₦airaland Forum

jmoore:
Prostitution and fornication are intertwined.

Stay away from premarital sex

Exploitation and predation are intertwined.

Just because it is free, that doesn't mean it isn't premarital sex; stay away from premarital sex.

travelzcruix:
If all men decide to go to the paths our grand parents treaded these girl's will learn. You ain't adding value to my life, u ain't raising a home, I should just count money and give u. Dey wait.

Shey na the same entitlement guys of nowadays dey claim, our grandfathers claimed? If we follow the way of my grandparents, e go too good because the knack-and-run go reduce. You go don pay bride price finish and take the lady in before she go spread her legs for you. In those days, virgins no get issue; dem go happily talk say dem no want sex. Nowadays, when a lady boldly stands and tells a guy say she no want sex, the guy go dey shock; e go shine im eyes like hawk.

You dey talk about value, which value you fit add to a lady? Na your type dey add burdens to the lives of ladies, dey give ladies belle up and down and run.

Pque:
Why should a lady demand money for sex (knowing fully well that it's even the lady that enjoy and love the sex more)? If you can't cope with the sex demand, simply reject the offer, instead of demanding for money. Any Nigerian girl that is demanding money for sex is already categorized as a sex worker, because she is ready to sleep with other 1million men for money. There are many other ways to obtain the sincerity of a man, other than demanding money from him. Are Nigerian girl (especially Lagos girls) even the only girls in the world, don't you see your counterparts in other countries. Working class Nigerian girls don't seems to exhibit this bad habit, but the lazy ones with passive minds, lacking creativity in their heads only see the offer as oppourtuniy for them to make money, because they lack any other ideas to generate money for themselves. And they intentionally seduce the man to rob him of his hard earned money. Better change or else that your yansh go burn for inside fire.

Bro, just go warm eba chop. According to you, na ladies dey enjoy sex pass and na ladies love sex most, but why e be say na guys go dey look for every means to make the sex happen? Dem go even dey lie say e good for their body or dem dey use am to avoid back pain.

If a lady who demands money from her partner is categorized as a sex worker, then men who demand sex are categorized as predators. I won't and can't go around demanding money from predators because I have no interest in giving in to their advances, so I make my own money.

Broke guys too like to dey vex. If a lady demand money from you and you no get, you fit waka from the relationship. I never for once spread my legs for any guy; if a guy no fit wait and e dey pester me for sex, I no go vex, I go just comot the relationship.

Guys, thanks so much for the advice and encouragement, they have been really helpful. I just wasn't myself after I heard about the incidents; I was, in fact, a mummy's girl. I just needed to run into someone's arms and cry, but I couldn't. I had been taking it in, and I had had enough.

For real, forums like Nairaland should be appreciated. Sometimes, all people need is to share their pain and experiences, and they would feel better.

motif8:
The phone event is totally different from the other issue of breaking into the shop, and the phone can be recovered if u want. If u want the phone back, just take the pack of the phone to any police station and make a report they will request for the pack where they will get the ime number and that will be it, ur phone will come back just that police will milk the buyer like something else. Also be careful next time, that is the format those boys use, they will distract u with multiple task and u will forget urself.

Regarding the poo and other issues, they want to force u to leave that place, meaning it is a good location. So put ur feet on ground and fight back, get local vigilante to work with u in the evening till morning at least for some time. No territory that is free, so fight back, they will leave you

It is a good thing the phone can be recovered; I hope they also find it unwiped. Thank you so much for this information. This time, I didn't even bother informing the police about the incident because I had previously reported the burglary at my shop, but there wasn't much they could do; they just took statements and interrogated my staff.

sirchim:
So sorry for all of that. Allah will surely see you through. Just keep the spirit alive, engage the service of local security, who will have eyes on your shop. Finally, please construct internal protector.

Amen. Thanks.

buttlover:
Have you tried informing the local security. If possible employ an armed security from dss

I have already assigned someone to monitor the shop for me; that is possibly why the burglar couldn't gain access. He might have heard footsteps and fled.

