Anashe: One, you haven't answered his question. Two, Nairaland is not the place to point out the 3 things you "need" in your wife/girlfriend or what is customary or traditional to you. Three, you can tell them that offline however you like. Restore tradition within the confines of your home because it sounds delusional to want tradition restored from the Romance Section of Nairaland. Nairaland is a little over 3m subscribers compared to Nigeria's population. There are a lot of men on this forum who wouldn't resort to slut shaming and name calling or outright misogyny to prove a point, so you don't speak for all men. Debbie's husband has been on this forum for years and it was also some men that have shut him up about being a simp that have turned round now to hail him for "scoring" a wife he loves into submission. The same scripture that said "wives SUBMIT to your husbands" also says "husbands LOVE your wives". Some of you don't have a clue what love is.
Haha people that don't love their parents how can they love a total stranger...all they want is sex and the free housekeeping and cooking
NwaNimo1: Evidence of widespread abuse and torture by the founder of one of the world's biggest Christian evangelical churches has been uncovered by the BBC.
Dozens of ex-Synagogue Church of all Nations members - five British - allege atrocities, including rape and forced abortions, by Nigeria's late TB Joshua.
The allegations of abuse in a secretive Lagos compound span almost 20 years.
The Synagogue Church of All Nations did not respond to the allegations but said previous claims have been unfounded.
TB Joshua, who died in 2021, was a charismatic and hugely successful preacher and televangelist who had an immense global following.
The BBC's findings over a two-year investigation include:
Dozens of eyewitness accounts of physical violence or torture carried out by Joshua, including instances of child abuse and people being whipped and chained
Numerous women who say they were sexually assaulted by Joshua, with a number claiming they were repeatedly raped for years inside the compound
Multiple allegations of forced abortions inside the church following the alleged rapes by Joshua, including one woman who says she had five terminations
Multiple first-hand accounts detailing how Joshua faked his "miracle healings", which were broadcast to millions of people around the world One of the victims, a British woman, called Rae, was 21 years old when she abandoned her degree at Brighton University in 2002 and was recruited into the church. She spent the next 12 years as one of Joshua's so-called "disciples" inside his maze-like concrete compound in Lagos.
"We all thought we were in heaven, but we were in hell, and in hell terrible things happen," she told the BBC.
Rae says she was sexually assaulted by Joshua and subjected to a form of solitary confinement for two years. The abuse was so severe, she says she attempted suicide multiple times inside the compound.
The Synagogue Church of All Nations [Scoan] has a global following, operating a Christian TV channel called Emmanuel TV and social media networks with millions of viewers. Throughout the 1990s and early 2000s, tens of thousands of pilgrims from Europe, the Americas, South East Asia and Africa travelled to the church in Nigeria to witness Joshua performing "healing miracles". At least 150 visitors lived with him as disciples inside his compound in Lagos, sometimes for decades.
More than 25 former "disciples" spoke to the BBC - from the UK, Nigeria, US, South Africa, Ghana, Namibia and Germany - giving powerful corroborating testimony about their experiences within the church, with the most recent experiences in 2019. Many victims were in their teens when they first joined. In some of the British cases, their transport to Lagos was paid for by Joshua, in co-ordination with other UK churches.
Rae and multiple other interviewees compared their experiences to being in a cult.
Jessica Kaimu, from Namibia, says her ordeal lasted more than five years. She says she was 17 when Joshua first raped her, and that subsequent instances of rape by TB Joshua led to her having five forced abortions while there.
"These were backdoor type… medical treatments that we were going through… it could have killed us," she told the BBC.
Other interviewees say they were stripped and beaten with electrical cables and horse whips, and routinely denied sleep.
A shocking journey into a maze of manipulation and terrifying abuse perpetrated by one of the most powerful religious figures of the 21st Century
On his death in June 2021, TB Joshua was hailed as one of the most influential pastors in African history. Rising from poverty, he built an evangelical empire that counted dozens of political leaders, celebrities and international footballers among his associates.
