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Don't let Charles Okacha catch you for calling California. Your own don finish be that.

I can go on vacation to those two countries but I will never like to reside in any of those two or raise my unborn children there.

Remnant001:
I actually received the sum of 56000naira from my girl friend..have plans to take her out on boxing day.We also have plans to get marry next year.

Now, this is what I was saying in my previous post. This is what we referred to as a lady that is investing in a man. This relationship will be well balanced and will stand the test of time because the lady is investing in the guy which happens to be you just as much as you invest in her by planning to take her out.

Tell me how such a lady will leave you. Ladies never leave what they have invested in.

"Now this is to all the young men out there; that's why I have been sounding it to you guys, as a man, before you should take a relationship with any lady so seriously, check very well if she is investing in you.

If she is not, make her to invest. If she finds it hard giving you things or spending her own money to get you things, brother, do not see any future with such a lady. The relationship will be wreak of selfishness and won't stand the test of time because it's only the man that is investing. Such ladies don't find it hard walking away in the face of any little misunderstanding".

Pls guys, make sure your babe you wish to marry invest in you like this guy's babe. You need to settle down with lady that has your interest at heart and also has the habit of giving you things as she is receiving from you. This will help the relationship to be well balanced and both parties will put in efforts to make it work. But in a situation where the relationship is one sided, that is only you the guy that is giving her things, she doesn't give you as her man, flee from such a lady.

Let's learn from this guy babe. With this, this guy is sure the babe truly wants the best for him.

I am sounding it again and again to every guy out there, if your current babe isn't investing in you, brother have a rethink. Such a relationship will be suffering from parasitism and won't last trust me. Cuz when she finds the next best man, she will end things with you without minding all that you have done for her.

That's why it is good to make your lover to invest in you. In fact, both of you should make it a habit of investing in each other. That's what makes a true relationship.

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It's always what are you giving her. Ask yourself if you are a guy, what is she going to give to you? Men are really suffering. They put too much efforts into relationships that they ain't getting anything from order than to give, give and give.

If the lady you're dating currently isn't investing in you the way you invest in her, believe me you, you are just dating yourself.

If as a man, you are the only one always buying, buying and buying things for her, just know that the day both of you have any little disagreement, it won't take her a minute to walk out of the relationship because to her, she has nothing to loose. But you as a man that has invested a lot in her, you will be the one that will find it hard to move on. Why? Because you are the one that invested the most.

The one that invested the most in a relationship is always the one that has less power in a relationship. If she isn't investing in you as much as you do invest in her, she is just using you.

Now, as a man, check your relationship critically, and ask yourself, is your current girlfriend investing in you? Because if you don't make her to invest now, she won't put in efforts to make the relationship work for both of you.

A lady can only take you seriously if she has invested in you. No lady will like to abandon what she has invested in. That's why if any problem arise, they will settle it with you order than just walking away. But the one that hasn't invested anything in you, that doesn't give you things, will find it so easy to leave you when issues arise.

So, men be wise. Make sure any lady you're dating, is giving you things and investing in you just as much as you are investing in her. If not, be ready to be the one with less power and just know she can walk out of the relationship any time she wants cuz she has nothing to lose after all. You that has invested all your life in her has alot to lose, thus you will forever worship her and do her bidding all your life.

Love who loves you. Invest in who invest in you for a well balanced relationship. Don't be used. Stay woke guys for your own peace of mind.

cc: Lurdd

TrustNone:
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It's not audio. That's why ednut1 doubted. He said rest, if you earn 1 million naira, you won't ask such a question. He himself no believe the guy. I just laughed. People are making money. Forget o. This one no be say them say. We are in the digital era. Don't doubt it.

When last you visited the Business section of Nairaland? Things dey happen underground if you know your way. Follow man wey Sabi your eyes go see things money wise, wey ur mouth no fit talk.

ednut1:
did i say people are not earning such Nawa o. If you are earning such you will in same group with females earning same, same kind of events, church, travel trips etc

Unfortunately, it doesn't always work like that. You can't just go about toasting ladies in such a group. Except something unique brought two of u together.

