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This is where most guys in thier relationship do mistake by imagining the wrong things about women.

Well, since you are the only one who knows what she likes,just make sure it's suited to her personality.

I'm only submissive sexually. To submit blindly is asking for abuse.I tend to have a soft approach in real life which might

lead some to think I'm submissive but I'm not. When it comes to letting him know what my limits are, I'm quite vocal about

it. I have a co-worker who is rather bossy but she has great points. She loved my heels/boots I had on last week and now is

sending me daily texts and e-mails telling me to wear more heels and boots that high and sexy. She is straight but loves to

tell us ladies what to wear. She has got great style and class and she has been one of the oldest Gyn nurse practitioners

around here, so I'll take her words . . . .hence my new heels today.


Don't matter who i submit to 99.9% of a chance, I'm getting turned on.

Plants are alive. People who are vegetarian eat plants because plants have less of a nervous system than animals.

As such,animals can feel pain. So, if an animal is held captive in a cage to be fed and made fat(like a pig) and

then slaughtered, there is a possibility that the animal may feel pain because it has a much more sophisticated

Nervous system. However,plants have an extremely simple nervous system. It is not that vegetarians donot eat living-

things because it's almost a rule that for something to live something else must die, it is just that as vegetarians,

they decide to eat something that is less likely to feel any pain(as humans understand it).

Hmm . . .the internet allows a person "anybody" he wants to be, attack from anonymity,and hide behind a

wall of little pixels. Cyber bullies are cowards. They can not and will not face the people they torment

in person. Their feeling of personal power comes from thinking thay are making someone scared of (who they

want you to believe) they are. Ofcourse this behaviour is NOT acceptable, but sadly, it is here to stay.

As long as there are Little, Phony, Hateful,Creeps who feel they can make up for the inabilities,wea-

kness, and inequities in real life, the cyber bully will feed his/her ego on the internet. What can be done?

Not much. The best thing I've found to do is ignore their trash talk and BS. If you don't like what you

read . . . STOP . .DON'T READ IT. Read his threats, believe his rants,worry about what he might be able

to do...he wins.

Unless they are also mothers or have some other large responsibilities, i think they are pretty lazy.

I mean cooking these days can be very quick. I guess you could make it an extensive all day process. . .but

really most working people pick up after themselves and cook for themselves just fine.

What's she going to do all day? Dust the counters?

It seems more likely that he'll be working all day so she can do a couple of chores and relax the rest of the time.
That doesn't seem very fair to me.

The point behind it is vile and just this side of incestous, not to mention a charming throwback to the Middle Ages. Why on earth can't

these girls be taught to believe in their own values without it being somehow tied to their father? They are being taught they only have

value if they are with a man-their father or the man he hands them off to. That is going to make for some maladjusted girls. What if her

parents divorce? What if shes raped? What if the father dies? What if he is a jerk? What do any of those things do to a girl who has tied

her entire self-worth to what men think of her?

"Purity" is why women and girls in Asian, indian, middle eastern cultures are murdered by the thousands. If anyone as much as hints they

aren't pure, their FATHERS and BROTHERS HAVE THE RIGHT to kill them. It's not even considered crime, it's "honor". What's great about that?

And what's so good about being pure on her wedding day? Does the girl become impure and worthless the day after the wedding if
purity=virginity?

What if she fails? What if she doesn't measure up? How will she feel knowing her father can't love her without her purity?

I want my daughter to grow up healthy accepting of herself. Virginity is not a value i hold; I think sex should be between two people

who love each other and are committed. I want her to have sxs when she's ready and comfortable; I may know,and i may not, either way

is okay, as long as she's happy, healthy and self actualized.


This is what creeps me out about fundies. The implication that you are somehow worth more as a person because you think a certain
way is indicative of the fundamentalist culture, and it's unfortunate that that isolates people.

I think I would freeze up into an icy ball of mystery and walk straight out...and I don't know when I would stop walking.

Anger would not be part of it for a while- the base of my life and all aims and plans for the future would be gone.

She would be irrelevant to me- he is the one would have destroyed me. Later when I had processed it,I would be furiously

angry for he would have done to their kids happiness.



