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saving urself for your future husband? i am also saving my money for my future wife. lol

izenco2005: guys wonder whether women are attracted to them, mainly because women are much more subtle than guys when it comes to showing their attraction towards someone. However, once you know the secrets, spotting the signs is easy. Just one of these actions is enough to act on, more than one then go for it! Here are the ways women may show that they like you: 1. When She Wants to Speak to You: • She will point her feet in your direction when standing up. • She may smile, or look away embarrassed when holding eye contact. • She jerks her leg in your direction if sitting down with legs crossed. • She adjusts her posture – sitting up straighter and holding in her belly. • She faces you with her hips/legs towards you while sitting. • She opens up her body language to you while standing. • She brushes up against you unnecessarily when she passes. • She looks at you twice before approach. • She touches her hair when she notices you. If you receive any of these gestures, definitely move in and begin conversation with her. The next aim is to move the interaction along to a point where the girl actually wants to continue pursuing a conversation with you. This may happen instantly, or it could take a while. If you have jumped straight in without any of the above signals, look for some of the below to know if she is interested. 2. If She is Interested in Extending the Interaction: • She asks your name. • She asks you questions • She responds with extended answers to your questions. So those are the signs that she likes you enough to want to talk to you, but how can you tell if she actually wants to get physical with you? 3. If She is Sexually Attracted to You: • She strokes her neck when talking to you. • She gazes at your mouth. • She tilts head to the side when speaking to you. • Her pupils dilate. • She laughs at your jokes, even when they aren’t funny. • She is happy listening to you even when you are talking rubbish. • She holds eye contact with you and doesn’t look around the room or at her friends. (Note – if she is nervous and it is just not her character to hold strong eye contact, she could still be interested.) • She is doesn’t mind you touching her and entering her space. • She is willing to leave her friends and stay with you. • She laughs and hits you on the shoulder when you tease her. • She looks at you in a dreamy way. • She asks if you’re single. • She uses your name in conversation. • She leans in towards you. Knowing the signs that a girl is attracted to use is very useful, as it not only tells you whether or not to make the move but also helps to avoid crucial opportunities. Your success rate with women will increase significantly,

shey "newline & paragraphs" dey on strike?

for me, there is nothing really wrong with slimyem's post except for limiting it to men.

like I always say, Money is an amplifier. those cravings you had when u were broke materialise when you become "financially comfortable".

people dont neccesarily change when they have money. they had those behaviors in them but could not actualise it due to lack of funds.

KINGwax: In as much as i hate to see the girl dead, and i love to see these guys hung, that doesn't justify all these ruse! To me, who is to blame for the girl's stupidity?
The truth is, i don't excuse stupiditi, or pity fools

if someone outsmarts you ilegally, are you saying the person should not be pusnished, his punishment is not justified.

i recently learnt a new type of empathy, empathy for the ignorant, unexposed or foolish. it is important my friend.

why would peeps term her as a "runs girl". the op said she is into business (botique's and stuff) and came to transact business

the story suggests that she might have been "not too careful" but does not imply "runs".

RIP Cynthia.

anigold: VAN PUSSY VAN PUSSY VAN PUSSY.

WE WERE WITH YOU DURING YOUR 2 SEASONS OF STUPID INJURIES NOW ITS TIME FOR YOU TO SAY THANK YOU TO THE
CLUB YOU ARE LEAVING SOME PLAYERS ARE VERY UNGRATEFUL. I RESPECT DROGBA FOR THIS, HE IS A TRUE PLAYER
I RESPECT GERARD HE IS A TRUE FOOTBALL, I RESPECT DEL PIERO , I RESPECT ROONEY.

DONT WORRY VAN PUSSY PRAY YOU DONT HAVE YOUR STUPID INJURIES COS MAN U WILL MAKE U CRY

I HATE THIS GUY. Bleep HIM A MILLION TIMES

even Rooney wanted to leave to City before. ferguson had to give him a very improved contract. although he apologised to fans later.

Biafra4tharmy: Hail nigeria army. Its a welcome development and im looking forward to 25% annihalation of northern moslem population. That wil give southern nigeria everlasting political domination come 2015. Boko haram should continue so that more muslim infidels be massacre. Hail Biafra

i weep for Nigeria with comments like this. I really hope you are joking. and I am a southern & Christian Nigerian

ifyalways: I think restraining the man is a wise decision, a deed that must be done.

God forbid this happened to me, I know I'll join in ratraining my husband because hmmm, he can kill his brother/uncle in that rage.

Done is done. The husband needs to send "signals" to his brother or whoever battered the wife that such an act, should not, under any circumstance repeat itself. Don't ask me how he'll send the "signal" oh. Lol

The little girl has to be sent back to her people immediately. A strict rule for all relatives put in place from henceforth.