Besides, ladies in those types of groups are few. Men are dominating.

ednut1:
No guy earning 1m asks such questions. Rest

Ednut1, we are in a digital world. So many guys these days now earn up to 1million Naira and above per month. These are people that work from home, earning in $$$$.

There is a group I belong to, if people show you what they are earning, you will be shocked. These are silent earners. You won't know they make up to that.

We are talking of 1m to 10m per month. This is not a joke.

geee213:
Hello All,
Coming to Australia in January, I need a room to rent. Can someone help? Thanks

I love keeping records. Here you have it.

WHERE TO RENT & GET ACCOMMODATION IN AUSTRALIA

https://flatmates.com.au/

https://www.gumtree.com.au/

You can also check Facebook market place if you have a Facebook account. Just click on the 3 horizontal lines, then click marketplace, select your region and type in whatever you need and search. There are so many houses for rent there as well in any region of Australia you desire.

Kaido:
Nothing like that in the North here.

Weti concern North with Nigeria? You guys are enjoying na. Una no get issue.

Anything that is worrying Nigerians doesn't touch you guys as the first citizen wey una be.

Nigeria would have been better of if every part live alone.

You guys refused to take back your mandate. Now, we are all suffering it. Nigeria is cursed for life trust me.

MaxInDHouse:
It depends on the choice you make among God's people. To marry the first thing you have to consider is a person whose relationship with Jehovah is unbreakable then you can be 100% certain that you're marrying a friend of Jehovah who will not like to bring reproach on Jehovah's name.
But if you just marry anyone simply because they attend our meetings then get ready for a failed marriage.

No be lie!

We4all:
Why should any sane man beat an adult? Is she your daughter or servant? If your wife is foul mouthed, match her energy using your mouth and not your fist.

The funny thing is, men only beat women they are physically stronger than. When they meet their match, they always know how to behave.

But the man said he didn't in any way beat the ex wife. That his children even confirmed it. That it was just a frame up.

If the children said their dad don't beat their mother, then something is wrong. Probably the ex wife was being influenced by people outside to ruin the man.

Some women can frame up a man. People won't even get to verify whether what the woman was claiming was true. They will just jump into conclusion cuz the world favours women.

Let's not always follow what women say without proper verification. Most end up being lies and mere framing up. Some women seem to be vindictive in nature, let's not forget.


No na dey try watch or read a post before commenting.

Look for the full video and watch. The woman use the man eye see whim.

Let's not always comment cuz others are commenting. You are a man. Verify something before blaming the other party.

What's the proof that he was beating the woman. ABI u no know how wicked some women are?

MaxInDHouse:
Ask 90% of those who left other churches the church they're attending presently they will confidently tell you because it's the same thing that's going on they just switch lanes but ask anyone who left Jehovah's Witnesses the same question and see how they will pounce on you as if you hurt them.

WHY?

Because there's no other like JWs out there!

The bitter truth!

Notatribalist:
See,I will go back to be honest. I'm in my late 30s, I'm not married because I can't even marry outside Jehovah witness. Some year ago I was asking my girl out in Ghana,and her cousin called me and said; "you said you were brought up as Jehovah's witness",why don't you go and find a wife there? Then I asked why she wants me to go there and she said; "because they hardly divorce". It was shocking to hear that from her,so from that day,I made the decision that I'll never marry outside the organization

This is the obvious truth. I don't want to marry and then my wife will start misbehaving. I want to raise my children and grow old with my wife. Divorce is one of the thing I don't want to experience. And it's only Jehovah organisation that can give one that peace of mind with a good life partner whose head is correct.

Eyinju112:
We will welcome you with open arms bro😁😁😁

Thanks.

todugo:
Go tell that to your Elders and circuit overseers and let's see if they won't call you to that their small room for questioning😂😂

This one na ex JW. We know ourselves. 🤣🤣

excanny:
It wasnt open, but a silent law. I'm an ex JW. The elders will chase and harras you if you dare grow a beard, even when there's nothing bad in it.

Foolish cult. Thank God I escaped.

Please, you guys should stop this. Leaving JW doesn't mean you should speak bad of them. Look around the world, since you left, have you found fulfillment outside?

