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secretly. If your friend expresses his doubts to his wife and the results come out positively, she will be mad for the lack of trust and worse, could back out of the marriage. Doubts like this are common, I posted a story culled from Oprah's website which I saw on her show. A man had two daughters with his wife, and unexpectedly, she gave birth to the third child, a baby boy. He was delighted, but his joy turned to grief months later when his wife died. Things took a bizzare turn when he got a letter from a stranger or so, claiming to be the father of the baby boy. He had no idea, so afterwards, they went for a DNA test. The man was in for a rude shock when the test revealed that the baby boy whom he assumed was his biological son (then a toddler or thereabout) belonged to one of the men. His wife had cheated on him, so when Oprah asked him if he was aware of it, he shook his head, but then added that after checking their phone bills, he did notice some strange phone numbers.

The judge granted visitation rights to the biological father of the tyke, but his mother's husband (that's the way I should put it, cos, the man is not the biological father, as much as he thought so) has primary custody of the boy. Oprah asked him if the boy knows the truth now (then, he was probably between 6-10) and the man responded negatively, but that he's been asking him the reasons for the shared custody.

Isnt that something?

http://www.seekfind.net/WhatAboutTheBibledoesntItSayTheEarthIsAbout6000YearsOld.html

God's way is higher than man!

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-239876.64.html

Laugh at the above, segyemaro replying to kenny's comment LOL

Woman charged in Texas day care fire returns to US
© 2011 The Associated Press
March 20, 2011, 8:42PM


HOUSTON — A woman accused of fleeing the country after a fire at her Texas day care center killed four children began her trip back to the United States on Sunday to face manslaughter and other charges, a congresswoman said.

Jessica Tata, 22, departed Lagos, Nigeria, at 4:30 p.m. CDT Sunday and officials hoped she would be back in Houston within 24 hours, U.S. Rep. Sheila Jackson Lee of Houston said in a statement issued Sunday.

Authorities believe Tata fled to Nigeria two days after a Feb. 24 fire at her home day care center in Houston killed four children and hurt three others. Tata has been charged with manslaughter, injury to a child and child abandonment amid accusations that she left the youngsters alone at her home day care center while she shopped at a nearby store. Authorities believe the fire was ignited by a stove top burner that had been left on.

"I thank Ms. Tata and her family for coming together and helping her to make the right decision," Lee, D-Texas, said. "I am glad she decided to make the right decision, which is to return to this country of which she is a citizen in order to face the charges against her."

The U.S. Marshals Service declined to provide details of Tata's return itinerary. "It is the policy of the U.S. Marshals to not comment on prisoner movements until they are complete," said spokesman Jeff Carter.

Fire investigators have said they received a tip that Tata had relatives in Nigeria and might flee.

In her Sunday statement, Lee expressed thanks to the U.S. Embassy in Nigeria.

"I want to emphasize that all of the U.S. officials, including the State Department, were continuously attentive to this matter," she said. "I am also expressing my appreciation to the cooperative Nigerian officials."

A person answering a telephone call to Ron Tata of Houston, Jessica Tata's brother, hung up Sunday. However, the brother told The Associated Press on Saturday that relatives in Nigeria had informed him early that day that his sister had turned herself in to the U.S. Consulate.

"She just felt really, really, really bad about the whole situation, especially for the families. It would be the right thing to do," he said.

Donna Hawkins, spokeswoman for the Harris County District Attorney's Office, declined to comment on Tata's return.

News of Tata's return was bittersweet to Emmanuel Kajoh of the Houston suburb of Cypress, whose daughter Elizabeth died in the fire.

"I buried my daughter and I want to move on," he said. Tata's return "will not bring back my daughter. I'm moving on, trying to heal the wound, and that's why I don't really want to talk much about it.

