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Day school in their younger days, boarding in their senior years.

[quote author=Itoroetti ]I don't condone what d lecturer tried doing,but what will be the fate of this student after this?I guess we all know.this isn't the best way to treat the man.I don't encourage the girls action either.[/quote]The girls are now untouchable because they have proof of the randy man in action.

Lot of reasons, family, change of scenery, employment opportunities . . . name them.

onila: lake Bunyonyi-Uganda

would love to explore that lake. Looks magical.

https://fbcdn-sphotos-f-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-ash4/1452502_478701242247126_947999041_n.jpg

Read more about lake Bunyoni here, unwed mothers were punished by being sent to die at the lake

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lake_Bunyonyi

http://www.ulule.com/punishmentisland/

http://www.weddingbells.co.ug/index.php/weddings-in-uganda/wedding-cultures/item/89-bakiga-the-aggressive-lovers

http://punishment-island..com/2012/10/akampenes-inhabitants-today.html

It has never happened to me. One of my cousin's lost his to thieves and after paying a deductible of 150 dollars to his insurance company, he got a new one. That is ontop of the $7. something dollars he pays to his insurance on a monthly basis. The guy wasnt happy at all.

May his soul rest in peace, my heart goes out to his kids, particularly the young boy.

. . . not an African, but in 2008 some Nigerian friends gave me a Yoruba name (“Akinwale”) because I have been to that country so often. My visits there, along with trips to Uganda, Kenya, Malawi, South Africa and Egypt, planted a deep love for Africa in my heart. My first grandson’s arrival this year from Ethiopia made the connection even stronger.

I’m often asked to describe how God is moving in Africa today. Since I’m an optimist, I usually tell of the large churches, the passionate praise and the intense spiritual hunger that characterizes African Christianity. But there is also a dark side, and I think it’s time we addressed one of the most serious threats to faith on the continent.

By J. Lee Grady
http://nigeriaworld.com/articles/2013/nov/141.html

What's the big deal here if they had already seen each other before the wedding ceremony?

I love Jesus Christ. Today I was just reflecting on the Love He has for us that He left His Glorious Throne to die for us. Praise Him in the Highest, Amen.

family, culture, food, weather, the atmosphere, I love and miss Nigeria.

that's his choice, do you have a problem with his decision to settle down at 46? Why cant people just mind their biz?

@poster, for your information, Angels did not partake in the creation of mankind.

Not impressed at all.

A great thread that has imparted knowledge to all of us interested in African history.

bigheart2013: Sorry to bother good nairalander again with another thread back-to-back. Please help me solve this puzzle. Why is that each time someone helps most (not all) Nigeria woman it ends up either in a drama, scandal, enmity or chaos?

Here are some examples:

1. I opened this thread because a friend helped a Nigerian lady get a job in a big firm in Nigeria. The lady resumed without even calling to update him. When the man asked her why, she said she was grateful but added that God only used my friend to help her, it wasn't by his own doing. It could have still happened through another person. My friend was shocked at this type of 'Thank You'
2. A man in USA who used his financial records to file affidavit of support for her niece in Nig to relocate to USA made news when he ended up in court and nearly ended up in jail, when the girl turned around to sue him for not supporting her financially in USA.
3. Some Nigerian men (not all) who trained their wives in school are regretting it today, after the said wife graduated and either dumped them or became very unruly when they start working.
4. Some people who opened businesses for their sisters in Nigeria are regretting it today, as they ended up enemies and insulted.
5. Some who gave gifts to female friends in Nigeria always have one story of ungratefulness or the other. They complained that generally most Nigerian ladies have a mindset that they get what they get because they are attractive women, and generally men are 'mugus' who spend on women to get something in return.

My Questions:

1. What is the cause of this general feeling of ungratefulness, and how can we change the mindset of our sisters to start being grateful?
2. What is the best way to give a Nigerian lady a helping hand without attracting these types of ungratefulness, since some of us either still have females we are helping or intend to help?
3. How should one react when one's help is either misinterpreted or treated with ungratefulness, without ending it in drama or enmity?


Update 1, Nov 4, 2013: I wish we don't turn this into bashing of Nigerian women. I asked 3 specific questions to see how we can train the mind of some sisters to see the benefits of being grateful, to teach brothers how to give the right way, and how to handle disappointments when they come. I pray we focus on that to make this thread more constructive.

]1[/b]. I opened this thread because a friend helped a Nigerian lady get a job in a [b]big [/b]firm in Nigeria.


How can I believe this story?

chineloSA: SA - The oversize butt that SA woman have Out of this world. At the same time the development that was there, didn't feel like Africa. Then again, going to their ghetto's changed the whole perception and made me have mixed feelings. How cold SA can also get . Apart from that everything is functioning.
Botswana - Just a replica of SA but was extremely hot that summer. Quiete small. Citizens not as friendly.
Mozambique - How dirty Maputo is and how different their Islands are. ( woooow, I enjoyed it )
Lesotho - How rural the whole country is. Goats running around in the capital city Masaru
London - How cold the place is. ( first time out of the country )

Zambia, Seychelles & Mauritius - coming soon. Africa is beautiful.

