How do i cope with a proud girlfriend
she always believe shes right
shes unapologetic even though shes wrong

All these are red flags. Abandon mission.

Don't even try coping. Once you can't dominate the relationship as man, just quit. Don't stress.

A proud lady will never admire and respect you.
Someone that cannot apologize is TOXIC.

if you cope, you'll be relegated to a simp.

blogger10:


If you're held at gunpoint by armed men... "Money or your life," I hope you will choose to react irrationally.

Stupid analogy.
Don't go around comparing “robbery” to rape.

First of all, I can't believe I have such an animal on my contact list. How can you hate rape and try to justify it at the same time!!!!

He's not an animal. He's a man.

The sooner you accept the capabilities of what a man can do, the safer you'll be. See him as a man and nothing else. Don't pretend abeg.

I hope you will keep your emotions in check and make a rational decision not to fight if a gay guy tries raping your anus after overpowering you.

Amazinggirl95:
we are looking for solutions because the above u stated is not available..so what the solution now..your there busy talking about the obvious problem..thus going round circles..smh,I wake pass sha

So both mother and daughter names & photos are unavailable for upload? You're a comedian.

SirWhiteFish:
do you really think it's a good idea to pull a plug?

YES.

It's always a good idea to do the right thing.

No names.
No pictures.
Just a vague “third-party” narration.

Talking about fetching water with a basket.
Thread should be in the comedy section.

Janeberryy:


I don't want him to leave first, I can't take it. What if he won't wait till I'm free. I'm feeling like the earlier the better for my heart. Thank you anyway, will think about it.

It's not a race.
It doesn't matter who “walks” away first.

The PAIN is the same as long as you care.

Trying to seek comfort by convincing yourself that you made the choice to quit when clearly your hands were tied is delusional. Seek HELP.

Lol. Don't remove yourself from the picture.

Face your fears. Don't chicken out like that.
He'll only quit if you stop trying and give up.

The fact that you're not free around him means you're not comfortable. That's okay. Stop being hard on yourself. With time, you'll be “free”.

I suggest you only visit places with intention to have fun. Like parks, cinemas, art galleries etc.

lightangel65i:


Exactly he is indirectly saying its not a crime to rape women as far as you make them get wet or orgasm. Cause if they didn't consent they wont get aroused

There's no hope for that guy.
It's impossible to convince him to think.

Enwhen:


U don't even have a brain...which stupid physiology stronger than ur feelings...you don't want it , but your stupid John T , arise to the situation and u are blaming Physiology, banza

Shit. You are ignorant.

Does your “morning” erections implies you want to have sex?? Don't you know what consent is??

You are a dumbàss nincompoop.

As a man, can you control your erection?
Don't you know it's very possible for a female rape victim to get wet & even achieve orgasm?

saphireadoo:
I appreciate every one who has contributed to this my post.I cant cope with another woman in my home, my husband finances not enough to cater for two families.Honestly speaking men can pretend to death, he has not given me any reason to suspect him. It is true that his family put pressure on him to marry their tribe, his uncle confirmed that to me but if he cant speak for me before his family, how can he defend me and my baby, this is very worrisome. His family are pretenders, they have eaten so much from me and pretended to love me all this while.If he doesnt solve his problem with that village girl, it wont work. I want to hear other people opinion to be sure that iam not over reacting.I have read through all your advise, i appreciate

You are not overreacting. Pull the plug.
Nevertheless, I hope people can convince you.

LALASTICLALA

A typical case of friendzone. Init?

Enwhen:



Calm down...Dem still dey nack themselves ...the boy enjoy am that time ...for boys it can't be rape because the burantachi must stand up before any reasonable thing can happen but for girls , Na to tear the thing even in dry state, making it painful without consent and it's a rape , even if it's ur babe it can be rape , cos of she is not in the mode , it will be painful ...but that can't be said for guys , cos the John Thomas must always stand up ...nothing like rape for guys abeg

How is it NOT rape for boys?
You have a BRAIN but it's very useless to you.