Babe, You nor go restrain me if I be ur husband O. If as a husband to my wife, I have neva hit her, the thot of anoda man hitting her will make it difficult to restrain me. i will definitely control the actions (I wont hit him) but I will talk sense to him and demand a full apology to my wife. apology to be made in the presence of all those who witnessed the beating. after that, I will also apologise for my wife beating the niece as She really should have used corporal punishment. beating is unacceptable for disciplining a teenager.

jennykadry: Why did you people restrain him? Is the situation not bad as it is? A man's wife was slapped and you retrained him?

You must be kidding me,both the restrainer and the restrainee are kidding me

thank you O jare. when you beat a Man's wife U have also beaten the man O. it is the worst way for an elder brother to insult You. although, like i said earlier, I wont degrade to fisticuffs sha

mhsanni: THIS DOESN'T ANSWER HOW THE PICTURES OR VIDEOS CAME ALONG....BUT IT SURE ANSWERS OTHER QUESTIONS....

Accordn to a friend of hers as i read on
http://www.bellanaija.com/2012/08/11/tragedy-in-lagos-banker-yinka-johnson-arrested-for-allegedly-driving-recklessly-killing-lastma-official-hammed-balogun-friends-family-dispute-story-appeal-to-eye-witnesses-to-come-forward/#comment-279822

yinkas friend August 11, 2012 at
10: 12 PM

first things first, reference is being
made to her infant for several
reasons , she had a csection barely 2
mnths back , she was anaemic thus
she didnt have the stamina , the
supposed reckless driver did ! that
said, thank God witnesses are
coming out to say what really
happened , infact a witness in the
danfo bus that crushed the lastma
official is willing to testify …she was
doing a one way( stupid idea) , she
was accosted , while there(in her
car ) a danfo bus runs into a lastma
official that was engaged in a scuffle
with some other guy, danfo speeds
off , guy dissapears into thin air ,
yinka is the only one left at the
scene! lastma officials carry their
wounded colleague( God rest him)
and attempt to put him into yinkas
car , and the bystanders and okada
ppl protest, saying if they do, or she
agrees to it , then she would be held
accountable so no! in all of that
drama she is confused and steps out
afraid that they (lastma ) would
attempt to mob the car( the engine
still running) then a man from
nowhere jumps into the car , as she
sees this she jumps into the
passenger seat, he says she shld seat
tight while he drives the car into
her estate …the lastma guys mobilise
and get back to the estate , physically
beat the guy who drove the car and
drove the car away ( without yinka in
it ) …yinka calls her husband , after
which she immediately thought to
report the incident to the nearest
police station , while she was yet
filing her case, she sees the officer
who drove her car away and she
called the attention of the filing
officer to it , they inturn turn the
tables on her saying she was a
wanted person …that was the
genesis of her journey to panti , her
baby was not with her at the point
of arrest, the infant had to be
brought over to panti to suckle (but
that is beside the point) …has
nothing to do with “ aiding her
innocence ”it is unfortunate what
has happened , and a really messy
situation…. .it is all the more
sickening that lastma would want to
make a scapegoat out of an innocent
woman…. guilty for violating a
traffic offence, YES! but absolutely
innocent of murder charges...

very plausible

another loophole is where Edu said that the security agents @ the estate prevented them from entering the estate to arrest Yinka and her car. Yinka however said she went straight to the police. many contradictions here. Is it not possible to confirm from the security agents? I really think this woman is innocent and I wonder why Lastma want to pin this thing on herf. It also goes to show that lots of innocent people are being accused unjustly.

i think there is a witness here


Doyin Akinlade, a Lagos TV producer, who claimed to be privy to the circumstances leading to her arrest, spoke to YNaija saying that “the LASTMA authorities, for some unexplained reasons are trying to pin the alleged crime on Yinka Johnson whose car was not even moving at the time Hammed Balogun was hit. She did not even see the man being hit.”

He agreed that the banker violated the law by driving against traffic but he insisted that it was not true that she hit the official. He also noted that there was no sign of impact on her car but the said Danfo had its windscreen broken.

She was at the scene with another man who was also in his car."He said that lastma officials were in the process of towing Yinka's car when the late Mr Balogun started fighting with the owner of the other car".And a hard punch from the man in the second car threw the late Mr Balogun into the expressway,where he was crushed by a danfo bus.

Yinka Johnson is a of mother three, including a two month old baby who is reported to be held with her in detention.

https://www.nairaland.com/1015548/banker-didn-t-murder-anyone

the story is still very hazy and all it needs are pictures and witnesses to testify. The lady's story is a far cry from both the Lastma story and the initial defense put up for her: According to her, she didnt run anywhere. if the bus in the picture was the danfo bus dat killed the lastma guy then it should be possible to track the bus na. the registration number, park details etc.

