Romantic my foot. This is undiluted stupidity.

I just do not understand the rationale behind kneeling & begging a woman to be your liability.

Why not? It worked for the targaryens.
Yes. Let's keep the insanity in one family.

She's the one being selfish. Not you.
Man, I wish Nigerians have your mind-set.
We'd be having a very contented nation.

With enough resources for everyone.
But alas that's not it at.

This country and the world is overpopulated.
Yes. One less human will make things better.

Married men cheat 70% of the time because of sex deprivation. So they don't have a choice but to venture outside for satisfaction.

This is why the sexual compatibility should not be undermine or taken for granted when dating.

You literally gave him a free pass to cheat.
Just know that it'll end in hot premium tears.

In the first place, you made no plan or dedicated any fund to raising a child. You're irresponsible.

Don't shy away from ya responsibility by hiding behind her jobless status. Go out & hustle man.

That didn't matter when you were nacking raw.

bukatyne:


Very important.

Yes. It is.

I've seen awful things happen to women who marry into families they aren't welcome at all.

Do you understand what is at risk for a woman to marry into a family that she is not wanted??

I don't think you do at all man.
Because you are making it all about YOU.

People will choose sides so it's not longer about your mum but your siblings & relatives inclusive.

You'll have to literally fight them in the future.
So please understand what you're getting into.

If you CAN'T shield her from all this, QUIT.

A romantic relationship is just an advance form of ‘friendship’ with physical intimacy as a perk.

So It's not useless.

MiaB:
I blame the husband for this disrespect

I blame the wife for tolerating his disrespect.

Very irrational and shallow post.
Not convincing at all.

Infact, I'm angry. OP you're mad.
So I should avoid big butt & go for slipper butt?

This is exactly why I am strongly against broke men marrying. It's always a one way ticket to a miserable life. Love flys away come hardship.

OP, how certain are you that you're the father of that child?? You need to save up for a DNA test.

There's a lot here to believe you're not.
Anyway, I honestly sympathize with you man.

Moving forward, you need to focus on yourself. Hustle hard. Be selfish and build yourself up.

She's too young man. Leave that child alone.

A relationship with her is very inappropriate.
Let her face her studies abeg.

Don't fall into that category of old men who prey on young innocent girls & derail their education.

lessonlearned00:

If reverse was to be the case, i don't think I'll forgive her bro, but even if i do it won't be easy. She let me off the hook too easy and i wont take it for granted.

This sums it all man. Your wife surely loves you dearly to forgive your betrayal. It's not that easy.

Yes please, don't take her for granted.
Be transparent in your doings.

Also sleep with one eye open at all times.

And how exactly can he stop her??
Your brother should take his L and move on.

@Lessonleàrned00

If your wife was the one with the love child and the one who cheated with her ex, would you've forgiven her? Personally, I can never accept her.

It'll end in tears for you.
Never date a woman with a personal vendetta.

This is classical betrayal.

Dating a friend's ex is considered a sacred ethic man. Even with a blessing or a permission from her ex, you as a bro, should dare not approach.

Treat her like a radioactive city & stay far away.

This is not a healthy relationship but a poverty alleviation program. Bro, you need to reconsider.

Don't ignore this red flag. Becoming an in-law to this kind of entitled mentality is financial suicide.

Niniolahabby:
Am nt ok tolerating him,i was scared of wat will pple say but right now i dont care anymore,i keep forgiving him and hes taking me for granted because he knows i will always forgive.he even tank me for been so patient or stupid for 5yrs .

Good to know you've had enough.
People like him will never ever change.

Forget about what people will think.
Divorce him abeg.

If you as a human being can stay faithful to him then what's his excuse? Time to end his 5 years of serving you misery. It's never to late to leave.

Better to be alone than to be miserable.
And married to the wrong person.

Niniolahabby:
I have several evident if it for divorce oo,domestic violent pics medical report sef ,marriage na scam sha.

Domestic violence too??
You've several evidence & you're still with him?

Why woman? Why??


Yes. What you're into is scam. Not marriage.
And seems like you're okay tolerating the scam.

Use the video as evidence and seek for divorce.

It's really important if your brother acknowledge his gambling and womanizing habit a problem.

Only then can he agree to face it & accept help.
So are you guys on the same page??

Man, that's a 9yrs gap. It's not a brilliant idea!

Strongly suggest you abort mission. Or you'll be drag into a race of time with her to battle libido, fertility issues, incompatibility, and leadership.

She's respectful?? That's not enough.
There are lots of respectful younger women.

Be careful not to ensared yourself to misery.

How long do you plan on dating yourself?

I forget things I read a month before an exam.
Does it mean I don't give a fúck & I want to fail?

Obviously NOT.

The brain is wired to forget information that has not been reinforced via repetition or associated with strong memories. This is basic physiology.

I can see you're ready to accept the blame.

You losing weight & lighting up, can't stop your hubby from cheating. If he wants to... he'll do it.

Concerning alimony; On what ground is your mum going to demand for financial settlement?

Do they operate any joint account??
Is she a full time housewife with no income??
And did she contributed to his wealth??

If your answers are NO. Just forget about it.
I don't see how she'll get any benefit.

Nothing goes for free. You can help someone and It's okay to demand for something in return.

It's WRONG though to take advantage of them.

This however is nothing but prostitution.
No matter how you see it; it's money for sex.

Why pay when it's pleasurable to both parties??

There's a thing call selective amnesia in which the sufferer loses certain parts of their memory.

OP, you just need a very good slap to trigger it.

I can guarantee you'll forget about that leech.

It's your life.
Why should other people dictate how you live?

Don't be miserable just to make others happy.

Besides, you'll probably make a bad leader.
Because your ideals and beliefs are against it.

Karma? No. Paternity fraud exists and persists because married women decide to spread their legs and cheat. It's never a consequences of a cheating married man like you gleefully portray.