Someone is targeting me, and I don't know who it is, but it seems to be related to a shop. I recently reopened this particular shop. It is in a good location, situated beside the main road, but I had previously closed it out of frustration. The shop was burgled and all my valuable gadgets were stolen. It has not even been three months since I renovated the shop, brought in new gadgets, and reopened it, but someone has been trying to burgle it again.

Yesterday, we discovered that someone tried to break into the shop, the person also tampered with the signboard on top of the shop roof, causing it to face downwards.

Also, a man came to the shop yesterday and placed a large order for different foods and various drinks, which exceeded what was available, he said he needed it for a party. While my other staff were in the kitchen area preparing more food for him, he sent the staff who was supposed to serve the food on an errand, and she left without informing anyone, I don't know if she was under a spell or if she was just licking his feet.

When the man realized that he had successfully distracted all of them, he started pretending to be in a hurry. My sister decided to assist by putting the available food into disposable plates, and in the process, the man stole her phone and fled.

A lot has been happening lately. My staff had previously informed me that on the first day the shop was reopened, they saw a nylon bag full of poo in front of the shop and disposed of it.

My sister has been very cold and down since yesterday. Apart from the fact that the stolen phone is expensive, there are important documents on it. I tried hard to suppress my emotions, but seeing my sister in distress because of me made it impossible to hold back my tears.

She didn't even need to be in my shop yesterday. It was Monday and I needed to take foodstuffs to the shop, but I begged her to help me because I had an early morning appointment with a client at the office.

Even my car was tampered with. She parked it outside the shop in its usual location, but there were signs that someone had tried to break into it. It seems like someone is deliberately trying to frustrate me to the leave the shop.

bukkiexchange01:
Hence, we say those ladies lack morality. They open and close at the name of milky doughnuts.

Hence, we say both those guys and those ladies lack morality. Those ladies open and close at the name of milky doughnuts and those men dig into anything in skirt.

Mastermindfixu:
My girlfriend and I have been together a little over a year, and it's always been rocky. We've broken up many times (almost always me with her) but then we end up back together in a few days.
She has never hit me until today, and then suddenly slapped me after she held my shirt and pinned me against the wall. FYI - I did nothing to her in retaliation . However, I feel pained and disappointed by her action.

Reason - she saw me with a lady who was supposed to apply for the post of a chef at our residence and thought I was having an affair .

I explained myself and next best thing she said to me was that she is done with the relationship.

What do I do?

In this case, she is wrong. If she had caught you cheating red-handed, I would have said you deserved the slap.

Bradford111:
Hello fellas good day I will make this brief I need your sincere advice on something

I’m dating this girl, we started dating in the latter part of January, she is 16 years old while I’m 22.
I know some people will say why I’m I dating a minor I swear I didn’t know she was 16 cuz she looks older not until when she told me just recently..

So last week her phone got spoiled and she said I should get her a new one I’m contemplating on getting it I asked her if her mom won’t get mad at her for using a phone that she doesn’t know where she got it from, she told me she has talked to her mom already that is not an issue


Please guys should I go ahead and get the phone or quit the relationship since she is a minor cuz I’m also scared of the fact if she might mistakenly get pregnant one day it might put me in a deep shit…
Please your advice is needed here 🙏

No, don't break up with her, go and introduce yourself to her mum as her boyfriend.

Dyfynezz12:
In what way 're u confused?
The resemblance is just much nd Nathaniel Bassey is a family friend,when there is more than one coincidence it becomes an evidence

You are spitting rubbish.

Jewessgratitud3:
I need very mature advice here.

I'm a picky person when it comes to making relationship choices. For me the attractiion has to come from my end otherwise I'll find it difficult to accept the individual.


There's this guy, very mature and. I'm sure will be older than me or we'll be of same age I love watching his contents on Facebook and what attracted me to him was one of his sit down videos where he talked about premarital sex and the dangers of engaging in it as a Christian. I was wowed that a dark handsome man like him could speak against such practices and his audience that day were youth and teenagers.