ERECTION doesn't mean consent.
It's doesn't implies a man want to have sex.

This is basic human physiology.

Here is a man that thinks & loves with his díck.

You'll lose them both. You don't deserve anyone.

You shouldn't be desperate for marriage.
Having such “mindset” is a recipe for disaster.

The truth is marriage wouldn't complete you.
It is neither the key to sanity nor peace of mind.

So stay put wherever you are and get yourself busy. To combat loneliness, try and socialize.

You are the one dating and fucking her; but you expect US to know if she is sending nudes??

You are a threat to her comfort. I am pretty sure because of your presence, “rationing” is now in the equation; less things and privacy for her.

If you accepted the money despite knowing it was stolen, then you're an accomplice & guilty.

Whatever the case is, DON'T marry her.

Marriage shouldn't be an obligation or a form of blackmail. A union bonded by thievery, not love, will only lead to choas & we've enough of that!!

No bride price has been paid on this village girl who has a child for my husband but the lady is living with his family in the village. My husband said he wants to collect the child, he is not interested in marrying the girl.

You don't need advice because you've made a decision already. You just want assurance from strangers that your “wifey” status isn't threaten.

Well, stop living in delusion.
You're now in a polygamous marriage.

That village girl will give birth again and again. She has been accepted by his family while you are an outcast. What more, the cloud of betrayal will hover over your union; hate will replace love.

Best decision is to quit. But I wish you the best.

This life is just funny. Really.

Cooking meals will only get you to his stomach.
And not his HEART.

The truth is; you CAN'T make him love you but you can ignite his romantic interest. So confess.

If you can't tell him how you feel, then it's better you accept and get comfortable in friend—zone.

This isn't love. It's ABUSE.

What I find puzzling is you are sane enough to know he's abusing you, so why can't you quit??

Is it the sex, money, or promise of marriage??
Whatever it is, it'll end in premium tears.

Flee while your neurons are still working.

Ishilove:
The bethroted wears the ring, not the 'bethrotee'

But it's just a tradition; a borrowed one.
We shouldn't define a limit to it.

It's up to you to decide if you want to represent your emotional commitment to her with a ring.

Marriage transcends this though.

Shit. You guys are chatting like cretins.

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Juliusdaughter:

I have been in this situation before. The guy lied to me about how his mum wont allow him marry from my town, only to see on social media that he got married to 'a friend' he told me about, this friend also happens to be the lady he told me about when I asked about his relationship status.
I'm just trying to be careful.

Cutting off communication is just unfair.
If you are afraid to trust him; it's time to let go.

But... you're hesitating.
So talk to him. Let him know your position.

While you can't make him “stop” talking to his ex, you can walk from all this stress and worry.

Sorry about your past.

I recently got to find out he is still talking to the lady and because of that I have not been in talking terms with him.

So you want to end things or what??
Shit. Your are definitely insecure & clinging.

Eventhough he's in a relationship with you, he is still his own person. He should be able to talk to his ex or anyone he want as long as he is being honest about it. Or is there something extra??

Ikennablue:
the typo is not the problem, do u mean, when an animal or anything is undergoing digestion, it becomes toxic?? Like a vomited food??

The antelope's proteins are already denatured and bacteria infested. Consuming it definitely will be toxic to human. The snake itself isn't.

Ikennablue:
please what do you mean by undoing digestion? Please explain to me in English

Undergoing. A typo bro.

Shìt. But this is daylight robbery & exploitation.

It's NOT your obligation to take care of him.

Your “qualifications” got you the job.
He wasn't the one that employed you.
Even if he did; it's your deserved pay.

You shouldn't feel guilty. You have no reason to.

made4naijamusic:
Let there be peace. They should allow the dead to rest in peace.Too many talks can never bring him back.

Well “too many talks” can bring about a positive change in the right direction and only then can the dead rest in peace. They shouldn't be silent.

Abeg, let them talk for the voiceless.