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Beautiful...but growing up it use to be that women who get pregnant outside marriage keep it on the low-low. Now they consciously wanna be baby mama's for any half decent bloke available...smh

Well I don't care about the messenger but she made a point..

Rickbronze:
it's scripted, but the fighting is real

Hence the live crowd...

Shayolevels:
That woman Is confused which is her problem. Is it the size of his dick, or him not using is dick well, or he snubs her whenever she wants to bleep the same big dick that he doesn't know how to use

Exactly....her excuses don't add up...she just wants a divorce so she is just blabbing left right and centre...

OnlineTv247:
Source: https://www.farooqkperogi.com/2020/03/7-corovavirus-grammar-lessons.html?m=1

Farouq Kperogi, Mass Communication Professor, writes from the US

Enlightened...kudos

bukatyne:
Disclaimer: This thread is based on Christian principles.

Happy Quarantine everyone

Hope those staying at home are not bored?

Now to the gist of the thread:

This thread is basically juxtaposing a Christian Husband with Jesus Christ. The idea dropped from the threads about disadvantages of no-sex courtship and 'I don't want to re-incarnate as a Nigerian woman'. Some other thoughts dropped while listening to 'In Christ Alone' by Travis Cottrel although there are several versions.

The Bible compares the marriage between Christ and the Church (all believers) with a husband and wife. Ephesians 5: 31 - 32. Full reading Eph 5:21-33
31 As the Scriptures say, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.”[c]
32 This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one.

Hence my comparing a husband to Jesus Christ. Now, I know a husband is human so cannot be perfect and is working towards perfection. Also, since it is an illustration of Christ's relationship with the Church, it would not completely be same. For instance, wives do not pray in their husband's name nor can the husband save his wife.

Please note that Christians, when I talk imperfection, we are not talking adultery or abuse here. I will be picking some of Christ's characteristics that a Christian husband should emulate:

1. His love: The Bible is filled with stories and instances of God's love John 3:16. The new testament tells us of the love of Christ who left His glory in heaven, came in form of man to save mankind he created. Eph 3:17-19. John 15:9-10. He also corrects us to be the best version of ourselves in love.1 Cor 13:1-13 is also a fantastic read.

2. His goodness, mercy and compassion: Everywhere Jesus went, He was know for doing good. His presence signaled relief, lifting of burdens, forgiveness of sins, restoration, redemption etc. etc. Acts 10:38; Matthew 14:14; Matthew 9:36. His Mercy is seen in the story of the adulterous woman; John 8:1-11. He had mercy on the thief beside Him.

3. His thoughtfulness: His prayer in the whole John 17 for His disciples and Christians worldwide; Him sending us the Holy Spirit who functions as teacher, encourager, comforter and empowerer. Him feeding the multitude who came to listen on several occasions. Even at the cross, while dying and facing separation from His Heavenly father, He still remembered to commit His earthly mother into a disciples' hands: John 19:26-27

4. His forgiveness: In addition to His love, the Bible tells us about Jesus Christ forgiving our sins Colossians 2:14; John 1:12; 1st John 1:8

5. His leadership: He was a servant-leader/Shepherd who laid down His life for His sheep. We are called Christians because we follow his example back to back. As a leader, He did not lord it over us, rather doing everything for our benefit. John 13:12-17; Matthew 20:22-28; Philippians 2:3; 1st Pet 5:1-4 etc.

6. His sacrifice: Philippians 2: 5-11 summarizes His ultimate sacrifice. He accepted to be separated from God the Father for a while to die for us despite the cost Matthew 26:39. During His crucifixion, He carried the sins of the world as no human/animal sacrifice can fully pay for our sins hence separated (forsaken) by God who is Holy and cannot behold sin Luke 15:34; Isaiah 59:1-2; 1st Peter 2: 21-24; 1st John 2:2. Why did He risk all that? Because without the shedding of blood, there is no forgiveness of sins. Hebrews 9:22.

7. His ownership & authority: Everywhere in the Bible we are reminded that we are the possession of Christ bought by His precious blood; the highest bride price anyone has paid for a bride. Yet the sound of ownership by Christ gives us peace, joy, love, hope, eternal assurance of glory etc. Through that ownership, we are joint heirs with Him, assured of Heaven, assured of seeing God Eph 1: 1-14. He gave us the Holy Spirit to identify us, he is not ashamed of us. Everywhere the authority of Christ is mentioned, it is for the benefit of we Christians. At no point did Christ ever use the fact that He is the head or 'paid bride-price' to 'bully' or 'disrespect' the Church. Infact, the hope and confidence of Christians is based on the fact that Christ is creator John 1:1-5 and Lord of everything for our benefit. Eph 1:22-23. Every title He has/gave himself was for our benefit: Bread of life, Prince of Peace, the Resurrection and life, the Living Water etc.

