That's why I don't bother myself with all those secondary reunion or forums, etc. Most people just wanna go there to show off where they are in life or what they've "achieved". Unto each one is own abeg..
healthserve: The most important thing is what I want to hit on before this thread degenerates into a squabble. And it is take it easy on yourself. Your high moral standards and etiquette along with your principles, beliefs, values and self expectation has placed you on a pedestal where you expect yourself to act in a certain manner and form. So to win this war, you must first and foremost win the battle in your mind. Yes, every thing goor or bad in this instance is in your mind and to end this struggle the battle must first be won in your mind. Hence I recommend this tips:
1. You'll make new resolutions and you'll fail yourselves many times. But be prepared to forgive yourself before you fail. Being able to pick yourself back up and move forward is one of the routines you should embrace enroute your destination to get healing.
2. The mind is the largest sexual organ. Stop feeding your mind with crazy sexual stuff. Infact Place rules on yourself not be participate in anything sexual outside your hubby.
3. After you've forgiven yourself, adopt the belief that marriage isn't all sex sex and sex. And you'll sacrifice what you don't receive but stay contented. Mental contentment is one of the sure ways to deal with mental wandering. To win this war, you must treat yourself with love and kindness and not condemn yourself in anyway however bad, lest through your own cycle of thoughts you slip into being guilt tripped by your mind and loose focus on healing beyond scars
4. Try new things and fill up spare hours. Place yourself in a new fellowship or activity group where you'll use more of your free time to practice. The rule for change has always remained the same and one I recommend to myself many times is to replace a bad habit with many good habits and practice. Spend more time on activities to have your mind filled up.
5. What you feed your mind matters. In place of sexual arousing information, try spiritual affairs so the sector of your mind producing this thoughts would be flooded with light and you can fix the gaps within your walls and have the breech sealed.
Angela62: I have been on this forum for quite some time now as an anonymous, and the cries of men being handed their balls by women whom they thought love them are ubiquitous. In this regard, here is some list of things to determine, to know if a woman is a keeper, and you shouldn't waste your time on her if she is not.
1. A girlfriend will complement your outfit, a woman will complement your being
A girlfriend is merely interested in the ''now'', her motto is ''what's in for me''? her selfishness triumphs your common interest, and as much as your actions satisfy her ego and score social points, she will stay. But a good woman is more interested in your being, your success, your path, potential and what you stand for. These are criteria she considered before choosing you as her man, and if you retain your core personality and value, temporary fluctuations such as finance will not break her commitment. She thinks longterm and willing to embark on that journey with you, while supporting you in her feminine ways.
2. You can be yourself around her.
You do not need to put up a different face when meeting her, just to represent the illusionary idea of you she has in her head. If she is visiting and you are temporarily out of cash, it won't make you feel insecure or undergo inconvenience just to not be your true self. If you can tell her that you are short of cash and that she should come with something, then she is a good woman. If you have to lie about your life situations such as your job, salary, family background to retain her interest, then it is actually time to live as such a union is not sustainable.
3. Does small stuff for you
Helps you clean, buy stuffs for you, assist you, be there for you, express emotions and she supports you, open to you, compliments you, defend you, make you a beneficiary of her artistic skills. For example, I love writing, and I write a lot of poems for my bf in the form of sticky notes hidden under his pillowcase, inside his work bag, his suit pocket, car boot, teacup, just anywhere I could sneak something into. And guess what, he loves it to pieces. It makes him miss me a lot when I am not in town, and our relationship is stronger as the day goes by.
4. Doesn't use sex as a weapon
Men love sex, and women loved to be loved. If a woman is convinced that her man loves her, she will not withhold sex, as she will equally enjoy it with her man. A lady that denies man sex, or uses it as a bargaining chip for her request doesn't love and a man should be careful in marrying her. Normally when women feel insecure, unloved and not sure about the definition of the relationship, it is possible that she will not be interested in sex, as to have sex, a woman needs mental stimulation first. This should not be interpreted as a reluctance to give sex. But all things being equal and balance, a woman that loves you will not use sex as a weapon.
5. You will be her best friend.
Your intuition will tell you if she tells you everything and sees you as an integral part of her life. She will remember your birthday, be interested in your family affairs, tell you everything, and ask you about everything. Your presence will make her feel good and happy, a natural antidote to the stress and noise of living.
Brandonx: My Ex- girlfriend who just got married recently (arrangée marriage) still calls and chats with me.
When we parted ways I severed ties with her completely. Few months later she called and texted at first I ignored but after a while I decided to reply her messages and take her calls.
