₦airaland Forum

squash47:
Lately, I have been reading posts about men saying their women must provide something for their family. Like, help pay children's school fees, feedings, house rents and other stuffs.
And I got curious.

So, as a man, if you marry a woman and God forbid, she dies and leave you alone with the kids, won't you be able to take good care of yourself and your children without her support?

No one prays for evil, but let's be real, bad things happen.
So, men,if your wife dies now leaving you and the kids, how are you going to manage the situation ?

Mynd44, Nlfpmod, please push this to the right section.

It is only you that understand yourself. What if the reverse is the case? God forbid, if a man dies and leaves a woman alone with the children, will she not be able to take good care of herself and your children without his support?

If a woman is financially supportive, it only makes things more convenient. It does not mean that the man cannot take care of himself and his children.

Offpointng:
Dont be unwise. Dint you read where he wrote he has discussed and discussed and now he's tired? Nothing is gonna work for em both mate, and nothing will work until he put her in her place

Don't be immature. What do you mean by put her in her place?

I don't believe she would willingly choose to withhold sex from you. You both need to have a discussion. I suggest you ask if she experiences any discomfort or pain during sexual activity, it's possible she has a medical condition that affects sexual activity.

Mindlog:
Men who are monsters, have always been monsters right from their adolescence, some way back from their childhood but societal restrains, laws and earning an income have helped in suppressing their demons.

If you know you are becoming monstrous, go see a therapist who is professionally trained to help you through it because your spouse is not one.

Exactly.

Toxic individuals exist among both men and women. You are excusing toxic behaviour instead of advising toxic men to stop being toxic. Some men are simply dream killers; all they want is a woman they can enslave. They label it submission and twist Biblical teachings to suit their objectives. They always try to pressure their wives to forsake their dreams and aspirations in order to keep them beneath, control them, and dictate their every move.

I would have married a control freak if I had not stood my ground. This guy was so controlling to the extent that he dictated my dress code. He even demanded that I cover my hair with a scarf whenever I went out, as if I were a nun.

Congrats. God will continue to bless u and ur family. More is on the way.

Persephone1:

Street smartness

Dress sense

Independent thinking

outgoing

Living life

Eschew timidity....

All these are characters easily found in "bad girls" that good girls can emulate however in moderation.

Good points.

Start a packaged snacks production business. First, register a company and obtain a NAFDAC number for your products.

Happy Birthday to your lovely girlfriend.

Allisgud:
it is not meeting the woman starting a relationship,it is her submissive attitude as time goes,let me tell u this for free,if u have married the reason ur wife is respecting and submitting to u is because u get pass her and u delivering, immediately she get money and can afford anything u go see change of attitude

Not all broke women are submissive; some simply portray good characters while dating and reveal their true characters and intentions after marriage, some broke women are even entitled individuals. If your observation is accurate, marriages involving wealthy women should only be the ones facing issues, marriages involving broke women should be excluded.

You possibly have another definition for submissive. Focus on addressing your insecurities and finding a woman that is compatible with you and possesses good character. Some wealthy women treat their husbands with utmost respect. Personality plays a crucial role, and social status does not determine a person's behaviour.

Destiny can even play tricks. If you notice after marriage that your broke partner is destined to be rich, will you try to curb her progress and limit her, or will you simply divorce her once she becomes richer than you?

Allisgud:
They should look for a humble man lower their standard to start a life with otherwise menopause no be ur mate o,rich guys are looking for less career well behave woman who will be obidient to them

Nollywood movies are making you daydream; you probably think that a lot of rich men visit villages to look for wives or marry their domestic staff. In reality, a guy can meet ladies on planes, in airports, in offices, at parties, or social gatherings. If a guy likes a lady, he will approach her regardless of her social status.

Kevineleven:
Once the dude is rich, most of you female folks don't mind, even when the red flag is staring into your eyes.

Sure, he will find many ladies that don't look out for red flags. But not all ladies kiss asses, so he will only attract his own type and set of ladies. Such ladies are only there for the cash; love is not usually involved; it is simply a trade by barter. In the end, his son will likely experience emotional heartbreaks and problems because many playboys eventually fall in love. He might even father someone else's children. Karma will eventually catch up with him if he heeds the useless advice of his father.

We cannot completely eradicate wickedness; we just have to become wiser and curb it. While he raises his sons to become monsters, we must equip our daughters and instill moral values in them so that they won't end up being preys.

IbileIfe:
Many Nigerian men fear ambitious women.
Asking for marriage material?

Please, define marriage material?

PS:
My wife is the CEO of an online store. And she is a member of WIMBIZ. She said many of the members are senior executives in banks, telcom and tech companies.

I don't understand what you mean. Do you mean Nigerian men fear ambitious women that take specific qualities into consideration when selecting a partner?

AndrewTate:
I'm sure I do but I wouldn't deliberately lead myself towards that direction...
When the more comfortable options are easier to attain.
She probably got something that's worth it!

It's like asking if I can keep up with a deaf woman.

It is not much work, just be mature and responsible.

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😂 You wicked o, how you expect dem to answer this kind question? More peppered ones go soon show up.