I began to observe him and noticed he addresses the youth more and is always teaching them moral and academic lessons. I somehow felt connected to him and one day summoned the courage to ask him if he's married. He didn't reply.

I recently came across his video again and asked him for the last time on his comment section if he's married and I said this was the last time I was going to ask him this question. He now replied that he is not married.

I don't know, would it be wise if I take a shot at him or try being his friend. He's a Born again brother and my spec.

Please sincere advice.

You did not mention any tangible thing that qualify him as a good guy. Even if the guy in question is actually a devout Christian and a virgin, as you have portrayed him to be, that alone does not make him a good guy. Virginity is not even a character trait.

Anyway, there is no harm in trying. Shoot your shot, but if he eventually gives in, don't be too quick to make a decision. First, examine him properly; focus more on his personality rather than his spiritual life. In fact, trigger his reaction to understand his true personality.

Nairaland guys and hypocrisy, I have seen several posts on nairaland where guys advise women to stay with their cheating husbands even after they have impregnated another lady.

Anyway, whether it is a man or a woman who cheated, cheating is a logical ground for divorce. If you can't stand her anymore, it's best to just get a divorce.

In a normal relationship where there is trust it should be the norm.

The only time I experienced issues with that was when I befriended a religious extremist. He blocked and deleted several numbers from my phone. Even mere compliments was a big problem.

Ballzproblem2:
who is bankrolling you?

Calm down, read the post properly or put on your glasses.

coachprecious:
To me, it is traveling round the world and making money even as a lady😅🥰

And you?

Guys and the way they hype sex. If they sleep get to have sex with two ladies it would be as if they have won a trophy.

For you to convince those ladies to have sex with you, it means they already felt your vibe to an extent. If you like try game A to Z, any lady that does not feel your vibe at all will not give in.

chuksbobby12:
Happiness You say?? If you have kids, you earn enough to comfortably pay all the bills , even without luxury , you will realize that nothing makes a responsible man happy more than his children .

Having kids doesn't result to more money or comfort. A responsible father would prioritize the comfort and happiness of his children also. What kind of father would even be happy when his children are sad and uncomfortable?

You might be able to pay your own bills and manage to be happy but what is the purpose of having kids if you cannot provide them with basic necessities? They did not ask to be born.

Luxuries may not be essential, but basic necessities are. There are many sad-looking children on the streets today, thanks to unplanned parents. Many of these children later resort to crime to survive.

A lot of broke people have even refused to cut their coat according to their size and they end up becoming unreliable parents. While many wealthy people are only having just two or three children, many broke people are having six or seven children, instead of one or two that they can manage to take care of.

Congratulations

Pristine664:
Lol Igboho is Tinubu's boy..... b.. b.. but don't loud it.

E be like say u know him personally.

Love800:
Tank so much.
Tank God i met u.
I have gotten top notch information about dis business from u.
I appreciate.

You're welcome! I'm glad you found the information I provided helpful.

Love800:
See please am confused.
This estate you are talking about, is it the normal estate that have many houses in it and the houses usually look similar to each other. People live in it and the estate is fenced. Is this what u refering to? Or u you are talking about a plaza(shopping complex)?

Yes, when I mentioned "estate," I was referring to a residential area with multiple houses that often have similar appearances and are enclosed by fences.

People leaving hateful comments here are either hypocritical or ignorant. What she is experiencing could be psychological and possibly indicative of a medical condition.

Love is not solely expressed through words, and it is not a selfish act. Therefore, her husband is also at fault; he exacerbated her emotional distress by distrusting her and still refused to support her when she reached out to him for help.

I cannot understand why some people are praising him, whitewashing, and excusing his selfish behaviour. He seems to want her to be nothing more than a baby factory, which is likely why he now sees the counseling she requested five years ago as an option now that he wants another baby.

