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saphireadoo:
I appreciate every one who has contributed to this my post.I cant cope with another woman in my home, my husband finances not enough to cater for two families.Honestly speaking men can pretend to death, he has not given me any reason to suspect him. It is true that his family put pressure on him to marry their tribe, his uncle confirmed that to me but if he cant speak for me before his family, how can he defend me and my baby, this is very worrisome. His family are pretenders, they have eaten so much from me and pretended to love me all this while.If he doesnt solve his problem with that village girl, it wont work. I want to hear other people opinion to be sure that iam not over reacting.I have read through all your advise, i appreciate

You are not overreacting. Pull the plug.
Nevertheless, I hope people can convince you.

LALASTICLALA

A typical case of friendzone. Init?

Enwhen:
Calm down...Dem still dey nack themselves ...the boy enjoy am that time ...for boys it can't be rape because the burantachi must stand up before any reasonable thing can happen but for girls , Na to tear the thing even in dry state, making it painful without consent and it's a rape , even if it's ur babe it can be rape , cos of she is not in the mode , it will be painful ...but that can't be said for guys , cos the John Thomas must always stand up ...nothing like rape for guys abeg

How is it NOT rape for boys?
You have a BRAIN but it's very useless to you.

ERECTION doesn't mean consent.
It's doesn't implies a man want to have sex.

This is basic human physiology.

Here is a man that thinks & loves with his díck.

You'll lose them both. You don't deserve anyone.

You shouldn't be desperate for marriage.
Having such “mindset” is a recipe for disaster.

The truth is marriage wouldn't complete you.
It is neither the key to sanity nor peace of mind.

So stay put wherever you are and get yourself busy. To combat loneliness, try and socialize.

You are the one dating and fucking her; but you expect US to know if she is sending nudes??

You are a threat to her comfort. I am pretty sure because of your presence, “rationing” is now in the equation; less things and privacy for her.

If you accepted the money despite knowing it was stolen, then you're an accomplice & guilty.

Whatever the case is, DON'T marry her.

Marriage shouldn't be an obligation or a form of blackmail. A union bonded by thievery, not love, will only lead to choas & we've enough of that!!

No bride price has been paid on this village girl who has a child for my husband but the lady is living with his family in the village. My husband said he wants to collect the child, he is not interested in marrying the girl.

You don't need advice because you've made a decision already. You just want assurance from strangers that your “wifey” status isn't threaten.

Well, stop living in delusion.
You're now in a polygamous marriage.

That village girl will give birth again and again. She has been accepted by his family while you are an outcast. What more, the cloud of betrayal will hover over your union; hate will replace love.

Best decision is to quit. But I wish you the best.

This life is just funny. Really.

Cooking meals will only get you to his stomach.
And not his HEART.

The truth is; you CAN'T make him love you but you can ignite his romantic interest. So confess.

If you can't tell him how you feel, then it's better you accept and get comfortable in friend—zone.

This isn't love. It's ABUSE.

What I find puzzling is you are sane enough to know he's abusing you, so why can't you quit??

Is it the sex, money, or promise of marriage??
Whatever it is, it'll end in premium tears.

Flee while your neurons are still working.

Ishilove:
The bethroted wears the ring, not the 'bethrotee'

But it's just a tradition; a borrowed one.
We shouldn't define a limit to it.

It's up to you to decide if you want to represent your emotional commitment to her with a ring.

Marriage transcends this though.

Shit. You guys are chatting like cretins.

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Juliusdaughter:
I have been in this situation before. The guy lied to me about how his mum wont allow him marry from my town, only to see on social media that he got married to 'a friend' he told me about, this friend also happens to be the lady he told me about when I asked about his relationship status.
I'm just trying to be careful.

Cutting off communication is just unfair.
If you are afraid to trust him; it's time to let go.

But... you're hesitating.
So talk to him. Let him know your position.

While you can't make him “stop” talking to his ex, you can walk from all this stress and worry.

Sorry about your past.

I recently got to find out he is still talking to the lady and because of that I have not been in talking terms with him.

So you want to end things or what??
Shit. Your are definitely insecure & clinging.

Eventhough he's in a relationship with you, he is still his own person. He should be able to talk to his ex or anyone he want as long as he is being honest about it. Or is there something extra??

Ikennablue:
the typo is not the problem, do u mean, when an animal or anything is undergoing digestion, it becomes toxic?? Like a vomited food??

The antelope's proteins are already denatured and bacteria infested. Consuming it definitely will be toxic to human. The snake itself isn't.

Ikennablue:
please what do you mean by undoing digestion? Please explain to me in English

Undergoing. A typo bro.

Shìt. But this is daylight robbery & exploitation.

It's NOT your obligation to take care of him.

Your “qualifications” got you the job.
He wasn't the one that employed you.
Even if he did; it's your deserved pay.

You shouldn't feel guilty. You have no reason to.

made4naijamusic:
Let there be peace. They should allow the dead to rest in peace.Too many talks can never bring him back.

Well “too many talks” can bring about a positive change in the right direction and only then can the dead rest in peace. They shouldn't be silent.

Abeg, let them talk for the voiceless.

For better or worse??

You didn't allow the snake to eat the antelope & now you're going to eat both the snake and the antelope... How wicked can man be?

The spirit of that snake will not rest in your belly.

Double meat??

That antelope is not safe for consumption Bro. It has already started under-going digestion. If you eat it; you can eat a snake regurgitated vermin.

Anytime she's hórny. Give her a good spanking.

Impotence??

She wanted someone to dominate her world. All women want that in a man & your cousin failed.

This lady you're dying for is giving her attention to some other guy. You're wasting valuable time
trying to make her like you. Find someone else.

Someone that's chatting with you as if she's doing you a favour or it's a privilege. Abeg, quit.

You want your pregnant wife to take care of the domestic chores you yourself find exhausting?

Abeg. Just keep up the good work.
Or get a house help to ease the workload.

Call him and congratulate him.
Whether he likes it or not, it's his grandchild.

SweetCunt97:
If most men are dedicated and focused like you in Nigeria, we'll have very few broke men actually. So many prefer to put the cart before the horse and end up struggling.

Most women*
Few broke women*

HeavenlyCherub:
If you don’t mind me asking. Are you male or female?

You would want your spouse to give you their paycheck monthly or you will be the one to give yours?

I'll be the one to give my paychecks if required.

Ladies and gents, I am here to support option 3.

To avoid stories that touch & shedding of tears, I believe operating seperate account is the best.

Your money is yours and my money is mine.

So Corona is only infectious on weekends?

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