The reality of your questions is that it is biased with the implication that men are dishonest.

To refute your question would only imply that your argument is true.  Your post is a loaded question.  So it is a trap.

Sadly if you really think this way, any man you find will have the  problem of your pre assumed view of him.  You will always be in a position judgment.

You should avoid all men until you fix this problem, because any man you connect with will be drama.

no car, no job, living at home, two kids, no ambition, Sounds like depression, and I think he needs help!!!!


Obviously this guy has a lot of drama in his life that broke his WILL POWER. You ever think his mind is recovering from depression

He initially reached out to you, because that is his survival mechanism or his way of asking for help. You may not have the ability to help this man, because you are looking for something else, so you asking for your own help.

Crazy woman wants you to read her mind.

Blah, Blah, Blah, Same old story, Guy takes advantage of woman, So what Don't you women and emasculated men get tired of all this , VICTIM stuff!!!!

Nigerians get stranger by the moment. So this 40 year veteran giving advice Meanwhile his wife left to be with her friends. Stupid wife should just go and marry her friends if they mean that much.

As for Gramps, he should just go out and get him a younger woman and live life twice. Second thought, to much trouble marrying twice. He should just play the field.

Rocktation:

But men are confused souls too, you know. They get whatever they say they want in a gurl, but still chase after some more gurls. They're even worse than females by far.

^^^Men are consistent,  what you see is what you get.  Woman, we have no idea what they want.  One moment they want something, go gossip to friends come back and want something else.  Watch out for PMS,  they really loss.  Also they get insecure and not sure, cause they so scary
Men just give up and stick to your own decisions.  Let them babble on and feel like they the queen.  Don't take it personal, they can't help it.

I think it is cool, do some familyl bonding. Wish my Dad and I could work together. I'd listen to him and take his advice.

Funny Dude, you have this whole conversation happening in your head,

I wonder how come there is so much drama between the both of you about communications

Sounds like your frustrated or angry. Best way to fight frustration is to adjust your own expectations to reality, and not necessarily what you want for yourself.

Good points, basically your say what we always knew,"WOMAN CAN'T MAKE UP THEIR MINDS!!!!"

You guys are getting boring. You need to spice it up a bit. Stop being so lazy or complacent.

Nothing wrong with a 30 year old virgin.  I would be careful though.  Sometimes you meet these women that do not enjoy sx as much as you are not compatible.  

Maybe there are things to talk to them to make sure they are the same level as you before marriage.  They can be a dead fish in bed, and they should get married to the old old man with no sx drive.

If your truly pregnan??,

Do yourself a favor. Go tell your husband you need to speak to him alone. Ask him if he has mental problems for leaving you during this critical time?

Get the point?

Dude, this is harsh news. If this is real, I never personally knew anyone in this situation. It sucks!!!

What I learned is that after 20 years, you wife is selfish. She should have just lived with ther mistake, take it to the grave.

This is why I tell young men, in todays age, you need to be selfish yourself with a selfish woman. It balances out the relatinoship. You need to be selfish and do what is best for you.

Period!!!!

Really, Nigerian woman wait for their suiters years on end? This is strange. Nigerian woman must put up with a lot of stuff. Maybe you can be a pack horse next? Maybe not, you need a back bone to do that.

If you are a couple, do what is best for the relationship.

My ex-girl friend, we still hang out!!! We are friends forever. We go out clubbing, drinking, and dancing.  Sometimes we slow dance together, just as friends though!!!!

We dance all night long, it gets so hot and steamy.  It's a treat when slow songs play; we move to the seductive tunes. Her soft sweet body pressed against mine, and those all so soft glossy lips against my neck, nibbling sweet words to my ear.  I can feel her smooth warm curves through her slender dress.  When my hand glides down her sleek back and over her curves, I soon feel her hot passionate skin.  Her softness, her warmth, I pull her into me, and reminisce our moments,   I am in a trance with the DJ, the puppet master,  playing his songs of lust, we listen to his music, with our bodies intertwined, embraced and gyrating to the tunes.  I am firm, and press her closer to me,

Thank your ladies for being so supportive of married men having friends of the past.  You are our future dreams wives.  Ménage à trois anyone  okay. you don't play that way. Why the sudden change of heart?

look at all the athletes, and how they train. It is all about consistency. Consistently being one hand or the other. It is better to be strong in one hand than mediocre in both. You might have a future Tiger Woods. He is one handed and practices to get better in one hand. So please let the child be his best at his natural way.

Basically she establishing with you that you need to [/b]PAY [b][/b]your way to get between her legs.  She is a good training opportunity on how to deal with materialistic woman.

Her problem is that she will never be deep enough to have a meaningful relationship, so have fun with it.  Do no pay for anything, just tell her you do not believe on wasting money on any woman unless they may potentially be that  [b][/b]ONE [b][/b]special person who you may spend your life with.  This will expose her shallowness to herself and give you a way out of not paying.  It will also hook her to a potential prospect, because your letting her know you may have something to offer her (real relationship).  

