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Wait for him to contact you.

OR

Be like this turkey, board the bus and move on.

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Brother, you seriously fúcked up.

You need to stop blaming your wife to ease the guilt inside you because you made a conscious decision to marry her and to conceive naturally.

Forgive yourselves and stop being miserable.

Advise is needed if my plan for divorce is a good one and do I stand a chance of loosing anything?

Not good. It's too early to quit and exit.
You don't need to divorce your wife to achieve your goal of having 2-3 more healthy children.

There are medical alternatives that will help you have sickle-cell free children. Just start saving.

Your unborn child has a 25% chance of turning out SS. She'll need both parents if this becomes a reality but I hope she doesn't have to suffer.

aeion:
The same child he wanted to take to a motherless home? No Judge in his/her right mind would give him any custody and besides, you cannot take a child away from his mother just like that. If you read his threads, you'll see he's not capable of raising any child, but I hope the girl is at least sane enough to do so. It's the child I pity - being brought into the world by two dysfunctional people.

Willing to give in to “false marriage” and opting for “motherless home” over the mother; maybe I'm reading too much into this but he's mentally unfit to raise anyone. You're right. He can't win.

I have till this month to make a decision cuz their parents say that if the girl gives birth in their house the child automatically becomes theirs and will never be mine

Actually, I was under the impression it was a custody battle between him and her parents not the mother as she wasn't interested in the child.

You want her to settle and make peace with her unrepentant serial cheat and abusive husband?

YOU ARE WICKED.

How do you look her in the eyes after giving her husband money and your crib to cheat inside??

That woman deserves better than a serial cheat and an abusive man. Oh, I am genuinely pleased she's leaving him soon. Just pack well abeg.

Don't allow anyone to coerce you into marriage.

That is a one way ticket to a miserable, barren and dysfunctional life with daily annoyances...

Do NOT marry her if you DON'T want to.

Your child will always be your child. Her parents do not have the legal power to nullify this claim. You can fight them in court for custody and win.

Recardo:
I've talked to them even making the family to step in but they seem stubborn and adamant to continue, they have help but not listening

Oga stop trying to dictate how they should live their lives. Aren't they adults? You cannot force them to accept your help or take your counsel.

You have no obligation towards them.

Take a back seat. Keep your “unsolicited” help.

What you feel is nothing more than ephemeral infatuation and trivial amusement towards him.

But if you can't hold back, break-up.

Have that decency at least. Don't double date.

What are your options right now?

You can confront him without any plan in mind and watch him deny it all & wriggle his way out.

OR

You get a lawyer, and together, talk to a POLICE. If you want to pin him down, you have to do this.

Know your legal options and together with the police, you can take a decision. Either to use her as a bait and catch him in the act or ganer video and pictorial evidence. Please keep us updated.

Juliusmomoh:
Why.

Because it's people like you that are NOT taking any precautions. It's your type that'll spread the virus to every nook and cranny, causing deaths!

Juliusmomoh:
Then covic 19 does not exist , if 800 people can die a day and someone there knew nobody.

SMH.


I'm not scared of Covid19 but people like you.

I am so emotional right now. This is touching!

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Ok. No need really to tell him he's dumb.

You're not intellectually compatible and there's no fixing this so you might as well just break-up.

You deserve a stimulating conversation and he deserves someone that'll not look down on him.

Point 4 and 5 made me regret reading this.

udemzyudex:
You guys are unbelievable.


Just Imagine the nonsense you're posting, which you will later call it your opinion, a useless one at that.

If she's a typical naija girl she will want him to do all the spending but she agreed to do it 50/50, is that now a crime?

That guy should be ashame of himself. Very useless guy.
I thought it's only the ladies that don't know what they really want, I never knew we have some guys with fish brain too.

It's obvious you're brain dead.
I'll let you off for having comprehension issues.

CsRockefeller:
Neither is it the first solution to every marital issue.

When it comes to cheating, IT IS.

But what do I know, after all... Some of you have been brainwashed to totally condone cheating.

themaestro08:
Have you ever seen someone who's sexual likes and preferences were changed?

Its incredibly hard, its something beyond your control. Even if the person change publicly he will definitely digress behind the scenes so forget matter.

But this isn't a battle about sexual preferences.
At best, maybe addiction.

You underestimate the change knowledge can trigger in an individual. Her recklessly is simply due to ignorance. Besides, giving up is too easy.

CsRockefeller:
You people here just love recommending divorce to every marital issue like it's one grocery you get off the shelf in a supermarket.

Life isn't complicated. Divorce is a choice.

TheCongo2:
OP, please ignore the bolded part

Now she wouldn't miss it.
Thank you for making it embloden!

Janelle08:
I get your point, but that is not the case here. No account was hacked. Ok, so how do you explain unplugging his phone from charging and hiding it in a stack of clothes before going for sports? How do you explain the call history? And exchanging numbers with women online?

Now that you've confirmed it's your story, and its genuine, please ignore my previous comments.

Sorry. I was only being sarcastic.

Well, you are right. It's NOT a case of hacking.
Behind all the religious facade is an ugly cheat and the only gift he should be getting is divorce.

Pocket your money deeply and work towards presenting those papers for him to sign on his birthday. It's not worth it giving him a chance.

Janelle08:
Hacked? Even WhatsApp and SMS? No, I don't think so. The religious front is a facade.

But it's very possible. Especially if he's using the same phone number for his WhatsApp account and Facebook. Is that the case here?

An over religious person cheating?? It can't be.

Maybe his account was hacked.
She should go ahead and give him the money.

Your vulnerability as a woman is the cause of their concern. Living alone, isolated, as a lady makes you stand out as a target to criminals.

But strangers aren't really a threat to you.
It's your associates and neighborhood.

So be acquainted with others to have your back.
Especially in terms of emergency.

We all have a responsibility towards building a sane society. As her employer, don't turn a blind eye to her promiscuous lifestyle. She's just 21.

As such, sacking her wouldn't solve anything.
What she badly need right now is sex education.

Your wife can take that responsibility.

It's a step forward if she learns from a woman about the dangers of promiscuity & unprotected sex. Please do that for the sake of humanity.

Loooooooogstory:
What if he was honestly playing with his kid sis? I watched the video and I see women who kiss kids like this too...
...
Why haven't they been arrested for such?

What if?
Guy, that video promotes abuse against minors.

Are you seriously trying to defend a paedophile?

Manipulation and deceitfulness is evil.
But... fúck it.

A taste of their own medicine??
No gender have the monopoly of eating money.

He did an evil thing and he got away with it!
But he's a PART of the society now.

Let's not push him away for trying to turn away from his past: less he crawls back into his shell unacceptable & ready to commit more crimes.

You are in a relationship... but you feel “single” well isn't it obvious he's taking you for granted??

My advise to you is to make yourself scarce.
Make him miss you. And he'll appreciate you.

This is because most people believe that men can't be rape. They will tell you “he was hard” or “he enjoyed it” so they don't acknowledge it.

Shít. Can we say he failed as a father?
Afterall, racism begins at homes.

Sha, thunder fire any tribalist and any religious bigot that'll jump and masturbate on this thread.

Have you notify the police? If no, please do.
Make use of other social media platforms too.

And what about his friends?
I believe someone knows something.

It's all about upbringing and core principles.

Gay or not; if you “brainwash” your daughter into believing that her life revolves around men as a woman, she'll chase after them for acceptance.

“Real men don't rape”

Well, who are those men raping women then?

Fake men or goats??

It’s not helpful to pretend rapists are subhuman. We should stop selling this idea please.