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Single ladies,my advise to you:DO NOT LET DESPERATION LAND YOU IN HYPERTENSION.

Just about anyone with an email account has gotten a missive from someone claiming to be a “Nigerian prince” asking for money and promising a large financial reward in return.

And while the vast majority of us simply ignore the email scams, one man has managed to turn the tables on the aspiring con artists in a very unusual, and funny, way.

Comedian and author Barry Marder actually replies to the Nigerian prince emails.

Often using his pseudonym Ted L. Nancy, Marder sends polite, engaging and entirely naive messages to the individuals asking for his money. And he doesn’t stop replying until the con men themselves literally beg him to leave them alone.

“Basically, I drove them nuts until they cut it off,” Marder told Yahoo News. “They said get away from me, you’re a slowpoke.”

The resulting exchanges were so unexpected and entertaining that Marder showed his pal Jerry Seinfeld, who suggested turning them into a new show.

Ted L. Nancy: Letters from a nut

The story of how Marder, a longtime friend and collaborator of Seinfeld's, started his unusual correspondence with the Nigerian scammers dates to the 1990s.

Marder created the Ted L. Nancy character as a way to interact with companies who invite customers to write them about their experiences with the company’s products.

“I came up with this character in 1994 with my girlfriend, Phyllis Murphy,” Marder said of Nancy’s origins. “I was eating a bag of Fritos, and she was watching TV at 4 in the morning. On the bag, it said, 'If you’ve got any problems, write Fritos.' I said to myself, 'Who would write to Fritos?'”

Marder, as Ted L. Nancy, then began writing letters to major corporations and even public utility providers. And strangely enough, they wrote back.

“I wrote to the gas company and told them I was an avid reader of your gas pamphlets,” Marder told Yahoo News. “I started to get answers back, and I thought wow, these people are going to answer me.”

The Ted L. Nancy act works by seeing how long someone will indulge the ridiculous rants of an entirely sincere, enthusiastic and wildly uninformed man.

“Ted is a very nice, polite person,” Marder explained. “He’s not contentious. He compliments them. And then he starts with the horror, ‘I like to check into your hotel with 300 hamsters.’ Ted was a nut. But he was really nice, friendly nut.”

Eventually, Seinfeld encouraged Marder to compile the Nancy letters into a book. The Ted L. Nancy series – Letters From a Nut became so popular that many people assumed they were actually written by Seinfeld himself. Eventually, the pair had to make a series of national TV appearances on programs like NBC’s “Today” show to convince a skeptical audience that Marder was in fact the person behind Nancy.

'By the sixth exchange, they would be telling me I was a slowpoke'

When the Ted L. Nancy email account started receiving messages from individuals claiming to be Nigerian princes, lawyers or doctors, he knew it was a natural way to extend the humorously benign adventures of Ted L. Nancy.

“Everyone in America gets these letters,” Marder said. “'We have $22 million for you,’ they have this sob story, etc. The stories became more and more outlandish.”

“Comedy is a very good vehicle to show people the truth,” Marder explains. “I would get into 20 to 30 email exchanges with them. I’d ask them if I could get some spending money, could I get some money for dry cleaning," he said.

And while Marder would never actually send any of the email scammers money, he would send them pictures of other, unusual items as part of the ruse.

For example, he’d mail a picture of a single sock or swimming goggles to the physical address where the scammers were asking him to wire money. Then, he would demand that they send back a photo of the sock to confirm they had received his package.

“By the sixth exchange, they would be telling me I was a slowpoke,” Marder said. “This went on until every one of them told me off. I think this is just weird, funny stuff. It’s a social thing, it does paint a picture.”

Along the way, he interacted with scammers hailing from Russia, India and, of course, Nigeria. In the end, they all had two things in common: First they asked for money, and eventually, they all gave up and asked Nancy to just go away.

