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blizard44:
Hello , Nairalanders.

I recently called off a two-year relationship with my Ex Girlfriend.

I found out she was cheating on me with two other guys and decided to walk away.

But the thing is that I can't stop thinking about her.
I can't eat, work or do anything without memories of the times we shared together hanging over my eyelids.

I felt that the depression and pain that suffused me after I told her it was over was hinged on the fact that she was my first love - and would go away with time, but I was wrong.
I think of her now more than I ever remember doing.
I'm afraid the feelings heightens everyday.
And this is made worse by the fact that we're colleagues.
We see each other everyday.
And concerns for her, I found out, still manage to hide behind my ribs.

I'm not thinking of going back to her.
It's not an option.
That to me now, is like dining with my archenemies blindfolded.

I feel like I don't know her .
I never knew her!

At least, I never knew she could tell heavy lies with our eyes locked.


I need help redeeming myself from her.
I want to see her for who she really is.
And I want to go back to the life I led before her.

I need help getting her out of my head.

Tell me how you survived breakups.


P.S
I want to read your comments.

This SHIT isn't easy. WOMEN can be very very MANIPULATIVE, and still wanna PLAY the VICTIM afterwards. Here's a word of ADVICE, next time you find yaself in a RELATIONSHIP; abeg no dey do like BRODA wey mumu. You LOVED her to a fault, and she saw you as just another SIDE-KICK. Who knows, you fit dey give am your SALARY sef to spend on your behalf.
My apologies for the harsh words, but you needed to be told TRUTH in its raw form. Break-Ups aint easy, especially if it's you who LOVE's most. You need to occupy your MIND with other things, stuffs which would contribute to your GROWTH as a person, both morally, physically & otherwise. More importantly, learn to see your ex FUCKMATE as just another person, don't make the mistake of developing goose pimples down under whenever you come across each other. Imma tell you a secret, KILL her with sweetness & smile at her. Make it obvious to her that she's part of your past and her chapter in your life belongs to the thrash cans of HISTORY. In LIFE, we Live, We LOVE & most of all; WE LEARN.

BOOOMNAIJA:
We should vote for that bore to remain in the house?.......kolewerk!

would u prefer peeps like AFROCANDY & BOBRISKY to enta the HOUSE?

ImaIma1:
If that's the only part you choose to believe, that's fine.

Different strokes for different folks

ImaIma1:
Remember that she was once a young girl and would have frowned at her own MIL interfering.

A mother wants the best for her kids but she should know when to draw the line. Perhaps if she did a good job in bringing them up, she would leave them and trust them to make their decisions instead of still "babying" them even as grown men.

Ain't no bond that can compare to that which exists between mother & child. It's stronger than Strong. The mother was only looking out for her son, and I can bet you she saw something in the young lady which made her not to loose guard. Just so you know, nothing kills a man faster than a bad wife/woman.

ImaIma1:
You are quite right. It's just that some mothers interfere too much in their children's lives and try to make choices for them out of their own selfishness or limited knowledge or exposure.

A child should know how to balance the mum's advice and his personal choice. Afterall, he's a man and should be able to take decisions that affect his future

Every mother wants the best for her kids, especially when it comes to picking a life partner. Perhaps you should look at this issue from that angle.

Michhy123:
Iam available... Good character but not that pretty face ....IAM not a liability.... I am currently going through a similar thing but it is well...
You can hook up for a chat...
Hey who stone me

Now, this is what I'm talking about. Grabbing the DICK by it's SHAFT. I like my women; Bold n Daring. Beta Husband / LifePartner fall on you, say AMEN �

KahlDrogo:
Whatever he does, he should never let any iPods come close to him on the field while playing soccer. We know their history with sliding tackles from birth.

If only you can channel just a FRACTION of the energy & TIME you spend trying to create needless FRICTION into something meaningful, then the WORLD will be a better place for all of us. My PRAYER for you tonight is that every SPIRIT of HATE & ETHNIC HYPOCRISY should release you with immediate effect, and allow you contribute POSITIVELY to the growth & well being of this great NATION. It is well with you.

KendrickAyomide:
just as you Scousers aka dullards weren't good enough for the League

By their comments will shall know them. Whatever happened to DECORUM

GIDIBANKZ:
So Dis Guy don Die?

una dey work together?

NwaAmaikpe:





Is it my eyes or doesn't this house look like those Lagos storey buildings that love to collapse?

Anyways....it's beautiful to see her put such joy in her parents' heart. But has she considered the amount of joy they'd feel if she gets married?

Where I'm from, the best gift any child can give their parent isn't monetary or ephemeral...it is tangible.
The gift of a spouse and the assurance of a preserved lineage.

She just proposed to me, i have told her how much my KINSMEN want for "GROOM FEE", i will send you IV when we have concluded all arrangement.

pocohantas:
Na here she land last last.

