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SHIVA001:
Oga Rest, Wey my Vaseline. Make I do data self, I'm Coming Back, xvideos over to you. .

Go to Verydarkblackman page on Facebook. He just dropped a video about masturbation. Look for the video and watch what he said about masturbation. Once you are done, alert me here that you've watched it so I can share you one story.

ufotty2001:

God bless u for saying the Truth. This is exactly what am passing through now.. see the right lady is my biggest problem.. sometimes I just feel like jumping into marriage whether she is the right lady or not.. I don't just want to know.

I understand how you feel. You are not alone. But I must tell you, you can't afford to be with the wrong woman as a man. She will make life miserable for you. You need to get it right and this is where you have to be intentional about it but not with desperation.

Taking Williams Uchemba as an example. When Uchemba was looking to settling down, before he met his current wife he is married to now, he said he has other ladies he was relating with at the time.

However, those particular ladies didn't tick the major box for him. They were still lacking in some important qualities he really wants in a woman.

He felt quite confused at the time, and guess what he did! He said he fervently prayed about it asking God to give him the right woman. Take note, he prayed for the right woman.

After sometimes, miraculously, he ended up meeting this his present wife. He examined her and discovered that she actually ticked all the major boxes for him in terms of being with the right woman.

That's why I earlier said that when it comes to finding the right woman, it's not something you do alone with your human wisdom. You need to seek a celestial help from above. You need to intentionally pray about it, asking whichever God you serve to guide you, depending on your religion. You need to seek devine direction.

Now this verse of the Bible comes to mind.

biblegateway.com

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. - Philippians 4:6 NIV.

Now, let me tell you 1 to 2 of the reasons Uchemba married that his wife. He said he married his wife because;

1. She is godly, loyal and has respect

2. She gives him peace of mind

3. She isn't materialistic

4. She is supportive

Those are the different boxes she ticks for him. Having dated her for sometimes, he discovered she was the one for him. How did he arrive at that? He prayed for it and he got exactly what he asked for. He discovered this particular lady was different from the rest of the ladies he was relating with.

So, as young men who are due for marriage, let's borrow some lessons from Williams Uchemba as we look out for that rightful one.

ufotty2001:
na this kind advice I go follow. Now am 38yrs I never marry but financially stable.

The issue is not really about getting married. There are many young guys that are ripe and actually ready for marriage. But one major problem is the issue of finding the right one.

Looking at how damaged our young ladies of today have become, many guys that are ready for marriage get discouraged.

To meet the right lady is not a day job. You can't do it by yourself. You need to seek devine help from above.

Meeting the right one will come naturally when you are hopeful and less desperate. But when you get bothered over your age and always filled with the thought of all your mate getting married already, you will feel desperate. And when you are desperate, you will end up simping for women which might make you end up investing in the wrong lady that might later end up leaving you for another guy while using you to get material things.

So, the best thing to do as a man, is to calm down and make sure you take your time to find that special, well brought up, virtuous lady that will give you peace of mind and treat you like a king.

In fact, as a man, you can get married even at 50. Men never outgrown marriage, only women do, due to menopause.

So, never allow desperation of marriage make you invest in the wrong woman or date a wrong woman for marriage.

Don't pressure yourself into getting married. It's not about wanting to get married before 34. What you should ask yourself is have you found the right lady? Have you scrutinized her of all glaring red flags or you are still making up for her with the mindset of she will change?

Marriage is not a joke. Ask those that are in it. They will tell you. Anything that makes you get married to the wrong person, you are done with. That's why you need to make sure you find the right person that will give you peace of mind before even thinking about anything marriage.

I am 2 years older than you, but I am not evening thinking of marriage right now. You can't be thinking of marriage when you haven't even found the right lady.

Don't rush into marriage just because you feel the need to marry. You need to find the right lady first that believes in you and will support you as a man.

Don't fail to look before you leap!

And if you must japa, don't allow UK to be on your list. UK is over rated. Look elsewhere. There are other better countries than the UK.

UncleKoboko:
Not japa ing long time ago when I could easily if I wanted to...


Nigeria is SINKING...

It's never too late if you haven't crossed 45.

Ibkrichie:
My only regrets this year was allowing my flesh to overrule me, I engaged in fornication by patronizing sex worker... i regretted it 😢😭

Now make a resolution to stay away from sex just like me. I know how women stare at me whenever I go out. They know I carry positive aura and they can sense it from afar.

