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[quote author=alezzy13 post=59797981]In most communities, if they can prove that the wife is to blame then they can make a strong case for her to be ostracized or even punished while they claim all the property.

It becomes worse if the man happens to be most well-to-do amuote]


Not most communities please, you can say in some specific parts of Nigeria , where I come from widows and their children are hardly harrased and besides the cultures where this is prevalent they really don't need to have any proof against the wife, its like men don't dont die natural deaths anymore the wives must have killed them. Even if it was the mans family member that killed him, they will still say its the wife.

I don't even understand how some cultures give so much power to evil uncles


All these gra gra is for the father's properties.

parrotchick:
myvfirst thought was yahoo+ until I read he returned half the money.... then it occurred to me this one is a strategy worthy of a 007 movie. I dont believe one bit the guys intentions are pure, nah

I was also trying to read with an open mind but when I read that returned half of the money part, I just laughed so hard, see format oo.

Very hilarious article.

This other statement had me in stitches
“After seeing how squeaky-clean his social media was, he felt he was genuine.

How much are you earning and what about your hubby?

somehow:
What you are saying is just your own opinion if you can't point out where the bible called marrying more than one wife a sin.

All the major men in the bible that the bible stories center around married multiple women, some were even called the wisest on earth, some called father of faith etc.

Until you can show me where its a sin to marry multiple women, I say your comments remain your option based on your own ideas.

Never mind since you called it my opinion, you are entitled to yours.

But its not my opinion or idea anyway.

somehow:
After all these, you failed to show me where in the bible its forbidden to marry more than one wife!

I am waiting for where the bible called marrying more than one wife a sin.

Marrying another wife is adultery whether you are still living with the first wife or you divorce her its still adultery.

Those verses are explanatory, though they tilt more towards divorce.

Read deeply and see the biblical stance on marrying two wives.

EasyWork001:
Yoruba women are loud, brash and violent. She was ready to kill the boy that day

Really? Were you there or did anything from the post you read suggested she beat up the baby?


How the boy obtained the multiple injury is shady, who will beat up a baby to have those kind of terrible injuries, he most likely had a very serious in-house accident.

Not treating the boy properly seems to be the issue but the story sounds somehow, a child with that level of injuries ignored by the mother and aunt?

somehow:
Where can I see this in the bible?

1 Corinthians 7:39King James Version (KJV)

39 The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.




Romans 7 1-3 King James Version (KJV)

7 Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them that know the law,) how that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he liveth?

2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.

3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.


Mark 10:2-12

2 Some Pharisees came and tested him by asking, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?” 3 “What did Moses command you?” he replied. 4 They said, “Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce and send her away.” 5 “It was because your hearts were hard that Moses wrote you this law,” Jesus replied. 6 “But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’

7 ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, 8 and the two will become one flesh.’So they are no longer two, but one flesh.

9 Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” 10 When they were in the house again, the disciples asked Jesus about this.

11 He answered, “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her. 12 And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery.”



1 Corinthians 7:11-13

11 But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.

It can be a long process

Get an affidavit at high court signed by commissioner of oaths, you may ask a lawyer to prepare the format for you, with a passport at the top right corner ,walk in to Ikeja high court ask for commissioner of oaths office its 500naira they will collect to stamp and put their seal.

Publish in the newspaper, you will need the marriage cert, and / or the affidavit its about 3-5k depending on newspaper.

Changing Bvn /bank details, if she's done NIMC and has the slip she can modify its 500naira, take to the nearest NIMC center for modification you will pay 500naira via remitta for modification present your documents (affidavit, newspaper and slip bearing your former name, they insisted on high court affidavit not all these magistrate stuffs) you update your details, they may tell you to come back in some weeks time. (NIMC seems to be the cheapest and easiest of what obanks are now requiring for ID card).

If she has not registered for NIMC slip before she will just register fresh with her new name.

Proceed to bank with all your docs, wedding cert, newspaper, and your NIMC slip (new name)containing NIN number and they willl work on changing your details. I know gtb accepts NIMC slip now .

Inform your workplace, school (if still in school) and present the documents.

As for all documents (certs etc etc)obtained before the change of name they remain valid. So they say you just present your change of name affidavit with the cert bearing old name.

The story sounds somehow, a mother wouldn't hurt her 13month child on purpose I think. The boy was practically still a baby.

Those injuries sound too critical not to have been noticed by the mum. Will a mum notice a head swelling on a baby and keep quiet?

