Welcome to the American Diet. I read a book about heart disease study in the USA. Come to find out that many Africans had a much lower rate of heart attacks compared to Black American counterparts.

The culprit was the American diet.

Ask the woman if she knows her husband loves her?  If she denys the  love, explain that her husband loves her.  Tell her about the love of her children.  Empathize her suffering, but bring her back to acknowledging her love. This is how you reframe someone's thoughts to a different reality.

Next, show her how fortunate she is to have a family with lots of love.  Show her the suffering of all people with lack of love.  After she realizes how fortunate she is and what really matters in life, she is not relying on her external solutions, such as husbands apology.  She is self empowered and can move to a higher level of consciousness.

Works everytime.

I tried to eat serial with weavels in it. I kept eating, it tasted good, but I kept feeling weird eating food with bugs in it. After about 3 days of trying, I could not get over it. I ended up throwing it out.

All this time I thought no big deal with eating bugs. Now I know I can't.

Three years, she must love you, so don't listen to the posters that try to plant seeds of doubt in your head.

Relationships should be loving and supportive. You have an issue and regardless of how unimportant it is to her, it is important to you. She should take you serious because you brought the calling thing to the relationship for support. She is not supporting her end of the relationship, probably because like most people she is does not know about what a loving supportive relationship is.

I consider it emotional abuse if your in a relationship and your not getting your support. Don't play the game of doing it back to her, because then you are being like her and become the abuser. The only real solution is to remove yourself from the abusive situation. So this is what I have done in the past it usually works:

Bring up the issue to her and tell her you feel that you are being neglected. If she refuses or invalidates your feelings by saying something like,"calling don't mean love." Tell her you are bringing a problem to the relationship and it needs to be dealt with. If she refuses, then tell her that you consider it neglect and abusive and you must remove yourself from that environment, and tell her good bye on the phone. Let her know you love her, but she needs to come to terms with addressing the issue. Next convo, bring it up and see if she responds by being more supportive. If not then do the solution. It take about three to four times of doing this for people to get the point so be patient with her.

I advise him getting his act together. The problem is not about unemployment, but more of a depression thing. He needs to conserve his emotional energy, because relationships can be a burden or a drain at times for the immediate fix.

If I were him, I would concentrate on myself and not relying on some external crutch to get me through the dark times. I would also always remember things will eventually turn around, because all things pass"loneliness"

Go join a church for the social aspect, and spend time strengthening current relationships with friends and family.

Don't get caught up in the Drama that a woman brings, at least not until your friend is strong emotionally.

Tell him to go catch a decent movie and read a few books with inspirational content. Also use this time to learn how to be alone. Nothing wrong with being alone, it is a time to learn how to enjoy and take care of ourselves, we all go through it and become stronger in the end, because we learn to rely on ourselves for our own solutions.

Lots of love and good luck to your friend.

This is why I love being American:  We have Nigerian black, Ghana black, South African black, Peurto Rican Black, Yellow black, dark black, green eyed black, curley hair black, nappy hair black, straightened hair black, fat black, short black, skinny black, Red black, mixed black.

In American you just Black.  Women do not care, because part black all black.

America is not perfect!!!

I do think American is the best, because of the opportunities and individual freedom compared to other countries.  The land itself is fertile and ideally placed to produce agriculture.  There is lots of water.  Capitalism, education, social infrastructure, innovation, technology, innovative inventions.  

I think the origins of their constitution and the bill of rights, supports individuals vs socialism.  They have Obama also!!!

It may be harder for some, but anyone can do what they want or atleast have the right to pursue what they want.  We also have a great immigration policies that allow the best from other countries to come here and help.  We help a lot of other countries as well.

It may not seem perfect, but that is because we are so large and spread out.  We are like 50 country states, united as one country.

Would you like an order of cholesterol with the Big MAC? This stuff is poison for you heart.

Some  women are deadly powerful.  Here I am fighting my battles of every day.  Day in, day out we move forward, wearing armor to fight the  battles of life. 

This one picture, a person, a beautiful woman, warm eyes piercing my heart.  What do I have to guard against this spell?  Nothing can withstand her gaze, her soft smile.  Her smile is soft with love, yet confident, empowered, strong and gentle mixed into one.  She looks into me.  She looks deep into me and sees who I am.  I am powerless from her gaze.

She is young, vibrant and full of life.  Be proud beautiful woman.  Hold you self up high and above the toils of the world.

I like the poster,   

Openly admit liking the Jello butt.   I understand, nothing like the shake of the flubber during love.  The weight of it, like diving into soft fleshy mounds of warm lard.  It catches you with each thrust.  Deep into the envelope of flab between thighs of thunder.  You hit it right, and clapping sounds of flab cheeks hitting the other.  Sweet sounds of claps echo in the room with the rhythm of thrust into the love tunnel,     

It is sweet music, sweet love,

My jello butt.  sweet warm lushes jello.