And now, Marder said he wants to turn the Nigerian prince email exchanges into a new animated Web series. He hopes he and Seinfeld could do some of the voices and his brother Alan Marder could animate a series of 10 episodes chronicling the increasingly bizarre exchanges.

As to whether there’s a deeper social meaning to his efforts, Marder said it’s all done for laughs. But he’s hopeful that anyone not already aware of the scam emails sees his videos before getting roped in.

“Anyone that preys on anyone for any reason, it’s wrong,” he said. “They’re not offering any kind of real service. I think they should be stopped.”

http://news.yahoo.com/blogs/sideshow/-meet-the-comedian-turning-the-tables-on-%E2%80%98nigerian-princes%E2%80%99--162316356.html

To borrow the trending and hackneyed expression on Nairaland,this is truly an END TIMES THINGS. An advertorial was placed in page 17 of the Guardian newspaper of Thursday 5th September 2013 requesting for ladies between the ages of 21-30 who are willing to donate their eggs for pregnancy.The advertisers also stated that a handsome financial compensation awaits eligible donor.Phone numbers for the contacts were also included.

Please view the attached document and focus on the caption:BE A DONOR.

TRULY END TIMES THINGS!

First to say first to comment.On a more serious note,would Oyedepo have been this wealthy without being a church owner?

Pastor Lazarus Muoka always wears a bullet proof and goes on bullet proof cars, well guarded by armed policemen and he tells you an APRON, which he sells at the price of 1000 NAIRA but costs 130 NAIRA to produce, will protect you against any form of attack from armed robbers, hired assassins etc. He makes you believe angels are on guard always, whenever the APRON is worn. If he notices any sign of sickness, he flies to the best hospital in the world to receive medical attention and admonishes you to drink water from a soaked white handkerchief. My brother, My sister you are a good example of ZOMBIE. Please let’s be objective and shun religious sentiment, which has left many of us blind.

Lost but found.....careless owner, and the careless owner is ?

Toyota announced two recalls Wednesday to fix problems with some of its Highlander Hybrid SUVs and Lexus IS 350 models.

The recalls cover a total of 369,000 Toyota vehicles worldwide, including about 235,000 in the U.S. Some 74,000 will be recalled in Japan and 37,500 in Europe.

A spokesperson for the Japanese automaker said no accidents or injuries had been reported as a consequence of the faults.

The larger recall includes Highlander Hybrid models produced between 2006 and 2010 and Lexus RX 400h vehicles manufactured from 2006 to 2008.

In those SUVs, transistors in the hybrid system can overheat, triggering a warning that in some cases can result in the vehicle unexpectedly stopping while in operation.

The second recall includes Lexus IS 350, IS 350C and GS 350 vehicles made between 2006 and 2011. These cars can also stop while on the road, this time due to bolts in the variable valve timing control device coming loose.



Owners of affected autos who reside in the United States will be notified via mail, Toyota aid in a statement.

For Toyota, the recall is another blow to its carefully cultivated reputation for quality. In June, it said it was recalling nearly a quarter of a million Prius and Lexus hybrids because of a braking problem.

The company announced last October a recall of 7.43million cars due to a power window problem that posed a fire risk. In April, the automaker recalled around 1.7 million cars due to airbag defects.

Toyota’s largest recall came in 2009 and 2010, when more than 8 million units were brought in for a potential problem involving sticky accelerator pedals. In that case, dealers were told to suspend sales of eight models, and production of those models stopped temporarily.

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Since Suntai is a Pilot, he should be tested by flying a Jet carrying all members of the cabal that insisted he is sound & fit to govern the State. After the successful flight, he should resume duty immediately... No Wahala !! Jonathan, Patience & Tukur should also join the flight as observers.-Nasir El-Rufai

Cap banking legislator, Farouk Lawal, who collected bribe from Otedola, joins Atiku's PDM party, masquerading as fractional PDP.

The suppliers who provide inferior kits should be changed and not the kits.

