I have never been at the receiving end of a bad treatment from my uncles or aunts. I've lots of them, and yes, I've stayed with some for years.

Why did all of them treat me good??

Well, I can tell you it's not about my character or personality. I believe it's because they genuinely love my parents so that reflected towards me.

So IMO, how well your 2nd degree relatives treat you is immensely influenced by your parent's personal relationship with them as siblings.

A lady that's barely tolerating you.
Yet you want to continue this facade??

Dump her man. Don't be a pity àss simp.

Also there's no need confronting her. Be brutal and cut off contact. Take her out one last time and have fun and then break off immediately.

The emotional and nurturing commitment of a woman trumps that of a man... So I'll always go for a female nanny. Unless I don't have a choice.

If my wife suggests a male nanny, I'll consider.
Though I can only hire a vetted, referred person.

So why not?

HomerTimpson:
I can bend for messi but lingard ? Don't tell me its jesse bro

There's only one Lingard considered a genius.
It's Jesse Bro. Yes. Jesse Lingard.

pulsa:

I understand you now, yeah he is, and in the same sense Ozil is also a genius dude currently is the highest earning player in Arsenal with nothing to show for it lol.
The dude in your display picture is probably more of a genius than all those people you listed combined, the smartest guy in the whole damn series, always cool to meet a Naruto fan out in the wild. We are not so much in this country.

Hehe. No argument here.
Ozil is a genius amongst other geniuses.

Yes it's rare! We're a dying specie, lol.
So cool to meet you man.

It's normal.
That's an uncontrollable reaction.
Dude has a healthy neuronal system.

pulsa:

Lingard? How come I still understand Messi being a football genius but lingard lol no way.

If you know how much they pay Lingard to play rubbish, bro you'll not debate this. He's a genius.

If all these are true, then you simply have a high IQ. That explains why you are a very fast learner.

It's an innate quality. You were born with it.

Rare gems and geniuses, are next level shít and they “identify” themselves with a particular field.

Mozart, Newton, Messi, Einstein, Lingard etc.

You dear, didn't identify yourself with any.
If anything, you claim to be overall good.

Conclusion: You are smart woman.

There is nothing wrong in dating two people at the same time especially if you are a 35yrs old woman; who is desperate enough to date her grandfather, get pregnant for him and abort.

Aírforce1 drops another album. Congrats Bro.

The competition for front—page has gotten so fierce, you’ll do yourself a favor if you learn how to write compelling stories. Learn the craft.

This story lacks suspense and a plot.
You'll not make it as a writer, OP.

Carchoice:
how you chose to live your life is your choice. I will get married and do as I like. It’s my choice.

Nah. You'll propably die single.

Carchoice:
I support you 100 percent.

I’m still trying to picture myself in marriage and not cheating. It’s impossible. Me wey like yansh?


Women enjoys all the shakara and attention all through they youthful years but wants the man to hide his prick because of marriage. That prick will do wonders o. Even after marriage it will not rest.

Life is easy.
Marriage isn't for everyone. It's a choice.

If you can't adhere to the faithfulness of marriage then stay single and keep having fun with your community prick. It's a very simple logic oga.

What an achievement.
I hope you get nominated for the Nobel prize.

Rozz:
You will agree with me that men leech more these days in the name of "what are you bringing to the table "not more a woman's thing.

No. I don't agree.

Men are only waking up after realizing women have been doing nothing but leeching on them.

We ask “what are you bringing to the table? to verify that she is capable woman & not a leech.

Deltayankeeboi:


Really? what of your dad? has he gone into extinction? [s]If he is still around today, then he must be a fake ass man, wife beater and cheat because according to you, real men no longer exist today.[/s]

Bro, the latter part of your post is unnecessary.
You don't need it to counter her shaming tactic.

We all know they only use the term ‘real men’ when it's beneficial to women. Don't fall for it.

Rozz:
Leeches everywhere disguised as men.

How ironic that this is coming from a woman.

She's worse than those rapist.
Her punishment should be threefold.

On Tuesday, however, some policemen allegedly acting on the instruction of the Oliver Twist crooner detained Seyitan for over 24 hours and intimidated her, making her delete all chats, social media posts and other vital information from her phone.

An act of desperation.
Only a GUILTY person would do this.

He's not even trying to prove his innocence.

