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XshegzzyeeiX:
Good morning. Romancelanders.
Welcome to midweek.

So I'm of the opinion that in a relationship, a man and a woman ought to care for one another. But some women feel so entitled that they only expect a man to take care of them without reciprocating the gestures.

It's very wrong for a woman to bring that statement of "can you take care of me?" when I ask her out. I brandish her a red card immediately she makes such statement.

I detest selfish women, and I believe so many others do.

Only simps welcome such waywardness.

PS: I've braced up for your criticisms, insults and cuss words.

Feminists, waddaya have to say.
Alpha males, what's your take on this matter.
White Knights, let's hear you out.

Is it right or totally wrong for a woman to pop that question "can you take care of me" when you ask her out?

Take care of her, na me be her PAPA?

englishmart:
Only Lalasticlala can dig up such stories.

CONGRATULATIONS TO THEM

but this kiss sha?

Omo this wan pass kiss, na "Clash Of Tongue & Teeth"

Kemimarch16:
Yes by God's grace

Amen. Multiple birth dey sweet, make sure say whoever you choose to be your partner, make e be man wey gallant oooo.

Kemimarch16:
Wow I want this too

Are you able and capable?

Dpharisee:
Osimhen is the sort after bride of the moment, so many things coming out from Edo no be Lagos.
Kamaru Usman retaining his UFC belt, Obaseki showing Ambode what it means to be a real man and a legend like General Gattuso prepared to sacrifice part of his salary for Osimhen.
Truly Edo no be Lagos

No forget to include the exploits of "Itohan and sisters, all the way from "ITALY"

eyizlive:
E get wetin make u like d song Na, abi?

;Dyes na

eyizlive:
Age 20 working at a filling station.

u be tiff, I know say u be tiff ooooo, U be tiff bros u don steal money oooo. No vex, I dey try remix Simi song dat year

Intrepid01:
But some girls don't mind sha....a young lady I've been friends with, she just graduated from Unilag. Around December/ January I told her wanted her to conceive for me and she was cool with it. infact we recently dsussed it again and she's still cool with it. I asked her if I Dad won't be angry, cos her mum is late, she said her he won't be mad at her at all. Unfortunately me I was just joking about it but the pretty babe is damn serious about it.

Bros abeg give me her Number, na wetin I dey find. No time to check time

csamii:
Your guy is planning what I am planning. Thought it was only me o!

I share your thoughts too

Dicktion:
Naija men are now afraid of Naija ladies hence, the fear for marriage

Imagine someone unknowingly and unfortunately gets tied forever to a lady like millenniumlady or sweetcunt97
Even your village people will pray for your soul

Bros forget , SweetCunt will sweeten ur life with her CUNT

victorian:
Wow!

Where have u been?

I lost my phone. But bought a new one during Lockdown. I misplaced most of my contacts.

Biko send me a message on Whatsapp.

Do u still have my number?

Sure thing Baby!!!! Imma buzz u on WhatsApp

victorian:
Don't only love yourself or your just your babe, your man, shares the love to the motherless homes, to orphans, widows, widowers and let the feeling of love fill the air.

There is no specific day to love but Lets keep sharing the loving , be focused in life and hustle well.

Hustle o!






Just joking, don't mind jare. Share the love

Fine Gal, Long Time, No CHAT , Abeg share the LOVE reach my side oooo

SweetCunt97:
Una mind spoil. No wonder rape dey everywhere. Perverse generation.

, haba!!! I only quoted ya moniker. Shebi u sef folo for our generation?

SweetCunt97:
If u love him, simply let it go. Find another intelligent person to gist current affairs with.

Truly, you are a "SweetCUNT"

Abaman001:
Let name, don't get you deceived, they can bear any name when they want to achieve something, the are very determined people in everything including evils, in trying to do just that, they can bear alhaji Mohammad Isa, or Abusalami Abubakar even Musa Dayo! They are everywhere, they don't stay in their place, in fact they are allergic to their home states bcus of their atrocities, They are destroyers, they hate unities, they love criminality as long as it pays them, they don't care who's blood is involved as long as they receives chieftaincy titles and bcum the richest within their locality and beyond, they are into drugs, they do all manners of atrocities for personal profit, they are the beginning and Genesis of tribal hatred in Nigeria, they caused the civil war because of greed, they were once loved and respected by the north until their greed to own and conquered the southern minorities exposed them to be nothing to the carefree north as in then....now they are being hated all over the world...today one albino that loves his dead dogs more than his brainwashed zombies, is deceiving them again telling them he want a potopoto republic of Biaflood region...... They have chosen to be second class citizens in Nigeria and so they will remain....