Who was it that intelligently designed the cancer cells, Alzheimer's disease, sickle cell & all the other horrific and deadly diseases? Who thought that giving infants' brain cancer is funny?

Who was the genius who thought that earth quakes, hurricanes, floods, tsunamis, volcanoes, and other disasters that kill thousands of humans every year, was a good idea?

Who was the was the great engineer who intelligently designed the malaria carrying mosquitoes that kill thousands of Africans every year--Is this a type of population control from the great designer?

Who was the mastermind that designed an earth where 2/3 of its surface can't be lived on?

Whose omnipotent mind created life so fragile that 90% of the creatures that ever lived on earth are now extinct?

Who was it that thought that it was wise to design an earth and put it in the way of millions of "shooting" asteroids and meteorites, that will eventually crash into earth and causing catastrophic deaths and disaster?

Who designed our sun to eventually burnout ending all life on earth?--Instead of burning in hell, we all will one day freeze to death!

Whose wonderful design was it to make chicken and other animals so delicious and pleasing to some human palette that they have to slaughter millions of them to get the necessary protein that they need to survive? Why does a single plant have to die to feed our hunger?

Who was the Supreme Being with the high IQ who created humans to be warmed blooded, which means that we have to constantly eat in order to stay alive. While this same genius created some creatures cold blooded, which means they can survive months on just one meal.

Who intelligently designed deer flesh and other animal's flesh like them to be the only food that animals like lions and tigers have to eat to survive, which means the lions and tigers must kill the deer and these other animals out of necessity to survive?

Can someone please tell me who is the grand architect who designed urine to flow from our sexual organs---and blood to flow from the female sexual organ?

Which comedienne intelligently designed our sexual organs {especially the female's} to be so close to where we defecate from? It would take a superior being with a very sick & depraved mind to build an entertainment complex in the middle of a sewage system.

Which supreme, all knowing being in their right mind would design humans with brains that are capable of rejecting their creator, and give them brains that are capable of discovering faults and errors in their intelligent designs such as I have stated above?

It seems to me that the intelligent designer[s] need[s] to do some intelligent redesigning on himself/herself/itself/themselves.

A woman's success also makes a man less interested in their relationship, researchers found.
September 2, 2013

According to a new study, men experience a blow to their self-esteem when their female partners experience success, even when they aren’t in direct competition. Women’s success also negatively impacts how men view the future of the relationship, researchers found.

“There is an idea that women are allowed to bask in the reflected glory of her male partner and to be the ‘woman behind the successful man,’ but the reverse is not true for men,” says study co-author Kate Ratliff of the University of Florida.

Ratliff and University of Virginia researcher Shigehiro Oishi put study participants through a series of five experiments to gauge how a partner’s success impacted men’s and women’s implicit and explicit self-esteem. In cases when a woman outperformed her male partner in social or intellectual tasks, men registered a dip in their implicit self-esteem. Meaning, they didn’t report feeling insecure to researchers, but negative feelings and low self-esteem were nonetheless registered on word association and other tests used to gauge unspoken attitudes and feelings.

Women did not register negative emotions when their partners succeeded. Interestingly, when their male partners performed well on a task, women felt more confident about the future prospects of their relationship. Men, however, felt worse about the future of their relationships when their partners were successful. ”So thinking of themselves as unsuccessful might trigger men’s fear that their partner will ultimately leave them,” Ratliff and Oishi wrote of their findings.

The researchers hypothesized a zero-sum approach to success and failure may be what was fueling men’s insecurities and resentment at their partners’ success, explaining that men may be more likely to see their partners’ success as their own failure.

http://www.alternet.org/gender/study-men-secretly-feel-terrible-when-women-they-love-succeed

http://www.apa.org/pubs/journals/releases/psp-a0033769.pdf

No one country defined the fortune of a country tied to a brand it develops than Finland and Nokia. At a point 40% of all the citizens were employed by the global tech giant.

As it is sold to Microsoft, i can understand the mixed emotions going through the minds of those who have built affinity with the brand in that picturesque country.