If she has a come back and puts you down or calls you cheap.  Just say,"Are most women in your family [b][/b]GOLD DIGGERS?"[b]  This will invalidate her comments,  quickly change the subject and lead the conversation to what you want to talk about.    With this type of format you might increase your chance of bagging her in bed.  
Good luck and Good hunting!!!

I agree with Cork. Don't be so scared. Your basing your relationships off of fear. A man can't act on fear. Be the Man you were intended to be, take the risk and go get some pleasure. Nothing nicer than the warm softness of a woman. Get over your hurt and fight on.

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@ ds700

First There is nothing wrong in you telling her your actual intension's (IE if you really love her and if u see yourself having a future wiv her)
And lastly i dont think she might consider any guy any time soon should you fail to make your intension known
esp when she knows she is in a serious affair,You know what most ladies want is Just SECURITY and Trust from a guy and not
necessarily money or sex!

^^^ smart person^^^ Don't be afraid to express yourself ever!!! You will get much more respect, courage, and your are teaching yourself how to make YOU happy. I met my wife on line, and I loved her before I met her. To this day, she wonders how I can do this? She can not understand, that my love is based on spiritual love, and is not dependent on the material world or society views. It is a leap of faith.

Cosmass:

How old and what was the age difference? And you should blame the woman you married or yourself not "being young". Who says older people don;t divorce

8 years difference. It could be me, or it could be her, it takes two. I have since stuck to older women and found I am more compatible with people close to my age. I think there is something about life experience that helps. I am married now and my wife is a few years older. I am very happy.

You sound like a nice lady, and you finished your degree. The world is yours. I know it might not mean much at the moment, but If I were younger and single, I wish I was mature enough to appreciate the true beauty people really have. Unfortuanately when I was young, I did not appreciate things the way I do now.

Things for you are in the past now(yoru relationship), so save yourself and your love for that One person who will eventually come along. Don't give away all your love or time to men that are passerbys.

Inked_Nerd:

Unfortunately, some girls/women have been taught to believe that s.ex is wrong and by showing some sort of enjoyment in it is wrong as well.

InkNerd. This is why I believe a woman's inhibition is dependent on her Man. Your argument is based off a Man's judgement of a Woman. From personal experience, if a Man behaves in such a way that he appreciates his partners sxual nature and breaks away form societies norms. A Woman is free to be uninhibited.

I have freed many woman, because I do not judge but express appreciation to encourage her to be herself.

Tell the man not to give a gift. You know women, they take longer to heal after a break up. Usually they blame the world on you. After a while they move on and they can be plutonic friends.

Giving a gift soon after break up will only lengthen closer of the end. Your friend should help her out by leaving her alone for a while.

I married a young woman, and my life was a living hell. Now that we are divorced, I learned my lesson: Never again!!!!

Don't take it so personal.  Many times after a disagreement or a fight, it is better for a man to go away and release his adreniline based testosterone induced rage or anger somewhere else other than his own home.

If you women only realized and respect that Men are Men, possibly during a fight you can do something other than fuel the rage.  Try being peaceful instead of so sporadic.  Ever argue with a women.  They never make sense half the time, and it is so irritating.

~Sissy~:

your wife is in that phase almost all new mothers go through. caring for a new baby, husband, household and her self, is certainly ridiculously overwhelming. the stress of having being responsible for a new little person is more than stress enough to cloud your very sense of self. and sex at this phase is certainly not the priority. so, inasmuch as it is hard to make sense of everything now, you cant deny her your faithfulness. I'm sure she too WANTS the intimacy ,

@ Sissy,  I've been in this situation.  My wife put our son in our bed.  It lasted for four years.  We even started seeing a therapist to try to get our son in his own bed.  All intimacy stopped between us.  We tried to save our marriage, but it was like my wife was married to our son.  We ended up divorcing after 4 years of trying to keep our family together.  It was not my choice to divorce, but we initially separated and it eventually lead to divorce.  By the way my son is 7 and she still sleeps with him.

I am remarried and can not be any happier.  My current wife had experienced the same thing, her bf would use sx as a tool to punish her.  He would deny her intimacy.  We are both from the same world and decided in our vows that sx is very important.  Poster I really hope things work out for you.  Do not cheat, but give it your best and if it does not work out don't waste four years of your life.

commitment loyalty

lol, good post. I think we all feel the same way about pictures. We are the hardest judge of ourselves, unless you are vain.

This is an important thread. Please women answere the Question!!!!! I'd like to know how women think.

thanks

Now you go Tiger!!!!! Get in touch with your blackness and go for the black woman this time. Start admitting your a black man also. You looking week trying to be something other than what you are.