₦airaland Forum

Get a good job or business that takes your time, and believe me, you won't have time to stalk anyone cos you'd be busy with more productive tasks.

dollytino4real:
Pls fam especially those of us into liquid soap making, my friend almost wanted to give me long throat dat i am wasting my 10 litres of liquid soap, my 10 litres i get profit of 1200 because i don't like it to be watering so dat constumers can buy it fast and like my soap. Now she tod me her ten litres gives her 4k to 5k profit she said her ten litres gives her above 40 litres i screamed o! Her soap is mini mini means water water, i want to know if am really wasting my chemical? Happy new year

I have very little knowledge about liquid soap business.

But what I can tell you is that, if diluting your mixture can actually increase your profit base and maintain your customers, by all means do it.

This one they're saying they would put on masks are the locals safe?

I understand the Boston city council's fears, a gathering of that magnitude on masks in the night can lead to something else.

Nigeria is really vast...this is the first time in my life I'm hearing Kuteb. If not for insecurity plaguing this country, Nigeria as a country would make a very good tourist site.

Imagine going to taraba or some other remote tribe in one of the northern States, take pics, eat their local dish and come back to your base.

But the fear of kidnappers, bandits, Boko Haram...etc, wouldn't make you think about it.

Ulcer is curable, it's an injury in the stomach which can heal if properly treated. Visit a good clinic and she will be fine.

mamagee3:
[color=deeppink]Ignoring them does not mean you turn a blind eye to things that is going by on around you.

You can ignore them but still observe what they are doing…[/color]

Let me use myself as an example.

Unless you come physically to me and insult me or attack me, any indirect or carefully concealed insult or shading done against me would hardly be noticed. And if noticed, ignored cos I care less.

Why should I spend my life observing what people are doing so as to know who is shading me?

My dear, engage yourself with meaningful hobbies or take up a language course and make new friends, and you'll hardly have time to even notice who is saying what and who isn't saying or doing anything.

mamagee3:
[color=deeppink]How can you overlook a judgmental person who wakes up one morning and suddenly does the same thing they hate you for?

It’s easier said than done [/color]

You simply ignore them.

The more attention you give to people, the more their actions hurt you, the less attention you give them, the more you wouldn't even notice whatever it is they're doing.

Live your life for yourself, and stop bothering yourself over what people say about you.

You seem to basically live on attention.

Just live your life and stop stalking people to find out who is taking about you or who is copying your lifestyle.

Most people just live their lives without giving any fvck about whatever you or anyone thinks. You should learn to do the same and stop giving yourself HPB over who is viewing your pics and who isn't liking it.

Engage yourself with productive hobbies during your liesure and live the best out of your life.

Marriage is a wonderful thing. The reason why people see it as nonsense is because sexual immorality is as easy as drinking water.

So to your question... reasons why I feel or want to get married are.

1. Companionship. There are times when you would want to talk to someone, just sit, talk and pour out what's bothering you to a listening ear. With the right spouse, you'll always enjoy geninue companionship, enjoy gossips together. Baby Mamas or olosho cannot give you this cos what you have with them is purely transactional.

2. It lowers your risks of contacting STDs. An older cousin of mind told me that for the past 12 years he's been married he has never been treated for any STD. If you're married to a faithful partner, and you're faithful to your partner as well, you would never suffer from STDs.

With Baby Mamas or oloshos your heart would always race wherever you develop any strange feeling or symptom after having sex with them. I've read countless topics here on Nairaland where the guy in question would tell us how the condom bursted and he wasn't aware and how he started seeing some rashes on his manhood. Such a person would never have peace of mind until after a medical test. A marriage to a good spouse eliminates all that.

3. You can plan together . I'll use my parents as an example. When my dad was building his house in the village, my mom contributed a great deal to it. Even the first car he bought which was a Jetta volkswagen, as I grew older I learnt that it was actually my mom who bought the car for him, because he had so much on his hands and didn't want to miss the car, and the funny thing was that my mom never mentioned it not even once, it was my dad who told me.

With the right spouse, you can achieve a lot together, you can build, set up businesses, invest together and support each other. Olosho or baby Mamas cannot give you this cos whatever business you setup for them is theirs and theirs alone. And wouldn't support you with a penny when things go south for you.