The U.S. Marshals Service, which was leading the search for Tata, had put the woman on its list of the 15 most wanted fugitives and offered a reward of up to $25,000. The Marshals Service offered no indication Sunday of whether the reward had been claimed or would be paid. Interpol, the international police agency, also had alerted its member countries, including Nigeria, that she was being sought by the United States.

http://www.chron.com/disp/story.mpl/ap/top/all/7483667.html

Smart move@Okija, there are some people here who believe that America is the ultimate, even if it means doing menial job. To me, I just dont see the sense in working security guard in America, while your counterparts are working at plush jobs at banks with secretaries and taking home a nice sum of money at the end of the month. There has to be fulfillment in one's career, irrespective of your locale.

Siena:
The fact a child is adopted, should never be concealed from them, as soon as they're of an age that they understand what adoption means. Don't convey the impression that Adoption is taboo. You may mean well, and feel by letting them assume you're their biological mother / father / parents, you're letting them know they're loved, as much as your biological children, if you have any.

But, it's not a good idea. Honesty should begin from infancy. Children also have a habit of finding things out, be it by error, or deliberate research. Suppose they needed a blood transfusion, it would be assumed, you as a parent, are a likely match. An adopted child, who'd spent their childhood believing you were their biological parent, won't thank you as a teenager / young adult if they find out the truth later. It could cause all sort of emotional upsets, to discover the people they'd trusted most, had allowed then to live a lie.

Excellent, "jude law" (just kidding with the name, Siena). By the way, when do you draw the line between letting a child know of their TRUE origins (which is blood) while maintaining that their adopted parents (who are not their relations biologically) are actually their TRUE parents. When does blood trump nature and vice versa?

Odeomi:
@SexyLisa,
it is true that nursing is a little bit challenging so are most college degrees. as for the fact that they don't know anything, you are wrong. you probably went to a community college for your nursing. 80% of American born coming out of high school who went to community college are below average or average, their smart counterparts went to four years college.  Community colleges also serve adult students that have been out of school for a long time, the rest are immigrants working one or two jobs to make ends meet. My sister is RN and of the same opinion like you.  You will notice that those you went to nursing school with perform better than those you took general college classes with. Your nursing 101 c;classmates are more serious than your English 101 students. In Nigeria, some of those people cannot even get into pre ND talk less of pre degree
As for the college challenges as stated by some contributors. the purpose of college is to impact knowledge. Everything you are learning is for you to become a professional. They run colleges with tax payers’ money and the tuition you pay, they want you to get the value for your money. I don't consider course requirement as difficult as long as the resources to meet the requirements is easily available. In Nigeria, we look at degree. in US they look at the combination of skill and degree. The schools have a reputation. they don't want to produce students that will give them bad reputation. The school want employer to hire you and for them employer to come back to the school and hire more graduates. if they let out poorly prepared students that will not happen

WRONG! People choose to go to community college, due to compelling reasons like affordability. That was a rash conclusion and smacks of superiority complex.

[quote author=mama-gee link=topic=622641.msg7911187#msg7911187 date=1300134112][color=deeppink]Isn't he the dude who was accused of battering his wife two years ago?

This is serious, who would have taught a handsome, intelligent young man like him is actually a violent person.[/color][/quote]What has looks got to do with (never mind, how true are the allegations?)

Chimamanda Adichie's novel, "Purple Hibiscus" has been appendaged to a catering business that caters Nigerian meals.

How funny!

http://www.quora.com/Food-in-San-Francisco/When-will-Purple-Hibiscus-be-open-to-the-public-as-a-restaurant

[quote author=Mrs. Siena link=topic=252220.msg7903081#msg7903081 date=1300037124]Would not send my child to Nigeria to attend a boarding school no no no.

Only you can straighten out your child don't expect someone else to do it for you. I onced worked in a prestigious boarding school in Nigeria and I tell you the school was a dumping ground for  kids whose parents live abroad, I tell you they didnt fare any better at all. The even came out of the school worse than they came in and it had negative effects on the kids, especially when its visiting day you find them hanging round their friend's parents cos their own parents couldnt come cos of distance. So no will never allow my kids go to a boarding school in Nigeria or anywhere would prefer that they go to a day school where I can check up on their everyday activities and not having to wait for some months before I see them no way.[/quote]When will you let them out of home? College? I like your viewpoints and I have been wondering if I would send my child to boarding house before 18 years old. Sending them to boarding house at a young age makes them grow fast, there are advantages and disadvantages.