We talked about so many things that happened in the past. She came visiting, we were cool until she traveled back and started acting funny.
I ignored her got into a relationship. She somehow knew about it and she went berserk. So I stopped communicating with her.
After a few months she called and sent text as usual, we started talking again as my new relationship wasn't too serious.
She requested for my recent pictures, we made video calls. Little did I know she was getting married in a few weeks. I sent her a congratulatory message and she was surprised.
Few weeks after the wedding she called we spoke at length, at a point I asked about the husband, she quickly changed the topic and I also observed she wasn't too comfortable, I told her I was about leaving the house , we should probably talk some other time . She then said " you asked about my husband, he's fine " I then told her to extend my greetings, her reply was " who do I tell him sent his greetings". I think we still have feelings for each other.
2kaybiel: You're not alone, part of the reason you see some guys at 40 just getting married. See, you are the master of your own ship. Don't feel like something is wrong with you.
And if you finally decide to have a girlfriend, make you select the one that will give you peace of mind. Girl that has understanding should be your watchword.
Actually, sex wasn't originally meant to have an iota of negativity attached to it. This is because, God, the Creator of everything, made everything, including sex, well (Genesis 1:31 ). The plan (and instruction) of God is that all sexual pleasures be enjoyed only between a married husband and his female wife inside the safe confines of their marriage institution, with no other party involved.
If this is adhered to, there would be no negativity coming close at all. In fact, Sex between a married husband and his female wife makes God happy, as it strengthens the bond that binds them together (which is the will of God for every marriage). He pours His blessings upon such.
Nevertheless, when people decide going contrary to what God has instructed, the result is usually unpleasant. Any form of sexual pleasure that is enjoyed outside God's will, becomes poisonous. For some, the poison struck instantly, and for some others, it accumulates in their body, until another fatal day of reckoning.
Sexual immorality - PREMARITAL SEX, EXTRAMARITAL SEX, PORNOGRAPHY, MASTURBATION, HOMOSEXUALISM, are all "Sweet Traps Of Death". They appear pleasant, ordinary, and sweet - but they actually kills. Sexual immorality has killed tons of people, physically, spiritually, emotionally, and so on.
Physically, it is not a secret that tons of people die annually as a result of the fatal effects associated with immoral sexual activities. Many are being killed by sexual transmitted viruses each year. The bright future of many young ladies are being terminated via the steps to abort the "unwanted" pregnancies that came on the bed of immorality.
Indeed, you are embracing death when you indulge in acts like premarital sex, extramarital sex, homosexuality, masturbation, pornography, and other dirty acts. People doing all these might simply be breathing, and making so-called "success" in career or academics. But there is a difference between simply breathing and being alive (many people you see around are actually walking corpses). Only those walking in the precepts of Jesus are truly alive (1 John 4:9).
The "Sweet Trap Of Death" (sexual immorality) doesn't kill just physically. There is an ultimate death (which involves being separated from God your Creator, and perishing everlastingly in Hell). So, sin (including immoral sexual activities like the ones listed above) makes one unholy and separates one from the Holy God. And if such persons should die without repenting, they will perish in Hell.
Flee all forms of sinful activities, and you will fulfill your full potentials. Don't get into the trap. Sexual immorality has killed tons of people... Don't be the next. It is possible to live a chaste lifestyle. Call upon the name of Jesus, and He will help you. It is your destiny to serve God in Spirit and in Truth.
Indeed it is possible to leave a chaste lifestyle" with the help and grace of our Lord Jesus Christ. Some people think it is impossible only because they refuse to help but rather depend on themselves. Thank you for sharing this piece today. God bless!
Teettyllayho: 7 Traits of Highly Successful Individuals
In recent times people look for quick means to become successful in life. Whenever they see successful people, they ask themselves questions like “how is this possible?” or “how can I be poor and Mr A is rich?” a lot of people even go as far as meeting these people to ask how they became successful.
Still, the fact is, there are no shortcuts to success.
It all begins with our mentality. Everything in your life now is based on how we see things. When you keep facing a situation all over again and nothing changes, instead of getting frustrated and depressed, why not decide to change your game plan?
To be successful, you must change yourself by changing your perception of everything.
Success might seem complicated and complex, but there are basic characteristics that have guided successful individuals over the years.
We all have it in ourselves, the power to be successful; all you need to do is tweak the switch in your mind and change your mindset by following characteristic traits of successful individuals.
I will be sharing with you 7 characteristics that define successful individuals.
You might feel that you already possess these features, but try as much as possible to improve yourself on them and many more traits as you advance more in life.