He did, however, attract some controversy during his lifetime when a guesthouse for church pilgrims collapsed in 2014, killing at least 116 people.
The BBC's investigation, which was carried out with international media platform Open Democracy, is the first time multiple former church insiders have come forward to speak on the record. They say they've spent years trying to raise the alarm, but have effectively been silenced.
A number of our witnesses in Nigeria claim they were physically attacked, and in one case shot at, after previously speaking out against the abuse and posting videos containing allegations on YouTube.
A BBC crew that attempted to record footage of the church's Lagos compound from a public street in March 2022 was also fired at by the church's security, and was detained for a number of hours.
The BBC contacted Scoan with the allegations in our investigation. It did not respond to them, but denied previous claims against TB Joshua.
"Making unfounded allegations against Prophet TB Joshua is not a new occurrence… None of the allegations was ever substantiated," it wrote.
Four of the British citizens who spoke to the BBC say they reported the abuse to the UK authorities after escaping the church. They say no further action was taken.
In addition, a British man and his wife emailed eyewitness accounts of their ordeal and video evidence - including recordings of being held at gunpoint by men describing themselves as police who are also members of Scoan - to the British High Commission in Nigeria in March 2010 after fleeing the church. In his email, the man said his wife had been repeatedly sexually assaulted and raped by Joshua. He warned the commission that other British nationals were still inside the compound facing atrocities.
He also says no action was taken.
The UK Foreign Office did not respond to these claims, but told the BBC that it takes all reports of crime, including sexual assault and violence against British nationals overseas, very seriously.
Scoan continues to thrive today, under the leadership of Joshua's widow, Evelyn. In July 2023, she led a tour of Spain.
Anneka, who left Derby in the UK to join Scoan at the age of 17, told the BBC she believes there are many other victims who have yet to speak out. She hopes further steps will be taken to uncover Joshua's actions.
"I believe the Synagogue Church of All Nations needs a thorough investigation into why this man was able to function for so long the way he did," she said.
DesChyko: I have some things to share with you, but the fact that you used 'guys' instead of 'men' in this case, makes me think you're likely not into the marriage business and is talking from a single man's point of view. 😎
In which case it is better to let you learn your own way.
You're joking, right? Because what difference does it make if I refer to men as guys?
I bet am way older than you are in reality, because you wouldn't obsess over such an inconsequential lexical point if not for the fact that you lack actual life experience
You can marry today, she leaves tomorrow morning, will you die? You have to be alive to marry another one, is it not true?
You buy global7000 and it crashes, will you die? You buy a new car and armed robbers take it on the road, will you die? You must have shock absorber. That is the only way you can survive.
If you want to survive in life, you must have a shock absorber.
President Tinubu told me when we were meeting that somebody told him not to trust me, he said NO. Politics and betrayal are the same mother and father.
If you don't want to be betrayed, don't enter politics. So, don't be bothered that somebody betrayed you because politics and betrayal go together.
Prepare yourself that it will happen.
So when I see most of you, you come toe crying and say I can't believe this will happen, once you go, I will find one good whiskey and drink and say see this one, he is not prepared.
I am fully prepared. That's what President Tinubu taught me, if you don't want to be betrayed, don't enter politics.
These young men, members of the Rivers State House of Assembly didn't tell me before they defected to the APC. They said if they had told me, I will have said no so they had to do the needful.
adesegun121: “Stop Chasing Money, Go And Marry, Money Will Start Chasing You” — Nigerian Lady Says As She Flaunts What She And Her Husband Achieved In One Year Of Marriage
She wrote: “Yoh! Is my one year marriage anniversary/house warming. Anywhere you see God thank him for me
Marriage that brought lots of blessings just in one year. God I give you the glory.
This four bedroom bungalow was pulled up just in a month and two weeks. In the space of November 15th to this date.
