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Chee59:
To an extent, she's right.
As a decent and morally upright person, you will suffer so much before you make it, if you do.
If you're just starting out without any connections, especially as a lady, you will be expected to give sex for the slightest, tiniest favours.
You will struggle harder than your female friends and wonder why you have almost nothing to show for it, because responsibility and bills will almost choke the oxygen out of you.
You will wonder why your colleague working and earning same amount of salary as you is changing wigs, expensive ones like tissue paper, meanwhile you cant even buy 20k weavon blend.
And you will be tempted. Because you know you have what they have, but yet uprightness is not paying.
Let's not lie to ourselves that "one day" because except you can get out of this country, as a decent lady without any rich family members, sugar daddy or connections, you may keep scraping your mouth on the ground for a long time.

There are good girls all over the country who are contented with the little they have. Many are married supporting their husbands in the little way they can.

If you choose to play the whóre it's your choice, don't blame it on anyone. Today we have female MDs of banks, female VC of universities, Female Senators and reps members...etc. if you're hardworking there's always a reward for you.

But you must learn contentment. If you can't afford an iPhone, there are cheaper Android phones that would serve you well, if you can't afford expensive clothes, go to yaba railway, girls go there to pick cheap clothes and shoes and still look good in them.

There's no excuse for whatever path you choose to follow in life.

This is so wrong. He should have taken his anger on the guy in question and warned him to stay away from his daughter cos she's still a minor rather than beating her to death.

I'm sure he'll be regretting his actions whilst cooling off his heels in jail.

The problem is people would still borrow money from them, then come online to cry victim. If everyone stopped patronizing them, they'll shut down. It's that simple.

Deeper life members see members of other Pentecostal churches as sinners. So if you're serious and really want something with her you'd have to follow her to her church (deeper life), if she's a church worker, join the group she's in, and with time, you guys would have more time for each other.

Kokorokomaster1:
They is this girl that I'm in love with, but I don't know if she love me or not, because she always like to come to me and speed some Time with me in my store talking with me, but when I send love message to her, she will read and not reply, when I told her to hugged me she will refuse saying that she doesn't hugged that she is not my girlfriend,but she just hugged one of her friend that is a boy that just come back from travel in my present and was teasing me, I don't know what to do, should I stop her for coming to my store, because I'm falling in love with her, and people in my complex is thinking that I'm the one that is dating her, or should I continue the friendship because I'm no longer comfortable with her way

You don't beg for hug from a girl, you just flow with the tide and hug her.

Girls respect guys with confidence, charism, manly pride...etc. Unfortunately you lack these qualities that's why she would easily prefer a more confident guy to you.

Work on your self-confidence or else no girl would take you serious.

The grass is always greener on the other side, until you cross over there, then you'd discover that yours is far greener and better. Well the ball is in Alex's court, it's up to him to decide whether or not to accept her back.

Mkelv0106:
In as much as 1k is not a huge amount of money to you, it is to some people. The person collected the money by deceit, if he had said dash me, it would have been a different thing, but he said he'll pay back and collected the lady's details. Money the OP worked you're just telling her to let it go, we don't even know d nature of her job. If this man goes to 10 ATM with this story, do you know how much he'll cash out in a month. If it's me, even if it's 5h, and he told me I shud borrow him and not dash him, I go still call am.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not justifying what he did...it's wrong.

All I'm saying is that since she choose to help him against her better judgement, she should have just let the the money go. It's just 1k.

The streets of Lagos is littered with beggars you and I know that. I ignore them whenever they come across me with fabricated tales aimed at appealing to my emotions so I can part with some money.

But the reality of the matter is if by chance I buy into any of their tales and play the good Samaritan by giving out a token like 1k, I won't bother calling even if the person in question promises to reimburse me, cos I know he wouldn't and the money isn't worth me ringing his line non-stop.

If you choose to give money to a stranger, you must believe that the money is gone. Cos less than 5% would keep to their promise by repaying you back. The rest would ghost you.

If you can afford a private school, I'll recommend you enroll her there. Government schools are the ones that come up with all these unnecessary rules.

Private schools on the other hand are after their fees, they don't really care how you dress, as long as their money is complete their doors would always be opened to you.

The way this convoy drivers drive eh! See the pain they've brought to that family. They just made those poor kids orphans.

teresafaith:
I've always been on about how I'll never fall for a scam cos I know I'm not greedy, now I know better.

It happened on monday at Polaris bank branch in ikorodu secretariat opp general hospital.

I was on queue to use the ATM machine, when it got to my turn I heard a guy talking on the phone about how the second ATM machine debited him without paying, he went on about how he needed the money for fuel, foodstuffs etc and now he's stranded and he didn't know what to do again.

He approached me saying he wants help of 1000 naira just to fuel his car and he promise to send the money back that right now he's without anything, he's not a begger bla bla bla

My instinct told it's a scam but I only listened cos I felt pity for him and moreover people had also helped me when I needed it, a 1000 naira shouldn't be a reason why I can't help him and he also promised to refund me.

