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Most of the people here saying money would boost your confidence and all ,y'all just saying rubbish and nonsense ,y'all actually poor minded with the " lack of money syndrome" y'all poverty minded creatures .

When it comes to confidence it's a totally different ball game and yes money can be an influencing factor to building confidence but it doesn't necessarily mean you place money has the builder of confidence, it's very irrational to think that when you have money you confidence can skyrocket ,that BS.

I know wealthy kids that are very nervous they can't even stand to talk for a min or two ,thier their confidence level is zero .

Building confidence comes with having various experiences and the ability to have an precise clue of how things should be done ,building confidence comes from within, building confidence as nothing to do with your financial position ,building confidence is understanding where your from and where your headed ,building confidence is not giving a Bleep who a person is (e.g if he or she is a threat to your peace of mind) and letting them understand that your a person of value whether or not you're rich, building confidence entails having a class , building confidence entails being thirsty for knowledge ,improving yourself in every ramification ,building confidence entails descipline , building confidence entails having pride and dignity ,building confidence should give you some kinda ego, there are people 100 times richer than Dangote ,but you can't spot Dangote being nervous around such people cause he knows within himself that this life there would always be people better than you ,more successful than you and the moment you begin to question yourself over this things you've failed as an individual.

Your financial status now doesnt mean your going to remain the same way years from now, money would always come to people whether your responsible or not and whatever you like you can do with your money but money would always reach everyone ,building your confidence when your broke prepares you to be a charming personality even when the wealth comes . Having no money has nothing to do with your confidence know this and know peace .

Yeah ,it's never to late to pursue academic excellence ,but here's the thing tho ,he should go to a private university cause age ain't really on his side anymore ,federal universities would delay him for so long due to internal strike , ASUU strikes etc all d best ,and one thing about uni it all happens so fast b4 u know it ur already done and dusted.

The problem your having OP is that it's all in your head ,your fears ,anxieties ,shyness , nervousness etc it's all in your head .let the fears out . Ive been there done that .

If you want to get better result just know you can't achieve total confidence in a day ,it's def gonna take time ,but Don't stop trying. Firstly you need to learn how to remove all this negative factors from your mind ,u see your mind is your life ,yes it is ,everything and anything you tell your mind it believes and starts to subconsciously acts according to dat believe.

You need to change your mindset completely and start seeing things differently, tbvh no body really gives a Bleep about you that much ,it's just you making a big deal out of nothing ,but ur always thinking pple are staring at you ,or people are talking about you and all these things makes you feel nervous and that's when shyness comes in. Like I said earlier it all in your head stop listening to dat voice in your head .

Find your style ,your creativity and start using them , find a really nice way of picturing urself when you're outside ,picture yourself like a god cause ur are a little god anyways. Picture yourself like an alpha male ,and u don't have to fake it ,just go with the flow, when u approach a girl don't act like your freaking out ,just be cool and calm she won't bite you , and learn to strategize u can't always approach every girl u see like dat ,first observe dem ,if they look approachable then go but if not don't bother ,and yeah try to smoke some Az trust me it would boost your confidence over time. Theres so much to advice but just stop letting things I your head get to you , u go dey alright las las .

Benbisco:
Huuun, so how far, give us gist. Una marry?

Lol ,babe relocate go school for US ,but we smash wella dat year sha b4 she disappear. Now local man is all alone

Lol yeah I did get a call from my very beautiful crush back den ,in the middle of a nasty awkward fight between my guys and some other guys damn omo I loved this girl like mad , as I see her call I humble by force Commot from d fight, com see smile omo when you're in love ehn ,hard guy go tuama. Omo com hear sweet voice chaii, her soft ajebutter voice just cool my temper like chilled Budweiser in a very sunny afternoon.

My guys dey yab me say I dey fear dey run ,I just dey smile throughout cause they don't know was going on

Prime1:
Tell him to talk to his parents about it first esp his dad if still alive. Something is wrong somewhere and he might need deliverance.
Or maybe he is always too open and desperate with girls.

