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Idiotmod:

When you see a woman like you supporting her husband and you are sad about it saying It should be other way round. Like say if u no get coconut head ur husband no go support you

I am not sad. I am using the opportunity to tell our husbands to support their wives in whatsoever makes them happy. Women also have dreams and things that makes them happy.

Shey the thing weh I talk bad?

BABYharder:

Hey baby girl, don't misquote me honey.
I'm not against the female ​folks asking for money, I'm just against my gees who hold to the aforementioned notion.
I happen to have met few guys that strongly believe excessive spending on women retains them. Couldn't caution them cus I didn't have interpersonal relationship of any sort with them. So I'm here dishing out free tips to all men to checkmate their buddies in the language they understand. Unfortunately, we are the ones that get to listen to their boring breakup stories which always starts with "after all I've done for her bla bla bla"

P.S- Happy weekend

Please do accept my apology. My comment was not meant for this thread.

Since I'm here, let me contribute. When you see men making that kind of statement, it is men who are crazy in love and who thinks the girl is way beyond their level.

They knew deep down, if it is not for money the women won't have given them a second glance.

So is it wrong? Well I have done crazy things for love. So hey I'm in not the best position to preach.

MC is marriage committee.

Anyway, for me there are more issues you should be bothered about. After marriage, will she still be going to her church?

If yes, just know that you have ceded your right to that church.
The Church will be the one to decide how to bleeped your wife and and what kind of relationship to have with your wife.

If no, will your wife still be going to that church for spiritual advice. That means you are in bigger soup. The church will know everything that happens in your house. Every little quarrel will be settled by the church.

You are getting married to a woman who is indecisive about her life. I wish you best of luck.

Idiotmod:

No kee yourself o. Sadist

How sadist take enter this issue? Please let's us stop misusing words.

What's the meaning of mc?

Please let husband also support their wife's dream. It is always the woman sacrificing. Let us normalise men supporting their wife's dream.

This is not news abeg.

Until the girl says yes.

There are some threads that are not necessary. It is not every issue you open a thread on.

You are not bold to ask the babe weh you deh Bleep wella question. So you are afraid of her answer. Abeg ask her why she drinks before sex. I don't why you are complicating issue.

Hehehe! I just know it is a man that wrote the foolish article.

So women should allow men to be pressing and massaging anyhow. Wetin kan remain for pikin to press?

Your friend should thank his star. What if the babe pushed the pregnancy to him.

Your friend should take heart. Hopefully one day he will get to meet someone who's worthy of his love.

Oga Babyharder, there is more to life than babes. If you are successful, babes will naturally come around you.

Please focus on yourself. Let's focus on our elected leaders that are stealing money. Leave these hustling babes alone.

I don't even know where you are meeting all these babes. Please search wider, you will see babe that don't like money much.

It is not fair. What is good for the goose, is also good for the gander. Seun should have special section for Christians and those who don't believe in religion.

Hehehe! Romance Section!

You are in love with a woman that is emotionally unstable. You have diagnosed the issue and in that issue you have diagnosed a solution.

I am disappointed that after spending a decade on Nairaland, this is your first thread. You went through Nairaland, Nairaland didn't go through you.

Take the advice you gave yourself. Ensure the next thread you open is not a thread that you already know the solution.

Is that all? You dated women who cheated on you. You have a terrible mum. So is that all?

Life bleeped you up the way it has bleeped everyone of us. Despite it, I don't go all around hating all men. Do you want to know why? I refused allow my past to dictate my future. I refused to allow anyone to change my essence.

I am going to share a story that was shared by one of my senior colleagues. He is in his 60s. No longer married. But there is this ex-colleague of mine who is my age mate who is always tasking this man. Na this man deh always carry this babe breakfast and lunch. I observed it is not just this babe but he spent for women he likes generally. He is spending on women that he will never get to see their pant.

One day when we were walking together, I asked why he is spending money lavishly and what he said stayed with me till today. He said anytime he spent, heaven open for him.

When you allow life to change who you are and what always work for you, heaven stops.

I have experienced it. But for me, solitude is an opportunity to focus strictly on me. I use those moment to focus on things I love doing and mostly to process information that I didn't have time to process.

I envy the fact that you can afford to do that. The only free time I have is when everybody is sleeping. My solitude is between 2:30am and 5:am. These are times I catched up with news, process information, write, respond to personal mails chat ....... Walai I envy you o.

Crossalpha:

The day a man stops to learn is the day he starts to die. I only brought this hear to seek other people's opinions and I've gotten intelligent responses from many.
You can never know it all in life.

Okay o. But you can't learn who to get married to. My choice can never be your choice. And most importantly those advising you will not live with the woman they are advising you to choose.

Marriage is a personal decision.

At 38yrs, you still don't know what you want from life. If you are here asking question then you are not ready for marriage.

I am on my two knees, please and please don't get married to any of them. You will end up making their life miserable. Continue doing side chick with them.

When you meet someone that's yours, you will physically, emotionally and spiritually know. You won't mind her flaws. Her strengths will only confirm what you know deep within you. There will be no room for doubt.

So what do you want us to do? What's purpose of this thread.

I said it, this section is full of crazy people.

Romance section is full of crazy people. You bleeped a virgin four times within a space of 12 hours and you are now here asking foolish question.

What happen to condom? You are here asking foolish question. I have marked your moniker, let me see you open another foolish thread again.

