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This is not a good look....classy not!

Yabsun:
Love don't cost a thing and Hip don't lie.
If you know you know

I know... ! kaii the way i use to trip for JLo back then ehhnn

stanisbaratheon:
Arsenal,
Chelsea
Man united
Spurs

These are some of the useless clubs this season.

That is why the likes Leicester/Sheffield Utd are where they are on the table...those four teams you mentioned have been shambolic this season.

Bad news brown....even your husband is not helping the matter. You guys need to cut off from that your ex man or whatever he is..

kpakpandoN:
A Peacemaker is a person who pursues peace at all times. When the fellow is offended, his response to the offender is to ensure that peace reigns. Sometimes, they take all the blame and suffer some consequences, but they are happy at the end of the day because all they are after is peace. Also, when they see other people in a quarrel, they intervene to ensure that they make peace with each other. God loves these people so much; Jesus specifically said that they will be called the children of God. Of course, they will be called the children of God because Jesus Christ is the prince of Peace.

Now, if the peacemaker is a child of God, then whose child is the troublemaker? When you always choose quarrel over peace, who do you resemble? A troublemaker may not know it, but he is not a child of God as he does not exhibit the characteristics of God, rather those of the devil. If whenever you see two people quarrelling, you begin to say things that would fuel the anger of one or the other and cause the quarrel to become more heated, you are a troublemaker. If you have a reputation of always retaliating against anyone who offends you, you are a troublemaker. If you are one who likes to cause quarrels amongst your colleagues, friends or family members, then you are a troublemaker; you need to repent and change your ways.

Many times, we want to make peace, but we don’t want to be seen as a weakling. The reverse is however the truth. It takes strength to control one’s ego, anger and work towards peace. Hence, it is a strong but wise person that will seek peace.

Whenever you’re tempted to fight, remember that unbelievers don’t read the Bible, hence it is we the Christians that model Christ to them. If you claim that the Prince of Peace lives in you and you are the quarrelsome type, many unbelievers will not want that your ‘Prince of Peace’ to live in them. Secondly, making peace with others is one of the prerequisites to making it to heaven on the last day. Hebrews 12:14 says:

“Follow peace with all men, and holiness without which no man shall see the Lord.”
Written by Pastor E.A. Adeboye.

Gracias!

Interesting15:
Lust is usually the culprit as far as sexual immorality is concerned. It is a fuel that has a capacity to push people into indulging in sexual immoral acts - premarital sex, extramarital sex, pornography, masturbation, and so on. Lust is one of the devil's most favourite weapons. When he struck with lust, many persons easily find themselves commiting sexual sins and attract afflicting afflictions into their lives.

Lust precedes sin; sin brings about separation from God. Separation from God your Creator will give the devil your enemy an access to ruthlessly plunder your life and destiny here on earth, and get you doomed in hell fire (which is for eternity).


A lot of people out there are under the shackles of lust, and it has vehemently corrupted their heart and mind and thoughts. Lust will always dip people into trouble. Jesus Christ said: "Whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart." (Matthew 5:28). Imagine that. It means the curses attached to the person that indulged in the real act of sexual immorality can also follow the one who only lustfully imagined the pleasures in the heart.

I know a lot of people out there are still battling with lust You reading this right now might be one of them. The good news is that, you can be delivered from the demonic stronghold called lust today.

What should you do? Simply follow these steps:

1. Depend On The Finished Works Of Christ

The Bible revealed that the spirit is willing (to yield to the will of God), but the flesh is weak. Immediately after the fall of Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden, the human nature became brutally perverted, and it was corrupted into becoming an entity that enjoys sin.

Therefore, you must realise that you can't conquer lust with your own futile attempts and strength. What should you do then? Depend wholly on what Christ has done for you. You must first accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior. If you haven't do that, say this prayer with sincerity:

"LORD Jesus, I accept You as Lord and Savior. I acknowledged that I'm a sinner. Please, Forgive me all my sins and wash me clean with Your precious Blood. Henceforth, I'm Yours alone. Amen".

When you dedicate (or rededicate) your life to Christ, you will have to die to self, and He will resurrect you. He will give you His Holy Spirit to help you live a life devoid of lust. Please, ask the Holy Spirit for help.

