he wants or expects out of relationships?  How can you lead in a relationship? 

Half the time women don't know what they want, so they rely on a strong guy for leadership. 

Now do your homework and write down your wants then come back and post.

^^^^  Why?  Expose the truth,  Expose the dysfunction. ^^^^

Preference is a more gentle way of saying prejudice.  I am not sure how Nigeria is, USA we strive for diversity. It is a constant battle here to be diverse and eliminate race as a critieria for opportunity.

Poster keep you options open.  You have more choices that way.  Love can be right under your nose, but your bias may limit your opportunities and choices in LIFE.

Obviously you feel the love has fizzled in your marriage. Instead of him, do you know what you need or want to feel inlove or loved again? Is it a feeling? Change in routines? Vacation? what?

I say sort that part out and you can just begin to understand your problem.

10 years, children, step family, friends, and a husband is a lot of investment to throw away. Spend time analyzing your problem first.

Go tell your husbands to get their seed on ice(frozen) and get a vasectomy (nuts tied).

Enjoy your life. Verify the truth, and move towards divorce. Sometimes people fall out of love with eachother. It happens. Your life may be screwed because of alimony and child support, but you still have a life. Go enjoy it, there is always love once you move on. It is a beautiful world.

YOU are God sent. I never knew such a woman like you existed? Your husband is blessed, you make his life so much easier by just telling him.

One lucky man.

Men are not impressed by getting a wedding ring. Women, way over rated, like a bunch of flock of chickens gobbling in chicken language between eachother about the wedding or engagement ring. It is ridiculous!!!

I ended up getting a pink diamond for my wife. It was a painful experience. Do you know how hard it is to find a natural pink diamond? Good luck. I hated the experience, but in the end it paid off. See I am so lucky to have the privilege at giving away a diamond ring. right? I am still confused.

Love it, but then again I am a kind of guy that likes to get some behind some bushes. But hey! I am sx freak, and proud of it!!!

@olas2u It is called INTENT, and INTENT is a good indicator of moral character. I would never want to be in a serious relationship with anyone who dates people based off of color or national origin. She should just move to Nigeria, and it won't be an issue there, unless Nigeria is a culturally diverse land. In that case, she just needs to stick to finding a partner who is a biggot.

Go look at some old National Geographic Mags, and you will know why. Women in their natural state sag down to their stomachs.

Don't feel bad ladies, men sag down to our knees.

Nigerian preference huh?  U sound like some of the White women, who exclusively date Black men. 

Is there a Mandingo brotha out there that can give this desperate woman a good humping  She needs it bad.  Once you go black you never go back!!!

Don't get serious with this woman, but just giver her a good Rogering.

Borrow or rent a car and try a fake atm receipt:  http://www.customreceipts.com/

Guaranteed to land that gold digging biotch.  She deserves it also.  Get some fake jewerly also.  By the time it fades you would have turned that Gold digging biotch out.

I live in an all white town and go to an all white church. The minister was preaching and telling the congregation how things have changed for the worst. Things are hard. "using the fear tactic to bring people to God" I was thinking about American Black history, and I thought to myself, how can this guy make such a claim. These are the best times for Black Americans. I do not get how can he say such things? I would never want to go back to the past, where things were real hard for black people in America.

I think there are a lot of doomsdayers out there, but listen with an objectionable mind, not subjective.

Take magic for what it is. It is stage entertainment!!! It is fun to watch. I know a few magic tricks I used in bars. You can use it as a pickup line. The ladies really did palm reading. Now that really works.

The man is single and rich. He can sleep and enjoy who ever he wants!!!!

If you need to cheat, maybe you married the wrong person? The person you marry, should be the most desired person in the world. If you don't have that, think twice about marrying, she may not be the one.

Nothing like coming home after a long days work, and being with the person you love. Nothing like making love without sheets and the lights on with no inhibitions. The person you marry, should make you feel like your true sxual self. Be free and completely who you are. If you do not have that, then you probably will cheat.

Myself - my wife knows I am a sx freak, My hobbie is the karma sutra, and everyone knows, even my friends. I also carry a cello case that holds all my sx accessories (vibrators, lube, candles, clothing). We go on holiday, and I bring my cello case. Sometimes people think I am a musician and will inquire. The wife smiles at me, she gets a kick out of it. I have yet to desire other women, cause really my wife gives me what I want!!!

Go get a job, and keep your earnings separate. You keep your money and let him keep his. That way you can eat like a Queen and let him eat like a beggar. He will eventually learn to keep his own money for himself.

Hope you learned not to be such a push-over. Instead of trying to please and meet the woman's expectations, learn to be a MAN-dingo and get your needs met.

I'd be cautious about becomming a married couple.  Seems you both lack commitment to work through your problems and become stronger.  You known this woman for a very long time, sounds like you two value eachother as friends, so stay friends.  Not often do we have friends of the opposite gender for so many years.