Sienna Miller

Education is harder in Naija than it is in Yankee. The only difference between the two is that you are held to a higher standard in yankee, but there are resources to aid you excel in your coursework and your discipline. Plus you have guest lectures, caring advisors all at the beck of your hand. Definitely cant compare university education abroad with Naija. Naija universities, some of them, are glorified high schools. It was tough finding books and journals for my assignments. During assignment, we would troop to the library and see how over one hundred students would be relying on just one book to see them through. At times, some wicked students would quickly go to the library and conceal the book in another corner, to deprive other students the chances to finish their homework on time. Once, my friend and I trekked to Udottung Ubo library in Uyo to do our assignment, because they werent available books in the library.

I prefer yankee's education over Naija's education anytime, anyday, particularly, college level. I was ignorant of the differences when I moved out here, and wondered why people would pay through the nose to educate their wards here, instead of just sending them over to Naija, and pay a fraction for their school fees. Eventually, I changed my mind. Please, there is no comparison: Education here in yankee is intense, but there are materials to see you through, in naija, it's harder, because of lack of materials. So, in the long run, you graduate with no firm grasp on what you studied in college.

No shortcut to education here in Yankee. It's practical, through books, research and internship, which would equip you with valuable knowledge in your intended field. Your professors also thoroughly research your papers with a fine tooth comb to make sure it conforms to the standard guideline of what constitutes a research paper. If you are caught plagiarising, there could be academic consequences to pay. Overall, while the process might be tedious, in the long run, you are left with a feeling of accomplishment when you walk on the stage. In Nigeria, it's mostly theoretical and relying on handouts and textooks. I prefer yankees academia over Nigeria anytime, any day.

Timely thread. Just grappling with the APA style for my reference list tells me that yankee studies is not as easy as it is painted back home. At the same time, it's easier, when you have loads of books at your disposal to do your assignment (instead of relying on lecture notes or worse, hand-outs or no text-books at all) and you also get the hands on experience on what you are studying. So, studying in yankee is easier than academics in Naija.

Read this story by clicking on this link.

http://www.southcoasttoday.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20110309/LIFE/103090302/-1/NEWSMAP

[quote author=Inked_Nerd link=topic=610995.msg7843236#msg7843236 date=1299223103]
Hmmm, I've thought about the whole Tyler Perry thing for some time and I'm still trying to make up my mind on that one. Initially when I heard about Perry and his character's, I was assumed but somewhat put off by it. I first heard about Perry when I was in school before he hit it big and I had no idea who he was but I'd hear all my friends talking about him and his plays. When I finally realized who he was and what he did I was somewhat intrigued. It was indeed entertaining but I often wondered what sort of effect his plays would have on the African American community. Although some of the characters are indeed a reflection of certain things within African American culture/community, its still seems like Perry is upholding certain stereotypes,  But I do see where you are going with your question. I too have wondered why some black people get upset over some semi-minuscule issues and don't make an issue out of things that are blatantly racist. Hmmmm, I feel like I'm rambling all over the place with my response. . . Sorry, its late and I'm sleep deprived . [/quote]Spike Lee is a harsh critic of Tyler Perry's movies.

At first, I would have sided with the critics, but upon reflection, I have to ask, why do we get so sensitive when someone, be they black or white, paints themselves BLACK? Our skintone come in varying hues of skin complexion, like the Ghanaians, who can be very dark like charcoal. Not being sarcastic, but lets embrace our culture and celebrate our skin color.

After spending countless sums of money on fertility treatments, you and your spouse are still unable to have a biological child. Eventually, both of you decide to adopt two adorable infants. In their teenage years, you level out with them on their true origins. Then, on their 21st birthday, one of them, out of the blues, confides in you, "Dad, Mom, I have been feeling incomplete the past years since you told me I was adopted, I would like to find out who my birth parents are."