If he even thought about wanting another woman, he's as good aas gone.

When are you out? If you go at times that cut into her naps,snacks,meals or bedtime then s/he is going to be a lot easier to upset
Work around their schedule,don't work against it.

How is her/is communication level? Toddlers anger quickly because they can't express themselves. S/he may point in a direction and
ask questions that you don't get-when she doesn't get a good answer, she gets mad. She tried to tell you, you didn't listen-instant
anger. I know that it isn't that easy, but to a toddler it sure is. Maybe she doesn't want the item, but she just wants to see it or
ask about it. The "no" is because kids hear the word a lot directed at them, it is a little attempt to assert power to tell you no.

In the middle of a fit, there isn't much you can do. The kid is past the point of return and is mad, frustrated and can't communicate.
It is best to say to them " I see you are angry, we will leave now and come back another time". If you are getting signals before it
gets that far, try to avoid the problem. Get on the child's level and ask "are you . . (hungry,wet,thirsty,sleepy" ) and let them
answer you. If s/he says s/he is hungry then get a snack. Don't try to explain when a snack will occur, just get one. And don't
expect more than a child can really do. At 2 or 3 s/he isn't going to sit for an hour for a nice lunch, so don't even try, instaed go
someplace where s/he can get down and run a bit.

And just keep in mind that most pwople with kids have been in your hot sweaty shoes. A kid in meltdown tends to make moms feel
like everyone is looking or they are not good parents. Honestly they are likely thinking " I remember those day..."
Take a deep breath and remain calm.

Leave him. What a dirtbag.

Menopause babies do happen. Sometimes, they come as quite a surprise.

During perimenopause which happens at different times for different women, ovulutation

becomes irregular,but it still happen occasionally. A woman in perimenopause sometimes

believes she has reached menopause when she hasn't.


Look up the oldest woman to ever give birth.

Maybe you should consider hysterectomy or tubal litigation instead of making your huband do what he doesn't want to do.

Several reasons:

The world is cold, The baby is used to the 98 degrees inside mommy.

It's very bright outside of mommy, usually pretty dark inside.

No longer nice and cuddly inside mommy, now stretched out and upside down
getting thrown all over the place and getting probed and checked out. Probably pretty scary.

If baby is not crying, usually means it's not breathing yet. This is the reason for the first
spank on the hiney. The main reason for the crying is to make sure the lungs work for the very
first time. Also helps expel any fluid or mucus the baby might have in the mouth or throat.
He now understands that there is no more water, that it has been replaced by air.

If the the baby does not cry automatically, the nurses and Doctor there can usually handle it
and the baby will be fine.

Conclusion: The birth process is not just hard on the mom, but on the baby too. Get used to it
little buddy. That's life on this planet.

Send your anger in the direction it belongs. Yes your mother in law is a royal pain in the a** but it's your

husband's responsiblity to tell her to butt out and get a life of her own.

There's nothing wrong in setting boundaries and saying no to her. She's not your mom afterall and you're

both adults.

When she starts in with advice just say sweetly, "thanks but i like to do things my way"

When she starts telling you how to make major life decisions, try "Well,{hubby} and I are still hashing out
the details. When *WE* make *OUR* decision,we'll tell you what we choose.

When she starts to nag or criticize throw your hands dramatically in the air and sigh "everybody is a critic!"
or ask her pointedly "Did your mother in law criticize you a lot? Did you like it?"


Aren't they just great? Gotta run your life but they can't run their own. Hopefully she will come around.

Any island but Barbados. Any hotel but barbados beach club.

The Caribbean on a whole is very beautiful but there are some places that take the spot light.

The Virgin Islands is nice. You don't need a passport, they use American money so that is very

useful. .so does Puerto Rico but that is more of a tourist place and that is more mexican culture

while the virgin islands have more island natives. They have the most beautiful beaches and

snorkling. If you must go visit corki beach in St Thomas and trunk bay in St John. St Thomas has one

of the world's best beaches called Megans Bay. They have iguanas walking all over the islands. There is

also a spot i believe on st john where the Atlantic ocean meets the Caribbean and it's one of the coolest

things beacause you can see such a difference. Bahamas is nice but it's very touristy and they have some

theme parks and stuffs. You should go to the USVI . . it's the best place I have ever been.