8. His intimacy: He tells us in John 15:1-5 that He is the vine and we are branches and He tells us to abide in him as He abides in us. He also shared everything He knew about God the Father John 15: 14-15. We do not know the date of His second coming ONLY because He did not know as man Mark 13:32, He however told us several signs Matthew 24 and warned us to keeping watching till then. As Christians, we never doubt our place in Jesus or His love/intentions for us because He tells us all the time. The whole of Romans 8. John chapters 14 through 17 is a very good read.

9. His empowerment: Jesus Christ wants us to do greater things than He he did and sent us the Holy Spirit to achieve that. John 14:12. For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline. 2nd Timothy 1:7; He empowers to do everything (godly) Philippians 4:13

10. His emotions: He was in tune with His emotions and allowed them flow. He cried when Lazarus died and saw how people were sad even though He could and would raise Him up . John 11:33-44; Because Jerusalem rejected salvation Luke 13:34; When He prayed to God for deliverance from death before His time Hebrews 5:7. He expressed deep anger when the temple people started buying and selling Matthew 21:12-13. He has felt the same thing we have so can empathize with us. Hebrews 4:14-16

11. His provision: He gave us salvation through His blood, riches through His poverty 2nd Cor 8:9; Power and Comfort through the Holy Spirit Acts 1:4,7-8; will supply all that we need according to his riches in glory Philippians 4:19 etc.

A fantastic and blessed write up. I pray for God's grace upon me as I strike to be a model husband like Christ is to the Church. An amazing woman who deserves all the above from me is my portion. Amen!

Jewessgratitudd:
Nobody should laugh at my hair o.
Its a lockdown and social distancing tinz.

On the contrary...All back hairdo is always nice. I like it

Mentally demented kids everywhere....smh

XhosaNostra:
So what's the problem now? Forget about him & focus on your future plans. Just you & your child, with no human anchor weighing you down with negativity. You should be cartwheeling right now!
You'll meet new people, but don't repeat the same mistakes. Use contraceptives & don't fall pregnant again until a guy spells it out to you that he wants a family with you. Maybe you should also do a bit of introspection. Figure out why you're letting people step all over you. This joke of a relationship went on for as long as it did because YOU allowed it. When you're not getting what you want from a situation, walk away. That's for this one & for any future relationship you may have in the future.

In the meantime, relish in your newly-found freedom & single life because from now on you're not going to settle for less than you deserve, right? It's never too late to make New Year's resolutions or to turn on a new leaf & reinvent yourself. He's history. Finish. On to better things.

Good post...that man is damn selfish and needs a lot growing up to do...

You people block, un-block and block again and again...smh...childish at best..

You can't really do much about it since you are stuck at home in one place....if too much food gets you fat just try to minimise a bit of the portions you eat...

2cul2care:
AY always trying too hard to get attention

ANYTHING FOR THE GRAM

Attention seekers....smh

Nairasurplus:
That means she was not tested properly of corona virus before she was pronounced positive of corona virus.

It seems so...kaii

oyoolima:
Bride price should be abolished but there are a lot of kind, stable Nigerian men who despite paying bride price do not treat their wives as chattel and see their wives as equal partners.or whatever formula that works for them.

A decent human being will keep being decent no matter what.

I agree with the above....

It's possible...

senatordave1:
She has always been sick.ayade imposed her on cross river north so that he can easily takeover from her in 2023 as she replaced him despite massive outcry.she has always been in government positionz all her life.time for apc to test her strength in cross river north

Exactly.....she was sick and was not even supposed to go back as a Senator. She would have dedicated that time trying to take care of herself and getting the best medical care who knows, maybe could have been different story. But God knows best. May she RIP

majamajic:
23yrs old teaching teenagers ?


He must have been doing this for long

Exactly.....the age difference is too close for comfort. He can be their generation sef

Wow,, just wow! Some people get strong mind ooh

Wow so sad.....spiral effect of the covid 19 weather directly or indirectly would be felt. May his soul RIP

I remember him...so sad. May his soulful RIP

All these boys that called themselves "Men"....

Gentleboy15:
.........

I froze for like 10seconds. The reply was definitely not what I was expecting. It dawned upon me that I missed out on her. I remembered how I meet her and how the conversations flowed like an ocean. I could not help but think about how calm, beautiful and eloquent she was. Her shape was mind blowing. I only see that in movies or randomly. She carried herself while walking in such a beautiful manner. I was determined not to give up.

I called her after 5days...lol. I am a busy guy and we all know It's not easy surviving in Lagos. She answered calmly as usual. I inquired about her forthcoming exam and all our discussion was about the examination. I aired my opinion, I gave her candid advice and ended the call. We ended it this time around on a high note. I was happy.

2days later, I called her again and asked for a meeting nearby. She paused for seconds and managed to utter 'okay'. We decided to meet a place not far from her street. We agreed to meet by 7pm.

The meeting was a success. I enjoyed every bit of the discussion and I am convinced she did aswell. During the course of the discussion, I took my time to get to know her better, I also used the opportunity to introduce myself better.