4. Raising your kids together . Raising kids alone is very tasking. I have a 4 year old nephew (he'll be 5 this year) who I try to use to see what parenting looks like. There was a time his mom (my cousin) came with him to spend the weekend in my place (Friday to Sunday), that was when I understood that it takes more than depositing your semen into a hole to raise kids.

From waking him up, to bathing the child, to actually spending ample time together with him talking and bonding...this isn't something a baby mama can do. It takes being married to the right person for you to achieve this.

5. Eating good food . This night I just came back from buying beans (elewa) and bread. Most times I feel very lazy to go into the kitchen, there are times I can stay up to 6 months without visiting my kitchen.

As a married man, your wife would spoil you with good food, not the junks you've been struggling with during your bachelor days. The first time I ate Nkwobi in my life, was in my uncle's house, and it was prepared by his wife. Imagine having a wife who can prepare all that, believe me, by 6pm you're home cos you'd be perceiving her food right from your office.

This is massive...my PVC is ready to vote out this disgrace of a party called APC.

LewisHamilton15:
Late last year the company I worked with decided to reduce workers as a result of the high inflation. I happened to be one of the victims of the mass reduction. I decided to use my little savings to buy a tricycle so I can be using it to do town service but my fiancee outrightly rejected such idea stressing that my societal standing is above that. After intense argument I went ahead and bought the tricycle. Since that day she has not picked my calls, call me or come to visit me. I have moved on.


Seun Mynd44 nlfpmod

That was very myopic of her.

That Keke can comfortably fetch you 5k-8k profit per day, depending on the route you ply and how hardworking you are.

Anyways, I would advice you to focus on your Hussle and forget about her and other women for now...

Why couldn't he just ask the woman to see him after the service, then tell him whatever it is he wants to say to her.

This is why I don't feel comfortable attending l these new generation Pentecostal churches cos most of the pastors there lack basic ministerial training.

sqlPAIN:
Mine is three week's straight..
I find it extremely difficult to bath when I'm not going out.
And the most surprising thing is that I don't have or develop body odour...

Share yours. Please don't come and lie here..

Do you know what 3weeks is?

What you need is discipline and self control. Whenever you're around people, do more of listening than talking, this way you won't say more than what you're supposed to say.

Karleb:
Honestly, sometimes you have to be selfish with your life.

You are the mostly important person in your life.

Exactly...this is what I've been trying to say.

Tallesty1:
This is not nice

Anyone outside that cycle who hasn't contributed in anyway to your life is irrelevant and shouldn't have a say in your private life.

Tallesty1:
Everyone's extended family members?

Read the bolded above.

If you have no visible contribution in my life, whether financially, spiritually, academically emotionally... etc, you definitely shouldn't have a say in my life. It's that simple.

I believe you have uncles, aunties and relatives whom you haven't made contact with in over 10 years. Now imagine them suddenly appearing out of the blue to tell you who and who not to marry. And even go as far as rejecting a particular choice you've made and try to influence your parents into siding with them, simply because you're related to them by blood.

How would you feel?

Truvelisback:
Even guys who are living alone in their own houses aren't exempted from the pressure.

Who wants to pressure you in your own house to get married.

As long as you're fulfilling your financial obligation to your parents as a good son and have a good discussion with them to give you time to choose someone so you won't fall into error, who else has the right to pressure you?

Let me use myself as an example. I go to work very early in the morning, return home in the evening, take a shower, eat and hop to bed. On weekends I'm mostly indoors resting, Sunday I go to church, by Monday I repeat the same routine.

Is it not when people are seeing you that they'll pressure you?

Truvelisback:
Have u not red abt several stories here where the mum decides to drive away her son from her own house so that he can be on his own and have a family of his own?

That's for those who still stay with their parents. I don't live with my parents.

Tallesty1:

You are not being honest here.

The pressure is equal on both genders, we just know how to handle it.
Once you are above 30 and employed, the next thing that people expect from you is to marry and they are more vocal about it than when it is a lady.

From your parents, to your relations, to your friends' wives etc. They will start arranging women for you to pick from or start to subtly place girls in your path. A guy who is unmarried is seen as irresponsible no matter what he has achieved in life. At a point people who don't know you will start asking you how is your wife or family because at that age, there is no reason to not have a family .


