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folak48:
I have caught my husband several times cheating on me, either he saves his concubines' phone numbers with a male name or he doesn't save but constantly chats with them even while I sleep beside him.

I would like to know if it's a common thing with men to crave for another woman and accept my fate.

Cheating isn't general in men. You married a womanizer.

The fact here is that 90% of ladies who complain about their husbands cheating on them experienced such in their relationships, but turned a blind eye only to start complaining about it in marriage.

If you're going out with a man, pay close attention to his friends, if all they talk about is women, sex, alcohol...etc, no matter how hard your man tries to pretend to love only you, he's not in anyway different from his friends.

Same thing goes for ladies as well. This is why most guys find it difficult to marry a girl who cheated on them, they might accept her back if she's beautiful just for sex, but they won't marry her cos they know that she'll cheat again in marriage.

The couple. (Bride and groom)

It's better to support a Hussler than to encourage a lazy beggar... great piece.

Kachiopie:
I want to settle down but it's hard to see a serious guy out here,it's only married men that always show up when they're not even needed self
Please I need your advice

Married men who openly flirt with single girls are irresponsible, so keep turning them down.

Secondly, publicize yourself. Husband wouldn't come to you if your routine year in year out is to go to work and return home. Attend weddings, go for live concerts, Join a big Pentecostal church and become active there. You can become an usher or choir member...anything to give you publicity engage in it.

Finally, you must mind the kind of lifestyle you live. Be decent. Marriage these days is mostly by recommendation. People are watching you, so don't live carelessly.

I know someone who got married last December from the SE, the girl was recommended to him, she was an usher in her church, and everyone told him she has a good behavior, that was how he married her. Their dating was mostly online cos he was based in Lagos and she the SE. But they're happily married today.

So avoid overpressuring yourself and continue to live a decent life.

Those are myths, it has nothing to do with reality.

Cocks are territorial in nature. This means that the dominant male would fight of and expel other competitors so as to inherit all the females to himself.

If you have reared local chickens this would be very easy for you to understand. Cos all your males would leave your house for the dominant male and start up their own lineage elsewhere.

I care less about whatever crowd Peter Obi pulls in Kano rally. As long as Kwankwaso remains on the ballot till 25th of next month, no candidate would inherit Buhari's bloc votes from the 3 Ks. (Kano, Kaduna and Katsina).

Dear Kwankwaso, for the sake of we obidents, don't step down for anyone.

No matter how big my house is, I and my wife wouldn't have separate bedrooms. The disadvantage of separate bedrooms is that if there's a quarrel, she can easily move to her room, lock the door and sleep off.

Your issues would linger for days or even weeks and be more difficult to resolve since you guys don't share the same bed.

But in a situation where you both share one bedroom, no matter what the problem is, at night when she comes to bed, you, you can always grab her, tease her apologize, resolve your issues and have a great make-up sex.

Looking from the appearance of a man, I believe it's safe to say that he's depressed. Poverty has dealt with him.

He probably has up to 12 kids whom he can't provide for. So he's indirectly advising people to stop giving birth to kids they can't provide for.

That's my opinion...

Sixfeetbelle:
It's good that we're at this impasse.

Cause if your sibling doesn't understand decorum and why she can't just show up whenever she feels like it, then I can't be in a relationship with a man who encourages such lack in their sibling.

So you'll leave your parents house and move in with guy who hasn't paid your bride price and be dragging roof space with his blood sister...

Anyways I've always known that Nairaland's anonymous nature makes it very easy for people to catch cruise here.

That's why I hardly take any comment here serious cos over 90% of opinions from females here on real life issues are always in favour of their gender. One can hardly have a neutral and unbiased communication with any female on this forum on relationship matters...

Klass99:
You made very valid points, however the text in bold cracked me up big time.

Try being a single and hard working woman with a moral compass in Lasgidi, earning a good living through honest means, then you will quickly learn that it is not necessarily about women embracing hard work and good morals. Rather, it is about the randiness, lack of self control and selfish desires of men.

I strongly disagree with this...

There are countless single women I've come across in Lagos who live a decent life without having to succumb to the advances of randy men. I even have one as a flat mate, she goes to work and comes back home everyday without any tale of drama from randy men.

There's a saying that goes thus...a mad man dresses the way he does because of his mindset. If you're getting unnecessary disturbance from irresponsible randy men, then look inwardly, the problem lies within you and not them. They're seeing you as a sex object Maybe because of how you dress, or talk or act.