Santa Claus is a tribute to Saint Nicholas. Who was actually a very giving person, he would give toys to the children whom

were less fortunate and it is said a he wore a red suit while doing it.This why we pay tribute to him every season. The deer

I think were thrown in there for magical effect. . . lol

There are other traditions of giving to children as well. Like the story of babushka who filled the shoes of sleeping children.

Shes on a pilgrimage to see baby Jesus, but he has since grown up, been killed and resurrected . . so she stops at every baby

or child she sees and gives to them .. hoping that her kindness will show kindness to Christ as well

I'll go out on a limb and assume you are under 21 . . .

You sound like a 5 year old who doesn't understand why people have sexxx . . .

Don't knock it till you try it. Some women use it as a means of escape.

Get some hairs on your chest and go through some of life's real tolls,

and you'll have a great perspective on what it means to "get away"

This is one of those whacked out old wives tales spread by those who are a few sandwiches short of a picnic.

Falls right in there along with 'if you raise your arms above your head the cord will strangle your baby'

Ask yourself this though-if someone shows up uninvited, who really is being rude and insensitive? Especially if

someone invited shows up with an uninvited guest.

If you don't want uninvited guests at your wedding,don't broadcast it all over town when and where it will be.

Keep it small and be very specific in your invitations as to ceremony and reception. If they are not invited to

the reception, don't include any info about it. Separate reception cards can be added to the invitations of the

people invited to that part.You can certainly have people at the ceremony who are not invited to the reception.

Perhaps make a sitting chart to include everyone and have place card for them. The "sitting assistant" or whatever

would ask guest their names and give them their sitting cards.This way, it looks like things are organized and easier

for the guests, but really, you are just checking the guest list to make sure those people really are expected.

Funky Dineva on youtube. My hair is layed like . . . hahaha.

Just watched Kidfury.I live for his videos . . hes too funny.

Elsewhere. There is nothing to fear about having a gun in the house but for a balance between protection and safety,it's best
to keep your gun in the attic(up high) or an electronic safe in the bedroom closet. The safe should be bolted to a wall or floor
(not both)in your bedroom closet. It is actually advisable to store the pistol in the safe loaded if you feel you may need to use
this in the event of home invasion.

Honestly I have guns in my home.Unloaded. I keep my handguns in a safe that has both a key and combination lock....
My partner was paranoid until she learned to shoot it, load it and took a gun safety class.
We went to a friend's house with the kids last summer for a barbeque. They also had a 3yr old. We were all busy. They kids playing
in the boys bedroom. Well after the barbeque, i got a call from the boy's dad saying that he had kept a gun in his nightstand and
when he went to bed, the gun was on the floor with sticky jelly on it, and realized when we thought the the kids were playing safely,
they were handling a gun. Had i taught my son about dangers of guns, perhaps he would have come told, or not touched it.
You are looking for trouble if when they grow older, they come across one and don't know what to do. My 5 year old daughter does not
know about the guns yet but she will when shes 7 at a range (with a .22 rifle)with her Dad.

A firearm can be used for good as well as evil. If the gun is not available to you or your spouse when you need it most, there isn't
much point in having a gun in the first place now is there?


6years range shooting.

I can't even survive a one sided love relationship.

Well, how long have you been married? Any kids?

Sounds like you compliment each other nicely and after many years of marriage, seexx kind of

take a second place.

Just try some talking and counseling . . and that would help you get to the bottom of it.

Perhaps it's time to sex it up.Get some Viagra for him-you go on some type of women's libido pills--

Talk to your Doctors. Get some purno, have a few drinks,go to a seeexx shop together for fun,buy naughty

items. Go to a book store and get some seexxx books and read them with him at night after a date. Make it fun.

Try wearing something sexy and alluring to get him in the mood. You seem a bit timid and reserved . .

this may contribute to the problem, get your wild dirty girl out.

Sometimes it's something stupid like that that just needs a good charge like a car battery. The car runs

fine but the battery sometimes needs a little boost.

It is not right but many parents do it. . .