2. Empower Your Mind, Heart And Thoughts With The Word Of God

Your heart and mind can't be empty - it must be occupied and filled with something. To prevent lust from dominating your life, fill it then with the Word of God. Equip yourself with the Word of God, and you will be empowered not to sin. The Bible says: "Thy word have I hid in mine heart, that I might not sin against thee" (Psalm 119:11).

The Word of God is power, and it will strengthen you to resist sin of all types. Don't forget, you shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free (John 8:32).

3. Avoid All Lustful Entities And Appearances

While the Holy Spirit is always available and eager to help, you must also realize that you have your role to play.

You should avoid persons whose lifestyle (dressing, conversations, etc) brings about lust. You should ensure you don't give room for the flesh, and should avoid dirty things that erupts lustful desires and thoughts (dirty magazines, books, movies, music, etc). Don't be in places with an immoral atmosphere (clubs, wild parties, and so on) too. Avoid situations that brings breeds lust (intimate contact with sensitive parts of members of the opposite gender, and so on).

In conclusion, you are destined to live a life of purity and holiness, maintaining an eternal intimate relationship with God through Jesus Christ the Lord. This will empower you to adequately fulfill your destiny and have complete dominion over creation.

Good wrote up....God bless you.

hooha:
Today you hear of bridal shower, lovely wedding, wedding in Dubai, men in Black, she is my queen, he is my hero, bla bla bla. Then tomorrow, you hear of divorce: she is a devil, he is a dog, he is a wife beater, she is a beast, I didn't know she was a witch, I didn't know he has STD, bla bla bla bla. That is why you really need to do a proper check before you marry. In those days where many people were good, you could easily pick a guy or a lady, and marriage will work out. But today that is filled with hypocrisy, you ought to be careful.

I will show you things that you mustn't skip before you marry your fiance or fiancee.

(1) Test of Love: Until you love and get loved, and until the love begins to flow without energy, before you can say you are good to go. If you still put pressure trying to impress your partner to love you, please pause first. Something is wrong somewhere. But when the love flows sweatlessly and selflessly, then you may proceed to marry.

(2) Test of Fidelity: Some people love, but they are promiscuous. But promiscuity is not a characteristics of true love. So if your partner is a promiscuous cheat, pause the wedding. You can take the person for spiritual rehabilitation or deliverance before you proceed with wedding.

(3) Test of Time: Everything, no matter how sweet, palatable and enticing it may look like, can only be validated with time. So no matter how you love your partner or how your partner wishes to marry you, give it the test of time. Give it time to see if whatever you feel or whatever is shown is real. As they normally say "time will tell".

(4) Test of Peace: No matter the sweetness of any relationship, if there is an internal tension of the mind, please go back to God to ask questions. Until you have true and persistent peace, don't marry that person. When the peace is sure, go and marry.

(5) Test of Availability: Whoever tells you there is time for love and time for serious business is not a good partner for you. Love has no schedule! Until you have much access to enjoying your partners availability, don't marry. When I talk about availability here, I don't mean that your partner may not be in situations were you cannot access each other, but even when such situations come, you will still see the urge to be together; not that he or she will be operating an intentional love on schedule.

(6) Test of Tolerance: Until your imperfections are swallowed and until you are able to swallow the imperfections of your partner, don't marry yet.. It is good to have a large heart, but if you find it so difficult to take some things from your partner, do not marry yet until you are able to take it. Marriage is a very long journey.

(7) Medical Test: Don't assume your partner is good and you trust yourselves. Seek necessary medical tests before marriage.

May God help you to have a successful marriage with a God-fearing person.

Very good write up...

She "working hard"...

I hope the allow that lady to go...she is not the cause of death.

How disgusting and sickening....kaii

Now this is crazy...

Awol1:
Eye yam not understanding, is Obi Cubana different from Cubana chief priest?

The same question I have too...who is who sef

AdaNonye:
Lemme rephrase this whole scenario....as a woman, if your husband is always excited to resume work on Monday so he can see his secretary, what will you advice



Besides,if his secretary will cause him to sin, he should let go..or if he can, let him set her up in another department where they dont have to interract

You seem to be one the few that understood the scenario...kudos

Good one ...