What would be your reaction?

Even in an enlightened country like the USA, where child adoption is common place, there are some who still feel the jitters about the topic. Maury Povich, the talkshow host who has adopted kids with his wife, Connie Chung, told a journalist that he would be very uncomfortable if his kids were to search for the identity of their birth parents. Others would tow the same line, partly because they dont want to compete with the birth parents over the attention of their children. But I read the amazing story of a boy who found out that his birthmother was actually his coworker. Another amazing story: His adopted mother gave her whole hearted blessings in his quest to find out who she was.

My question is: If you were an adopted parent, would you give your blessings or would you block such moves?

It's a boy, not a girl.


http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mathew_Knowles

[img]https://www.nairaland.com/attachments/398584_Beyonce-In-Blackface_jpg37e34fb47dc9fafd0e372dfcdacafff4[/img]
Beyonce graces the March issue of L'Officiel Paris, but it's a controversial photo of the superstar inside the French fashion magazine that's getting the most attention.

The glossy is celebrating its 90th anniversary, and Beyonce marks the occasion with an homage to Nigerian musician and humanitarian Fela Kuti; Beyonce's husband, Jay-Z, is a producer on the acclaimed Broadway musical "Fela!," based on the icon's life, music and courageous defiance against government corruption. In a statement (via Jezebel), L'Officiel describes the Feli-inspired photo of Beyonce -- sporting blackface, tribal paint and a dress designed by her mom -- as a "return to her African roots, as you can see on the picture, on which her face was voluntarily darkened."

Not everyone is a fan of the editorial vision and tribute to Kuti; the image simultaneously inspires and provokes. Writes Jezebel's Dodai Stewart: "It's fun to play with fashion and makeup, and fashion has a history of provocation and pushing boundaries. But when you paint your face darker in order to look more 'African,' aren't you reducing an entire continent, full of different nations, tribes, cultures and histories, into one brown color?"

"It's one thing to feel moved by Fela Kuti, and quite another to treat blackness as a fashion accessory, like a pair of glittery heels you put on because it looks cool," Stewart adds.

Charing Ball, a writer at the Atlanta Post, blasts the fashion industry's recent obsession with blackface as an accepted form of racism passed off as art. "Blackface is not fashion forward or edgy and, in my opinion, it is just flat-out offensive," writes Ball, incriminating Beyonce in perpetuating the offense.

Blackface has been particularly trendy among European fashion titles; in October 2009, French Vogue featured a white model in blackface a year after the Italian edition of Vogue ran a much-hyped issue with all-black models as a response to the lack of diversity within the industry.

Photos: See Beyonce's top hairstyles


Meanwhile, Beyonce and other black stars have had their skin lightened on the cover of glossy women's mags and in advertisements; see Beyonce's 2008 L'Oreal ad compared with a real photo of the singer. See also: Actress Gabby Sidibe's 2010 Elle magazine cover wherein her dark skin appeared several tones lighter.

"The message we're getting from the fashionistas," Stewart writes, "is that it's bad to actually have dark skin, but totally cool to pretend you have it."

Beyonce will no doubt maintain a diplomatic stance on the photoshoot. But, for once -- for once! -- it would be refreshing to hear her speak her mind and have a stance on something beyond her music.



http://omg.yahoo.com/blogs/thefamous/beyonce-under-fire-for-blackface-photos/711?nc



Check out this question I asked earlier about this controversial subject.

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=608410.msg7764338#msg7764338

No be by force to attend these concerts. If you cant afford it, then boycott it. There are others who wouldnt mind paying these sums of money to watch this artistes live.

For its 90th birthday issue, French magazine L'Officiel will feature Beyoncé in an African-themed photo shoot. In the shoot, which is a tribute to musician/activist Fela Kuti, the pop songstress' skin will be darkened. (She volunteered.) But only on the inside of the magazine will readers see Beyoncé with the new skin tone.