One word: incompatibility.

Plan for divorce,

lol!!!

so what is new? So many women lost their domestic skills when they became free, "WOMAN'S LIBERATION MOVEMENT"

Not only can't they cook, but when the get all fat and rolley. The man is supposed to appreciate them for their minds.

Plain and simple: Woman's Lib have taught a generation of irresponsibility to women.

If they were in a serious relationship and virgin or virgins then it is wrong to loose virginity to someone else, so dump her.

If it was not serious, no big deal, somone else hit it before you did, but it was not serious. So who cares!!!

Similar to the movie,"INDECENT PROPOSAL." It stared Robert Redford, Demi Moor, and Woody Harelson.  All for the love of money.

@rokiatu,  do you have children from your previous marriage?
or you just do not believe in having kids?

Yes, kids are grown.  Last one is 17.  As I said, I would not have remarried if my wife wanted to have kids.  I do not want to do that again.  My wife is very rare.  Most women I met want children.  I have male friends in the 35-40 year old range.  They are single, and do not want children. 

My brother has no children.  When he was younger he wanted a son, but at mid to late 30's he did not want children.  He is single.

I think at the 30's people are just at a different point in their lives.  Even married men, once the hit the 30's, they are not to keen on having children.

^^^Yes by choice, Not saying women with children are not desirable. It is about balance, and at an older age, I am ready to enjoy myself, get it, SELF.

Marriage can be to much of a liability. Men in their 30's are already accomplished. I remarried in my 40's. I was extremely selective. My wife had to have her act and life together. She is a career woman and no babies. So cool.

Yes, come in before dark. It is dangerous, Nigeria is nothing like the good ol' USA!!! Welcome back to the hood!!!!

Get used to it. Women will find a way to bleed you dry. When they done with you, the will flush you down the toilette.

Just watch yourself.

Keep the kids, Can't loose the love, but get rid of the wife.

Get child support from the wife as well. Keep the family together and get a lot of support from extended family. Was not the kids fault, can't just stop loving some innocent kid.

2sexy.

You will never figure out your exgirl or girl friend(unsure of current status) is thinking.

I just know with good critical thinking skills, mind reading is one of the biggest human fallacies or errors we use to interpret reality.

My advice is to not engage yourself to much with thoughts about her thinking or feelings. It is a waste of time and mental energy. Your time is better used developing current friendships with no drama.

If she gets back with you. Keep it shallow. Her feelings are all over the place, can't follow that madness.

MOBO,

Black Sisters are desperate nowadays. Do you blame them though? Statistically, they have the greatest single rate compared to other races. It is truely a sad state of affairs.

There are some good ones out there though. You can have your pick, creme de la creme. Sometimes ever the creme can be a spoiled batch of sour milk.

Honey, you have been love struck.

Doctors orders: Go out to a bar and get a good shagging. Guaranteed to cure all ills of the heart. Don't forget to use protection.

Yes you children will come out very short. No taller than 5'9."
I do not recommend having any children. Adopt a child from the Netherlands. They have plenty of tall blond hair blue eyed children. If you adopt a girl, you do not have to worry about getting weaves, hair straightening or wigs. Your child will be the star of your village!!!!

I would not want to go into a retirement home. I will just have to go the way of the eskimo, in the cold blizzard.

Cheating is wrong. It is better to Divorce or end a current relationship or marriage before exploring a new relationship. My ex and I hated eachother, but I can say neither of us cheated. We divorced and moved on. We are trustworthy for our new partners. I would also advise to avoid and serious relationship with someone who cheated in their marriage.

I can say this because I have the position, because I was faithful to my vows until the end.

by the way the ex and I only had sx about 1 time every 6 months in the end. Still not an excuse to cheat, though I have been tempted.

Why Nigeria? You have the whole world available. Every try Central or S. America? That place is nice.

Here in the USA it is not really about height.  It is about wealth,  there are plenty of short men wealthy men with the most beautiful women.  It is the way it is.

I feel bad for many women.  Some women are tall but disportionate figure.  They can be tall; however have a gigantic rear end, 
They can be tall, and have no chest.
They can be tall, and have humongeous ankles.
They can be tall, with nappy hair.
They can be tall, with a big waist.
ect ect
Let me find a pink diamond out there somewhere
Many suffer from the yesteryear syndrome.  Still talking about how beautiful they were in their young days, but present days they are looking tore up.
and fugly and still thinking they are the hottest thing around