Having stayed away from sex for some time now, I discovered my prayers also get answered very fast by God. I also noticed people tend to honour me more anywhere I go even without saying a word. I also tend to have lots of good lucks knocking at me here and there.

I won't lie you, illicit sex carries lots of bad lucks. So, it will be a good news if you can have a new turn this new year.

I don't masturbate or engage in any sexual play. Having stayed away from all those stuffs for sometime now, this has really helped to reset my mind and tamed my sexual urges. Sex doesn't move me any more.

But don't try my early morning erection. It's still very functional. But when it comes, I don't even feel the urge to engage in sex.

I just said let me share this with you to encourage you. If I can, you too can, trust me.

NurseG84:
Coming to the UK was my regret in 2023,just when I thought I was coming to reunite with my husband, never new it would rather tore us apart, everyday work 12hrly,tore us apart totally.

Are you sure it's working 12 hours that caused you guys to separate or there is more to it?

We've been hearing about how Nigerian women in UK no longer respect their husbands when they get there and start making money and also following other men.

I just hope that's not what caused your separation.

machote:
Thanks once again. Happy New Year in advance.

You're welcome.

machote:
Mcslize, thank you for your encouraging words. Good news! I just checked my email and found out they've reinstated my account!!. I didn't give up and I sent them another email pleading my case and it has been resolved. I'm so pumped right now. Just logged in and everything is ok. But my last book that caused the issue is blocked, but that's ok. I finally know what caused the error. God is the greatest! This is literally an "eleventh hour" miracle.

Good to know. What a good news! Glory be to God.

iLoveYouToo:
I know one in Abuja, she sells men's apparel. Her daily Whatsapp status is filled with sex/porn clips with inviting captions like 'who can handle me like this?' Makes you wonder what she's REALLY selling.

You can imagine! Majority of ladies that claim to be selling men wears or one product or the other are doing hookup. A handful of them.

And guys do request home delivery with happy ending and they will hardly turn down the happy ending aspect cuz they see that as extra cash on the side. We know all their paroles.

May God help our ladies of this generation.

machote:
They said that one of my books caused"misleading customer experience and it impairs customer's ability to make make good buying decisions", it was blocked then the termination followed.

That's quite bad on the part of Amazon. The thing is that some of the Amazon support team take decision based on their individual minds and based on how lenient the individual that will respond to your issue is. Some won't terminate your account on the first time you make such a mistake. Others will just terminate the account straight up.

I have seen someone who has received multiple warnings time and time again, but his account still stands. That's why I said, there is more to this business. Let's not always rely on our own human cautiousness. No matter how careful we can be, we still need to make some prayers here and there regarding our accounts.

Such prayers will help keep our account safe even in the face of any mistake. There are times when the wrong person will attend to your mistake and that will come with a termination email. That's why we still need to pray for our accounts so that no matter the mistake, terminating your account won't be the first option that will cross their minds.

Having said that, you need to bounce back. Go on and create another account. Clear your browser cookies and cache and create a new account with new details. New email, phone number and address. Write new books and start publishing again.

And to avoid that mistake, don't in any way copy anyone's title word for word. Avoid making your book cover look exactly as another person's cover. Make sure your titles are unique to avoid amazon query regarding misleading customers experience.

I think this will help to keep your account safe.

samwash:
My question be say who be this guy's when dey patronize all these girls?
This girl nor go change, even in husband's house, she go still dey run this show base on code.

You won't ask this question if you know how hórny some men can be. Both the married ones. They just dey fúck any how.

When you see how cheap sex is in this generation, you will just loose interest in engaging in it with cheap ladies who don't have dignity in their bodies.

It's quite irritating how ladies now record themselves naked and be sending it to guys. How stupid can that be!

Engaging in illicit sex in this era isn't worth it at all if you ask me. All men really need to tame their sexual urges I must say.

Nazgul:
I don't get this.

8k to sleep with a total stranger when she has a fiance she's living with and who's probably shouldering all her financial responsibilities.

Like what is 8k and what exactly can such amount of money do for her in this economy?

If the money the op was offering was like 500k - 1m, I would have understood. But 8k? Haba, that girl is nothing but a parasite.

Back then in 2008-2010 nobody knows anything about the word hookup. I can't believe how things have become worst. Ladies now flaunt hookup up and down on social media, committing all sorts of perversions.

Go on Instagram, Tiktok, Telegram and Twitter, they are all there posting ass and boobies.

Even some on Facebook are into hookup. What do you expect from jobless ladies that feed off men for a living!