Maybe he spends too much on girls and not knowing he is getting used.
Girls take guys like this as trash and throw them away when done

It is something that can be solved either way

Well he's Dad is a really busy person and he doesn't really get along with his dad too much , only his mum and siblings . About d deliverance he has seen a few prophets and they all tell him there s nothing wrong .

Good day NL , I greet each and everyone of you in the house. So I've got a friend his name is (Daniel) not a real name. He feels like he has a spirit wife or something ,me personally I don't believe in such things ,I've explained to him so many times I think he's probably not just good at the loving thing but he wouldn't listen to any of my advice sigh.


(Daniel) hasn't really dated any girl except for one and it was a long distance relationship which crashed after about 2 month, I guess his partner then lost her phone which resulted in end of communications or whatsoever even till date and she isn't on any social media platform ,dude has really tried to find her but it all been useless efforts. Here's where I'm confused tho , (daniel) is an extreme introvert , very humble , kinda funny , intelligent and generous person , he's parent are rich so money has never been a problem .
With all these features I'm finding it really hard to understand why dude is still single .


On different occasions (daniel) tells me dat he goes out with different kinds of girls on expensive dates ,treats them like a queen and all and they start getting along really well but all of a sudden the girls would just withdraw for no reason , some would just stop texting him or calling him , some would start ignoring his text outta the blues even when they are not fighting or anything like dat , the last conversation he had with a girl ,he showed me and I was quite shocked ,cause he was really getting along with this babe , d babe was really happy chatting with him I could tell ,with all her smileys she sent and also long texting from her I was convinced she liked him a lot ,so what happened ? Why did she just start to ignore him ?

I was convinced There s something wrong somewhere ,so I started asking (daniel) questions like has he ever had sex with any girl before (cause i felt he probably had slept with a girl dat has a spiritual issue or something ) but Daniel said no , he has only had pre-intimacy from two different girls before and does masturbate once in a while , again I was shocked . Then as we started digging deeper , he further said he has had dreams on several occasions where a girl (random girl ) in his dreams make love to him , sometimes they go out to have fun and all , he also said he had dreams about him seeing himself in oceanic areas ,seas and even swimming pool sometimes , he doesn't know how to swim in real life ,in fact I don't think dude has ever swam ,cause he is sea sick kinda person, he has phobia for water e.g seas ,oceans , beach ,swimming pool etc .


At this point me myself, I'm confused ,he also said he has approached different prophets but they all tell him he is perfectly ok .

Dude is desperate to be in love, he hates being lonely ,sometimes he even cries and tbh I feel his pain , wonder why dude like (daniel) can't get a nice girlfriend , but someone like me dat takes babes for granted always in one relationship or the other, my current babe now dey reason say I go marry her ,I just dey laugh , but Mhen my fellow elders in da house pls help Daniel, what the best advice or something he needs to do to get a girl , he really needs it please.
Insults and criticism are open but pls do profer a solution as well ,thanks to everyone for reading I know it kinda an epistle no vex abeg
Signs out

Righteousness2:
The World leaders, scientists and Inhabitants are baffled and confused by events taking place in the weather, and yet all these things were Foretold thousands of years ago in Bible Prophecy, that these things will happen.

Satan, the Great deceiver often tries to "front run" GOD by giving people wrong ideas about what is Prophecied in the Bible, thereby pushing people away from the Gospel truth of the Bible.He has tricked mankind in believing that climate change is Real and that there are things that can be done to stop it.

Ladies and Gentlemen, the Extreme Weather Patterns the world is Experiencing is not Climate Change. What they call Climate Change is Satan's Counter to JESUS Christ signs of HIS Imminent return.

The Extreme Weather pattern on earth today are the Signs of the Imminent Return of the KING of kings and the LORD of lords. And these happenings are gonna get worse and worse.