Not cool to go around promising women marriage abeg...they are emotionally fragile.

nwachukwu9:
Some ladies love validation alot,the more you pursue her,the more she is happy, Even though she doesn't love you.she only want to keep you around and prove to her friends that she is wanted by guys but she is still waiting for the one that her heart would accept

Absolutely true words. This to me is one the major reason amongts others, that women who fall in that point 3 above give that here nor there indirect response.

nice one.

Fisher007:
Hmm where do I start from?

Marriage is not worth it for both side. It always favour oneside than another no matter how most people present it to you.

Things mostly fall apart except if the foundation is strong which in most case it is never. Ladies love conditionally and men too the same. Once both ends can't keep up with their conditions, it will scatter.

Conditions like she got fat, stretch mark, her body, she keeps slutty single friends. For men he got broke, he doesn't care for me, he is never at home etc.

People expect both side will remain the same in everything after marriage which is not possible. After childbirth women will always change mentally and physically. After so much responsibilities men too will always change both financially and mentally.

And if one side manage to remain the same and the other changes, abusive, disrespect, shaming, insult etc will come in, no matter what. It is just standard reaction.

That is why no one or person both in my family,on TV, friends can sell marriage to me. I see it as a sign of weakness from both parties either Lady getting old quickly wants to retire, man getting old looking for legacy (children) etc

Study most married people at events or outing, they look sad and depressed most time but cover it all up with a fake smile. Pssh

What do I know. I am not even married. Elders I leave the floor to you.

In.other news, Dr sid the helper of aunty tiwa before baby wizkid enter. Lol your own karma don slap you too.

a couple of points...

Almost did business with Picomss years ago ooh. Thank God it didn't fly...

MusaChukwudi:
Go and ask your elders. You will die young before your time. F[b]or a long peaceful life just do your best and leave the rest[/b], if that's not possible let her gooooo!

The bold line is the point I tried to make....tnx

ouzo1:
I sure say no be Naija family be this.

Read the heading...

chival:
Your destiny is in your hands. Rise up and take it. People with a lot less than you have, have been known to make it. Determination is key. Take these steps.
1. First off rise from the bed of self pity. Leave your past in the past and don't look back. You are all you need to be happy and to succeed. Tell yourself that a hundred times a day if need be.
2. Channel your energies into developing yourself. Are there skills you possess that could stand you out? Develop them.
3. Determine what your goal is and take steps towards that.
4. Finally, if you are a Christian, pray. Develop a close relationship with God. Talk to him as you would a friend. Tell him to show you what to do and how to go about it. Consult God for every single thing. He actually answers. I know this from my own experience.
The future is waiting and it's bright. Claim it now.

Good advice..

Marriage is the whole nine yards mahn...you've just got to strife to have a balance and satisfy on all fronts as much as one can.

Some things are not to be heard...even hearing it corrupts mindset. This is one of such things. Kaiii

That's why I don't bother myself with all those secondary reunion or forums, etc. Most people just wanna go there to show off where they are in life or what they've "achieved". Unto each one is own abeg..

healthserve:
The most important thing is what I want to hit on before this thread degenerates into a squabble. And it is take it easy on yourself. Your high moral standards and etiquette along with your principles, beliefs, values and self expectation has placed you on a pedestal where you expect yourself to act in a certain manner and form. So to win this war, you must first and foremost win the battle in your mind. Yes, every thing goor or bad in this instance is in your mind and to end this struggle the battle must first be won in your mind. Hence I recommend this tips:



1. You'll make new resolutions and you'll fail yourselves many times. But be prepared to forgive yourself before you fail. Being able to pick yourself back up and move forward is one of the routines you should embrace enroute your destination to get healing.


2. The mind is the largest sexual organ. Stop feeding your mind with crazy sexual stuff. Infact Place rules on yourself not be participate in anything sexual outside your hubby.



3. After you've forgiven yourself, adopt the belief that marriage isn't all sex sex and sex. And you'll sacrifice what you don't receive but stay contented. Mental contentment is one of the sure ways to deal with mental wandering. To win this war, you must treat yourself with love and kindness and not condemn yourself in anyway however bad, lest through your own cycle of thoughts you slip into being guilt tripped by your mind and loose focus on healing beyond scars



4. Try new things and fill up spare hours. Place yourself in a new fellowship or activity group where you'll use more of your free time to practice. The rule for change has always remained the same and one I recommend to myself many times is to replace a bad habit with many good habits and practice. Spend more time on activities to have your mind filled up.