If you ask them, what do you do for a living, the only lame answer will always be I am an entrepreneur. What are you preneuring? I sell men wears, shoes and I am a fashion designer.

When you hear answers like that, just know such ladies are jobless and the possibility of them doing hookup is high. They just use those things to cover up. Their major occupation is hookup and posting twerking, boobies and ass pictures on Instagram, Tiktok and Twitter.

Men of this generation are in big trouble when it comes to marriage. Cuz the rate of promiscuity in our women in this era is quite terrifying.

machote, you quoted me in an unrelated thread. However, I have to mention you in this thread to provide you a better reply.

You said your account was terminated. First thing to do is to first of all know the reason that led to the termination.

So, I want to ask, what was the reason your accounted was terminated?

FanRong:
I'm sorry, this post is going to be a long one. But you're saving a soul if you read through and advice candidly.



She wasn't everything I need in a women, but I told myself I could train her the way I want. We continued adjusting to each others likes and dislikes.



I need mature and candid advice please.
Should I continue with the marriage plans or the redflags are obvious?

I made sure I cut out the rest parts. I picked interest in this bolded part. Now, this is what I will ask you to do. Go on Facebook and search for Verydarkblackman, scroll till you find his analysis about Emeka Ike and his ex wife saga.

Trust me, that analysis will provide you all the answers you need especially that bolded part when you said you can train her more like shape her to be the woman you want.

Just do well to go and watch the whole of that very video of Verydarkblackman. It will open your eyes to some things about this your particular relationship.

Badassniggga:
I haven't tasted all the soups here but Banga and Gbegiri remains the best soups I've ever eaten 🍲 💯

Go and try Owho soup in Delta state, you will have a change of mind. Any way, they are both Deltan soups.

slaawomirr:
Damnnn niggar
Okro is my favourite food there

If you are a woman and you know how to cook okro soup so well then ain't gonna leave you never

That yeye black Soup wey your state dey call black soup na rubbish. I just say let me let u know.

How can someone blend vegetable with bitter leaf and sell it to people to buy as black soup? Is that not wickedness?

The day I bought that soup, I regretted it. I was told it's black soup. So I thought it's the normal Calabar vegetable soup called Edikaiko. Not knowing they just blended leafs together, filter off the water, add salt and maggi and boil as soup for people to eat.

You guys better upgrade.

DrDoc:
To make money fast, focus on the speed of acceptability. Meaning what you can get in large quantity, pieces down to tiny price then can be sold in bulk in big amounts.


I cam dorect you on a business to do

Dont do pure water. The machines and equipment power consumption. Setup a factory with very low power consumtipn and that the finished product is as tiny as 50-200 Naira that cam be distributed in vast amounts. You get ?

That's good. Thanks for this insight.

DrDoc:
Sorry. Ill pass. But i know that 90% of the forum isers are not into any product manufacturing so i understand they will mever understand.

I get it. What do you think about Branded purified bottle water factory business (pure water business)?

maasoap:
And she didn't have his number too before making such decision? Let's keep defending bullshits

My brother, don't mind some individuals. They will always campaign for what's wrong.

Romanoff of a person wants to tell me, if he or she doesn't hear from his or her parents for a long time, he or she won't call to find out what's going on with them? Is that what Romanoff is trying to tell us?

When you don't hear from someone that used to keep in touch with you regularly but abruptly goes off, the most reasonable thing you are supposed to do Romanoff is to call the person to find out what's going on. But no, here you are saying the other wise.

cc: Romanoff

Stevenbright:
She did something wrong and she is trying to put the blame on you. Why didn't she called you to hear from you instead of making assumptions. Like she said, she has moved on and it is left for you to do the best thing for yourself too.

I can assure you that what she did over there is far worse than what she spilled. So, get ready for more wrongs and the blames put on you as the relationship continues.

This is one aspect majority of ladies always get it all wrong. They are mostly after their own self. A lady didn't hear from a guy, if she is truly interested in the guy, what's the right thing to do? Is it not by calling the guy to find out what must have been going on with him? But no, when they don't hear from a guy, they will just quickly start seeing another man immediately without even finding out from the other guy if he is still alive or not or something happened to him. To be frank, I won't say such ladies genuinely care.

A lady that truly cares about a guy will call the guy if she doesn't hear from the guy for a period of time. But this isn't always the case. Majority will rather just walk away to the next available man.

I don't see such ladies being loyal cuz any little challenge from the man, they will start looking outside for the next available man.

What stops a lady from reaching out to a guy she is planning something serious with if she doesn't hear from the guy for a period of time is what baffles me.