When you lose it, you might end up insulting someone even if you don't intend it in the first place.

If this is done constantly, the child will grow up with a very low self esteem. . .

On the other hand, if parents sugarcoat or over protect their children, the children will grow
up to be "full of self", over confident or simply rude to others. . .

Seen both examples.

Is it right?

NO!!

This is clap trap and you know it.
If you are to be friends one day( and you will not btw)it will happen in the far future.

Get a life right now Ms wonderful!
let him go and move on.

Here's an idea. Why not get an education, develop some interests besides your ex, and become
a person a guy WANTS to be with??

It might be a good idea to get them something that appeals to their four other senses.

Talking books/music in their language.

Talking clock/watch.

Classical music is great for relaxation. I would get Mozart or Greig.

A guitar is also very easy to play.

Something special to them. Even though they can't see . . .like a picture of you together.

If you made them something . . .like a purse, scarf, wallet etc. they would feel special.

You could also try perfume, bath salt, or something of that sort.

I am sure your visit would be the most beautiful, and special gift you could give any blind person.

If they pass a background check; yes.

The question even being asked is depressing.

I wouldn't trust my kids with religious people. They are sick.

Wow! Definition of irony.

I can't actually answer that because I'm frozen in the blinding glare

of your judgemental scrutiny. Maybe some other time.

I'd rather my partner not drink and come home at night. Sorry you are having such troubles.

That sucks when people crap all over their lives.

How do you know the pain is in the kidney? It may even be a bladder infection or UTI. Pain generally in kidneys

is due to stones or it may be any reason. You should get it check out by a Dr.

Most elderly people do not like change. They are afraid of losing control of their lives and being

dependent on others or taking care of them. If you get worried enough, get her one of those

wearable buttons to push for help . .but know she still may not use it . . doesn't want to bother

anyone. Maybe you can sit down and just talk about "her" past. Have tea together. Just talk,converse.

For no reason. Does she have visitors?

Relax and enjoy yourself. . . .make sure she has her favorite candies, puzzles ,kleenex, comort foods etc.

Shes a big girl, I'm sure shes in good hands. You can leave gran a bouquet of flowers every now and then

and address the card "from your secret admirer" but don't tell her it was you.

These are just some things I thought of to help you think of because you may be too involved and have lost

a little perspective. I love to talk with older people. They are little treasure troves of history.

Their first car,plane ride,radio show,talking movie, first kiss, how they survived the depression or the

war. All that stuff is fascinating. I have spent hours and hours in hospice homes listening to stories.

They are history on two legs and I love to listen to them. They get that little glint in thier eyes when

they talk about thier first trip to bootlegger when Prohibition was on. Or, the scowl when they relate

their harrowing experience running from Hitler's Germany or the guys who were in Pearl Habor of the tough

old salts who were in the Merchant Marines or the French Foreign Legion. The blush of remembrance of their

first dance with a man. Everyone has a story.


I hope all works out and you make the best out of life that you can with the amount of time that you have.

Someone is probably judging you right now. Some people don't like you and guess what? There's nothing you can do about it.

No amount of toading,coercing or pandering to their interests will help. Infact, the opposite is often true, the more you

stand for something, the more they respect you, whether it's grudgingly or not.

What people truly respect is when you draw the line and say 'you will not go further.'

They may not like this behaviour but so what? These are people who don't like you anyway,why should you attempt to please

people who don't care for you in the first place.

Sounds like a modern stepford wife.

Where is the 3year old? The baby is crying and need fed and changed. Dinner burned and ruined because

the dog got out and had to chase it down . . . Dr called and said the 3year old has strep throat and

needs meds right away at the the pharmacy. The carpet cleaner called to say he running late and wont be

here until about time hubby come home. . .etc etc.

Marriage is a two way street. The days of the Cleaver are over! Women work (in and out of the home)and

need hubby to help with the chores too.

She probably thinks-these people have a lot more than i do, they wont miss just some food

which would help my friend/family a lot. The trouble is stealing a few things turns into

more and more, then perhaps stealing from shops . . . She needs to be told privately, we

want to trust you,please do not steal from us,if you desperately need help please talk to us.