Na people like you dey fuel this matter. Spread LOVE, not WAR. Love makes the world go round, and if you and me do our bit to sensitize and educate others on the need to unite and move this nation forward, NAIJA will be a better place for all. Say no yo Ethnic Hypocrisy, Say no tribal bigotry, Say no #HateSpeech and say yes to "UNITY".

MoodyQueen:
And so?
Is that justification for her rape and murder?

As if you pigs don't double date.

Two wrongs don't RIGHT a Wrong.

Millenniumlady:
It's not safe to be a lady in Nigeria anymore i'm scared.

, Nne calm down. What are you actually scared of?

JasonScoolari:
"You nor fit furck, your age dey furck"


The lady who said that word is a big fool... Yes, a big one and it equally tells you that she furcks for a living and she's into HUMAN-TRAFFICKING.

Even though you caught the young lady stealing for the second time in your shop, is that the right job recommendation for her?

Take her to the relevant authorities instead of saying bullshit.

Make she kuku donate her Husband or brothers for the "FUCKERY"

Onyi22:
Getting pregnant for a rich wealthy man or guy is the prayer of every ladies out there...

Congratulations Regina for not settling down for less all in the name of Love,
My advice for ladies, please marry money, Love na scam.

Only the Poor broke ass guys will start wailing after seeing this news

Nne, I have the MONEY, ife'm n'acho bu asa ga eyipute di'akwa , amam n' uche gi diya

Onyi22:
I wish I can move in with him

I love Rich and famous guys

I'm Rich (my name na RICHARD), Fame is coming plus I get six packs, plenty muscles and I tall wella, facially, Chris Brown & David Beckham na learners where I dey. Nne biko, what else do you possibly want in a MAN

Positivechick:
I broke up with my boyfriend today,

I met him while I was serving, he was nice and the only friend I had, I served in a village. While we were serving he doesn’t give me much, I practically kinda fed him cause he was always in my place. He had a roommate and I didn’t. Before he gives me any money we always had issues, not like he doesn’t hv to give. He just doesn’t want to. I don’t even ask for much.

After service we continued dating, he had no job so I told him to get a teaching job he said never ever, he rather follow he’s friends up and down , I kept quite watching what his plans maybe, I hv never asked him for a dim since we finished service mid last year, got a teaching job so taking care of myself.

My birthday would be coming up, his just passed, I told him that I would be expecting some cash on my birthday. We talked today and he’s telling me he spent all he’s money for he’s birthday, that if money comes he will send but right now he has no money, placing me on the probability table, so I said u couldn’t keep the one u would send me, he said people were buying drinks and buying drinks and he couldn’t tell them to stop. Am like are u serious ? I had to remind him that my birthday is few days away and he started saying he won’t be able to send anything. I told him without him doing the needful that there is no us.

Am tired, he has no vision, No focus , no aim , he depends on his friends and it's annoying. I think about he’s future more than he does , he’s always in the present. He’s making me feel like a bad person that he would make it. I hope he makes it but the relationship is so draining and I am 100% faithful to someone with no sense of reasoning. He’s Saying I am dating someone that’s why I want to leave him. He isn’t even addressing the issue we hv on ground .

Thoughts??

Oya come make we start new relationship, ayam single and u just broke up, 1+1=2

Donbabaj:
I could be happy now but the next minute, she changes mood all of a sudden. We dated for over year after someone match make us but this mood swing things continued overtime so sometimes I get confused even as i really tried managing the pressure. She's a nice girl, takes good care of me, buys clothes, cooks, always wants me to look good but the problem is the rate which she switches mood easily.

Financially, we are both average earner but I think she earns better pay than me.

For instance, recently we got a new apartment - 2bedroom flat but whenever I say something she doesn't like or she doesn't want to hear, she just reacts like why would I say such a thing. All the while we were dating, we never stayed with each other as we stayed in our parents house. Fast forward* most times, as the man, after switching mood, I try to pacify her by petting and apologising but she doesn't just want to listen.