I wanna visit Zambia, how was it?

I think it was Jesus Christ prior to His Incarnation.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/11/01/maggots-worms-hair-weave-hoax_n_4191200.html?utm_hp_ref=black-voices&ir=Black%20Voices

The unfriendliness.

http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Ephesians+4%3A5&version=KJV

nne4: Withdrawal method is not the best.l and my hubby were using withdrawal method after our second child but l conceived with it.lt is not d best bc it can cause problem in ur marriage when u conceive with d method bc ur hubby may be doubting whether d pregnancy is really his
(am taking from my experience).
When l delivered d baby boy,he resemble my hubby more than d 2 other children i had earlier and he was begging me for forgiveness bc d way he treated me during d pregnancy.
@op pls see your doctor quickly.

Wao!!!.

Have never heard any negative comment about Austin, the capital of Texas. People gush about the city, infact, I dont know of any other city in the USA that has received rave reviews (from talking to people) like Austin. Not even San Diego.

pickabeau1: dude.. why are u so much in a hurry to complicate your life
You will be going as a LPR

Finish your studies here, do your GRE then go for Masters...

Why will u want to start over aagain... no be people for here dey get full scholarship to IVy Lig school for there...

Ok ooo

If you are still in college back home studying Engineering and have the opportunity to move to America, transfer your credits immediately to a college out here and continue from there. You stand a higher chance of getting an engineering job with an American degree than with a Nigerian degree.

Houseboy or Housemaid?

If the story is true, its inhumane. Humans ought to be treated with respect.

I lived with my parents back in Calabar and the landlady was almost like an angel. There was ABSOLUTELY no wahala between my parents and her. At times, the woman would cook food (she was an elderly woman) and bring to my mom (who was younger than she was) to share with us and my mom used to reciprocate her gestures. Her daughter, Eme, was one of my best friends growing up. I remember playing with my friends in our compound and the woman would come out to share sweets with all of us kids while we were playing. I mean, there was no wahala in the compound and we just had a great relationship. She died in 84 and my parents attended her funeral. We missed her.

Back on campus, I rented a room off campus. First year, the landlord threatened to evict me because he claimed my senior brother (whom I was staying with while attending college) did not tell him that I would be living there after he left. My father stepped in. Landlord's rule was that you had no overnight visitor (and I came to find out that his concern was that the toilet will overflow). Yet, I disregarded the rule and brought in folks who had no place to lay their head off. That almost backfired because he threatened me 3x to evict me that I had to go to his village with a bottle of schnapps to beg him. He forgave me. His son was very nice to me cos he was my intercessor. When I moved to the USA, I sent him something.

iphy42: So you think Bianca is bigger than the Ojukwus because they have three lawyers? U are mistaken! Odumegwu Ojukwu family are equal to the task.

Are you not surprised the Ojukwus asked for proof of marriage? Bianca married Ojukwu while he was still legally married to two women. That is not a plus for Bianca in this case coupled with the FFK saga, this case will be especially messy for her.

If not about the wealth, why is she willing to drag her name in the mud when she is already in possession of all her husbands personal effects and money allegedly running into billions? Afterall, her father has over 200 houses in Enugu alone according to you.

If you were the first wife, how would you feel if your husband neglected your children and willed almost everything to his third wife after you suffered with him in thick and thin?

Nwanne be fair cos 'amaka m ihe di na Ozubulu bu amaghi ama di na Nnewi'

Bianca once stated openly to Sunnews magazine that she was Ojukwu's only legal wife and challenged any other living woman to produce a copy of their marriage certificate. She further stated that they got married in a Roman Catholic Church which would have been impossible, according to her, if Ojukwu was still married, cos that would have been considered bigamy in the eyes of the Church.

leofab: His claims were culled up from rhetoric immigration records from embassies. Remember he is an ex-ambassador and has access to embassies and ambassadors.

Still, that's highly debatable. No way would I believe that.

olatade: A former Ambassador of United States to Nigeria, Mr. Walter Carrington, has said no fewer than three million Nigerians live and work in US and Canada.

He stated that Nigerians abroad excelled in their sectors of the US society.



The lecture was titled, ‘On the dawn of Nigeria’s second century: challenges to a new generation’.

He, however, stated that he found out that Nigerians in the Diaspora do not want to come back home for fear of corruption and growing insecurity.

The envoy noted that the country was blessed with great human and material resources.

He said Nigeria had an unmatched pool of human resources, adding that no country in Africa had such a richness of human capital.


http://www.punchng.com/news/over-three-million-nigerians-in-us-canada-carrington/

"According to him, Nigerians are the most accomplished immigrant group in the US, said the former envoy, while speaking on Monday at the 29th convocation lecture of the University of Ilorin."

Does he have the research to back him up? If someone mentions Indians, that could hardly be debatable, but Nigerians the most accomplished immigrant group in the USA? That's debatable.