Goldmaxx:
its 4, 3:55 and 4 hrs respectively

So I actually spent almost 12hours on one film lool.

Still one of the best movies I have seen. Its been a long time anyway, Wouldn't mind to rewatch it though.

Can't believe I watched the 3 parts of this movie in one day,almost 9 hours.

Wait oo

A Dr earning 400k in a public university its like that poster doesn't know they do have ranks sha..

Abeg its too early to laugh.

It seems people feel lecturers earn that much , in real sense they don't.

@ topic salaries alone of a lot of lecturers can't fund a child in a lot of private universities, what helps is side businesses, joint effort by parents, and very importantly the cooperative associations that exist in universities, it even helps non academic staff that's how a lot of university workers build houses even the clerks, drivers and co.

Cooperatives help those people a lot.

oduamine:
The Mum and his Uncle really tried but later told me there is little they can do about it. I don't know if he is married now yes he accepted the pregnancy when I even put his name on her birth certificate.
People that try to him he will stop talking to them

Na wa, I just can't wrap my head around it.

I think you should try baby12 suggestion.

sirp2007:
my grouse wth tis is hw 4m at 15% will amt to 1.5m. l I hv damaged 2 calculators already trying 2 figure hw they did d calculation

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My belle oo

This one is more than scam, they took advantage of the gullibility of people.

Lool, who gets 1.5m in 60days on 4m nawa. Maybe she doesn't know much about financial investment.

By the way churches should be careful who and what they allow to come to their altar. I really don't fancy it when churches begin to allow investment firms, insurance companies to come inside the church and talk about what they have to offer, as good as it sounds it brings disrepute to the church when things go wrong.

Abeg which one is suissie mfb.

The CEOs title is pastor why did she hide the name nau.

oduamine:
Updates on my daughter's Visa application.
t tried contacting the father of my child via email and he responded by saying he has written to the embassy not to allow me take the child.T his is a child that he has never spent on and the well keep of the child is on me please I need a good advice on what to do now because both parents are not based in Nigeria but the child has been living with my parents for almost 4 years now. Thank you all.

Some men sha,
Upkeep for the child you don't pay
Let the child go and meet the mum abroad you won't allow.


Can you contact his family members, parents to talk to him or something.
The child has been taken care of by you and your parents, he never paid upkeep for the child so why is he preventing you from taking him outside the country?

Is he married now? Did he not accept the pregnancy initially?

If you can get someone to talk to him it will be good.

It is a sin

Palmwine is alcoholic, even the so called fresh palm wine has small amount of alcohol, the older the palm wine it ferments and the higher the alcoholic content.

Bibically a man is not allowed to marry 2 women and vice versa as long as the first spouse is still alive, the marriage convenant is broken only by DEATH.

I am not a catholic but the woman just did a form of restitution , let the man go back to the first wife and stop having marital relations with the 2nd woman. If we are to look at it sef, the marriage to this 2nd woman is not valid because he has a living spouse , they just had children together. Let her go and look for her own husband she married another persons husband shikena.

Let her live apart and he should continue taking responsibility for his children that's all.

Christains be deceiving themselves up and down.

You forgot to add eradication of corruption, a lot of corruption takes place in govt hospitals. You see all those survellance , awareness stuff you posted there its corruption that will most likely kill it.

NHIS should work on its website first , I got almost zero info from that website some days back.

As for the health workers let them keep beefing and looking down on themselves.

D Devil is dancing alanta on your matter .

Be deceiving your self you hear, you don't have friends or neighbors to keep you company abi or you cant go visiting too.



Just give us updates after, but please don't even say it was the devil when it eventually happens,that's how devil will sit down jeje and you invite him.

Nonsense.

The one that freaks me out is that continous use of funbact a on babies, wait sef who uses a "drug" continously without out being sick . It sounds so abnormal. It seems people think funbact a is Vaseline.

Even if the funbact a is recommended by the doctor, Did the doctor say you should turn it to permanent cream ? You use it the rash goes and then you continue using it just because your skin gets lighter issorait.

Its like they don't know these creams are absorbed by the skin sha.

For the adults that bleach, they know exactly what they are doing and they will all reap the consequences, just don't put these little children in problems.

These days that its even coconut oil and ori(Shea butter) a lot of people use for their babies and see them shining well.


Its too early to be angry jare.

Medicineguy:
lol..they are actually afraid that they may end up with the girl ( or maybe someone like her) if the OP decides to dump her...read btw the lines

Now I get it
Lool oo, what a thread!

He just has to carry his cross.