Just today, we were playing with each other on the bed, touching each other (not sensitive part) and she wanted me to kiss her. So I told her jokingly that "but you know this is not biblical" as an advocate of no sex until after marriage. I have never had sex with her either. The next thing she said, "why are you talking like this" she stood up, went straight to the sitting room and slept there. I went to meet her there to pacify her again but she wouldn't listen.

Please note that I have not and can never beat or abuse her cos I'm a Christian.

I'm just tired. She's really getting on my nerves. Our wedding is 3 weeks time but I dont just know what to do. People, friends and family are already aware of the impending marriage but I'm afraid that if a lady can switch mood like this, who knows what will happen tommorrow. I cant sleep in peace...

Please advice. This is happening right now.

Bros, take a leaf from Sunny Neji's song, "If you touch me, I touch you", Wound me I wound you. Grab me I grab you, kiss me eeeh!!
So you like to couch, but to do the do is afraiding you, damn nigarrrr like my Niggy @slawormir will always say, just jejely drag her back to the room and finish what you started

Lifedonor:
Pls refer to my thread about my girlfriend cheating on me even in the church

https://www.nairaland.com/5880851/girlfriend-just-confessed-she-fornicated

Finally last night she called me and was still pleading so I went to her place.

The door was open and I walked in only to see her crying so badly.
I talked to her and avdised her this talk went on for almost 4hrs.

I finally forgave her and decided to take her in again. But on the condition that she leaves the church. Its a redeemed church and its just here i n our area. I told her to join me at my branch (same redeemed) or she should choose any other church and that I was going to follow her.

To my shock she agreed to change she promised nothing of such can happen again and that she still loves me but can't change her church. She still wants to remain there and work out her salvation... I told her if that is the case then the relationship can't continue and that I was going to leave And then block her from my WhatsApp. She agreed and I left then I blocked her.

It Hurst still but I would remain like this

Modified*****

She finally came to my place this morning. Though I did the calling.
She has agreed to change the church and attend mine.
I must say that I wasn't regular with my attendance in church. She also pointed that I have to be steady with going to church too.

Conclusively we are back and better ..
Everyone should know that it takes God to have a peaceful and fulfilling relationship.
I may sound weak but hey! I know why I had to go through this to get her back.
I have equally cheated to the point she caught me pants down. and I really haven't been paying attention.

Guys the alpha male should a time to reflect too. Its saves a lot.

Bros, na WA oooo. U be Cheater, ur babe sef na "CHEAtist", I just dey wonder wetin Una go born ,abeg make uno no increase the population of Olosho and Phuck Boiz for this our country ooo

Ebus12:
My fellow nairalanders
Good afternoon

I have been a member for close to a year now.... Even though I have been a guest for about 2 years before joining.

I have sought advice here twice and your advice has really helped a lot. Please help me once more my people

I just got admitted into a school in the south East while my parents live in the North.

My parents (my mum especially) pleaded with me to stay with her eldest sister and her children for a while, at least for my first year in school

I didn't want it at first ... But I had to agree just cuz of the way my mom was now on my neck.
She worried I knew nothing about the east.... She wanted me to get a bit used to the East

With the help of my dad..... She succeeded in convincing me to stay in her sister's house.

My first weeks in the house was quiet peaceful and fun not untill my cousin brother started looking for his biscuits

Funny right

It seemed funny that a 23 years old dude would turn out to be a devil just cuz of an ordinary 100 naira biscuits.
Mind you ... He is the only son
He asked everyone and everyone denied taking it. He asked me and I too denied it.... Cuz I didn't take it.

He beat hell out of me... Insisting I was the thief.
We became almost enemies and didn't talk to each other for about 2 months.
Aways from that ... We reconciled tho

But he still remained a trouble to my life
Always beating me as if am an animal.... He beats his sister too.

But it seems mine is worst
He has stopped me from sitting on a particular chair in the parlour.
He bullies me ... Telling me there is nothing I, my parents, or anyone can do to him.

I received the beating of my life today because the Tv remote got spoilted and he is insisting it's me. He accuses me of virtually everything that goes wrong in the house.