It will get to a stage that everyone will conclude that you are either impotent or gay or a ritualist or all of them.

The pressure is too much on men too but knowing that we can marry whenever we chose to makes it seem less.

This is for those who keep unnecessary ties with irrelevant extended family members and elderly family friends.

I'm not married and I'm working and catering for myself. Aside from my pastor and most especially his wife. I don't receive that much pressure not even from my parents.

The only person who can embarrass me in public about marriage is my pastor's wife, I've made up my mind to tell her that I'm interested in marrying her daughter who just gained admission into covenant university the next time she tries to burden me with her marriage palava.

Shebi she's concerned about my single status, she should give me her daughter so I can say bye bye to bachelorhood.

If Osimhen loves his career he should remain in that Napoli or move to Spain. A move to any of those English clubs mentioned would mark the end of his glorious career.

Truvelisback:
Good day, fellas. Ladies aren't the only ones that are pressured by their parents, love ones or family members to get married. Guys too face the same pressure.

Aside from maybe your pastor, guys don't really receive that much pressure like girls.

Your friends would even want you to remain single so that you guys can continue to hangout together till midnight.

During Tinubu's era as governor and Fashola's first term, a handful of Igbos won state house of assembly elections in areas like okota, festac, amuwo odofin... etc. There were Igbos in Lagos State House of assembly.

Everything ended when people started playing the ethnic card, and were like omo Igbo cannot come here and be leading us, so top parties like APC and PDP stopped giving them tickets to contest since it became obvious that they won't win.

Nigeria is a great country, if we can bury our ethnic and religious differences and decide to work together as Nigerians, believe me, we'll be a force to be reckoned with in the world.

Educonomist:
I saw this on a WhatsApp status and feel guilty sometimes.

The problem here is that most times the girls guys attribute this foolish accessment to have nothing aside hook-up with high profile clients to show for their so called big girl status.

If you have a job or business as a guy, and you're feeding yourself and still have spare to support your parents, you're worse than an idiot if you say this about any girl, regardless of her status. Cos she isn't feeding you or shouldering any of your numerous responsibilities.

There's nothing wrong in attributing praises to people's obvious success. But to bring yourself down or accept that you're a failure or cannot be equaled to that person is a mental disorder that needs urgent treatment.

olasaad:
That has been the communication pattern of Nigeria guys. Okay we love gist why don't you start with

Boy; Hello
Girl: hi
Boy: How is your day going/ how was your day
Gir: fine/we thank God

So next as a guy instead of asking her whether she had eat or not after all you are not bringing food to her house why don't you gist her about your day like what happened in your office or your experience with a customer or client and see her responded.

This is 2023, you guys should also step up on your communication skills.

You obviously didn't read what I wrote...go back and read it.

Most times the guy gets lost and doesn't know what to say because of the dead end replies the girl gives. The conversation becomes more like an interview.

Let me give you an example of how a normal conversation should be.

Boy: Hello xyz how was your day

Girl: Great and yours

Boy: Good...tell me about yours

Girl: A colleague bought me lunch

Boy: Fine girl, soon your MD would take you out on a date.

Girl: Lol jealousy.

Boy: Had a hectic day, but I'm home, if you haven't finished the lunch he bought for you send me some.

Girl: begi begi

Boy: At least I'm not asking for urgent 2k na food I wan chop.

Girl: I don chop am finish.

Boy: I trust you na, food no de last for your side.


Now if you look at that this conversation, it's flowing because the girl is engaging him as well. She didn't cross her hands and allow him do all the talking.

A conversation shouldn't be an interview, if you're not willing to participate in it, there's no point replying in the first place.

People differ, so our mode of communication cannot be the same or what you're expecting him to say, this means that if the kind of communication you're getting isn't what you want, you have every right to change the topic to a different one, rather than giving dead end replies.

olasaad:
Some guys too can ask foolish questions they will be repeating questions multiple times.

Guys should do away with questions like;
Have you eat yes
What do you eat Rice
With what Like seriously this is so boring if you don't know

The reason why guys ask this questions is because the girl on the other end is giving him dead end answers.