Which brings me to the point i have STRUGGLED to present to most, if not all NIGERIAN clients i have had dealings with.

In 2007 Nokia was worth $150 billion. THAT WAS THE TIME IT NEEDED TO HAVE TAKEN STOCK AND REINVENTED THE BRAND.

Not when it agreed $7 bilion to be taken over.

One poignant example when i pointed out to a client who supported Man United that Sir Alex Ferguson got it. He always reinvented his teams at the peak of their glory. He understood the age old wisdom that the only way you go when you get to the peak is downwards.

He still didn't get it.

I threw in vivid examples of when he sold off his talismanic players - Eric Cantona, David Beckham, Christiano Ronaldo...........he didn't still get it.

That is the bane of most African businesses according to my brand management and consulting experience.

The general pathetic mentality seems to be 'as long as i am making shitloads of money, the business is good'.

Yes, that's also the time your most potent competition is developing strategies to reposition not just your business, but the whole category that kicks you out of business altogether.

Steve Jobs was too smart to redefine the music category. He invented it altogether with iPod. He integrated a music store, payment system, hardware and music distribution.

Sony was left behind. It has never recovered.

Nokia thought the 'Smart phone' revolution was only a 'niche' market. So it concentrated it's efforts on generic phones.

Despite the first warning of the future from Palm Technologies, the world leader in smartphones then, by the way, i still keep a relic Palm Treo in my cupboard, Nokia failed to see what the future was.

Palm made the mistake of limiting third party collaboration on its platform with developers. It also kept a tight lead on the sharable profits.

Foxy Jobs smashed them with iPhone. It opened up the platform, released APIs for developers to come up with their own ingenuity. That freed up their creative energies in resolving some of the conundrums of living in the city.

Got a fever? There's an app for that revolution was kickstarted.

That was because Steve Jobs knew a smartphone is only as smart as the apps it can boast of.

Nokia was really left behind. Thankfully it got another left-behind behemoth to marry. Microsoft wants to make up for lost ground and there's real challenge for Apple and Google.

Apple's invincibility is already shattered, the world is waiting for the next big thing from them................almost in vain.

Location & Mapping was where they wanted to pull the hat trick, but Google is waiting with years of repeated investment.

So for the umpteenth time thou African brands and managers.......when is it good to reinvent a brand?

At the peak of your glory.

Enough said.

#Rant of a strategist over.

A Coup was attempted which led to Lucifer being thrown down from heaven. Now how do you know another coup hasn't occured....a successful one this time, and the god you know has been overthrown and replaced by another god? The last record is 2000yrs old, and obviously there is no way to know what has been happening in "heaven".

Maybe a tyrant has overthrown the god in whose tenure the bible was written, so which god are you worshipping? Or is it the office of "god" you worship and not whoever sits in it?

I have changed my mind. I am going to Heaven!
so God created the entire universe and all life forms in 6 days but it's taking him 2,000 years to prepare heaven. It's going to be one hell of a place!

UberFacts (@UberFacts):Ecclesiophobia is the fear of going to church.

I have changed my mind. I am going to Heaven!
so God created the entire universe and all life forms in 6 days but it's taking him 2,000 years to prepare heaven. It's going to be one hell of a place!

Poster,Your argument is so parochial.What about artisans who have been turned to emergency okada riders because of epileptic power supply?e.g barbers,tailors etc

Manufacturing companies that have been shut down leading to mass downsizing of workers.The positive implication of regular supply in this regard outweigh the consumerism disposition of Nigerians.

are u so called christians telling us to keep abormination pregnancy forced to any of our sisters by a bloody criminal in d name of rape,if it is not her wish to keep d baby,? or do u people want us to keep any pregnancy that endangers any of our sisters life?, NO problem any body who dont support shouled get ready any time this type of pregnancy is found u just go to hospital and let the baby be transferred into ur own body.

[quote author=Okija_juju]WTF!!