Secondly, I hadn't withdraw any money for him to know the amount to ask me, so i gave him, collected his contact details and told him not to wait for me to call him first before doing the right thing, he thanked me and drove off.

Today is Thursday, I knew I have been scammed but decided to call him first just to be sure, I called and called he wasn't picking, sent him text he didn't respond.

Well my people that's my story!

Since it was just 1k you gave to him, you should have just let it go. Calling him to send you back the 1k you gave to him wasn't right. If you gave him like 10k I would have understood, but 1k, haba, that's like a Sunday offering you're giving to the needy.

He was obviously starving and needed to come up with any kind of story to get money to feed.

Poor and jobless people are a threat to the society.

Imagine how this man spent his whole life producing children he obviously cannot cater for...I doubt if even know all their names.

These kids would grow up lacking so many basic needs of life and end up becoming a threat to the society.

Crystalom5:
you dey whine me abi?

There's no connection between trying your luck and generosity.

You either are doing it for the püssy or you are not.

What he did there is to get the girl to call him to thank him. He will then ask for a meet up during the call or when he calls her again.

She'll feel reluctant to reject the meet up because it'll be as though she's not grateful or something for the gift.

That same feeling will make her oblige his request to lodge her in a hotel room or take her to his place.

Naturally, she will want to see his crib and maybe get some more dolls.

Bros, even us wey dey trenches dey use gratitude chop girls talk more of $100. Abi wetin u think say the indomie and fried egg be for?

Hard for any guy to feed a random hoe

Read this post... we're saying the same thing.

Nazgul:
The guy was just sizing her up, he knows there's hunger in Nigeria, however she acts when next she sees him would determine his next move.

That's why I said if 70k can get her confused, it means that she doesn't know what she wants for herself. That guy would just hang out with her, have sex, spend more $bills and ball out.

He might be looking for a wife material, and if he can get her full attention with just $100, believe me, he won't marry her. He'll just hang her and move on, cos to him, she's too cheap to be wifed.

toolate2fail:
Sorry pls I need help my gotv stop working since yesterday after my subscription expired and i renew it,i even did reset to 4688 and still up till now is not working i dont know if is only me that is experiencing this problem.

Take it to their office it could be from your decoder. Mine is working perfectly.

Crystalom5:
so na generosity make am give de girl him number?

If you drop off a girl out of the kindness of your heart, would it be bad to ask for her number?

The young man is trying his luck, if it works out fine if he doesn't he'll move on. My point is he can afford that money that's why he gave it away.

Crystalom5:
you get ba?

I don't understand how you guys on this section reason.

So you've never in your life withdrawn like 50-100k to go out and have a great time before? Now in the process of enjoying yourself, you can easily give out 5k, because you can afford it.

The guy in question gave out that money cos there's more where that came from...he can afford it. The girl's reaction to the money is what would determine his next move.

Crystalom5:
nobody dey look for wife material like that boss.

Na just good time the nigga dey look for. Na us wey no get money dey toast girl o.

So, if I fit give 70k without feeling it, na this same format I go dey use I swear.

This is stressless way to chop clean girls

When you budget $5k to spend in Nigeria from wherever you're based you can give out a few hundreds to enjoy yourself.

Crystalom5:
boss no be every body dey d same place o.

Like me now 5k fit confuse me right now o

She fit just collect the money and chop it. She won't be the first. After all she no beg.

Or she fit go show the nigga 'gratitude' for him bedroom or go for more if she's the greedy type.

The guy was just sizing her up, he knows there's hunger in Nigeria, however she acts when next she sees him would determine his next move.

That's why I said if 70k can get her confused, it means that she doesn't know what she wants for herself. That guy would just hang out with her, have sex, spend more $bills and ball out.

He might be looking for a wife material, and if he can get her full attention with just $100, believe me, he won't marry her. He'll just hang her and move on, cos to him, she's too cheap to be wifed.

FeliciaOja:
I was at a traditional wedding ceremony with my new boyfriend at obowo imo state
My bf was part of the event organisers
he was busy almost all of the time.
A good looking guy sat in the same cannopy I was sitting.
Then next thing I know he changes seat and comes to my table.
We just had a few chit chat and his friend comes in and tells him they need to go pick up something.
He left but later comes back and hand me a note with his phone number and a $100 dollar note
I'm really confused if I should call him or not
should I tell my boyfriend or lock up

If $100 bill can get you confused as a grown up girl, it means you never loved your guy in the first place, and don't even know what you want for yourself.

Never go out on a date with a guy who comes with a trailer load of friends, they obviously have bad intentions for you.

Never accept any drink you didn't open yourself, it could be laced with sleeping pills.

If you're not comfortable during a date, follow your instincts and flee.

Kobojunkie:
Love, in marriage, is defined by the agreement between the man and woman. If the husband was well aware of this her "my money is mine and his money is ours" side of her, and still went ahead with it, it means he accepts it as part of her love for him. Who then are you to declare it ain't love?

Go back and read the article this time slowly, then come back and read what you wrote here and ask yourself if you're making any sense.