Personally, i would never believe a law enforcement officer over ordinary citizens. My initial guess is that this woman is completely innocent but there is so much room for real evidence in this case.

as for her baby being with her, i guess it was because the baby is still being breastfeed. dont think the police decided to arrest the baby with the mother.

its has improved in my area sha but it is not yet uhuru neither does it apply to some neighbouring areas. Ikotun-Egbe, Lagos

i have not criticized his preachings in past but there is nothing logical about this preaching.


most laughable is that Patience wants to be prime minister. dat is beer parlour theory jor

sosoluv: here we go again wit guys lie about women asking em for human hair extensions and smartphones!
U probably stay in a bedroom wit no electricity....what in the hell will pay for ur rent for the next 6months even if a girl simply asks for a blackberry 8520
This topic is for men not foolish boys!

exactly what i was talking about: the boys/men dichotomoy. Men are those who are what you desire a male. boys are those who aren't what you desire in a male.

one very useless word i have heard is "a real man". it has absolutely no meaning except for being a pseudo-name for some fantasies in a girl's head.

the new world mentality equates poverty with laziness. while i appreciate the need to have an internal locus of control, theres a lot of favour, luck and opportunity in being wealthy. So when i hear girls calling a broke guy lazy, i fail to see the analogy.

in terms of choice of husbands however, I agree with Ileke-Idi - It's up to a lady to choose the type of man she wants to get married to. if she wants someone who is financially stable, it is her choice. as a guy, what you do is to find a lady who is ok with ur financial status. no be wetin dem dey vex put. a lot of us have our own seemingly ridiculous list of requirements for would-be spouses. sometimes, we all get to make concessions (looks, cash, intellect, character, tribe etc.)

Inked_Nerd:

How is my point confusing? What is it that you don't seem to understand?

And no I'm not taking it personal. Because I'm actively engaging in this discussion doesn't mean I'm taking it personal.

u are far from taking it personal. following your comments, you are given what is called a detached, logical and objective opinion.

rationality is something missing in so many arguments.

jaephoenix: @inked,y dont u answer solbil.he has just told u dat women,not society as a whole,deride him.
So dont blame d world,blame ur sex.most dont want virgin guys.i ve even taken a poll of 10 girls i know n guess,they all wanted guys that know wat they re doing
Sorry, u cant b a virgin n b sexually savvy.what happened 2 'practice makes perfect'
I know a Deeper Life couple That came 2 my clinic(am a med doc) as a case of infertility.turned out d guy has been digging her urethra(pee hole)for 5 Deadly years.N d woman has been bearing d pain.Damn.a case of virgo intacta.
So pls,maybe u like them fumbly(coined it)dont wish 4 virgin dudes.B careful what u wish for ,
Me i prefer my girls non virgins

i am just knowing the holes are different nairaland can be really educating

solbil: i am 23 a man and i have not even done it before
i am so ashamed to tell it to people becos of how they will react
i have discovered that people slam at women who are not virgins any more
but if you, a man, tell them you are still one they see you as a small boy
they look down at you.
this is not done only by the men folk but surprisingly by the women folk
infact the women folk are the ones i am more afraid to tell than the men folk.
the women laugh you more
it is really embarrassing for me to tell people
infact to be able to say this here i had to create a fake id
i got so embarrassed that, at one point in time, i started thinking of going to have a girlfriend
so that i can do it just to feel among.
my mum told some ladies that i am still new and they started making jest of me saying all kinds of things.
i felt so embarrassed that i left there feeling so humiliated.
i now have a double mind. i really want to remain virgin till i get married but then again i am under intense pressure
from the attitude of people the society.
another reason why i am having a dilemma is the fact that virginity for boys is not talked about
so i am thinking its not too important to remain virgin

guy just relax and dont put urself unda any stupid pressure. there are a lot of guys in ur shoe but they wont tell u they are virgins. it is nt as diifult as peeps think. i know a virgin guy who was told from school days that he wld cave in during nysc. dis guy has done 5 yrs of work and is still a virgin. he is going to be 26 soon.

michelin89: I don't want to argue on this but only outsiders call everyone from Edo state, Edo, the indigenes don't. As far as they are concerned the Edos are the Binis.