They take all our Monies and then tell us we are not invited to the wedding?! #THIERFATHER!!

My Egunje is paying for that wedding.. I am a Shareholder even in the IGP's Wifes kpekus as well.!!

Nonsense.. I must eat the fruits of my Egunje o!!



[sub]Plus! The Police is my Friend, and I always attend my Friends weddings..

Gathers coins for spraying the IGP & his new wife..

[b]CSI MODE:: Isnt it too early for the IGP to be remarrying after his wifes death?! I think he should be investigated for her death... #JustSaying..[/sub]


[/b][/quote]Naija pastors sef dey remarry just after one year,Anselm Madubu.....

S.E.XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX,According to Abraham Maslow is one of the physiological needs of man in the same category with food,shelter and clothing.It is just a need that must be met among humans including prisoners.

So I guess by 2017/2018, and further on, some people would begin to call "Aliko Dangote a Monopoly in the Oil Sector" which would of course happen once he completes his planned 400,000 bpd refinery; this they would do as ALL THE OTHER BIG MEN AT HOME AND THEIR OLOYINBO BLOWING FRIENDS IN THE DIASPORA would have refused to build a refinery before now [even though some of them collected licenses to do so] while expecting Govt to do so.

These people will shout as their earlier shou against the sale of the PH/Kaduna refineries Dangote led to the cancellation of the transactions - what this pattern confirms as I have pointed out in times past is that "We are nation blessed with more TALKERS than DOERS" in which the TALKERS even begin to victimize the fewer DOERS; a nation where its people would refuse to see opportunities but only complain of such happenstances when someone chooses to take of the same opportunities.

The story of Nigeria is like that of a father who has 36 children. He takes the income of his wealthy children to a central port and distributes it among his 36 children. A good father will encourage all his children to be creative and hardworking so that they can make the money to sustain themselves. A bad father will ignore the larger picture of every child being self-sustaining and insist on redistributing his children’s wealth. The ultimate danger is that you will have children who are extremely lazy and unwilling make good use of their talents and gifts. Every month, they will go to “papa” to give them their own share of the other children’s wealth. It will now reach a stage that they will start complaining that the money is not enough to buy the limousine of their dream.

I understand a bit of the logic of natural resources. The oil in the Niger Delta is a gift of nature, many will argue, since the people played no role in putting it under the ground. So let’s share it—it belongs to all. But so also can we say of human beings—we are not gifted the same way! Michael Jackson could sing better than his brothers and sisters. But it would be wrong to compel Michael to bring his income to the table so that his father could share it among all the Jacksons. If that were the case, Janet or Jermaine or LaToya would have no reason to do any work at all. They would all be waiting for the month to end to collect their own FAAC. But Janet honed her skills and became a success in her own right as an artiste. She may not be anywhere near the success of Michael, but she is certainly a success. The Jacksons can have a common purse where they can contribute resources for the common cause of the family. There is nothing wrong with that. But to make a policy of taking from one Jackson to sustain another Jackson is illogical.

There is no state in Nigeria that cannot sustain itself if the governors understand the art and science of development. If it is natural resources, every state has them. If it is value-added agriculture, every state can become an industrial host. These are the things that can generate employment, generate economic activities, generate tax revenue and shore up the incomes of the states. The real challenge for the governors is: how can they use what they’ve got to get what they need? How can they put the right policies in place to attract the needed investment? How do they spend wisely to make state economies viable? These are the questions they should be asking. But because of the ease of travelling to Abuja for federal allocation cheques every month, forward planning and critical thinking are no longer part of governance.

The eternal reliance on oil revenue has done a lot of damage to the federation. Every day now, we hear the Niger Delta people say “our oil, our oil”. During the petrol price hike crisis last year January, some Niger Delta person, trying to suggest that the protests were unjustly aimed at President Goodluck Jonathan, said something like: “If our son is not good enough to be president of Nigeria, then our oil is not good enough for Nigeria.” This warped logic—which tends to paint oil as the solution to all human problems—defies the fact that the most advanced countries in the world do not rely on oil revenue. Even Norway, the poster boy of successful management of oil revenue, survives on tax. Their oil money is saved largely for the rainy day.