I had a roommate during my university days. Of course my money was my money and his money was his money. But whenever I'm financially down, he comes in and supports me and I'll reciprocate when he's financially down.

Did we have rules in the house...yes

Did the rule include us sharing our money equally amongst each other...no

But we knew when to come in and help one another...that's what friendship is all about.

We weren't couples, we were just roommates. Now look at the woman in question, she has kids for this man, and she's on the verge of loosing her house but she remains adamant because in her weired mind spending her money on a family she's part of is wrong.

And you're here blabbing about agreement. What nonsense agreement. When you genuinely care about someone, his/her happiness would be your uttermost pirority. She doesn't love her husband... period.

I'm going to be very honest with you...

Chats and calls is totally different from reality. You don't know anything about this girl, you've never met her before, you don't know if she's the kind of woman you can cope with, you don't know what gets her angry or how she handles anger, you don't know if she has a partner(s) over there (I hope you know that Nigerian girls brought up in USA are different from Nigerian girls brought up in Nigeria).

Some people are telling you to use her as your tunnel to the US, I'd say kill that though. Even if things work out and she brings you over there, she can still kick you out into the streets if things go south, and believe me, you'll be worse than how you were in Nigeria cos from your narrative, her family doesn't support your union.

My advice is for you to keep the communication lines open. If she eventually comes to Nigeria, meet with her one on one and know if she's the kind of girl you want to be with. If she is, fire on, if she isn't end things, cos if you try to play a fast one on your fellow naija babe to get US permit, it would backfire cos her family would ensure they deal with you legally. (You know that we Nigerians can be wicked towards one another)

Rip to him. It's so painful loosing a loved one.

They should come and elect me I'm young... question is what would I do if I'm elected.

I'll build airports in all the 36 States.

Increase my presidential fleet to 36 planes. One for each state.

Build a gigantic cathedral worth over $150b at also rock.

Every Friday would be nation wide night vigil, goan pray to God, Muslims would pray to Allah.

I would marry a wife from each of the 36 States to prove that I'm for everybody and de-tribalized. Young virgins would be carefully selected from the 36 states for me to choose from.

I'll celebrate carnivals every last Saturday of the month, there would be eating and drinking. Musicians and comedians would grace the occasion.

I'll build churches in every street in the South, and increase tithes to 20%. How can you be paying 10% since Bible time, haba, on behalf of God, I'll increase it to 20%. 10% for the church, 10% for me.

I'll increase weekend to 3 days, we cannot come and kill ourselves, Monday to Thursday is work, Friday to Sunday is rest and religious activities.

This and many more would I do once I'm elected to the office of the president of Nigeria.

I still don't understand why the groom is crying. Whatever happened to calming her down.

It's a mind game, targeted to blackmail you emotionally.

Very soon you'll find yourself absorbing the financial responsibilities of she and her kids.

Tell her that she has no iota of love for her husband...she just married him because she felt it was time to get married and age wasn't on her side.

If she cannot render support to a man she calls her husband, she has no business being with him, she just just get a divorce and leave that innocent hardworking man alone.

johnwegs:
Please help guys I wan relocate to Lagos and start a life there am a university graduate staying here in owerri am just whiling away my time please I need an accommodation in Lagos at an affordable apartment me no get much please help me guys even if na trenches I go Dey learn skills and find my way na hotel work full owerri help me guys I don’t want to remain the same!

Why not remain in owerri and keep applying for jobs (most especially IT jobs) in lagos. The good thing about IT jobs is that from your application, to your test, to your interview would all be done online. You would only relocate to Lagos once your employment has been confirmed.

Coming to Lagos without any job, no money, no accommodation...etc, is suicidal, don't allow all those Nollywood movies of the 90s and 2000s decieve you, where one village boy would go to Lagos and 6 months later he has a house and jeep.

Buhari's government changed all that, every part of the country (Lagos inclusive) is feeling the heat of this failed administration.

Princewell2012:
That's your believe here. And it is very bad. In India women that the first to asked your hands in marriage. And we are not better than them.

We're in Nigeria not India. Our cultures are different. Besides have you ever been to india, if no, you have no right to use them as case study cos everything you know about them is hearsay and not personal experience.

supereagle:
I don't agree with your assumption.
A woman may show interest in you, but if you aren't getting the green light, she will come out openly.
2. Again, age may not be on her side as well.
3. In 75% of relationship, women always initiate it.

No woman would walk straight up go you and ask you to marry her and even offer to pay half the marriage cost. It's strange. No matter how much she loves you, the highest she'll do is to give you green light and not a marriage proposal.

Streetmovement:
Wotoporiously speaking

I'm waiting for the one's that always say they're in a serious relationship that will soon lead to marriage

I'm surprised sef, so no guy on Nairaland is in any serious relationship. All those guys that usually bore us with threads of how they sponsored their girlfriends from primary school to University, where are they?

Truthsoldier:
My babe is different
Sweet,hot,courteous and oh my gosh

Share her reply with the house.

Emmy909:
Op u should start !!

I'm single and not in any relationship.