Are you really serious about her?
If you don't see a future with her, break it off.

Because it'll end in premium tears.

You'll lose her, your bestfriend and others.
Your mutual friends will have to choose sides.

Anyway, you've to make a choice now;
Your life time bestfriend or a potential mate?

For you to lie about your age, it's clearly obvious that you lack the emotional maturity she seeks.

And the longer you wait, the worse it'll get.

So tell her.
If she wants to date you, AGE wouldn't matter.

You are cheating on the first girl.

It looks like you've made a choice.
So break up with her already.

Why because if you valued what you have with her, you'd NEVER risk it for anyone. But since you're willing to risk it, means you feel nothing.

Sixfeetbelle:


And that's the issue, isn't it?

How safe is prolonged use of contraceptives for a woman who plans to have kids in the future?

How safe? Not encouraging.

Especially for hormonal contraceptives which is by far the commonest used by most women.

missjo:

This is kind of the point tho.
I can't comprehend any way I could possibly get pregnant against my own wishes. I mean, it's my uterus right?

That's an odd thing to type.

Lol. It's your uterus.

Well, I hope your perceived self-efficacy to avoid unwanted pregnancy and to use contraceptives doesn't come back to bite you. Have a nice day.

missjo:

Lol, what do you mean by coercion and manipulation and how exactly does it impact my decision to not get pregnant when I don't want to?

Your partner coercing you into having coitus & birth control failing (yes, it's not 100% effective).

You getting pregnant because your SO wouldn't marry you if you don't, thus your relationship is on the line and you're manipulated to give in.

Just trying to say, there are external factors that can impact your decision against your wishes.

missjo:
This is dependent on the society a woman lives in.
I believe single women in Nigeria are too culturally restricted when it comes to the issue of sex, this can make them feel embarrassed if they need to walk into pharmacies or see doctors to get birth control options.

I've been getting access to birth control since I turned 21. Waking into any pharmacy here for these things is quite normal and no one looks at you funny. Bought male condoms sometimes as well, to ensure he does not come with an excuse of not having one. Getting pregnant or not getting pregnant is my decision.

Not entirely true.
Not when coercion and manipulation exists.

Yes.

Let's applaud them for doing the right thing.

Cuties. I love the black one.

Lies. You don't feel any pity for him.

You're nothing but a useless díldo that a woman is using to scratch her vagina so how can you??

I don't understand how you can comfortably be fúcking someone's fiancee. You are shameless.

Abort mission.
Don't be a maga.

She'll ruin you and run you dry.

ModestGal:

I know the tribe of your sister. They are good in using family members like slaves, let me just not mention it so they won't say I'm a tribalist.

But this particular tribe is very good at this thing, my sister friend for example, this lady is very wicked that she would tell the girl living with her to mop floor with rag, she said its neater than using mop. And the most annoying is that when the family members of this girl visit, they would still be calling the girl lazy (I mean her mother), this girl is almost depressed, she's a little girl in JSS3, she can cook food wey I no sabi cook. She looks very dull, it makes me hater her mum and a my sis friend shes living with because they are both wicked idiot practising child abuse.

Back to your matter, just have some patience ehn, the one you can do, do it, the one you cannot do, leave it. Don't get angry with your sister, just leave her to be angry, you can also say sorry and still not do the work she wants you to do. Thats how to live with those kind of people, and make sure you demand money very well from her, and if she no give you, report her to your mother. When you are through with service, commot her house. She no get option, you be her sister whither she likes it or not, and you can't have her in Abuja and move somewhere not convenient for you.

Tell her this, ''go and tell our mother to rewind time and not give birth to me to be your sister, but this one that I'm your sister, you will have to take care of me whether you like it or not''.

Now, play victim, always remind her of people with sisters that are handicapped but taking care of them, you can even play movies with such occurrences and grumble that, ''shebi na one sister be this''
Start playing baby, you can even form that you are sick, chronic one, dey vomit, and if your mother ask you, tell her that you have depression because of what you are going through in your sisters house.

Tribalism, emotional blackmail and extortion.
All in one post.

You're not helping anyone with this balderdash.

OP, don't blackmail or extort money from her.
Yes your sister is taking advantage of you.
But don't be like her.

I suggest you move back to your parent's house.
You can accomplish your goals there.