Not surprised

Called gtb connect to verify their requirements for change of name on bvn and acc details and I asked specifically if the NIMC slip was accepted and she said YES it is if it contains the NIN number.

I specifically called gtb connect because I know some times those their customer personnel at the desk don't have information about these things , they say one thing and their call center says another.

The NIMC slip contains the NIN number so now banks can stop frustrating customers.

Lool the first page of this thread was hilarious, so nairaland males can actually support a female (that's a first)

Lemme go and read other pages.


Oga OP you must marry her oo shikena, after 10 years how won't she be desperate 10 whole years haba.
You said the abortion almost took her life meaning there may have been complications. Its both of you that will carry the cross oo.


I am always a No sex before marriage advocate but bros you no try at all.

baby124:
Hehehehe. They are really too cute to be insulted. However , they were rumored to have selected the outgoing queen and their choice backfired. So Ooni should thread carefully in taking their word and not doing his homework. He needs to find a virgin and a princess to be honest. Not all these girls his sisters think will bow to them, only for pussy cat to later turn to lion. His position is too highly placed to be involved with a scandalous woman, or a woman who one small boy will run to the papers and run his mouth.

This outgoing Olori has mind. Even me with little to no scandal cannot come and say I wan marry an Ooni. LMAO! All your secret will be for all sorts of peoples reading pleasure. The scrutiny will be too much

Nice points.

I remember the controversy this their marriage created on threads last year, the sisters also said it was oracle that chose her and people should stop saying all sorts. Now it has backfired.

Olori wura was too controversial from the beginning, too much rumors( whether true or not doesn't matter) for a prospective queen.

The funniest part of it is that the sisters may have nothing to do with their break up that's if there's even a break up.

Ubenedictus:
The Church in scriptures is not a collection of denomination. There were no denomination then just the one Church with one faith. That one Church was later called the Catholic Church in the 2nd century because its mission is to the whole world.

Your so - called denominations came 1500yrs later as enterprise formed by men preaching contradictory doctrines and dividing the body of Christ for personal gain and glory.



So sorry your church wasn't the one Jesus said the gate of Hell will not prevail against, he was talking about the Church he built on the foundation of the apostle. If your church cannot trace itself back to 2000yrs ago to the apostles then you are in a Church of men.. . Some one's enterprise and the gate of Hell will certainly prevail there because it isn't the Church Jesus established on the apostles.


sorry your denominations doesn't count for much

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Seems you missed where I said "christains from all denominations" you removed the "christains" and placed emphasis on denominations.

Lool at the bolded is it a competition?

I will still say it again, the "church" referred to in the bible is all christains irrespective of the whereever the worship (whatever denomination). Sorry that doesn't go down well with you, I really can't help that you have a problem with it.

Bros have a good night, I don't argue religion.

jnrbayano:
Do you know the church St Paul talks about as the pillar and foundation of truth in 1Tim 3:15?

"Church" as defined by you, an embodiment of all Christians...

1) are you and your group of Christians the pillar and foundation of truth as defined by St Paul?

2) If answer to question 1 is yes, why do we have many christian denominations teaching different doctrines?

3) If answer to question 1 is no, where can we find that Church St Paul is talking about in 1Tim 3:15?

"Me and my group of christians" seriously?

Anyway the church referred to in the scriptures is an embodiment of christains from all denominations not just one like you think and this statement of mine seems to be the one you( I am almost tempted to add " and your likes" ) have a problem with.

As for your questions I will rather pass.

Have a nice day.

jnrbayano:
Do you know that Jesus who is God is the head of "the church"?

Lool we know Jesus who is God is the head of the " Church" the church means the whole body of Christianity not a particular denomination alone.

The context in this thread is service to the catholic church. Perpetual service to the church as its stated her means perpetual service to the catholic church not the "church" which is the embodiment of all Christians.

Anybody can leave any church at any time , the manner and way he leaves is what matters if its Godly and not causing division and strife or taking members from one church to build yours.

Serve the church perpetual? I thought it was a service to God.

Well written.

It amazes me when people say I have done trad should I go ahead with the white wedding.

You are married already, in the eyes of God and the law. You even had a court wedding too.

Your question should be how to manage your wifey and in-laws.

That ceremony you want to do on Saturday , whether you cancel it or not doesn't change anything fact is you are married.

Is a Christian supposed to have a view or opinion on a biblical instruction?

Bible says it is wrong so it is wrong.

The fact that a lot of people are doing it doesn't make it right.