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GRASSE, France — When Sophie Serrano finally held her daughter, Manon, in her arms after the newborn, suffering from jaundice, had been placed under artificial light, she was taken aback by the baby’s full head of glossy hair.

“I hadn’t noticed it before, and it surprised me,” Ms. Serrano said in an interview at her home here in southern France, not far from the Côte d’Azur.

Ms. Serrano, now 39, was baffled again a year later, when she noticed that her baby’s hair had grown frizzy and that her skin color was darker than hers or her partner’s.

But her love for the child trumped any doubts. Even as her relationship unraveled — in part, she said, over her partner’s suspicions — she painstakingly looked after the baby until a paternity test more than 10 years later showed that neither she nor her partner was Manon’s biological parent. Ms. Serrano later found out that a nurse had accidentally switched babies and given them to the wrong mothers.

The story made headlines in France for the first time this month, when a southern court ordered the clinic in Cannes where the babies were switched, as well as the clinic’s insurer, to pay a total of 1.88 million euros, or $2.13 million, to be split by the families. The money, Ms. Serrano said, would repair “an invaluable damage” and put an end to a 12-year ordeal.

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Photographs from the years in Manon’s life before the swap was revealed. Credit Rebecca Marshall for The New York Times
Tales of swapped newborns tend to crop up in popular culture, most recently in the ABC Family television series “Switched at Birth,” in which two teenage girls learn that they were mistakenly swapped in a hospital and their families try to live together for the girls’ well-being.

But the story of Manon and her accidental mother takes turns more complicated than most fiction could anticipate, challenging cherished assumptions about maternal attachment.

Ms. Serrano’s love for Manon, she said, grew stronger after she learned that the girl was not her biological daughter. She also said that, after meeting the girl she had given birth to, she felt no particular connection with her.

“It is not the blood that makes a family,” Ms. Serrano said. “What makes a family is what we build together, what we tell each other. And I have created a wonderful bond with my nonbiological daughter.”

The court decision ended Ms. Serrano’s long struggle to obtain damages for the nurse’s negligence. It also helped her, she said, silence neighbors and others who accused her of lacking maternal instinct and criticized her inability to identify with her own child.

“After four days, how can you not recognize your baby?” Sophie Chas, the lawyer for the clinic, told the newspaper Le Figaro. “We can believe in it when it’s a second, a day, two days. But 10 years? The mothers may have been involved in creating the damage.”

Ms. Serrano answers such disbelief by pointing out that she was 18 at the time and that Manon, now 20, was her first child. “I could never have imagined such a scenario,” she said.

When Ms. Serrano gave birth, the baby developed neonatal jaundice and was almost immediately placed in an incubator. Because of a shortage of cradles, a nurse put the naked baby in the same cradle as another naked baby.

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Daniel Verstraete, the lawyer for the other family, which refused to speak publicly about the case, said that only one of the two babies was wearing an identification tag, which “may have fallen off.”

When Manon was handed over to Ms. Serrano after the treatment, mother and child had spent very little time together. Ms. Serrano noticed that the baby’s hair was thicker, but she said she was persuaded to put it out of her mind.

“The nurse said that the lights from the phototherapy treatment made the baby’s hair grow,” Ms. Serrano said. “I trusted medical people. I was young; I wouldn’t question their competence.”

The other mother, also 18 at the time, asked another nurse why her baby lacked hair. She was told that phototherapy could also shorten hair.

“My client didn’t ask herself questions,” Mr. Verstraete said. “A baby swap was unthinkable. She didn’t react because medical authority told her that she shouldn’t worry.”

Ms. Serrano, who lived with her partner in a tiny village near Grasse, raised her child while facing growing suspicion from neighbors that Manon, so physically dissimilar to her parents, might have been the “postman’s daughter.”

The relationship eventually collapsed, in part, Ms. Serrano said, because her partner was also suspicious and refused to care for Manon. When they separated, her partner demanded a paternity test, saying he did not want to pay support for a child he did not consider his own.

“I believed that a paternity test would be a relief for both of us,” Ms. Serrano said.

On the contrary, the test revealed that Manon, 10 at the time, was not his child, and that she was not Ms. Serrano’s, either.

“It had the effect of a tsunami,” Ms. Serrano said. “I felt tremendous anxiety, the worst anxiety that one can ever feel.”