There is no Technology, Billions/ Trillions of US Dollar pump into this that will yield any effect. It is a waste of resources. Infact it worsen things and increase the Ferocity of GOD'S Wrath on this Filthy evil world.

The Only Way of Escape is for the world Inhabitants to Bow and Surrender to JESUS Christ and be Prepared for the Imminent RAPTURE. Because whatever the world is witnessing now is Meat pie and Milkshakes compared to what will hit this earth once the saints are taken away.

If u need an understanding of what is Coming on this earth, go and Prayerfully study the book of revelation from chapters 6-19

Oga this is purely global warming ,strictly caused by humans ,there s nothing biblical about this whole climate change thing , it been existing for years ,and it's only getting worse cause humans has turned deaf ears to Global warming signals.

Man has increased it's global atmospheric conditions which mainly includes , carbon dioxide co2 , methane ch4 and nitrous oxide N20 and other green house effects ,having climbed over 31% , 151% and 17% respectively since pre industrial times ,i could continue lectures on this but Mhen pls stop attaching everything to the bible abeg . Religion has brainwashed a lot of Africans, partly causing huge ignorance people exhibit in the society today, thank you.

Everyone gets lonely sometimes, pple are just good at hiding theirs. So you're not alone.
Firstly decorate your living room to a more fun ,jovial ,wonderful and funny kinda looking way .

Whenever u come back from work ,d first tin ur mind subconsciously notices is how fun or not your home is .get u a nice flat screen tv , a.c ,nice wallpaper, fridge with lots of chocolates ,biscuits and drinks ,basically just nice interior decorations ,make ur home smell heaveanly as well.
If u have u have serious kinda looking decorations in your home , omo dats boring enough ,so spice things up .

Secondly invite female colleagues from work ,male colleagues as well , at least dat way boredom wouldn't be too much.

Ogbeni OP focus on your life for now ,there s a stage u go reach after much self growth ,physical growth, mental ,emotional growth and financial growth as well and so many other factors ,na dem go dey chase you ,trust me you would know when u get to this stage.

For now just play along and get in their pants ,no go dull . No go love o ,make u No go chop breakfast
These girls dis days na streets 80% of dem ,shine ya eyes, like bbn s6 .

How ruthless are you? How u take rugged reach ? If you've got good answers then break thier relationship and take what belongs to you dis life no hard.

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar
Rest in peace to Obama the niggar

To all my real niggarz.....we should not be scared of death.....because for everyday we wake we are faced with more than a hundred ways to die

The only prayer we should pray is for us to smoke enough weed, bang enough pussy, drink enough beer, make enough dope money before we die

Talking like a pussy ass niggar

Damn nigggaaarrr, I go find you one day and we go down enough bottles smoke plenty weed bang enough pussies .realest nigga

I know the euphoria going to college entails, the freedom and excitedness , you get to meet new friends and all ,if you're lucky you get to find someone that loves you.

But know your priority, study really hard it gon pay at the end , and be closer to God . Be careful x3 ,especially late hours , ,enjoy life to the fullest.

I would have said spiritual wife ,but ion believe in that crap ,it's when you leave this country you would understand that a black man's mentality is usually retarded now I think you're doing something wrong with em girls, probably giving them too much attention , darz why when a girl chases a guy the love is sweeter tbh ,let em chase you.

Try to act like you've got options whenever your talking to them ,like probably bring up another girls topic when you're with one ,make sure she gets jealous and watch and see . If dis doesn't work then you've probably got an habbit they dislike find it and fix it

I once had a girl tell me the phrase "let's just be friends Michael" I told her it was suicidal to be just friends with someone you truly love ,called it a quit ,bitch was upset cause I started rolling with other prettier girls immediately she still stares at me till today in school.

But the d boy so brilliant he doesn't have a F to give . My grades on fleek ,no carry overs, insha Allah till I graduate ,still dey 300L , swagger on point ,account balance be like phone number ,my shoes super dope ,my drip they make girls wet ,got a fridge at my hostel and a plasma, with cartoons of Indomie and eggs ,drinks yakpa as well ,from whiskey to spirit ,weed sef dey from sk to loud to Arizona , lol bitch is truly regretting now but its too late .