I'm getting sick, depressed and it's affecting me alot.

I don't want to disturb my mum about it ... It might cause problem between she and her sister
I don't want to be the cause of anyone's quarrel with another person.

I wish to go home. And I can't go back home now ... Cuz of the Coronavirus and the interstate lockdown.

Please what do I do ?
Help me out
He gets worst by the day.

U be MUMU, so ur cousin beat u, and u dey come here to report to US Do you want him to BEAT us too?? Biko, go and chop ur BEATING alone, i no fit chop BEATING wet no be my PORTION
Bros, you be man oooo. From your narrative, you and your cousin should be in same age range, worst case scenario, he fit senior you with 2-3 years. If my permutations are correct then, u be really MUMU. Even if he get STRUCTURE pass u, forget Small body no b SICKNESS, if he knack you one, give am THREE. U see dis LIFE, WEAKLINGS no get place for here, better man up and tell ya cousin say u see get "PRICK." But if to say u be gal, and u fine, walahi i go FIGHT that ur cousin for free. I go just give am 'One Week FIGHT' contract. Early morning, i don knock for una door with bell, make we fight for that day. After like 3-4 days no be person go tell am to BEG me

ProfAmaben:
Wow! This changed my life

ayam full of HAPPY on ur behalf

Davash222:
You did well.

Try and get yourself a foreign girlfriend when you're ready to hook up again. Stay away from Nigerian girls.

, 9ia deals dem don do you STRONGTHING?

Localemperor:
Its is no longer news that I have been declared insolvent, After all effort to maintain my liquidity level to no avail I decides to let her go.


just as organization retrenched worker during periods of economic downturn in order to cut cost of operations, I sent her a massage expressing my regret and reasons.


I feed her
I pay money for hair dressing
I buy clothes
I take her out every weekend
I buy shoes
I do everything thinkable

She works and earn but I still wonder why she would want me to do everything for her. I compiled my income statement and statement of financial position for the first quarter and found out that expenditures have exceeded income and debt is on the rise. So I wholeheartedly declared my self insolvent yesterday and decides to cut cost in order to protect my goodwill.

The best decision you've taken this year, Bros!!! U be MAN

Ladikwa:
I thought she loved me not knowing that she was just after my money. But I was not able to spend much because I am broke for now, but I have a land I am in the process of selling to start a business which she didn't know, because I didn't tell her cause I don't trust her that much.

Well we broke up because she has a guy that is the main boyfriend, without me Knowing thinking I was number one.

I just look back and imagine how much this girl will have chop from me. Though I love her and am hurt after the breakup, but I'm grateful that all the amount of money I would have love to spend on her, to show my love I can use it build my business and help those around me.

And it taught me how not to trust girls 100%, and to be very careful about loving while using my head. If she knew about the land I wanted to sell she would have continued pretending to love me.

"Guys be careful, don't trust these girls 100%"

Bros, na wa u ooooo. U see, as u broke, she's u like urself Me don taya to dey hear all this "STORIES THAT TOUCH" say bird fly, dem shoot Im mama, e no make sense!!!
If you no get money, abeg forget woman matter and hustle. Work for the money, and the women go dey find u come. Even "FYNE-TALL-GENTLEMEN" like us, our Physique alone neva do, because we sabi say wetin the women dem want, na MONEY. SDo just forget the matter when, double ur hustle make we celebrate you.

Kobojunkie:
Have you read some of the posts on here, what do you want me to do? Beg her and tell her that there is hope still?
I myself grew up in the same Nigeria that many pretend is haven for wonderful marriages and I never saw that. What I saw a lot of, growing up, were so many broken families, majority where the fathers have long since abandoned his progeny to go start up some where else, without fear of repercussion/consequences or even penalities from the so called cultural judges of marriage. The vast majority of my school mates & friends grew up in such homes, homes I like to call BabyMama homes where the married mothers are forced into single-parenthood not as a result of divorce or a death but abandonment. We are talking of children scarred for life by these conditions, many of them never really overcoming that rejection.