On the cover, Sista, from Brown Sista blog, thinks Beyoncé's skin been lightened and brightened with a good stroke of Photoshop:

Beyoncé is almost unrecognizable to me, as her skin color has once again been manipulated by magazine editors so as not to offend their mostly white female audience.

And this isn't the first time that Beyoncé's skin has been lightened. Remember her 2008 L'Oreal ad?


http://www.theroot.com/buzz/beyonc-blackface-tribute-fela-kuti

Sweetnecta:
^^^^^

Ndipe is funny.

Fully man, one time.

Fully god at another.


The above is similar to fully zebra, sometimes.

Other times, fully Lion.

Can we find anything like that in the Serengeti?

Oh. Well. Its a mystery.  You just have to take it by faith.

Jesus Christ is known as Son of Man and Son of God in the Holy Bible. He had dual nature, as a human, he was tempted, as Divine (God), He did not fall into it. Readthis verse: 4:15 For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who in every respect has been tested as we are, yet without sin.

GIRLS FOR SALE
• Inside home where kids, teenagers are on sale
By CHIOMA IGBOKWE
Saturday, February 19, 2011
Chinwe
• Photo: The Sun Publishing
Living index

Are you looking for babies for outright purchase? Or are you in need of children to serve as maids? You don’t need to search further. In the heart of Lagos, a camp exists, where babies, young girls and boys are figuratively on sale. All you need is to pay and take them away without even signing any document.

Investigation by Saturday Sun undercover reporter revealed that kids are brought from villages, in the South East, with the consent of their parents, who are only interested in money and not the welfare or safety of their wards, and camped in houses in Lagos, from where are be given out to anybody who can afford the fee.

Checks showed that some of the kids, who are serving as maids or hawkers for their “slave owners” do not go home to see their parents. And those who did, after many years, especially young girls, are told by their parents not to bother returning, unless they find husbands.

To unearth this child trafficking cum slavery ring, Saturday Sun reporter, visited the baby shops, with a lady who posed as a prospective “buyer.” The lady negotiated and issued a cheque to “buy” a day-old baby.
The experiences of the victims and the reporter’s task to unravel these racket would simply shock you stiff . . .


http://sunnewsonline.com/webpages/features/living/2011/feb/19/living-19-02-2011-001.htm

favouredjb:
She's a shameless woman no doubt

i respect her husband's maturity.no need killing and going to jail over two useless peopleits not worth it

Exactly!