Lol ,I see almost everyone calling this dude a simp ,but have y'all thought about it from a different angle, yeah dude is overly nice and what's wrong with that ?absolute nothing ,tbh.

I would blame the girl here, most Nigerian girls are confused human beings, dey say they want rice and when you serve them rice ,they say it's pizza they really want ,serve them pizza and they would ask for sharwama as well ,truly confused creatures.

I'd advice the op to travel abroad to find love and for greener pastures as well ,cause Nigerian girls have a stupid perception of what love truly is .they don't have sense at all ,very foolish creatures and totally useless ,empty headed ,imensive and intensive manipulators, all they know about is to hoe around in thier 20s and then look for Rich wealthy men to marry after the pussy must have been wide open like Buhari expressing shock over the current state of Nigeria .

Ogbeni op don't stop being nice to women but be manly in doing so ,Don't give em 100 percent attention all d time just don't be too mean and don't be too gentle with women ,try to find a balance .

Growing up I had to lose friends, both rich and poor friends respectively ,the focus was on me ,constantly trying to be the best version of myself.
But I'd advice you bro ,keep your broke friends still and help the ones you can help. I've gat rich friends that I don't get along with very well cause of their nonsense characters ,life's a race ,your broke niggas could be 3 times richer than ur rich friends tomorrow. Just vibe with d ones that makes you a better version of your self whether rich or poor.

Well players do have lot of money ,usually fine af ,they've got game ,dey look smart and sharp ,u don't catch em bragging ,they always on a look for a prey ,they always have bout 2 or 3 phones ,always secretive bout some personal infos, There s more but make I kush first

That not just a dream ,but a vision ,God is merciful ,d dream means u should be watchful and prayerful ,d enemies are bout to attack but God made see u dis so u could avoid it. Fast and pray bro .

Gulak was killed on the same day as the immigration officer , nothing was extracted from the victims I.e no form of theft or anything related to theft.
The killings were clearly intentional , who are behind the killings ? Who's next in line to be killed ?
Or is it a way of framing the IPOBS, so it could look like they did it ,but then the IPOBS are yet to make any official statement on these incidents, i pray another civil war doesnt just break out at least make I japa first.

Op if d story is true ,it's less more of a co incidence then, I guess, female folks get to be friends with thier selves very rapid ,u know whole fakelove tin dey gat for dem selves na. I feel like dey know thierselves already
But as a retired playa , I'd advice u to know their departments and falcuties as well .if ur in the same institution with dem e go hard small ,cause u go gas dey observe wella ,u go gas dey very low key avoid places where anyone of dem fit dey likely to hangout
Just play your game right and smart man and have plenty money with u, so u fit date 12 girls at once sef dkt .goodluvk playa. Damn I miss my playing days ,wen I dey date like 10 girls at once and all were serious relationship ,girls be Mumu sha, just say what they wanna hear and spend a Lil loose change on dem,na dem go rush you
But now man my current girl is all I need ,there say one good girl is worth a thousand bitches, so playa wen u get that one good girl please leave dem hoes and stick to dat one girl ,u can't play forever fr.

ePoster:
oh. Thanks.

Any channel you can recommend?

Yeah check out the legends of history on youtube .They have gat stories about the Yoruba deities.

Watch them on YouTube.

It's funny how a girl told me let's just be friends and yeah later we had sex so many times ,at some point sef she wanted to date sef but I no gree , ogbeni OP stop writing rubbish and nonsense all these signs are false . And it's complete
Joblessness trying to figure out women ,even they themselves don't understand them.

Nothing like spiritual husband/wife , op your female friend is single cause picks alot or looking for mr right women are complicated creatures sigh.
[i][/i] life is spiritual but not everything is tied to spirituality.