A typical example is thus...

Boy: Hello, xyz how was your day

Girl: Fine

Boy: Tell me about it

Girl: Nothing to talk about

Boy: Why did anyone offend you.

Girl: No

Boy: So have you eaten

Girl: Yes

Boy: What did you eat

Girl:

The girl reads and doesn't reply.

Most Nigerian girls have poor communication skills, communication means engaging each other in communication, not allowing the guy do all the talking and you the dead end answers.

This is why most chats get boring.

I used to be in this situation before, until I just made my to stop chatting with girls who give me dead end replies.

Flier:
Some ladies are found of ignoring the last text a guy sent on WhatsApp in order not to allow him to ask the next question or to stop the conversation,please stop it.I treat lot of that silly behaviour last year and i will continue this year
Don’t think it will be business as usual if you reply after 3-4 days.
Guy if it happens to you,just delete the chat to ease the pain and make sure you ignore her once she decide to reply.

If she does that, it means she's clearly not into you. I find it amusing when I see guys complaining about being snubbed by girls when attempting to initiate a conversation with them.

The simple explanation is that she's not into you...so like you stated, delete the chat along with her number.

VawulenceProMax:
To be rich in naija is a curse . Imagine , everyone wants me to give him or her something. All my friends want Christmas and new year gifts even when I clearly tell them I am not a Christian and I don't celebrate new year. I have been giving out money to a point nauseating point. Even people I don't know beg me for cash. Now I know why otedola And co choose to live in banana island.
Poor people are cancer

When God start picking your call in Nigeria, there are few changes you must make if you want to continue enjoying your peace of mind.

1. Change your location: If you're living in a one room face-me-I-slap-you apartment at okokomiko and get a government or foreign contract worth millions, or a mouth watering job, the first thing you must do is to move out from that place. If you don't, people around you would hate you for your success most especially if you buy a car and start living big and constantly refuse giving them money (or show love as the street would put it)

2. Change your cycle of friends: If you're a Christian and read the Bible, you'll notice that from Genesis (the story of Cain and Abel) till Jesus time (Judas). Betrayal and killings were done by those closest to the victim not strangers. Sadly this reality still plays out till date. There have been countless stories of people ganging up to kill their friend, who go a visa, won a bet/lottery, got a great job... etc.

If your friends aren't moving in the same pace with you, it would be wise to keep them at arm's length, cos you would never know their thoughts towards you.

3. Live a low key life I read somewhere on Nairaland where someone said if he updates his status to Got paid dozens of strangers would slide into his dm to beg for money, even though he was just catching cruise.

My point is, the more you flaunt your success on social media, the more beggars you'd attract to yourself. The more you keep to yourself, the lesser beggars you'd attract.

hotwax:
isokay... true

I forgot to add that the Japa rate of guys is 100 times higher than that of girls. The sad reality here is that half of these guys would end of with foreign wives in their various bases thereby dashing the hopes of expectant single ladies back home.

Your theory of one girl chatting with dozens of guys...even though it's true, the reality here is that half if those guys she's chatting with are married, the other half are in serious relationships, the ones who are single and want something serious with her are the ones she gives the least attention to.

The number of women to men is balanced during birth. But death rate of men is higher than women making women more than men.

This is why you'll discover that even though polygamy is practiced is some parts of Nigeria, we still have single girls looking for husbands.

CaptainAyub:
Car dey important oo,even if na Nigerian used golf 2
What if una born,pikin come sick for midnight?

You book Uber na...Uber operates 24 hours.

Every body cannot own a car, but you can always improvise until you get one.

nahzyla:
Please how can I solve issue of dampness in the walls of a bedroom in my house? We are developing sniffing and sneezing allergies because of the damp walls in the house, we cannot move out for now. Please help with suggestions to solve it,

Thank you in advance.

Possible causes...

1. That wall is what demarcates your bedroom and bathroom.

2. The land where the house was built is a waterlogged area hence the dampened walls.


Possible solutions...
Call you landlord and tell him about the issue, then inform him that you would like to get a brick layer to put like 6 layer of tiles to mask the dampened walls.

If he agrees...go ahead, he'll deduct the cost from your rent the following year.

Case solved.