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“All of a sudden,” she added, “you learn that you don’t know where the child you have brought into the world is. I wondered how I could find my child. And I suddenly recalled the baby hair episode.”

In order to find the family that had received her biological daughter, Ms. Serrano filed a civil complaint against the clinic in 2010. Police investigators discovered that Manon’s biological parents were a Creole couple from the island of La Réunion, a French territory in the Indian Ocean, who, as it turned out, now lived just a few miles from Ms. Serrano.

“When I first met them, I noticed how much I looked like them,” said Manon, a wide-eyed young woman who studies management at a nearby technical school. “But I was sitting in front of complete strangers, and I didn’t know how to position myself.”

Her biological parents are modest workers who raised their own daughter, Ms. Serrano’s birth child, “rather strictly,” said Mr. Verstraete, their lawyer.

“The mother would wake up every morning thinking that she had never been able to recognize her daughter,” he added. “It is not a physical wound. It is a moral suffering that will never go out.”

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The families saw each other several times, during which Manon explored her Creole origins. But the parents and daughters had trouble building any rapport, and they eventually stopped seeing each other. In the end, after some discussion, both families preferred to keep the child they had raised, rather than taking their biological one.

“I realized that we were very different, and we didn’t approach life in the same way,” Ms. Serrano said. “My biological daughter looked like me, but I suddenly realized that I had given birth to a person I didn’t know, and I was no longer the mother of that child.”

On a recent day, Ms. Serrano and Manon sat at the dining table of their modern apartment in Grasse for a lunch break.

Ms. Serrano said she was recovering from years of depression. She is unemployed and has two other children, from a relationship that began after her separation. Her frail physique and reserved manners contrasted with Manon’s outspokenness and athletic build.

Neither of the two women said how they would spend the money from the trial, but Manon said she dreamed of settling in Britain and of a career in management.

“The story of my birth has made me stronger,” Manon said as she ate French fries out of an orange fast food container. She found balance, she said, through therapy, her mother’s love and her own “deeply ingrained” pragmatism.

“I tend to never leave anything to chance,” she said with a smile. “Now I even try to anticipate the unthinkable.”

Correction: February 24, 2015
An earlier version of this article, using information from Sophie Serrano’s lawyer, referred incorrectly to Ms. Serrano’s marital status. She was in a relationship, but not married, when her daughter, Manon, was born.


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Read this:

http://www.vanguardngr.com/2014/09/ooni-alaafin-rivalry-resurfaces-oyo-lays-sole-claim-oranyan/

Calabar is very very nice.

eneres:
yes

Is it close to your hometown?

tpiah01:
why do you feel so?

Cos, it shows how 'money talks' in the modern day era of Nigeria.

Interesting topic.

eneres:
I'm from Anua Offot in Uyo LGA of Akwa Ibom state

Do you know this place called Offot Ukwa?

Congrats.

The government has failed its citizens.

It's not useless.

Parents choose to send their kids to these private schools so that they can finish on time, unlike the public universities that are prone to going on strike. But I do agree with you, the fees are excessive. Private universities in the US are also expensive, but LizyL, remember, some of these students, unlike their counterparts in Nigeria, do receive financial aid, scholarship, grants, . . .

Na wao.

Matthew 16:26 - Bible Gateway
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For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world and forfeits his soul? Or what shall a man give in return for his soul?

Read the above Biblical Scripture.

What's wrong with having 2.2?

CHICAGO (FOX 32 News) -
Researchers have announced that a baby girl, who was born in 2010 and thought to have had two tumors in her abdomen, actually had twin fetuses ranging from 8 to 10 weeks old inside of her, according to a report.

The fetuses weighed in at half an ounce and a third of an ounce. They both were far enough along to have four limbs, a spine, a rib cage, intestines and an anus. All organs were connected through an umbilical cord to a single placenta-like mass.

"Since it is impossible for the little girl to have conceived the pregnancy on her own, the fertilization of the twin fetuses, of course, belongs to her parents, which has gone to the wrong place," a local doctor tells the South China Morning Post.

The condition, called fetus in fetu, is thought to occur in 1 in 500,000 births worldwide.