I am not trying to criticize you. But let's be truthful to ourselves, most persons left so they can have the freedom to do all sorts of things they can't have the freedom to do. They left for selfish reasons. And that's not enough to start speaking bad of them.

Have you asked yourself why many homes get broken today outside the world? Nobody wants to follow rules. Everybody just want to do what suits them, that's why there is a high rate of divorce and broken homes in the world today. This you will hardly find in JW organisation.

There is nothing in the world bro. I left too and I can tell you, there is nothing outside the world. And I will never speak bad of JW.

Any ex JW speaking bad of them is doing so for their own personal selfish reasons.

JW still remains one of the organisation that practice one of the most purest form of Christianity.

Always know this, when there is no law, the society around us will always suffer. And that's what's happening in the world today. Everyone wants to live how they like without following rules. That's why there is high rate of divorce and broken homes in the world today.

It's only in JW organisation you will find so many husbands and wives still together for decades without any form of divorce. You can hardly get this outside the world.

I am speaking from my experience. I am a single guy who left JW some years ago during my mid 20. It's been more than a decade I left.

But you won't see me speaking bad of the organisation for any so called reason.

VaginaAcademic:
Psycho freaks thank God I left that mind altering organization thats full of hypocrites and pretenders

Better think of going back bro. It's a hard decision. Most people that left, did that for some selfish personal reasons. You can't find what they teach anywhere.

I left too but I have been thinking of going back. They practice one of the most purest form of Christianity. They don't condone immorality. They have the lowest rate of divorce and broken homes.

And they have the most homely wives you can't find anywhere. Their wives respect their husbands and vice versa. You can't find this anywhere in the world.

When I look around and see how homes are being broken and so many divorce going on in the world around us, I feel a sense of nostalgia.

I am still critically thinking whether to go back or not.

Put it into your bucket list. JW is a good organisation. Stop lambasting them cuz you left. I also left but I will never speak bad of them. Cuz I have seen what's in the world. I have tasted and seen. Let's not speak bad of them. Let's be truthful to ourselves; what's obtainable in JW organisation, you can't find it anywhere in the world today.

Notatribalist:
What exactly do you intend to achieve with this post? I was born in that organization,but for some reasons I left. But truth is,they practice the best form of Christianity. Jehovah witness is the only organization/church I've seen that preaches from the Bible. They don't take offering like other churches. Their teachers are centered on how to worship God. No prosperity preaching. As much as I would like to admit that they are not perfect,but they are far ahead of others. Take it on leave it

I also left some years back for some personal reasons.

I 100% agreed. And they are the only organisation that has low rate of divorce, because their husbands, wives and children know their roles in the family settings.

It is only in JW organisation you will see a man and a woman still be together for the past 20-30 years with low rate of broken homes. You can't find this outside the world.

Outside the world, there have been so many rate of broken homes and divorces. You hardly see this in JW. And their wives are very homely.

The only next organisation that come near to JW is probably deeper life church.

They don't tolerate rubbish and immorality the world condoned today.

I might probably go back, I don't know.

IbeOkehie:
I'm only here because of you. And I totally disagree with your comment.

Even as a restaurant cook in the USA, I enjoyed a higher standard of living than a Nigerian bank manager of with say, 2 or 3 years in that job. I know because I knew a couple of branch managers in Aba and Owerri and another good friend while not a branch manager is almost there after 15 years experience.

Today nko? With the massive inflation and general anomie in Nigeria, even nyash cleaner in USA here lives better than a bank manager in Nigeria.

https://www.salary.com/research/salary/posting/high-rise-window-cleaner-salary/nc#:~:text=How%20much%20does%20a%20High,falls%20between%20%2439%2C082%20and%20%2456%2C751.

Good Luck to Nigerians.

I believe this Gerrard59 is not in Nigeria. I don't know. But he is fond of discouraging others. At least this is a first hand person who is living in the USA. This is not hearsay.

You are in Germany abi one country like that studying, being sponsored by your parents. I am referring to Gerartd59. But I have noticed, you have jumped on the anti-japa bandwagon ship.

You guys should get some sense abeg.