Many women suffer in silence because their emotions are not acknowledged. Childbearing alone can have adverse effects on women's health. Please ignore the hateful comments and prioritize your well-being. By the grace God, the phrase "that quiet, kind woman is dead" will not be your portion.

Love, happiness, and joy are psychological states that cannot be forced. You cannot give to others what you do not possess. If you don't love yourself, it will be difficult to love others. Take care of yourself first; seek therapy and medical attention if necessary. You can consider following your husband to counseling later if you wish. You deserve all the love and attention in the world, and I wish you the very best!

DeathToSimps:
You are a wicked woman and God will judge you.
Satan wife.

And if He doesn't, go and hit your head on the wall.

tochez24:
98% of Nigerian men are married to jobless and unproductive wives⚠️

What is this one saying?

Love800:
Are they retailers or wholesalers?

They are retailers. Keep in mind that your brand is still new in the market and that you have competitors. While retail outlets may occasionally sell new brands and products, most of the time retailer outlets primarily sell what is in demand, and consumers mainly purchase products that are available in nearby retailer outlets.

Estates are residential areas, and there are quite a number of snack lovers residing in estates. It might be a good option to consider providing your products to grocery sellers in estates on credit because, initially, to gain potential customers, you have to put in some effort to make your product visible.

As your brand gains popularity, retailers will proactively seek out your product in the market, and distributors and wholesalers will reach out to you directly to request your products.

Love800:
Okay.

Ur last paragraph, i didnt quite get what u trying to say there. Am confused.
Who are estate shoppers?

I was referring to people that have grocery shop in Estates, it is just an additional option it is not necessary you sell to them.

Love800:
So how do one market or get customers for it?
Will i open a shop?

You don't need a shop, once you have secured potential distributors, they can either pick up the products from your production site or you can deliver the products to them.

Since the product is not yet known in the market, start by selling to wholesalers. Wholesalers are easy to find; you can locate some in the market or shopping complexes, you can also ask women who sell provisions in various locations, as they buy their goods from wholesalers and can direct you to them. Working with wholesalers will help expand the reach of your products. You will sell to them in large quantities and they will sell to retailers in smaller quantities.

Also consider distributing your goods to estate shops at retailer price, you can offer the estate provision sellers the option to purchase your goods on credit. You shouldn't sell to wholesalers at the same rate as retailers, you would have to set different pricing structures for each category of buyer.

Love800:
What kind of snack?

Peanut, chips, chin-chin, cake or donut, you can even create your own snack.

Lawag3:
Is that what your Quran tells you'd? In the Bible both Rachel and Rebecca are said to be women. The Bible's doesn't call little girls women.

So what happened to Jesus is Muslim that's what your Quran says right? You now insults your second greatest prophet 😁. One who is going to judge the Jews and Christian.

When you throw insults instead of giving answers you know you've lost the argument.

You're not even a devote Muslim. Your islam is lacking but it doesn't matter either way there's is non that won't pass through it right?

It is just as if you took words out of my mouth.

He stated that Rebekah was thirteen years and Rachel was three years, I don't see that anywhere in the Bible he was probably trying to create confusion.

MightySparrow:
All is correct except that Allah blew into Mary's Virginia ( farjaha)

Don't mind him. Why did he add that Allah breathed into the virginia of Maryam? Maryam is the greatest woman to have ever existed according to the Quran. She is the daughter of al-Tabari and the mother of Isa.

Do not confuse Isa, Maryam, and al-Tabari with Jesus, Mary, and Hannah. Mary, the mother of Jesus, is not the daughter of Hannah or the sister of Aaron. Jesus Christ of Nazareth was not even related to Hannah, let alone being her grandson. Hannah was also barren like al-Tabari but when God opened her womb she gave birth to a son called Samuel, not a daughter called Mary. Hannah existed many years before Jesus came into the world, Miriam also existed years before Jesus came to the world and she was not even related to Hannah, she was related to Moses and Aaron.

Jesus is the way, the life, and the truth; no one comes to the Father except through the Son.