1. Resilience
One of our greatest problems on the road to success is the fear of failure. A lot of us view failure as defeat, hence the reason why successful individuals are different.
Successful individuals see failure as an opportunity to start over, learn and come back stronger and better. Resilience is an attitude of positivity that keeps you from giving up, no matter how many times you fail.
It helps you stand strong when you are faced with difficult circumstances. You stare at failure in the face and smile because you know you will overcome.
When faced with difficulties, try focusing on a solution rather than the problem, learn from the mistakes that caused the problem and focus on avoiding such mistakes next time if a similar circumstance arises.
Always keep a resilient attitude, mistakes are inevitable, but rather than falling short because of your mistake, fall forward; everyone makes mistakes; the most important thing is learning from them.
2. Eagerness To Work Hard
Hard work is a key characteristic that defines a successful individual. A successful individual never falls short of this attribute.
They go beyond, go the extra mile, take risks, encounter challenges and deliver outstanding results. Having the willingness to put in more effort in your job or business means you’re on the right track to achieving your goals.
As long as you have this characteristic, it will always produce results. The results may not be immediate, but it will happen.
Having the zeal to work hard also implies that you should be open to learning in order to keep your knowledge apprised of new information that is available for your improvement and advancement.
Keeping these pieces of information will help you frequently come up with new ideas from learning. This will help in not only your development but also the advancement of your skills.
3. Goal Structuring Mindset
Having a realistic goal is key to achieving an extraordinary goal. Successful individuals come up with realistic goal perspectives.
They always think of their goals and plans towards them every day, from weekly board meetings to creating business plans and closing business deals.
They move with a goal structuring mindset everywhere they go. They don’t mind turning down high-class royal ceremonies to effectively carry out a plan that will help in their goal getting.
Make plans for yourself, have a schedule you follow every day, draw up plans for your business and commit yourself to them. This will make you have a mindset that focuses more on getting goals.
4. Creativity
Successful individuals adopt creativity as a lifestyle. You can’t think success without creativity. Being creative is all about thinking out of the box.
It also entails experimenting and coming up with ideas that will lead to a creative result.
Hence, it would be best if you were vast and open to learning to keep your thinking faculty at prime.
5. Positive Thinking
Most of us spend a great deal of time thinking about our past failures that we fail to visualize the bright future ahead of us.
Successful individuals don’t have time to dwell in the past talkless of holding on to it. All they see are possibilities, and these possibilities will never be brought to life without the power of positivity.
Positivity is the fuel that drives a successful individual to greater heights. Having a positive mindset is an essential ingredient of success. Positivity is the fuel that drives a man towards his dream.
Instead of dwelling in setbacks and feeling disappointed because of a failed past, why not keep a positive mind and look up to a brighter future? 6. Great Communication Skills
This is an important characteristic that successful individuals display daily. Without the ability to communicate appropriately, you won’t get things done accurately and successfully.
Having great communication skills distinguishes you from the norm and makes you unique, but it all begins with being a good listener.
It would help if you were more attentive to have an interpersonal relationship with your peers and your colleagues alike.
The ability to make people listen to you is priceless. It helps you perform well in any given field.
7. Courage
It takes courage to achieve greatness. It took boldness for Hillary and Tenzing Norgay to climb the mountain Everest, a feat deemed impossible at the time.
It takes planning and creativity to come up with a plan, but it takes courage to execute one. Boldness is the reason successful individuals are never afraid to take risks or make paramount decisions. Accomplishing your goals in life requires boldness.
Be bold; take a leap of faith rather than waiting for people to discourage and demoralize you. Courage makes you believe in your instincts, which you can use to carve out your path to success.
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Successful people are everywhere, from our places of worship to our working environments even in our community.
If there is one thing I’ve learned about successful people over the years, it is that they all possess similar qualities. Modelling yourself towards such attributes will ensure you achieve your dreams in life.
The more you work and implement such qualities, the more rapidly you rise to greater heights in life
When you are ready to settle down, dont forget these...
1) Make sure you settle for a man who doesnt see paying your bride price as buying you...
2) Make sure you settle for a man who doesnt see marrying you as doing you a big favour...
3) Make sure you settle for a man who wouldn't use your monthly cramps and mood swings against you,, YES Some men are like that...
4) Make sure you settle for a man who knows you have right to your body sometimes,, who understands you have the right to say NO to sex when its not comfortable for you,, maybe due to weakness or whatever it might be,, and still respect you for that...
5) Make sure you settle for a man who would stick with you inspite of the odds,, who wouldn't compare you to a SWEET 16 after series of child birth (though most women try to work on themselves after child birth,, but truth be told,, you cant remain young forever)...