But do you blame us? Why do we need to stretch our brain to dream of building our own Microsoft and Apple when we can look up to Abuja for the flow of petrodollars every month? Why should Bauchi bother to tap its tourism potential? Why should Bayelsa dream of feeding Africa with its FADAMA rice when there is a fat FAAC cheque to be collected in Abuja monthly? Why should we quicken Ajaokuta so that the fourth biggest steel company in the world can begin to operate fully and spice up the economy? Why should Aba be developed into our own Taiwan or Japan? There is no such incentive. The only incentive I can see in Nigeria is federation account.

It wouldn’t even matter if we are utilising federal allocations to develop the most important resource at our disposal: the human capital. Oil is not the real deal, no matter how dominant it has become in our lives. It was human beings that designed cars and made petrol as important as it is today. Human beings are now designing cars that run on bio-fuels, electricity and solar energy. By the time the cars become popularly accepted, the demand for oil could drop. It may not happen in the next 50 years but it would happen someday. So the wise person does not keep emphasising on oil and ignoring human capital. The wise person thinks about a future where our lives will no longer depend on oil but on the quality of the brain. It was human beings that invented aeroplanes, computers and phones, etc. If we are wise now, our energies should be devoted to getting out of this oil trap.

I wish we could discuss these issues honestly without trading insult and threat. The quality of public debate is very poor in Nigeria. We have a real problem in our hands but instead of engaging in fruitful debates to chart the way forward, we specialise in name-calling and blackmail as if that would solve our problem. Those of us who have no interest in politics or politicking will continue to make our point.

Pokemon43: U went to the alter and u promised d marriage was for better for worse.remember God hates divorce.

Some people due to their religious convictions believe that marriage once instituted is indissoluble. Infact that it is a ‘sin’ to end a marriage union. This group of people will quote some excerpts from their holy books.
Perhaps I should start by trying to define marriage. It can be defined as the civil/legal/cultural/religious union of a man and a woman to live together and possibly procreate. Today,in some countries, it also involves a man and another man or a woman and another woman. But whichever it is, I am interested now in the divorce aspect.
First of all, how do marriages start? It is by the consent of the parties involved. This means that it is the decision of the parties involved to live together as husband and wife. Now, this is an ideal situation because there are cases of forced marriages!!! Those ones do not even deserve to be called marriage.
It is a fact that people tend to consent to marrying because of certain agreeable affinities, qualities and character whose expression they have seen in their partner. These characters are not cast in stone, they are not fixed or immutable !! the law of change operates within all.
It is also a fact that people tend to change with time, experiences and circumstances. Some changes are increasingly inclined towards goodness while some change towards bad/evil. So what happens when a partner start showing or exhibiting a character that is not in agreement with the earlier expectations of his/her spouse? Especially when such character/habits is becoming increasingly manifested .
Infidelity, physical abuse, disrespect, intolerance, hatred, irresponsibility, etc . how can one be compelled to remain in a marriage that brings only sadness, hate, pains and can even cost life? To some people, it is a scriptural commandment !!! what God have joined together, let no man put asunder!!!!!!
However all the marriages I know and can think of are made by man and joined by man !!! there is no marriage made in `heaven`, all are made on earth by man to serve man!!! What the Master Initiate, Jesus The Christ said is Not exoteric in meaning but esoteric !!!
It is a way of saying that the laws of man serves man but the laws of God serves God !!! so, if by the laws of man, marriage serves man, do not bring God into the equation. Likewise, in nature`s laws, man MUST not interfere. Wordly problem today is the result of man’s in-harmonious interference in natural law. So when people say that marriage is ordained by God, it is a slanderous statement!!!
Marriage serves man and not the other way round. As two people freely of their own volition decides to marry and live as husband and wife, they are equally free of their own volition to call it quit if the union no longer serve them as they deem fit!! infact, endangering your life by `sticking` in an injurious and irredeemable union of any sort exacts punishment n you.
However, rational reasoning demands that choices in life must be subjected to the laws of change. For those under the fetters of mis-guided religious creed. You alone bears the consequences of your ignorance, in life and in death!!! Man is his savior and destroyer.