Toxicity is the greatest red flag to observe while dating, it has the potential to destroy both the recipient and the perpetrator. What satisfaction do monsters like you derive from seeing someone else in pain? While you are wishing for an unhappy and sorrowful family, reasonable guys wants to put smiles on the face of their family. Many of them are praying for God's guidance in becoming good husbands and fathers, in leading their families, and building a good and healthy home.

There is a long gap between fear and respect. Love and respect go hand in hand, while fear drives away love. When you eventually realize how much you need your love ones, it might already be too late. I hope that you do not end up shattering your own life. If you sow the seed of evil, you shall inevitably reap the harvest of destruction.

Open a domiciliary account. Most banks will convert your money to Naira. I would advise you to open the domiciliary account with Stanbic Bank, they provide withdrawals in foreign currency.

Anwons:
All these virginity talks here and there are just hype and irrelevant.
Be it male or female, virginity does not add value in reality to relationship and marriage.

I bet you, some male virgins are even more experienced than some of their male counterparts who have been in the business for years.
So it is to female folks as well.

The earlier people realize the hype and myth about virginity, the better.

Marrying a virgin won't stop him/her not misbehave and cheat.
Virginity does not having anything to do with character and promiscuity.

What value do men receive after deflowering a lady?
Just the feeling, I deflowered my girl or wife.
What next? The hole also remains, it doesn't anything at all.

Women should wake up to reality and do away with emotional deceitfulness of attaching too much feeling on men you deflowered you. A Randy man will always be a Randy man even you keep receiving back your virginity after each round, they won't change from giving you pains.
A good man will always be a good man even if he marries olosho, Period

Ladies have the choice to remain virgins or not, but what is frustrating is that some ladies are being deceived into preserving their virginity for the wrong reasons. They are often misled into believing that their husband will forever cherish them if they meet them as virgins.

Most virgins who preserve themselves for good reasons, such as religious purposes, invest in themselves and prepare for the future. Rather than relying on their husbands, they even impress their husbands by bringing enough valuables to the table because virginity will not continue to be on the table after marriage; it will fade away.

One of my friends that was a virgin before marriage did not dull herself, she went online and conducted research about sex few weeks before her wedding. She even started going to the gym to physically prepare herself for her upcoming sexual experiences.

On her first sexual experience her husband was impressed because she was so eager and engaged. She said she really enjoyed her honeymoon. They explored different styles and positions. If her husband hadn't seen the evidence of her first blood, he would have doubted her claim of being a virgin.

I don't have a preference. I am just after personality.

TheLordofHost:
She has been staying with me since the beginning of ASUU strike, almost 6 months now and we have been having sex without protection. I don’t even pull out.

I don’t think she is on birth control. I love this girl but I think she is infertile.

Is this normal with some women? Because I don’t want to take the relationship serious anymore .

MODIFIED: To those down there accusing me of being impotent. I AM NOT.
If you check my previous posts you’d see I have a child already. 2 other girls have gotten pregnant for me but ended up aborting .

I would not be posting this if I didn’t love this girl and plan to marry her later on.

Take her to the hospital to find out what is going on.

nicho450:
I have never insulted people on nairaland.

But I feel tempted to.

What came over you to post this?

😂

Kingosytex:
Stretch marks disgust me. The sight of it is just so irritating.

Since you find it so disgusting, what would you do if your wife had stretch marks after child bearing? I was told that they are most likely to appear on a woman's abdomen after childbirth.

My friends were recently talking about stretch marks but when I told them I don't have any, they were surprised.

Berrityga:
Can someone have a brain and not have sense? The answer to this question will give you the answer to your question.

😂

BoboNogoDie:
I'll be a fool to read all the rubbish you typed.
I'm the last person on earth someone like you can school You and I are definitely not on the same pedigree...
One thing I'm sure of is that YOU'RE NOT A VIRGIN AND YOU LACK KNOWLEDGE ABOUT VIRGINITY.
Any frustrated whóre can claim to be a virgin so, I don't blame you.

😂🤣🤣

Athena6:
I have a uncle that have 2 keke and he always have problems with the drivers every week.
Me wey I look calm and I am a woman come join, they go probably think they go use my head and have no strength to start fighting because of Keke.
Thanks for the advice tho

You're welcome.

Rubyjade:
Oga! If she will not ride it, it will end in premium tears. Trust only yourself, even Nigeria doesn't trust her citizens

But it is working for me. If she makes friends with some of those keke napep riders or their association leaders, they will recommend people to her and show her how to go about it safely.

Rubyjade:
if she wouldn't ride it, it will end in premium tears

She doesn't have to ride the keke napep or mini bus herself. There are guys that are interested in becoming napep riders but lack the financial means; she just has to purchase it and give it to them on a weekly installment. She can start by purchasing one first and see how it goes, but she needs to do thorough research to find trustworthy people.

Athena6:
So my half brother sold a piece of my father property and I received my share which was 5M, my intention was to use the money to relocate out of naija but seeing as how things are very expensive I decided to pause and wait till next year so as to be able to add to it.
I am working so I dont need to touch the money but I need to invest the money because it sitting in my account will probably just devalue it.
So is there any business I can do and mind you I am planning on something I can easily just withdraw the money when it is time for me to relocate.
Please advice needed

Purchase keke napeps or mini buses and sell them to buyers who are willing to make installment payments; they will purchase them from you at higher prices. If you do this, you will thank me later.