6) Make sure you settle for a man who would understand that there are just times you might feel too tired to fix the family meal,, and him helping you out wont be a taboo...
7) Make sure you settle for a man who would always allow you air your opinions, who understands you have d right to 'agree' or 'disagree' on a particular issue,, depending on what the case may be,, without always shutting you up before you are done airing your view...
Make sure you settle for a man who doesnt find it difficult saying 'SORRY',, someone who easily asks for forgiveness whenever he wrongs you,, not some kind of 'Autocratic' man,, who expects 'sorry' from you even when it's glaring he's wrong...
9) Make sure you settle for a man who understands that hitting a lady is a crime and shouldnt be done especially to his wife,, not some 'wife beaters' who raises their hands at the slightest provocation...
10) Make sure you settle for a man who loves everything about you,,who loves your soul not just the body,,and who enjoys your company always...
I tell you, especially on the part of the man.This whole thing is an accident waiting to happen. There will be consequences later in that family. I pray God gives all of them the wisdom to handle it.
seunmsg: Unfortunately, the Auditor General’s annual report is not treated with the seriousness that it deserves. The public account committees of the senate and house of reps will simply invite the heads of the indicted MDAS, collect huge bribes from them and throw the audit observations into the trash can.
The effort to fight corruption cannot be successful until audit reports are acted upon swiftly and indicted MDAS sanctioned.
Made4naijalove: Billionaire blogger and single mum of one, Linda Ikeji yesterday, caught the bouquet at the wedding reception of her sister, Sandra.
According to reports, Linda Ikeji alongside a couple of other ladies stepped out when it was time for the bride to throw the bouquet and luckily, Linda caught it with much struggle.
Watch the video of the moment below, showing how guests cheered after the blogger caught the bouquet indicating that she will be next to wall down the aisle.
This thread was created in response to a scam post in which @ Nostradamus tagged me. My condolences to the victim but here's the reality
Investigation and tracking costs huge funds, now except you are a family members unfortunately these amounts are too negligible for any serious agency to get bothered with had it been you where scammed of very large amounts then it's a different case. Hence most victims are stuck with the NPF as the only platform for assistance. I think if I recall the EFCC only get involved when it's 5 million upwards.
Here's a few pointers to other members
1. If you get an sms from a website asking you to click or visit or register please do not click except you where in the process of setting up some sort of profile online and they sent you a code via SMS.
2. These scam sms will come in form of konga.com, davido.com, lol.com, kok.com , Or your package has been shipped, or an SMS from Amazon when you know you didn't make a purchase or wining codes and bet tips . Infact last week there was this syndicate who send out sms to victims with Koran verses and links to online readings , this is how smart these criminals have become!.
3. Why do they do this? Once you click the links your phone has been compromised, they will view every single sms you send or receive, they will view every single password you enter on your phone and they will read all your WhatsApp Facebook and any instant.messenger chats on your phone. Any password you enter on your phone they will get it ...hence why you hear people cry that their WhatsApp of Facebook was hacked and they frankly can't remember ever sharing details or logging in anywhere else but their phone.
4. So to be safe once you get such sms don't open them just delete them...infact there have been cases where they use this system for kidnappings and ransome withdrawals.
5. Never I repeat never share your mobile number carelessly!!
6. Becareful the websites where you enter your number for registration, if you have a second number that you don't use for financial transactions use that one.imstead.
7. Very important: the number you use for Bank transfers , please never use it in an internet enabled phone, better purchase a feature phone like Nokia torch that has no internet facility, so if by error your child clicks the sms they can't get your data except you dare connect online. Like my main banking number is in an old.school Nokia 3310 while my other numbers are in smart phones.
8. Irrespective of your os Android or Apple this hackers can get all your information, and it cannot be patched because the same system used in tracking BOKOHARAM and kidnappers is what they have gotten and now use for fraud.
9. Don't be too alarmed as just follow the safety tips I shared and you should be relatively safe
10. Also if you get repeated flashing form +235 +233 +232 or some.number in the West Indies and such please don't call back..
I hope this post helps someone .. I know the criminals won't like this but surely and slowly we closing in on you guys.
Very kind of you to have shared this. Highly educative!
So sad...this one is the we've heard. Alot of girls cry themselves to sleep even over here if they don't get enough likes when they post pictures or get that Male admiration and validation online.
Crime › Re: Son Attempts To Chop Off His Mother's Private Part Over Adultery by Mryacks: 1:09pm On Jan 26, 2020