5. What you feed your mind matters. In place of sexual arousing information, try spiritual affairs so the sector of your mind producing this thoughts would be flooded with light and you can fix the gaps within your walls and have the breech sealed.

Applause...!

Sad story...smh

Angela62:
I have been on this forum for quite some time now as an anonymous, and the cries of men being handed their balls by women whom they thought love them are ubiquitous. In this regard, here is some list of things to determine, to know if a woman is a keeper, and you shouldn't waste your time on her if she is not.

1. A girlfriend will complement your outfit, a woman will complement your being

A girlfriend is merely interested in the ''now'', her motto is ''what's in for me''? her selfishness triumphs your common interest, and as much as your actions satisfy her ego and score social points, she will stay. But a good woman is more interested in your being, your success, your path, potential and what you stand for. These are criteria she considered before choosing you as her man, and if you retain your core personality and value, temporary fluctuations such as finance will not break her commitment. She thinks longterm and willing to embark on that journey with you, while supporting you in her feminine ways.

2. You can be yourself around her.

You do not need to put up a different face when meeting her, just to represent the illusionary idea of you she has in her head. If she is visiting and you are temporarily out of cash, it won't make you feel insecure or undergo inconvenience just to not be your true self. If you can tell her that you are short of cash and that she should come with something, then she is a good woman. If you have to lie about your life situations such as your job, salary, family background to retain her interest, then it is actually time to live as such a union is not sustainable.

3. Does small stuff for you

Helps you clean, buy stuffs for you, assist you, be there for you, express emotions and she supports you, open to you, compliments you, defend you, make you a beneficiary of her artistic skills. For example, I love writing, and I write a lot of poems for my bf in the form of sticky notes hidden under his pillowcase, inside his work bag, his suit pocket, car boot, teacup, just anywhere I could sneak something into. And guess what, he loves it to pieces. It makes him miss me a lot when I am not in town, and our relationship is stronger as the day goes by.

4. Doesn't use sex as a weapon

Men love sex, and women loved to be loved. If a woman is convinced that her man loves her, she will not withhold sex, as she will equally enjoy it with her man. A lady that denies man sex, or uses it as a bargaining chip for her request doesn't love and a man should be careful in marrying her. Normally when women feel insecure, unloved and not sure about the definition of the relationship, it is possible that she will not be interested in sex, as to have sex, a woman needs mental stimulation first. This should not be interpreted as a reluctance to give sex. But all things being equal and balance, a woman that loves you will not use sex as a weapon.

5. You will be her best friend.

Your intuition will tell you if she tells you everything and sees you as an integral part of her life. She will remember your birthday, be interested in your family affairs, tell you everything, and ask you about everything. Your presence will make her feel good and happy, a natural antidote to the stress and noise of living.


Hope this helps

Nice..

Brandonx:
My Ex- girlfriend who just got married recently (arrangée marriage) still calls and chats with me.

When we parted ways I severed ties with her completely. Few months later she called and texted at first I ignored but after a while I decided to reply her messages and take her calls.

We talked about so many things that happened in the past. She came visiting, we were cool until she traveled back and started acting funny.

I ignored her got into a relationship. She somehow knew about it and she went berserk.
So I stopped communicating with her.

After a few months she called and sent text as usual, we started talking again as my new relationship wasn't too serious.

She requested for my recent pictures, we made video calls. Little did I know she was getting married in a few weeks. I sent her a congratulatory message and she was surprised.

Few weeks after the wedding she called we spoke at length, at a point I asked about the husband, she quickly changed the topic and I also observed she wasn't too comfortable, I told her I was about leaving the house , we should probably talk some other time .
She then said " you asked about my husband, he's fine " I then told her to extend my greetings, her reply was " who do I tell him sent his greetings".
I think we still have feelings for each other.

Run bro, run....

fk002:
Southern Kaduna people

Obviously...from their names

How low....smh

Almost same height...beautiful

2kaybiel:
You're not alone, part of the reason you see some guys at 40 just getting married. See, you are the master of your own ship. Don't feel like something is wrong with you.

And if you finally decide to have a girlfriend, make you select the one that will give you peace of mind. Girl that has understanding should be your watchword.

Well said...