ThisCouldBeUs:
How old are you?

Old enough, any probs ?

First of create a bond between you guys ,make sure she is giving you these Green lights , e.g she calls you , she replies your ur text fast ,she's super happy to talk with u on phone or video calls .note : if she isn't giving all these Green light chances she would turn u down are pretty high ,but if she is giving the green light chances of her saying yes is high .

Now after she agrees on a date with U, Set a date ,a romantic one ,look for a place that isn't really that expensive ,places with taste of love dat kind thing. Now make sure she enjoys the date with you ,avoid unnecessary questions that breeds boring conversations , be free with your self, if u faking it should would know and that a turn off , know how to use cutleries like a gentle man, make sure you treat her like a queen that day ,don't overdo it sha, just make it cool . While you guys are eating ,pause and stare at her for a long while smiling , wait till she would react ,then throw some punch lines like ,baby ? is your name Google ? Cause uve got everything I'm searching for lol ,throw a few more punch lines, tell her specifically why you want to date her ,then u pop the question ,like , babe would you be my girlfriend ?. The rest na history.

I stand to be corrected but I think the Yoruba tribe is the most hated of all tribes in Nigeria and I'm guessing it's cause of their uniqueness ,there s something extraordinarily and brilliantly different bout the Yorubas. Maybe that's why there s so much envy ,who knows?

Yes every tribe with their bad sides and differences and nobody's perfect regardless of whatever tribe you come from .coming online to wail about a single or few experiences you've encountered with Yoruba girls or women doesn't actually mean every one of them are the same ,generalizing is a stupid thing to do and I think it's complete immaturity and childishness to come and wail about a particular tribe
,and to my Yoruba brothers and sisters here on this thread ,don't let's any tribe try to make you feel inferior or whatsoever, I'm a proud Yoruba boy and you should be too .

How many years she wan take use 3m for ? Wey boys dey blow 1m on a Moet for a night, sense is far from the woman tbh , who knows if the child could have the been the first female president of Nigeria ? Who knows if she could have been the next Alakija?

Now just imagine Emmaniella that comedy girl was aborted ,how would her parents be living now? Even if money dey it can't be compared to having a child that brings good fortune.

May her gentle soul rest on ,as for the mother, na God go judge her las las ,wicked woma, wicked world .

folabayo:
Has Nigeria finally been restructured?

They said 2040 not 4040

Ogbeni op if you are in lagos go obalende side for island make u buy burukutu for all those alayes wey dey for there ,those guys are extreme extroverts with bloody self confidence perhaps u could learn a lot from them

D thing bout shyness is u always judging urself and asking urself too much damn u questions like ,if I say this what would they think of me or if I say that will they judge me ,yeah they would judge me, all these voices in ya head needs to gerrifu*kout ,stop judging urself and stop answering those voices in ya head .

Just be good with words ,know what to say and when to say it ,you don't have to say 1 million words u could be brief but very precise and catch cruise also life's too short my nigga

Tbh simps are just low self esteem men trynna impress a woman ,render assist they can't to their fellow men ,always thinking women would fall for their Mr nice game.

Redpillerz are men that don't do all these unnecessary things just to impress women, they are natural like dat, they don't give a Bleep about which girl likes or dislikes them they move regardless of what any girl says or do . Now that attractive to the female nature they wouldn't admit it but women love guys that don't trip for them one bit, women would always try to impress guys like dis ,but the simps would always be nice even when the woman is wrong .

So think about it very well when a woman knows her simp would always forgive her for whatever ill thing she does ,she always do more.

But for me you don't have to be a redpiller neither do you have to be a simp ,just have a strong game and play your cards right ,don't be too nice, don't be too mean ,live and enjoy your live without these female creatures ,except u jam d one wey get sense wella ,never make them hoes feel like you can't live without them that the very big mistake men make today. There's something really special that attracts the females to man ,it's not handsomeness or money or power ,its your words and the way you say it as well .