I've seen girls slap randy men publicly for acting like goats towards them. The reality of the matter is that no man would play the role of a nuisance before you unless you allow him to.

Klass99:
The article/original post didn't lie about the shenanigans of married men in Naija. All the times I have been pursued by married men in Lasgidi I was minding my business and staying in my lane. They love to claim that single ladies are the ones who chase them (which may be true) but that hasn't been my personal experience.

Lol...Even the blind would tell you that hook-up has increased in this our generation. Our actresses openly admits that married men are sweeter.

Girls openly come out to shame broke men even here on Nairaland and boast of how they only date rich and married men. If you're crucifying married men for being randy, isn't it wise to crucify lazy girls for encouraging their randyness by willingly submitting their bodies to them?

Klass99:
As previously stated, most see single women as their private playground where anything goes. I once confided in a co-worker about the alarming frequency at which married men chase me and she suggested I pray it must be spiritual, if I am mostly attracting married men.

I told her to hold it there! There is nothing spiritual about this and nothing wrong with me either, there is just an unfortunate rise in the number of married men who have no qualms with side chics and exploring their polygamous nature while trampling all over the institution of marriage...... like the article said.

How many times have men told us on this forum that they are polygamous in nature? And you say it's easier to gain access to our bodies than your gender's? Don't make me laugh Naz.

My dear, as a woman, men would always come to you. That's the way life was configured. A male chicken would chase his female counterpart, likewise a male goat, dog...etc.

However, the response you give to them determines the kind of girl you are.

Sixfeetbelle:
You'd rather your sister show up at your house at any slightest thing just because she's "family" without regards to your "privacy and intimacy"?

If the tables were turned and it's his girlfriend's sister who's having serious accommodation issues to the extent that she's on the verge of becoming homeless, would the girl in question frown at her boyfriend for providing shelter to her own sister?

Many men accommodate their wife's siblings, feed them, train them, even send some of them abroad. And they don't complain about privacy.

If I'm in a relationship with you and you cannot see my blood sister as your own sister...and her presence in my house irritates you to the extent that you openly confront me to get rid of her, my dear such relationship cannot work.

If you know what's good for you, stay away from that girl. If she can openly condemn you for providing shelter to your blood sister she'll do worse if you marry her. She's just a girlfriend that can be replaced anytime and not a wife, therefore has no right to interfere with your family issues unless she's providing solution.

Klass99:
Excuse you!!!

It is easier to gain sexual access to men, than it is with women. Majority of men have no moral compass or qualms with casual sex.

Most married men see single women as their private playground and it is shocking the lengths they are willing to go to, just to get laid.

Sex is the mumu button of most men, add great and explosive sex to it and you can pretty much use their destinies for rituals if you are a diabolical person.

Men don't sleep with themselves...they do it with women.

These Randy men are slaves to sex, while the girls they're after are slaves to money.

The men believe that once you attain certain level of financial stability legally or illegally, you can bed any girl of your choice. The girls believe that once a man attains certain level of financial stability he's man enough to ask them out. The man works hard to make money, the girl works hard to look more beautiful and sexy.

Both parties meet, the girl takes her money while the man gains access to her body...it's just a transaction with both parties benefiting from each other.

If more ladies embrace hard work and good morals, men would learn self control. Cos if there are no cheap ladies to open their legs for a price, Randy men would have no one to offer cash to.

95% of fatal accidents on our roads are as a result of over speeding. And because most of our highways don't have speed limit and cameras to capture violators. Passengers are at the mercy of these reckless drivers.

Rip to dead.

Klass99:
Nazgul, what did you delete?

Delete?

I was booking space.

abrahambest:
Well, this is no longer news. And to be honest, a lot of morals are no longer relevant as the dynamics of the world keep changing. In a couple of years, we'll see that marriage may no longer be necessary as people so much desire Freedom. Freedom to be whatever they want to be

Very true. With how easy it is to gain access to a woman's body these days. I see marriage becoming irrelevant in the next 20 years.

People would just mate for pleasure and procreation. Love would be a forgotten word and cheating wouldn't be frowned upon any more cos commitment has been abolished, and no one would care what you do with your body.

Prettygirl200:
most times it's the other way round in the sense that Joyce might be the pretty one the reason why guys are running after her but Linda is ughly so she always wished she was the pretty one which usually leads to jeolusy and that one is even stronger than this your own view.