Congrats to her.

She was a pretty good actress, though I don't think she was around for long. Maybe marriage...family.

I wouldn't call her A-list though.

She's married now, and last i heard was her HUBBY wasn't really in support of her acting. Well, she was a DARN good actress back then, and na FINE GAL too.

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JohnCruise:
Tbh i didn't actually read through
But i realized you spoke out of pain
Just take heart bro
Dont give up

Lol, bros advice am make he go make MONEY joooor.

SingleGuy9999:
Good day guys, I'm not really too active here, but this is a 2nd account I created for this. I am 22 year old student in my final year. But I've never had a girlfriend, also I have never had sex, but that is not the major problem as I can easily get a hooker and pay. I feel I'm pretty good looking, at least average. This would be a little long, pls try to read through.

My problem is I can't seem to get a girlfriend, I have been rejected by girls like 7 times in a row or more...I don't meet that many girls but I do go out and meet sha and if I like a girl and I feel she's someone I can date I ask her out. If we aren't really vibing I just delete their numbers and forget about them. But I keep getting rejected by all the girls I've asked out, they either see me as a friend and tell me stuff like I'm a good friend or they not ready for a relationship or that they feel I have no feelings for them...like wtf

It's really frustrating so much that it's literally killed every confidence I have to ask girls out. Like the last 3 girls I wanted to ask out I ended up not bothering since I know it'll end same way...planned to ask one out today but I just couldn't stand to get rejected again...cos even tho I think what I'm getting might be green light I'm not sure about girls anymore...in fact now I'm no longer sure if the girls I think liked me before ever did (I wasn't interested in them so I didn't ask them out). Even the one who made me lose all hope was after spending so much time with a girl, I was asking her out for 4 months, I never tot I'd ever ask a girl out that long but I was blinded by love...and we spent so much time together, my friends kept wondering if we were dating but she never said yes even tho she said she liked me too but kept giving excuses...and I pretty much abandoned chasing other girls in for that while...but I still got a no at the end with story changed to she tot she liked me but was just trying to as she could see I was in love with her and didn't wanna break my heart...

That killed my confidence, and I'm not blaming her or anyone...now since then I've only asked 2 girls out, and I still got rejected...

I spend time with the girls, we hang out, flirt, chat etc but they would never date me... I've gotten so lonely as I want to date someone I truly care about and I have even questioned if it's possible for 2 people to fall in love with each other out of the billions of people on earth.

I've heard from someone that I play with girls too much so they won't take me seriously, another was that I'm nice (I don't think I'm that "nice guy" cos I won't go extra mile for any girl just cos I like her, but I'm understanding and I think I tend to make excuses for people when they disappoint). And I'm tired of girls seeing me as a friend, or being taken for granted. In fact my best female friend is one who I asked out before.

When I see people dating I wonder if they from another planet, I can't figure out what's wrong...is it that I have no luck with girls? I have gone online, read books etc. They all keep saying same thing...they talk about confidence but I had that...tho right now I just fake it cos all my confidence is gone with numerous rejections. Then I read about working on yourself, I have done that, I may not be anywhere near the freshest guy but at least I'm sure I'm okay. They talk about creating tension and stuff by making contact and I do that, I hold them around the waist etc....

So far I even read that I shouldn't blame myself or stop trying to figure out what went wrong when I face rejections, that's what I'm doing now...but nothing seems to be changing. I rarely spend time with girls again, except some good friends, and instead I've been focusing more on my hobbies cos I now see it as a waste of time when it only ends in rejection. I think of going out with a girl but I just rather sit at home or spend more time with my guys or even spend the money on them cos I'm fed up. The thought even crossed my mind to give up on girls since it never seems to work...I'm not used to multiple failure as even in other stuff I don't fail as much, but I just can't seem to get it to work with girls. Everything seems fine at first and going smoothly but it all ends with rejection.
I don't wanna give up on girls and I know there's nothing left of my confidence when it comes to girls, tho I fake it...and I will never result to insulting girls just cos of my rejection.

Pls I need real advice on what to do, I have exhausted all my options, and today I resolved to never ask any girl out till I'm 99% sure she'll say yes, but is that even possible? I know every guy gets rejected but it's not easy when u get rejected several times in a row by girls you have serious feelings for.

Should I just cut my losses and give up on girls? For months I spent time on other things and never really cared about any girl any longer but now that feeling is back with this new girl but I can't even ask her out cos I can't say for sure what her reply would be... maybe a no as I usually get...

Pls don't insult me or call me names I just need advice that would help

Ma friend, the only ADVICE you need to hear today, on this forum is "GO AND MAKE MONEY". Women are attracted to it like BEES 2 HONEY. Take my advice, and come thank me later when u start having them LINED up in QUEUES begging for your KONDO.

czarina:
Then you give us a call if you live on the Plateau

Home SERVICE

czarina:
Fine boi


Check my profile if you want.