[quote author=hunkydory]What sense does heavenly feeling make.Seun allow these words to appear the way they are.[/

O.R.G.A.S.M

In a recent interview with TheNetng, Who Wants To Be A Millionaire’ host Frank Edoho’s wife, Katherine Obiang, who has three kids for the TV host talked about her 7-year old marriage to Frank.

See excerpts below:

How are your kids?

They are great.

And how are they taking the whole divorce issue?

We are not really divorced. It’s still a work-in-progress kind of thing but we are taking it well. When its time for him to see the children, he does and when its time to return them, he does. On my part, I
have carried the children along and make them understand they are not stained because of it. I wouldn’t want them to develop a complex because of it. We didn’t design for these things to happen but they do. It’s like people who have lost their parents, they didn’t plan for it but they have to move on. I watch them and I think they are doing pretty okay especially because we talk about it every time there is a reason to.

Y[b]ou mentioned that you aren’t really divorced. Does that suggest possibility of reconciliation?
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No, it doesn’t. We just started the process but there isn’t any hope for reconciliation. We know we would always be in each other’s lives because of the children, so we have to be civil. When the children are getting married for example, we have to hide our differences and make it work.

What if he (Frank) came back, would you consider it?

No. Three years have gone by. It will be a whole entire process of knowing somebody all over again and I don’t have the energy to do that. We’ve let it burn and I don’t think he will do that.

Do you sometimes miss him?

He had such a great sense of humor. I don’t know if he still does. His sense of music too, being a radio presenter, and we used to exchange thoughts on things regarding that, but otherwise, I don’t miss him in that nostalgic way of…It’s a part of my life I have come to terms with. I am a solution oriented person. He was part of my life for more than 10 years (dated for four years and got married for 7 years).

Looking back at everything, do you wish you never got separated?

No, I think Frank and I should not have gotten married in the first place. We should just have been friends because he was an awesome friend. While I was dating someone else and he had to go back to his country, he (Frank) was there all through and I had known him all the while he was in the University of Calabar and we started our career together. I think we shouldn’t have pushed it to marriage and just stayed as friends.

Any regrets about that?

No. I have three lovely kids to show for it and of course, every thing happens for a reason and a purpose. They can only make us better or stronger people and it has done so for me. I have grown from what went wrong.

What is usually the cause of the fight?

I think it’s impatience, anger and not knowing how to deal with issue in the now, so you react before you think. It goes like, ‘huh, how dare you say this to me…is that what you will say?’ I can’t remember any one in particular, it has been long now, I have moved on and it’s not a thing that can happen to me again but I always say no matter what, a man should not raise his hands on a woman. A woman should also not goad a man too much. It takes nothing from the man who walks away because once he hits a woman, he starts to think it is justifiable. Unfortunately, we are in a society where we have friends that will give you thumbs up for doing that. A man should be calmer and not react on the now.

Are you making efforts to ensure that your son isn’t wrongly influenced by this?

I have a son and I talk to him all the time. I let him know he must be there to protect his sister. They should look at him and feel safe with him and he knows that. The girls also push him and I caution them, so it’s a balance.

Were you hit by the rumors of his recent marriage?

I didn’t want to believe he was because we are still married (legally). We are not divorced, so I didn’t see how that was possible and didn’t loose sleep over it. I’m not asking him not to go on with his life but things should be done properly. We are separated for three years and now in the divorce process. If he found happiness and love, then I’m happy for him.

Will you be trying your hands on marriage again?