Not just this, plots of lands, well furnished apartment in Enugu and Lagos all in one year. I’m that lady that found the grace of God in marriage. I declare more fruitful years and prosperity in our lives. Happy one year anniversary to us. Toast to many more achievements 🥂🍾
DesChyko: A woman, Debbie OA, has been on the spotlight for the better part of over 24 hours and counting.
This fame and recognition came after she reacted to a post made by another social media user, supposedly having pity on a lady who had to wake up at 5 AM to cook lunch which her husband takes to work. In response, Debbie said "I've always been too lazy to wake up and get his lunch ready. But the day he told me a colleague brought two spoons so he'll eat with her, was the day I set my alarm for 4:50am." as a way of enlightening fellow women that it is a call to duty.
While this attracted praise from a lot of people, and smart remarks from others who sees it as if she is defending her territory, a number of feminists came hard on her for seemingly being a slave to the husband, insisting that he should be able to make his own meals himself. This resulted in a furore on social media with Debbie smartly and consistently defending her view point, insisting that she will keep doing that, even if she gets a job (she currently isn't working), much to the admiration of most people on social media.
A social media user who went through her profile shared one post she made on social media, saying her Christmas wish was to own a fridge, and her newfound admirers, took it upon themselves to fund that dream. Her account was requested for and when she provided it, social media users took it upon themselves to send in different sums. Within 12 hours, she came online to share her account balance in shock, which according to her, is more than she had ever gotten.
dre11: Nigeria’s Financial Regulations 2009 says, “Any officer who pays public money into a private account is deemed to have done so with fraudulent intention.”
FreeStuffsNG: “I assure Ndigbo that nobody will maliciously mistreat you. All of you should cooperate with the Lagos government to move the state forward.“
Kabiyesi has spoken well. Please cooperate with the Lagos State Government, respect and live in peace with your Yoruba hosts who own the land.
I applaud everyone who has been law abiding and helping to move Lagos State forward. God bless you.
May God bless Lagos State. May God bless Nigeria for ever! Check my signature for free stuffs.
PHAYOL81: Every single day, Prof. Wole Soyinka is just being confirmed a genius for his pronouncement that “internet in NIGERIAN's space has only raised a legion of educated illiterate” those who can't relate the education they got at school with the reality in their immediate and remote environment. So sad. Imagine the rubbish this little dvllard had the effontery to put on the internet. I shudder to think of what the future holds for the leaders of tomorrow we're raising today with this kind of mindset, poor IQ, and intolerance for the acquisition of hidden knowledge.
Soyinka is a doddering, half-senile goat
You can súck his shriveled cock all you want it's not gonna bring him back to his prime
koboko69: Woman Who Bragged On Social Media About Her New Job At A Luxury Store Sacked Before First Shift
An online video of how a young woman was sacked by a renowned company in the UK company even before she began her first shift has got many people talking.
Recently employed by Harrods, the lady identified as Akorede but known on TikTok as @korrxss, disclosed that she had not yet started her first shift when she received the notice of termination from the company.
Before the viral video of her dismissal, she had gone viral with a previous video in which she talked enthusiastically about her job at the UK-based luxury department store.
In that first video, she suggested that her social class has shot up because of her new employment, stating at one point:
“I’m dealing with the richest of the rich, who are you dealing with [giggles]?”
@korrxss
Lmk if u want tips on how to get innnn 🥰🥰🤗
But in the second video, her story changes. Sounding disappointed, she told her followers on TikTok that she didn’t even do her first shift at Harrods before she got fired for going on social media.
Akorede wondered who may have sent the footage to the employer after she was fired. She gave the situation further thought and concluded that it taught her an important lesson to avoid posting pleasant news on the internet.
“I got fired! Before I even did my first shift, I got fired. Someone must have sent the video ‘cos I don’t know how they must have found it. I took that video after I attended my induction; I’ve not even attended my first shift.