We meet a day after the first meeting at the same place and time. I asked to use to the opportunity to know my house since we are staying quite close. It was such a coincidence, I never knew she was staying close to my area. I have never seen her around. All thanks to school sha.

Walked her down to my house. We talked and connected so deep. I asked to hold her hands but she declined. She gave in upon my consistent requests. We stopped at my gate. We went back to her house. On our way back, she asked me: "Why are you interested in me, I want to know." I knew this was the chance. I stopped both of us from walking, and I began to say all those sweet sweet words. I never knew I was good at that ooo. I was impressed at myself. She held my hands tight as I dazzled through with insane lines. We got to her house and I managed a hug oooo.

After a week of calls and chats. I put it to her to pay me a visit and she obliged. I was stunned. I asked myself "is this really happening?"

On the day we were to meet, i arranged the house and put everything in order. She came and was quite astonished about the compound and our house (I never talked about it).

I offered her drinks but she refused to drink anything. She was just trying to be safe. I hailed her for being sensitive. The atmosphere was so serene. Fan blowing at us. She was on an armless gown... Haaaaa... He curve na die.

We talked at length and one thing led to the other. We had sex. It was mind blowing. She was tight as anything. She did all her possible best to stopped at kissing but my mind games (may God forgive me) was too strong for her. My monstrous arsenal was just waving at her in full swing. It was a sweet experience for me but a bitter sweet experience for her according to what she said afterwards.

She made me realize that she has not given her boyfriend an ordinary kiss. She was beating herself. She accused me of being too hard to resist.... I know in my mind. I assured her of my love for her which I really meant.

She changed after the event. She blocked me om all social media platforms. She even barred my number. It's been 3 weeks now. If I call with another line she ends the call moment she discover it is me.


I am confused.


What exactly is my fault...

Let her be for now pls... She is confused and dissapointed at herself for falling for the temptation and also probably feeling guilty for betraying her boyfriend....
You didn't act in a way that portray the gentleman you claim to be...

Ohh she "works really hard"....

Omihanifa:
Is the bed still available ?

Yes. Location is wuse2

DenreleDave:
As for me, Jet Li is my favorite martial artist followed by Donnie Yen.. Na God save Jet Li say i Don dey watch him movies since I was small if not, I would have chosen Donnie Yen.

Jet li: though a lot of film trick but he doesn't take rubbish. I love his skills, so perfect. Twin warrior, The one, Chai too much action.. He very good with guns too, very good unlike Jackie Chan that can't use gun...

Donnie Yen: very reason.. 2nd best martial artist... The guy is too good wuh kung fu. He is good with guns too but he doesn't really use it
Ip man 1 2 3 4

Jackie: although I like him but his movies are most of comedy than action.. He jokes too much. Imagine, the way they beat him like small pikin only for him to be playing around in the name of fight .

If i want laughter, I would av bought comedy show na but Jackie makes film kinda boring to me with his style of joking around in a serious fight.

Oya it's high time to tell us your favorite martial artist

Cc: SweetCunt97 Ishilove

Jackie Chan
Jet Li
Donnie Yen

Indeed, you are married to an irresponsible man!

omosayo:
– We all have our Childhood dreams of love,marriage.
But how many people are living their dreams?

– If you are not living your dream who is to be blamed?

There are three Things to do to live your dream in Marriage

1: GET GOD INVOLVE IN YOUR MARRIAGE
Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the Lord keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain. It is vain for you to rise up early, to sit up late, to eat the bread of sorrows: for so he giveth his beloved sleep. (Psalms 127:1, 2 KJV)
– DEVELOP A BETTER RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD
– LIVE RIGHTEOUS LIFE
– BEGIN TO SERVE GOD

2: EMPLOY YOURSELF TO DO THE JOB

-DEAL WITH YOUR THINKING
– DEAL WITH YOUR BAD ATTITUDE
Attitude to money,in laws,in conflict,
– DEAL WITH THE WAY YOU TALK
Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. (Ephesians 4:29 KJV)
– UPDATE YOURSELF



3: REACH OUT TO YOUR PARTNER TO CONNECT
He brought me to the banqueting house, and his banner over me was love. Stay me with flagons, comfort me with apples: for I am sick of love. (Song of Solomon 2:4, 5 KJV)
– ADRESS YOUR SPOUSE COMPLAINS
– GET MORE COMMITTED
– MEET YOUR SPOUSE NEEDS
– INCREASE YOUR COUPLE TIME:



Talk,Date,Play,laugh,joke,relax

Click to read more https://realmarriageclinic.com/3-ways-to-build-a-marriage-of-your-dream/

Good one..

espn:
So many devil in human skin roams this planet...

I tell you...that's why I don't look at anybody and envy them no matter what material thing they possess. Evil abounds

mildflame:
Nothing good ever comes of this club

This a very myopic and insensitive thing to say...smh

Gemma52:
A recently married Nairaland shares her maternity photoshoots.

Hope am glowing

Even though I'am not a fan of pregnant photoshoots, You look good...It's your thang! Wishing you a safe delivery