bjshok:
IF JESUS WAS GOD, THEN WHY IN[ MARK 12 VERSE 29 JESUS SAID ''HERE, O ISREAL''THE LORD OUR GOD IS ONE LORD], '' THE WORDS ''OUR GOD''  INDICATE THAT JESUS HAD A HIGHER GOD OVER HIM, A STRONGER THAN HIM, JESUS DON'T SAY  ''YOUR GOD''  HE SAID ''OUR GOD'' WHICH INCLUDE INCLUDES JESUS AS THE CREATION OF GOD.
[JOHN 20VERSE 17 JESUS SAID  I ASCEND TO MY  GOD AND YOUR GOD ], THIS TELLS US THAT WE AND JESUS HAVE A COMMON GOD .
[JOHN 8 VERSE 28 JESUS SAID'' I DO NOTHING OF MYSELF?]CAN'T  GOD DO ANYTHING HE WILLS?
[JOHN 14 VERSE 28 JESUS SAID '' MY FATHER[GOD] IS GREATER THAN I ?
[MATHEW 19 VERSE 16 JESUS SAID ''WHY CALL ME GOOD, THERE IS NONE GOOD BUT ONE , THAT IS GOD
[LUKE 23 VERSE 46 JESUS SAID ''FATHER[GOD]. ONTO THY HAND I COMMEND MY SPIRIT?
[MATHEW 26 VERSE 39 JESUS BEGGED HIS GOD TO HAVE MERCY ON HIM AND TO PASS THE CUP
[JOHN 8 VERSE 38 HE DON'T REPLY WHEN HE WAS ASKED ABOUT THE TRUTH
MATHEW 24 VERSE36 JESUS TOLD HIS FOLLOWERS THAT NO ONE [INCLUDING JESUS] KNOWS WHEN THE JUDGEMENT DAY WILL COMES, ONLY GOD KNOWS?
[ISIAH 11 VERSE 2 AND 3 GOD HAD PUT THE SPIRIT OF FEARING GOD IN
JESUS
[IF JESUS WAS GOD, THEN WHY IN JOHN 5 VERSE 31 JESUS TOLD HIS FOLLOWERS THAT IF HE[JESUS]BEARS WITNESS OF HIMSELF, THEN HIS RECORD IS NOT TRUE?
IF JESUS WAS GOD, THEN WHY IN [JOHN 5 VERSE 30 JESUS TOLD HIS FOLLOERS THAT HE CAN NOT DO A SINGLE THING OF HIS OWN INITIATIVE?
IF JESUS WAS GOD, THEN WHY IN JOHN 5 VERSE 36 TO 38 JESUS SAID THAT GOD HAD ASSIGNED HIM[JESUS]WORK AND GOD IS A WITNESS ON JESUS?
IF JESUS WAS GOD, THEN WHY IN JOHN 5 VERSE 32 JESUS TOLD HIS FOLLOWERS THAT THEY HAVE NEVER SEEN GODAT ANYTIME NOR EVER HEARD HIS VOICE?
IF JESUS WAS GOD,THEN WHY DID HE PRAYTO HIS GOD IN LUKE 5 VERSE 16?
IF JESUS WAS GOD, THEN WHY IN [MATHEW 26 VERSE 39 JESUS FELL ON HIS FACE AND PRAYED TO HIS GOD?

Jesus Christ was Fully God and Fully Man, so when He made those comments, he was referring to Himself in the human flesh.

[quote author=invisible! link=topic=379028.msg5285951#msg5285951 date=1263109707]Those countries you mentioned, Liberia, Ivory coast, Cuba, are their citizens better off after the fight. Truth is, the elites will escape with their families while the poor fight each other till death. The rich always come back and regain their top positions after the fight. Ask Ojukwu.

Its in the house of the coward that men stand and point at the spot where the brave man's compound used to be.[/quote]Na true you talk. The rich will conscript the poor into fighting a civil war and eventually would abandon them to fend for themselves while they are living in exile at the mercy of their host country. And when they return home, they are granted a heroic welcome.

Nah!

marabout:
People,
Adultery, sexcapades happen every day and the world will not end. Abraham did it albeit with Sarah's nod. Women have dirty fantasies just like men. Some carry it out. Most women never get caught because they are far better liars than men. Only a woman knows the true dad of her children. We men are just blind mumu and quite often misplace our faith and trust.

Some African men believe that once a lady is pregnant, she doesn't feel Hot anymore. Many women have more libido during pregnancy.
If you don't realise that, they will carry their congo to the Ahmeds of this world for proper shining.

Not always true. Women with multiple partners sometimes are confused about the paternity of their children, hence some shamellessly go on Maury show and you can guess how embarrasing the verict sometimes turn out to be. Another incident, a woman cheated with differnt men and conceived twins, and those twins have different fathers. She had no clue.

How is he even sure the woman is pregnant for him? Time for DNA when the baby is born.

Has anybody ever eaten Mkpantuk? It's usually eaten just when you are about to smoke garri. It will make your food taste like sugar in your mouth.

[quote author=Jenifa_ link=topic=601650.msg7709564#msg7709564 date=1297400406][color=deeppink]I plan on attending college in Dallas because I want to make lots of Nigerian friends.
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I don't understand. why would you base your college decision on wanting to make "lots of nigerian friends".
shouldn't you be looking for schools with nice programs, tuition package etc ?[/quote]

I once asked my relative why she was not attending University of Maryland, Colllege Park and her response was that there were too many Nigerians attending that school. What an answer!