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I have no business with his past as long as it doesn't affect his present and future with me.. I won't marry a Saint because I'm not one, my expectations ain't much.

Ayam speechless

True.. Societal and family pressure has been the cause of many divorce we have these days, get married for the right reasons and you will scale through the hurdles.

Dem no dey catch latecomer for marriage institution

Don't let anyone push you into it, when it's your time then everything will begin to fall into place with little or no effort.

devilmaycry:
u dey lucky bro...no be all prayers from wrong number to gats d listen to...e get why

some of these persons re fraudsters wey d use charm hypnotize their victims in d name of "prayers"

True.. I was just lucky.

Why deprive herself peace of mind by dating a married when she can easily grab her own man? perhaps it's only few of these ladies that sees married men as leftovers no matter how wealthy they are.
Food wey her fellow woman don chop finish na im she go open eyes carry the crumbs dey flex, e no gel at all
Shey her life dey reject new chassis ni?

But on a serious note :
Ladies date married men for different reasons and here are some of the reasons:

Dating a married man is less demanding
Most single women are single for a reason, like their career or other personal issues,a married man doesn’t have many demands when it comes to his mistress and this arrangement suits most modern independent single women very well. Both get what they want from the relationship, he is not too demanding on her time or he doesn’t interfere when she is hanging out with her friends or going on trips with colleagues. He also needs to give time at home and he is okay as long as the affair is on but doesn’t become too demanding.

Financial stability
As compared to single men, most married ones have a financial plan in place to secure their family financially, these married men are already running their domestic life smoothly. The single woman finds this trait of the married man being the provider of the family very irresistible, he can also provide her with what she wants and that works out great for her.

To boost her self-esteem
A woman feels more pretty and desirable when she is dating a married man
When a married man showers his affection on the single woman, she feels powerful and her self-esteem gets the desired boost. If a man is making efforts to be with her rather than his wife, that means probably she is prettier and more desirable, she may feel like a God-sent angel who provides emotional and physical support to the man who has a miserable life back home.

Maturity and experience makes them attractive
Married men deal with different complexities of life far more maturely than a single guy. Be it handling in-laws or parental duties, married men are already experienced to handle any unforeseen circumstances. They are less clingy and more understanding. They are experienced both in life and in bed and single women find that very attractive that’s why women date married men.

High-risk high returns
A married man takes a huge risk while dating a single woman,this risk reveals his level of deep commitment to her. A man will only put his social credibility at stake for something that he is really passionate about, he thereby creates a mesmerising illusion of how intensely he desires her; in the bargain the single woman gets whatever she asks for.

They are just jealous and immoral
There are some single women who are just jealous of another woman’s happy home. Sometimes this jealousy reaches an extent where they get immoral and go all out to destroy the happily married couple. They are narcissistic, at times ready to use sex as a tool to lure the married man and then can even blackmail him to get what they want.

At the end of the day, just do what makes you happy and if you have decided that it's dating married men and sleeping with married women that brings you joy, just carry on.

Op, I think it's time you guys allow the female gender to rest.

Not exactly a relationship but it was a granny trying to call someone else, all I was hearing is hello mama chidinma iga abia meeting ta?
Told her it was a wrong number, she hung up and and called back few months later and was showering me with massive prayers oh, it was after I received the prayers that I told her it's a wrong number I can't afford to miss those amazing prayer points. She said it was her son she was trying to call, in my mind I was like bros no vex I Don turn to Jacob wey collect ya blessings

Whatever makes her happy..

It worked for some while others didn't scale through.. LDR is not meant for those that gets controlled by the flesh easily..
Just have an open communication and be honest at all times and if you're both meant to be together, it would work out.

Here to read other people's tales

Then do away with them if truly you want your marriage to work out..

Back to your question :
NO if you know you don't necessarily find it worthy to share your life and space with someone else.

Yep! Depends on what you both agreed on.

Here to read..

Congratulations

not all bestie is scam nau

Thanks for making me laugh this morning.. I needed it.

Never to look down on anyone no matter the position you've attained in life because tomorrow is truly pregnant and anyone's destiny can change within the twinkling of an eye.

For your peace of mind, observe her in silence and don't complain any more, if she doesn't change then you have every right to call it quit.

Don't displease yourself in the process of pleasing your partner, it's not worth it.

Happiness is free and if your partner is an obstruction to it, severe ties and maintain your peace.

Chose you first before anyone else, your partner should be a source of inspiration and peace to you and if he or she isn't fulfilling that role then it's best you cut ties.

If during courtship, I barely share a healthy and carefree laughter and peace around you then it's a red flag that I can't ignore, listen to your heart and make the right decision.

Peace!

Faithful husband at heart
I'm still musing over those words though, just two years into marriage and you've already broken your vows. So it's quite easy to be faithful at heart and still do the do?

Truly, marriage isn't for the feeble hearted people who are easily swayed by the sins of the flesh. Just 5minutes of fun has denied you peace of mind and its about to break your home.

All I can say is for to God help you! I pray that you don't go back to your old ways once you confirm you're free.

Draslo:
I swear. The peace and serenity is top notch.

Trust me, I know how it feels.. Enjoy it and don't mind what others are saying.

Someone should copy and paste the rest of the story here please.. Thank you

I'm here to read

jeff1607:
You sure?

Of course na or you don't have the intention of giving me the wedding rice again ni?

What's kayanmata please?

You are the real nigga.. 2000 yards husband material
Don't mind those guys calling you simp.

If you can lick the plate like your life depends on it, why can't you wash the piece of clothing covering the plate?

Some will even go as far as rimming the behind yet will come online to form alpha males

We know dem
The pretenders go chop goat head finish come here dey deceive the rest of us

jeff1607:
If its wedding rice ,let's crash a wedding this weekend

LOL.. I'm ready, where's the venue?

Here to read stories as usual..

richmond500:
Lalasticlala, the heartbreak don reach ur side?
No worry, e deh enough, all of us go collect am

Tell us your own

jeff1607:
Fingers crossed

Don't keep it crossed for too long, I'm longing to eat wedding rice.

jeff1607:
There are great ladies out there but finding one is quite difficult.

Look closer and you will definitely find her whom your heart seeks for.

jeff1607:
Not all but most and it kicks in without them knowing.

A younger lady can do the same no doubt but when they do a simple rebuff would do the trick in marriage or longterm relationships not a short term relationship where the fire is still hot.

Who would readjust if she was reported to her parents especially when she is disrespectful?/the younger or older?

Not all but most, an older lady is difficult to control

The younger I suppose.