That's one area a handful of ladies really need to work on. They believe that the man should always be the one checking up on them without them checking up on the man.

So, if the man is sick and failed to reach out, they will just come up with assumptions and move to the next man without even reaching out to him to find out what could be wrong.

That attitude is very bad of majority of ladies I must say.

cc: letstalksense

DrDoc:
20m used to be a big deal to me. But not anymore, i dont need investor. I dont need your contribution. I dont need your validation or opinion.

What line of business are you into? If you don't mind sharing.

Hornfourtoonate:
I neva buy medicine.
I always experience my eyes turning me everyday I wake up in the morning. Does it mean I don't have blood in my body or it is because of hunger? I need advice and help

Go and check your blood pressure. Your blood pressure is low below normal.

There was a sudden drop in your blood pressure, leading to inadequate blood flow to your brain. That's what made you fainted and lost consciousness.

Naijagram:
Seeking your thoughts, everyone!!!

I work as a salaried individual and earn around 400k monthly.

However, my girlfriend constantly asks for money. I give her almost 100k every month and she feels it's not enough for her. She's even voiced discontent, suggesting I only send her money when she explicitly requests it.

I'm beginning to suspect her motives, as she seems solely focused on my income.

She never suggests saving or helps in cutting costs; her primary interest lies in spending everything.
Despite my genuine love for her, I can't keep up with her demands. I had hopes for our future together, but it seems unlikely now.

I'm considering a breakup as a solution.

Has anyone navigated a similar situation?

Read this my comment below in this thread if you love yourself. It will open your eyes to a mistake you have been making as a man in your parasitic relationship.

Read Below:

https://www.nairaland.com/7948168/what-giving-girlfriend-december/5#127622566

Notfogotten:
So let me lay low for the next 7 months.

But do you know she can still trace this to you with the little info you provided? If I were you, I will mention 4 kids in place of the 3 kids that you guys have. And I will mention 3 months in place of 1 month that you have joined her. You just have to swap the info so that incase she bumped into this post, she can't link it to you.

Life is all about wisdom.

SALLYBERRY01:
Electronics has the higher percentage.

in the picture attached most f the electronics course i offered was related to it.

few i could remember are;
digital electronics
analog electronics
computer architecture and some others i could not remember at the moment.

Ok. That's good then. You will assess your qualification as an Electronics Engineer. This is purely Australia skilled migration for professionals.

To start the process, do well to follow this thread and read the first 20 pages to have a good understanding of the whole process:

https://www.nairaland.com/4478747/diy-guide-australian-permanent-resident

SALLYBERRY01:
i offered the three courses as a course during my undergraduate, my course is a combination of electronics and computer engineering

Ok. That's good then. We are getting there. Out of all the courses you offered, how many percentage was electronics? Did you do a handful of electronics courses or more of computer?

I need an answer for the bolded. Also, check the attached photos if the description below fit some of the courses you did for electronics.

uniquetechng:
Animals are called bush meat because they lives in the bush, and yeah the African giant rat is also a bush meat.

If this is rat, please show me a rabbit.

SALLYBERRY01:
Computer engineering

I don't really know which of these your educational qualification fit the most. 👇

machote:
Reminds me of the girl I went out on a simple date with a while ago. Got the sharwama and she INSISTED she get the ice cream. I was surprised because most Nigerian girls don't like to share the bills on a date lol. I won't lie I was a little bit impressed.

You see. That's very impressive. That's the type of lady a man should keep and see future with. Such a lady will be a very supportive partner. I will never overlook that aspect as a man cuz u know why?

It's not all the time a man will be financially buoyant. Things can go south unexpectedly and if you have a supportive partner who is not selfish, she can be helping out sometimes. Such gestures are what make good relationships.

Keep that girl, if she meets the rest of your criteria. That gesture she displayed is very rare of a typical Nigerian girl. Only a lady that genuinely have your interest will use her money to get something or want to share some bills with a man. She just displayed a supportive gesture which is very commendable of her.

SALLYBERRY01:
how much will i need

You don't need to break a bank to make the move. Just make sure you're saving. But first of all, what did you study in school?

SALLYBERRY01:
how can i relocate to USA as a fresh engineering graduate and budget friendly

I would have loved to show you a more better way. But you won't value the assistance I will render you.

But if you really want to, then I will like to ask, what's your budget at the moment? Let's start from there.

Do know that, you don't have to save huge amount of money to make your japa move. But having a good idea of your current budget will be a good starting point.