“That was really sad. I learnt a really valuable lesson; don’t ever tell good news to people or the internet, keep it to yourself. Upon reflection, that was kind of a shitty video; I was just joking and was just excited,” she said in part.
@theshadeborough
Sis really got sacked by luxury store #Harrods before even starting the job, due to a bragging video posted about her new role 🫣👀
mrvitalis: Many Nigerians believe the fallacy investing in Infrastructure drives development ; this is a massive problem ,I believe this started with awolowo and his socialist and the idea stuck ,Baba was building cocoa house , nta ,Nigerian house ...big project that offers no economic benefits...how much does cocoa house generate today ? Runing government is like running a business ...GDP is likened to business revenue ( turn over ) while government revenue is business profit
None economically viable project are like beautification of your office/business premises , people can say this man has best office space , it's pleasing to the eyes but has little or no impact on your business ...tho they are important, a struggling business like don't need beautification , we need revenue and profit ....we owe too much and can't fund our business expenses so we borrow ....but instead to buy more goods we use it to beautify our office
Nigeria don't need rail lines , we dont need second Niger bridge for now !!! our profits can't even pay staffs yet we borrow to repaint our toilet n change toilet sits to world class ones ,does that make sense ?
You need loan to buy more goods to make more profit .. in government it's creation of new tax payers by providing easy and cheap access to credit in areas you have identified we have a comparative advantage
Let's take lagos to Ibadan rail for example...it cost us about 800 billion plus .... employs less than 3000 people ,still needs government funds to run ... addition to GDP almost zero ,net revenue negative
Now imagine same 800 billion given to banks at an interest rate of say 3% banks to give them out at 10% ...each business has 3 years before loan repayment starts ...
Conditions access the loan you must a Nigerian or lived here constantly for 15 years
You must be a business that has export potential ( your production cost must be less than international price )
Or
You must be a business that want to produce goods we import at a price less or equal to the products landing cost
You must be willing to employ 50 Nigerians minimum pay should be 300k monthly
You can get 2 billion to 10 billion
Let's say average of 6 billion is given out
133 businesses would be created ... employing minimum of 6666 jobs
If those business make an average profit of 2 billion yearly ...Nigerian profit tax is 20% ....that's a guaranteed 53 billion per year
Employee tax is 15% I think ...that's extra 36 billon per year ...that's 89 billion yearly ... remember after 3 years interest and loans payment starts
Say 40% if the business failed
You still get 53 billion in revenue as a government ....this can comfortably cover for the 40% failure of business n debt servicing would be an issue ...GDP would grow by over 2 billion dollars
But no we built rail
I would bee doing a series on this to defend my ideas ...Nigeria must move from this socialist mindset and be more capitalist to grow
Buhari could have used the money he and Amaechi stole (under the guise of building rail lines to Nowhere-Maradi) to build 250,000 bpd crude oil refinery. He could've built gas turbines like OBJ did. But he didn't because those projects would've been sited in the south. Nigeria needs to grow her agro-processing capacity (which would provide millions of youths with jobs on both farm and factory, instead of yahoo and begging) and also $$$ inflow from exports. We need to fix the ports to allow more people export even if it's raw agric products.
But what do these fools in Aso Rock do? Every billion dollars they see, they purportedly 'share' as 'cash palliative' (which is simply barefaced embezzlement and stealing on a gargantuan scale)
BloomingDale: Is it true West African, especially Nigerian men have inferiority complex as described by the comments I saw below?
Straight garbage
SA blacks didn't build their country, the white man did. And they still live wretched lives inspite of the sea of opportunity surrounding them they're mostly shiftless, alcoholic sex maniacs who can't even keep the attention of their own women, who keep running after Igbo men with big dícks and bigger wallets. Y'all stop being delusional and fix up, nothing special about the lot of you!
Politics › Re: President Tinubu Suspends Betta Edu, Minister Of Humanitarian Affairs by NewDea4: 2:23pm On Jan 08, 2024
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