If this is the case, Linda's grievance would be against Joyce not emeka. She would hate Joyce for being pretty and say unmentionable things about her behind her back...Emeka on the other hand can bed both ladies if he step up his game.

The two ladies would fight and hate each other, but not Emeka. Because Emeka is like the price they're fighting for.

vybzkartel:
Is it true that, whenever a lady gets jealous over another lady seeing a particular guy, then the Jealous lady has love interest for the guy?

Eg

Emeka is in same house with Linda
Emeka is dating Joyce
Whenever Joyce visits Emeka, Linda Acts jealous

Is Linda interested in Emeka?

In most cases, Linda isn't interested in Emeka.

Linda is envious of Joyce, because Joyce isn't as good looking as her, yet guys keep tumbling over each other for an opportunity to get her (Joyce) attention.

Mumben:
Good morning N'lders, I have always wondered if there is any form of discount given to teachers' kids who are schooling in the same school they are teaching.

The purpose of this thread is to get insights into what is obtainable in these private schools as a teacher.

If you are a teacher or know someone who is a teacher, please share your experience so others can be better informed when considering the teaching proffession.

During my days as an undergraduate, lecturers who's kids where in the international School (the university primary and secondary school) had some percentage of their fees slashed off.

How did I know this, a lecturer told me.

For teachers who have kids in private or government schools, I doubt if they enjoy such privilege.

Stillwhites:
Two days ago I returned from work earlier than usual just to meet my wife with a young guy romancing and naked on the couch in the sitting room. I threatened to kill the guy but before I returned from the kitchen he had ran away. My wife pleaded and vowed never to repeat same. After family intervention, I decided to let her stay.

I pretended to have travelled to Abuja on Saturday but returned this morning and met her with the same guy in the visitor's room, he escaped thru the window.
I'm fed up with marriage. She must leave this time around.


Seun Mynd44 nlfpmod

I was reading until I came across the bolded...all modern houses in today's Nigeria are built with protectors (burglary proof) on the windows.

How was he able to escape through the window?

I enjoyed your tale though, I had a good laugh.

Unizik my alma mater.

All these baggas and stealing. I'm sure they're the ones tormenting innocent students, once you join them, your next mission is to go and rob struggling students....it will never be well with them.

What of the anti cult squad, why can't they send squads of them to patrol the whole ifite during the wee hours of the night?

Any girl who wants to school in unizik right now, I'll just advice you to stay in the school hostel. Anambra state as a whole isn't safe. Awka is almost becoming a den of cultists, the government doesn't care. Only God would keep those students safe.

You guys have been warned countless times to stop making transactions with online strangers. But you wouldn't listen. Once someone advertises any merchandise, boom! You've sent money.

If you want to have any dealings with anyone, make sure you meet physically, know his office or where you can always find him.

For your money, since you have valid proof, contact your banks fraud desk and towards all evidence to them. Hopefully they'll track the money, block his account and have him arrested.

phoebelove:
If a man says I want to get to know you better. Does it mean he's already in a relationship with you or you're plainly friends?
One of my friend is already jubilating...make he no be like say na false hope.

It means he wants to know you better na. Or how else does your friend expect him to put it?

As long as she's not living in that house, she wouldn't spend a dime to fix anything that damages there cos according to her, everything was perfect when she finished the building, so if tenants damage anything, tenants (not her) should fix it. I've encountered such landlords before.

If you want your water problems to end, I'll suggest you just close eye and fix it with your co-tenants, when you're done, send her the total cost. If she has conscience, she might reimburse you guys a token, if she doesn't, you can console yourselves with the fact that you now have running water.

All these LAWMA workers that usually sweep major roads in the morning. Most of them would be begging you for money whenever they see you.

Most weekends when I'm jogging I use to tip them because they're mostly elderly women whom I believe have families to care for.

But I'm going to stop it. Cos they're obviously not tired of suffering, the same APC government that brought hardship to the economy and made the salaries they receive useless because of insane inflation is the same government they're campaigning for.

Honestly, sometimes I just don't understand how the average Nigerian thinks.

Parenting in this our generation is pathetic. Most parents have absolutely zero knowledge on what it takes to properly guide and counsel a child.

As long as they're paying their fees and feeding them, they believe they're doing their jobs as parents. Unfortunately, they're so wrong.

Hopefully nothing. My prayer is to achieve all my goals before I get to that age.

Your copied write-up is incomplete. You said marriage needs knowledge

Knowledge about what?