On my way to your profile, after CHECKING, what next?

engllishmart:
He’s lucky it wasn’t Akwa Ibom, we would have seen just his charred remains by now. An average akwa ibom man moves around with matches and fuel 247



Who else has seen that video where a man was cutting the legs of a thieve with cutlass while the thieve was still alive. That’s the most gory video I’ve ever seen in my life.

LINK to the video Biko

catwalq:
Uncle,na em you dey talk small small??
Every healthy r/ship is give and take.

Hanty, na wetin make i say, make u sef prepare all the things wey u fit offer. IRON sharpeneth IRON and it takes TWO to TANGO.

catwalq:
Dreaming of being with a rich guy is what it is - A DREAM.
But being with humble guy is a reality.

Ask all your female friends,sisters,female relations to list out ten attributes of a worthy mate and see if 'rich' won't show up on the lists.

Queen � Charming, as you make your list of what you want in a husband, biko make another list of what you will offer as a wife.

LillyVal:
I'm that girlfriend who understands you are not a damn ATM and it's OK with the fact that you won't shower me with gifts. I'm with you cos I love you not your money

Beta HUSBAND like Me fall on you, oya say "AMEN".

Safitu:
Most women have cash in their bank accounts. Most women are in school/ trading/ doing some kind of business/hustling. The truth of the matter is that, if a man must come into your life, he must have something to offer. That doesn’t mean I don’t have my own money, but as a man you must show your capability to provide for me. That’s what makes you a man. How can I be paying for all my bills, and you call yourself my boyfriend? What is now your role in my life? Just to be looking at me and wasting my time? Ah beg jare.

Hmmmmm, na wa oooo. Relationships don TURN Poverty Alleviation Program be that oooo.

BrutusOj:
Ebuka and co are beginning to go sentimental. Over 90 percent of the house mates are all igbos. We have talented young felas scattered all over Nigerian and many went for the audition which I doubt was used in selecting the house mates. Apart from Diane, no other person came from the Northern part of the country. Plenty of my talented idoma sisters and brothers started campaigning for BBN before the audition and non made it to the house. No be only igbos, south south and yorubas de Nigerian oo very soon it will become BBS.

Na Wa oooo. This ur lamentation weak me sote I no even sabi wetin I wan type again.

pocohantas:
Sebi una say it isn't about money, but love.
Your sister has been misled by one religious leader into marrying a broke man. I don't know why they never connect someone to the rich ones.

How can I marry a poor ancestor? What did he spend his youth doing, if he didn't make good money?

Your sister should better go look for a job and fend for herself. Maybe her husband too

Nonsense and alfah males.

Straight UP!!!

Biglittlelois:
But seriously, why would a lady spread her legs on a first date? It doesn't make sense.

The answer to ya kweshun is very simple, a lady spreads her legs on the first date because the Bukata-Bukata needs fresh Air and drilling.

pocohantas:
I don't know why Nigerians take these things as big deal. One ediot nobsalis already took the post to another thread to trend. It is just fcking money!!! If you have it and another person is in need, GIVE!!

Let it pass. Blessed is the hand ✋ that giveth, the recipient might eat better at that moment, but the giver sure sleeps best. I'm sure you had a blissful night rest�

Pattypatt:
ThankGod you didn't, we women do many stupid things for love.

It's a two way thing, men too do same.
For instance, I called one ERINMA wey I been dey reason her matter way back sote she no gree pick my call, na so I begin dey cry unto say "Her LOVE ❤ was looking for my trouble".
Las Las, I stopped crying after eating fried rice, chicken and a chilled bottle of Fanta. That moment I realized I was only HUNGRY and nothing more.[color=#990000][/color]

pocohantas:
I think this should be directed at the majority of Nigerian guys who give for all the wrong reasons. Altruism is my forte, it has never left me pained/heartbroken. Not when I will do same and more for the very next person.

I owe you SOMETHING!!!

victorian:
Nigerians always lurking around to chase confusion and strife know relationships and marriages.

What's the lady problem?

Who ask for her opinion?
Smhhhhh. Jealousy jealousy everywhere one turns. Some nigerians will not mind their fucvking Buisness!! Useless unsolicited advice.

All the ones her boyfriend has showcased on instagram, is she , his number one woman? Instagram this, instagram that? Must everything be on instagram? Nonsense!

Same goes for Nigerian guys. Mind Una fucvking Buisness! Una too sabi destroy relationships with bad advice!

Advice Oshi!

Hmmmm, na WA oooo

starbuck:
I pity the lady in his life , she go dey treat infection come tire untop am...




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