Here we are with some being advised to continue to perpetrate the same wickedness against Nigerian women, and their own flesh and blood, as a way of skirting the laws in the western world. Would you rather I tell her to sign up for the same rottenness that scarred many in my generation?
Given what I know of the plight of a large number of Nigerian married women, I cannot in good conscience tell the lady in question that she should not pursue that which she believes will make her happier. I am sorry, I can't.

Kobojunkie Kobojunkie Kobojunkie!!!! Gurrllll ya spoke mi mind. How do you want your "SHAWARMA", Spiced with Cameroon pepper or Freshly ground Ghana Pepper!!!! , imma add a bottle of Ice Cold ALOMO Bitters to balance the Equation, or would you prefer a glass of Your favorite Red Wine? Just lemme know so i can also serenade you with "Beautiful By Ric Hassani"

Kobojunkie:
Her thoughts on?

Having a baby in 2 years Time if Marriage remains a mirage

Kobojunkie:
Making the choice to be a babymama is one thing. But a lot of women don't make that choice of their own volition. They are forced into those situation. We call them single-mothers or babymamas. Many of our Nigerian mothers and some of their own mothers(many of them married of course) had to live it and are not happy about being dealt that kind of card.

Ya share her thoughts?

Lekan239:
My parents got married 27years ago, since then it has been hell for my mom. It's as if my mom was forced on him or did the love just seize to exit, this I need advice on, from my brothers and sisters here on what to do next.

It all began in 1993, two years later I was born (1995), then we reside in Lagos but my dad later moved to pH in search of greener pastures. He only comes back home (Lagos) once in a while. My mom tried all her best to cater for her kids during all those period with no help or whatsoever coming from my Dad. It wasn't easy at all.

Fast forward to early 2003, my dad came visiting after two years without hearing from him and then my mom decided we are going with him to pH, he opposed but my mom Insisted. To cut the long story short, after we get to pH we found out my dad was living carelessly, womanizing, his social life is zero because he doesn't drink or smoke but he lavished all his money outside and Care less about his family.

My mom strived and engaged in little business which we managed to survive on. My dad only comes home when he is Short of money and acted low and submissive but as soon as he got some money, he changed immediately.

So 2010 I left pH to the village, was writing waec, looking for admission and so on, later going to lag to hustle around 2013 as I'm the one to foot my education expenses.

2015 I gained admission in a polytechnic, after my OND in 2017 I went back to lag to begin the hustle as I have to further my education, all this period I did not visit my family in Port Harcourt. I went back for HND in 2018 but had to withdraw because of lack of funds, I went back again in 2019 because a family member advised he will foot the bills which he later didn't do.

So because of this covid 19 I visited my parents in pH. My mom was very ill, she can't move nor stand and she has been the one taking care of the family, my father inclusive. My father has been a lazy man who depends solely on his wife for survival. He does not work, he does not stay at home with his sick wife. 6am he will enter the kitchen and eat any food he finds he won't even ask if four of his kids and my mom will eat. He will go and sit down in people's shops around the streets discussing with people's wife's. 10am he will be back home, straight to the kitchen to check if there's any food if my mom had drop money for us to prepare food, he will eat it without even talking to anybody, in fact he owns the kitchen now. He repeats same 2pm, 5pm and night meal also. I'm just so angry right now I don't even know what I am typing again.

After seeing all this behavior i advised my mother to give him some space, she gave birth to four children for him and three of us can survive on our own as we are no longer kids, but she won't obliged it's just as if maybe she is okay with suffering.

Today this morning, my dad did the most outrageous thing, he woke up and started ranting, saying does my mom think he is not going to be rich later, and he won't stay here forever. I got the message he was passing that he is going to leave my Mom if he stumbles upon some money. And I exactly told my mom this statement yesternight too.

Please you guys should advise me on what to do because at this junction, it hurts me a lot having the knowledge that my mom is with man who doesnt care or love her, even at her sick bed, he never for once visited the doctor nor the man of God taking care of my Mom.

Bros, since you are afraid to say it, I will help you. Ur PAPA na useless man. Make u and ur siblings gather am, use beta Koboko flog and reset his brain to default settings.
In other words, I feel your pain bro, uneasy lies the head that wears the crown. Just pray for grace, with patience and diligence you go make CLEAN money make ur mama sef enjoy and get new lease of life. Abeg make u no donate person daughter PANT oooo, that main money dey PURGE