If you disagree, go to an Ishan person and call them Edo. Then come back to me make I count your teeth for you.

on point. i am ishan and i will bomb his teeth if he tries it.

just joking. anyway the people of benin were called the binis. the name was changed to the Edos by "Oba Ewaure the great" in recognition of the help rendered him by the slave Edo (Ogiefa's slave) during his tribulations when Uwaifiokun was on the throne.

patsucess: Those guys that comments negatively on my previous post,have you heard of the word (TIME NA MONEY)Please i advice you to use your time to do better things in life,there is more to life than having this sucking creature called GIRLFRIENDS,SERIOUSLY girlfriends are nothing but a waste of time and money,and i have no apology,i am not a gay neither my heart is broken by someone i just realized that real men don't waste there time and money on this being,instead they use there time to developed,upgrade and live higher for all these girls to suck there foots,i have traveled worldwide and i have seen and dated alots of women of different characters and personalities before coming to this conclusion,my advice to every young once coming up,please there is no fun in having a girlfriend,the real fun comes when you are successful in life,and you will be tired of them for now be focus in your goals.

i almost agreed with U until i saw ur motivation (the bolded). The "real" girls i wanted to advise you to start going for will do no such as the bolded. they wouldnt even care.

zannie: Its not a Naija tin please. U started by saying u spent on her @ first coz u ddnt want her to think u r cheap. Dats d impression u created and dats d impression she got. So dnt be complaining.
I am extremely proud to say I never collect a penny from any man, I dnt even know how I wud get past d shame of begging him. Dat way, I keep my pride and my dignity. And I knw many Nigerian girls like dat too.
And always bear in mind dat what u give is what u receive.

my perspective:

there is nothing to be proud of. it is that mentality that is the problem. You insinuate that it is normal for girls not to collect a penny but you give yourself such great accolades for doing something normal. conflicting to me

old joke. leme give you the original extract:


PROBLEM STATEMENT

I’m a beautiful (spectacularly beautiful) 25-year-old girl. I’m articulate and classy. I’m looking to get married to a guy who makes at least 100 million a year.
Cld u send me some tips? I dated a businessman who makes average around 29 mil. But that’s d best i hv ever had.

Here are my questions specifically:

- Where do u single rich men hang out? Give me specifics- bars, restaurants, gyms.

- Why are some of the women who are married 2 rich guys nt so beautiful?
-
How you decide marriage vs just a girlfriend? I am looking for MARRIAGE ONLY.

RESPONSE: THE ECONOMICS OF GOLD DIGGING

I qualify as a guy who fits your bill; that is, I make more than 100million per year. That said, here’s how I see it:

Your offer, from the prospective of a guy like me, is plain and simple, a crappy business deal. Here’s why. Cutting through all the BullShit, what you suggest is a simple trade: you bring your looks to the party, and I bring my money. Fine, simple. But here’s the rub — your looks will fade and my money will likely continue into perpetuity … in fact, it is very likely that my income increases but it is an absolute certainty that you won’t be getting any more beautiful!

So, in economic terms, you are a depreciating asset & I am an earning asset. Not only are you a depreciating asset, ur depreciation accelerates! Let me explain: you’re 25 now and will likely stay pretty hot for the next 5 years, but less so each year. Then the fade begins in earnest.

So in banking terms, we would call you a trading position, not a buy and hold … hence the rub … marriage. It doesn’t make good business sense 2 “buy you” (as ų ask), so I’d rather lease. In case you think I’m being cruel, I would say d following: if my money were to go away, so would you, so when your beauty fades I need an out. It’s as simple as that. So a deal that makes sense is dating, not marriage.

I hope this is helpful, and if you want to enter into some sort of lease, just let me know.

great lady u've got there. i don dey find such a lady for a long time. i have neva dated in my life. still looking for such a lady.

Ithank God i have met a lot of great Nigerian ladies so I would not be coined into generalizing about Nigerian ladies.

Prostitution is a mentality. whether you like the guy or not is not the question. for you to think that you deserve money (fun or whatever you call it) because you have or will give him access to your unmentionables is what classifies it as prostitution. You don't have to stand @ Allen Avenue to qualify as a prostitute.

This is another reason why i dont like yahoo boys and those who date them. these guys get easy access to money and have contributed in no small measure to demeaning Nigerian ladies.

In many companies, what your friend is doing is totally unprofessional.

i dont know where he works so I wont criticize it.

YES he can. I would have thought this wasn't possible previously but I met and dated a girl who gave no hoot about my finances and would refuse if I had attempted to give money.
we broke up later and this was when I got a relatively big paying job compared to what i was earning previously. she was the quintessential lady. funny enoug, the guy she left me for is someone whose salary is not up to one-fifth of mine.

I have an archaic (seemingly) and stubborn belief that guys should never give girlfriends raw cash. my cousins told me it would be difficult to get a girl to like me but my ex prove everyone wrong.

Wislet: I am talking in terms of marriage of course.
What concerns me with boyfriend/girlfriend things?
The guy has NO obligations to any girl whatsoever at that stage.... So to me, bf/gf finance talk is not worth my time.

@Wislet. for marriage, this question should not even come up. cos "his own" and "her own" becomes "our own"