Adakintroy:
When black man think of the west they think of joining the white man on the throne immediately Were as the reality is that you go straight down to the the base in line with intellectual/ financial pecking order.

You were the smartest man in your village maybe. But here in the city, you just another village man.

This is one aspect they will never think about. They just expect those that travel to start doing top office jobs and the rest.

There is always a process for everything. The person already have a road map on how to get his desired job. Whatever he is doing is just temporary. This is the aspect majority of those that fight against relocating abroad will not always think about.

In a new land, one needs to craft a well laid out plan to get that dream job. Whatever he does is just to get by. Along the line, he will surely get his dream job.

All anti- japa folks should know life is a gradual process.

santaclaws:
I doubt the authenticity of that story. Most of these stories are fabricated. A former bank manager in Nigeria can easily get a management or accounting job anywhere in the world.

You are right. This is no doubt a fake story in its entirety. They always look for pictures online and fabricate negative imaginative stories about japa. It's all obvious.

Doing low skilled jobs for some is just to get by while working towards something better.
You guys should stop all these unnecessary comparisons.

The fact you guys should know is that, such a person won't remain in that menial job forever. Most it will take him is 3-4 years or even less, and he will become stable.

Now ask yourself, you that is in Nigeria, how many things have you achieved for the past 3 years? So, you see?

You guys should stop taking panadols for headaches of those living abroad.

papyjaypaul:
That's one of the top paying jobs abroad because of the safety risk. To clean window no be small and if it makes you happy, good. Nigeria should let people be paid for their skills so unemployment can reduce. I wish Seun pays jobless people here to help the economy.

To those who always judge japa, many of you suffer from low self esteem. The land is green where you water the grass. If Naija bad for your eye, everything you do go bad, u no go see good thing there. Focus on your life wherever you are and stop wasting your time worrying about others.

Don't mind all these anti-japa folks. They reason like children.

How will they expect someone to just start working a white collar job immediately arriving another man's country?

The person might just be doing that momentarily to get by, while improving himself to get a professional job. Will he remain in that menial job forever without improving himself? A big NO. This is one aspect persons that speak agsinst japa don't think about.

People should understand that everyone must not have it on a soft landing. Some have it easy, while others will have it a bit rough until they get their desired job.

Entusky:
Hi nairalanders!
I want to know, can 4million take me to Australia?

That's a good amount to start the process with. However, let it be known to you that Australia is not just any how country that anyone can just jump into plane and go to.

The question I will like to ask you now is, what qualification and skills do you have? Australia is only after people that have skills and educational qualifications that will help their economy.

That's why I am asking you if you have any skill or qualification. Do tell me so I can put you through on what to do.

JagabanB:
Combine ur fada's certificate and schooling together with urs and bring it, it won't match half of mine.

😅 No be me and you.

Ai is here to stay. Whoever is against Ai is a big enemy of progress.

This thing Nigerian women are doing to their husbands abroad is very bad. Do these Nigerian women have conscience at all? And to think that the western world's law favour women whether they are wrong or not, is the height of stupidity.

If there is any way people can raise some awareness about this thing, they should come up with such. Cuz this stupidity is getting out of hands.

JagabanB:
Does ur comment have any meaning?
Because I have read it over and over again and it doesn't make any meaning.

How will you understand when you dropped out of school? You can never understand cuz you voted APC into power for the second time. Now you're grinding your teeth.

Opio!

isArray:
Yeah, my USA visa was rejected when I was in Nigeria, I got it in a week when I relocated, I got my UK visa in a week too, I am also doing this for family, I don't want to raise kids in a dysfunctional environment.

In terms of weather, food and nightlife Nigeria is a good country

Nigeria is fun no doubt. But it's not just safe for my liking. One can't stay out late in the night in Nigeria without experiencing being robbed or double crossed with gun or knife.

I love night life in Nigeria but it's dangerous. I really wish Nigeria can be a safe country with basic amenities that we all need. It's surely going to be a fun place to be. But staying out late in Nigeria is a suicide mission.

liver123:
As a civil engineering graduate can my certificate and experience pave way for me over there if I japa

Eh? Civil Engineering?