You just never know.

If you would, what kind of man would he be?

You come to a point in your life where you can’t afford to do things out of adrenaline but with great thought. It would be a more mature person, someone who is calm and has a fine sense of how life should be. Someone who is mature, wise and seen life and the ways of the world and knows what he is doing at every time.

When you think about all that has happened, does it bring tears to your eyes?

No, I feel a sense of disappointment instead especially now when the children come home with questions that I need a man to answer, if he (their father) were around. For example, someone to be there for my son at a time when he is writing his common entrance examination. It’s a feeling of disappointment, but you know, we have to rise above them and you go on.

What was your reaction the very first time it happened?

I’m like these things happen in marriages but we think of reconciliation and getting families involved. It is your first trial in marriage and nobody gives a guideline about how things are going to be.

Apart from being part of the Project Alert, what other steps have you taken to help women who are battling with domestic violence?

I talk to them but in the end, I let them know, the decision is theirs. A friend of mine was involved in this and after we talk, she will go back to him. No matter what platform there is, it rests on the individual. It is what I have arrived at. I still share my story when I have the chance to.

http://dailystar.com.ng/2013/08/27/frank-edoho-and-i-should-not-have-married-ex-wife-katherine-opens-up/?wt=3

Symphony007: I have always found couples wether dating or married showering together just plain disgusting and going too far. Shower time for every human is suppose to be one the the most private of times? Why invite someone to share that salient moment with you, showers are private. The body is private. I'll fight with any girl i date or marry that suggest we do it. I just hate it so much and i know i am not alone. If you don't agree with me, luminate me on what you gain by showering with your partner.

Why are you being unnecessarily squeamish?Your partner is not only a help mate but a pfucking mate as well as a bath mate!

The man should be charged for two offences:
1. Robbery
2. Defamation of other robbers and disrespect to the profession of burglary.

While frozen fish are caught in the high seas in Asia, Europe and America, from where we import, our dominant domestic product is catfish, which is a little bit expensive for the poor. The varieties of imported frozen fish, which are the staple of poor Nigerians, are not produced locally, at least not yet in commercial quantity. These are herring (shawa), sardine, horse mackerel (kote), sardinella (agbodu), and whiting (panla or Okporoko). Our underdeveloped trawling industry is seriously encumbered with security and pollution issues. I am yet to see a roadmap to address these issues. Even though we may have potential in salt-water fish, only the catfish has become accustomed to breeding and farming in Nigeria. Others have not been successful. They are either too expensive to breed or do not adapt to our local conditions.
Since the rationale for import bans is import-substitution, what then is the sense in banning what you cannot produce locally? There are various implications. Nigerians cannot be forced to switch to catfish overnight.

Also, frozen fish will still find its way into our market through Benin Republic, only that it will become more expensive, logically. There could be some social disorder if the major source of healthy animal protein is cut off from millions of poor homes. What is the likely economic and nutritional impact on the masses? How long will this impact last? Can we actually eliminate some species of fish from our market and our diet? What alternatives can we develop and how long will it take to develop them? Has the government properly thought through this policy?

Get me right: I am not saying that we should continue to import frozen fish forever. Far, far from it! However, government must do proper impact assessment before rolling out a policy that could affect the lives of over 100 million Nigerians. A well-intentioned policy that is poorly conceived and poorly timed will have a devastating effect on the people. I don’t think any government would like that. Luckily, the drawing board is still there for our policymakers. They must do their home work properly.

Future Nollywood Adaptations COZA Scandal

1. Ese and the Serpent
2. Abuja Levels of Grace
3. The Coming of the Man of God
4. Touch My Anointed Here!
5. The Pastoral Care Unit
6. "Coza!" She wrote.
7. The Laps of Apostles
8. The Big Bang Theory (the non-comedic version)
9. Thy Rod and Thy Staff.
10."Sitting on the Laps of Grace"
11.A new level of Sexxxual Grace