Beautifulearth:
this hits deep…..I really don’t have peace unless I avenge myself of anything even the little stuffs, just felt it’s some bad aura cos I’m sometimes not happy with myself……I don’t think I can stand her again unless I want to ignite an old flame. Let me chip this in, there is this part of me now that get irritated easy, I flare up at the slightest of things even with outsiders. I think I have really messed myself up, as in even things that doesn’t makes sense get me angry easily

That's your nature. You are vengeful by nature. You must first of all recognise it as a flaw. It's when we recognise our flaw it becomes a strength.

You can't avenge what you don't see. Chat your ex up. Let her know how deep she hurts you. Express your hurts feelings to her. The only way that you can control your vengeful nature is to be open about your pain. The more you bottled up an issue, the more power it has over you.

Tobichuks08:

How can you draw up with the conclusion that OP is revengeful..
Men are more affected emotionally when in love in case of a breakup..
Woman heal easier than guys and that's because a lady even during her breakup phase has one or two guys trying to remind her they want her and appreciate her..
A guy is different especially when broke, if at all the guy will have a lady to communicate with, its mostly the ones with who he made moves on but if broke nothing for him..
Those days of desperation with no one to remind him he is wanted is depressing..
His fellow guys go follow yab am self...
Don't draw such conclusions because women care to early and men care too late..

No matter how many men surrounds a woman, when a man she love breaks her heart, she also get shattered. A shattered hearts mends with time.

But a heart that is vengeful never mends until an atonement is carried out.

This story weak me. It saddens me and I don't know why I feel like hugging the writer and his girlfriend.

Life has been tough on both of you but I want you to know it is not a coincidence that you both got to meet. Both your life trajectory are similar. She ain't perfect neither are you. You met a woman who you can share your past with and who will not be judgemental and she met a man like you who is not judgemental of her past.

Believe me when I say you ain't judgemental. She is worth fighting for. Even if you don't end up getting married please fight for her. In fighting for her you will find your purpose and you will both get to heal.

bodybuilder:


That will just make her like him more.

For where. She never meet person weh craze pass am.

Beautifulearth:
I was really broken, I gave this girl the best of me….I did manual works to give her little I could and I even had to donate my blood at a lab when I don’t have the cash just to make sure I help out. I was down asf when she called to break up

Do you know the kind of person you are? You are the unforgiving type. You find it hard to forgive and people like you are vengeful. If you don't revenge what was done to you, you will not have peace.

You are taking your revenge out on an innocent woman. I will close my comment with this advice I gave someone earlier today, if you close your eyes just because you don't want to see an evil person, when a good person comes, you will also get to miss it.

Find your old flame and trash whatsoever you had with her out in the open.

Tell her the truth. There is adage that says you don't hide yourself from someone that will Bury you. She is someone you will spend the rest of your life with. She will later get to know but it's better she hears it from you.

Dress to kill. Don't sha kill her with talk.

That lady should have self respect. Which kind whahala be this.

This is what you will do, tell your sister to act as your girlfriend. If you don't have a sister, use anyone you are close to to threaten her. Tell that person to call her and introduce herself as your girlfriend. Use someone that's more crazy than her. She will sit right.

Pain is pain. We all have different threshold for pain. Just because the guy had more capacity to withstand pain doesn't nullify the pain that lady is feeling.

I have heard of a story of a young man who commited suicide because a lady broke his heart while there are some that brushes off rejection as nothing. Our capacity for pains differs.

TheGidRedpiller:
Women go into sluttfulness because they want to, because they like it! Stop playing like the victim because you want to make a bad decision. Women are lazy and instead of going out there to work like their mates even after fighting for equality with men, they decide to get it easy by opening their legs! You can't tell me pornnsters pose and video themselves naked because they had no choice. Stop covering nonsense aunty!

For many they had no choice. For you to say it's easier shows how ignorant you are. So it's easier to allow strangers to mess you for peanut. To degrade you to in order to feed your siblings. Most of the girls we are talking of started as early as 10,12 14. In order to feed they needed to Bleep by those who are older than their father.

May God never allows you to know that type of poverty. These young girls are Bleep.ed just because of something as little as Indomie. And that's only life they know.

ygowon:
Chai! Na true you talk.

Three serial bad experiences and I made up my mind to remain with the person I'm with. The issue I have with her is that she's not smart and not a graduate. But she's beautiful and loaded front and back and very loving and does not demand though, she works but the pay is small and I would have loved to open business for her if she was smart.

The first person I met is a tailor, she requested for money for upkeep that she renewed her rent. I refused and she started acting and I blocked her.

The second person even introduced me to his dad and not long, they were asking me to loan them 100k to solve a family problem, I tear race.

Third one Na nairaland here, we just started chatting on phone and have not even met, she started acting somehow because of a business she is into and she needed like 50k to boost it. Lol, To me, it was too early and I was yet to know her so I told her I didn't have cos of expenses. But I assured her by end of the month just to buy time to study her. Though, I liked her business spirit but the attitude changed and she began to sound rude. I quickly block am.

As it is like this, I'm not thinking of settling down again cos I me and my friend with benefits already entered agreement of not settling together.

I was born around these type of girls. Poverty is a terrible thing. It humiliate. It degrades. It force you into a relationship you will never be in if you are self sufficient.

TheGidRedpiller:
If you knew me before i became a redpiller, you would also take advantage of me. Thats how nice and stupid i was back then, i don't expect you to like the part of me that wil block every of your ways to get into me?

Being nice is not stupidity. When you have opportunity to help others do it without expecting any return.

I am going to leave you with this adage. When we close our eyes in order not to see evil people, when someone that is good come, we will also get to miss that person. Don't stop being you because you are being taking advantage of. Do it because you enjoy doing it.