Read More @ Newser

http://www.myfoxdetroit.com/story/28065275/baby-born-pregnant-with-twin-fetuses

Ike77503:
[/i]NDIPE "Why I think the news is fake are the following

1: "He was seized by a paroxysm of anger and dread and went into shock". (ok, who wouldnt?)
2. "How could his wife who had given him four beautiful kids and was there for him as ‘the rock of Gibraltar’ be caught in such a lurid act? (and those four beautiful kids are 2 boys and two girls, to make it more ideal plus the fact that the man described the woman as his 'rock of Gibraltar."
3. "His wife was a respected member of the Nigerian community in Maryland, United States and was the hardworking and successful manager of nurses in a reputable Washington DC hospital." (Is there any hospital in America that is not reputable?)
4. Even when the video was shown to the husband, he initially dismissed it as a concocted fairy tale, like was it a fake image of his 'rock of Gibraltar' that would cause him to be in denial of it?
"spread all over the continental United States had viewed it several times (how do you know the number of times people watched it and how do you know that it spread over the US when most people I am sure are not even aware of it?)

. . . "were all shocked and filled with righteous indignation over such an embarrassing conduct by an otherwise happily married woman." (who wouldnt be shocked?)


The spouses name are unnamed, it's a fake story trying to be sensational "

GUY COOL DOWN AND JUST BEG ME FOR THE VIDEO ...Its F-u king real Bro. Saw it , dislike it but still got it on my phone..

Dont care for the video. All what I know is that there is nothing SENSATIONAL about it even as the writer is trying to make it SENSATIONAL. It's not unusual (though it's wrong) for married people to engage in extra-marital affairs. Reading the writeup, it appears as if the writer was trying to make it seem as if its very unsual by using catchphrases like "righteous indignation," "happily married," . . .

Raiders:
so you wan watch sex.tape ? Anyway, the story is real and it happened in MD, USA in September 2014. I am even surprise its making the news now when its an old news

Cool, so it's STALE news, dude, there is nothing sensational about it. This things happen.

Why I think the news is fake are the following

1: "He was seized by a paroxysm of anger and dread and went into shock". (ok, who wouldnt?)
2. "How could his wife who had given him four beautiful kids and was there for him as ‘the rock of Gibraltar’ be caught in such a lurid act? (and those four beautiful kids are 2 boys and two girls, to make it more ideal plus the fact that the man described the woman as his 'rock of Gibraltar."
3. "His wife was a respected member of the Nigerian community in Maryland, United States and was the hardworking and successful manager of nurses in a reputable Washington DC hospital." (Is there any hospital in America that is not reputable?)
4. Even when the video was shown to the husband, he initially dismissed it as a concocted fairy tale, like was it a fake image of his 'rock of Gibraltar' that would cause him to be in denial of it?
"spread all over the continental United States had viewed it several times (how do you know the number of times people watched it and how do you know that it spread over the US when most people I am sure are not even aware of it?)

. . . "were all shocked and filled with righteous indignation over such an embarrassing conduct by an otherwise happily married woman." (who wouldnt be shocked?)


The spouses name are unnamed, it's a fake story trying to be sensational.

Most certain this article is FAKE, it's just to capture one's imagination and drive sensation, particularly using the janitor's angle.

Why cant they release the purpoted youtube?

nahinbdis:
I work in one of the foriegn Banks in VI. I have this close pal (a team leader) that recently started selling his wife's chin-chin in the office. I found he initially brought some for product testing in order to obtain valuable feedback for improvement. However people loved it and asked him to keep bringing and he has just started.

Thing is the guy is not broke (I know his pay and he drives an SUV). Someone commented today that he must really love the wife to do that. Another said its not so cool. I think its not so bad afterall particularly because the wife is just starting. What do you think?

Why are you worried about what the assistance a man renders to his wife?

It's common in the USA for workers to have portraits of family members on their desk

Its doctrine runs contrary to the doctrine of Christianity. Beware.

I had a wonderful experience with them last year.

I think the measure of corporal punishment meted to erring students in Nigeria is excessive

And do they provide scholarships as their counterparts do in the USA?

You cant compare basic infrastructures like constant electricity, water, reliable public transportation here compared to Nigeria.

No brainer, with our population, we are bound to be among the leading internet users in the world.

This is cause for alarm, I read recently that the hostel of a certain university was also razed by fire. What's going on?