₦airaland Forum

Pls how long does it take to get the permanent driving license after the issuance of the temporary one.

lady25:
Please after going on a Monday with the above stated,do we need to go back for any other processing? Also must both parties be present in person for the processing?

You are supposed to go back on a Tuesday for oath taking I think(the officers will tell you this) but you can explain to the officer if either of you won't be around so everything can be settled that day. This was what happened in my case so we just showed up on the wedding day.

One person can do the processing, when you go on that Monday you can fill all the docs for both of you and when they say you should come back as I stated in the paragraph above explain to them if you won't be around that time and they all settle all that day.

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Are you not married already, you called her your wife sebi you have done your traditional halting the white wedding plans doesn't change the fact that you are married .


Anyway both of you need to grow up, this is not supposed to be an issue, just a little wisdom and tact
Your lady is not very wise and you too have your own issues.

It most likely won't end well

Polygamous setting again.

Go and rent one room.

I think the author was too "nitpicky and critical "

I really dont get it, I was thinking I would read something more , its more like the doctrinal beliefs of the writer didnt tally with what he saw in the movie

He is of the opinion that christain women shouldnt work outside the home except in some situations (like seriously) hes criticizing a movie that showed a working woman

Out of order :I just don't get how war room gives backsliders and assurance of salvation except its another movie he's talking about. Tony sinned against his wife and his bosses ans ultimately against God he repented , made restitution and fortunately his bosses didn't get him arrested but he did pay for what he stole, I watched when he said he would just pay back what he short changed the company.

Out of bounds : who said christains can't rebuke Satan? Get thee behind me Satan. I don't agree with him on this point? Just hearing that for the first time.
Now the prayer closet itself doesn't really mean you must have a special room dedicated for prayer only I feel it talks more about the prayer life of a christain and how battles can be won when you pray even if you do clean up a room to pray there's really nothing wrong with it. And yes prayer can change the atmosphere in a particular location, same way you know if you have walked into a wrong place as a christain its just about discernment.
Yes the name of Jesus does bring results , I didn't see any abracadabra lool.

Out of focus: There was a Godly sorrow over sin, tony was remorseful and bent down in his bedroom and prayed.

He simply has doctrinal issues with the movie jare and he's entitled to his opinion.



I was thinking what I would read is how people have made war room to be the general antidote to all marital problems. The war room principle has worked and will always work but its not for all situations I think.

All in all its a great movie just like most of the kendrik brothers film I have seen.

701ecilana:
It's a misunderstanding. Marriage is marriage whether traditionally or registry. I seriously don't get it. Some people do Trad, go for Court then go for white Wedding in Church yet still sign a register which the Church gets from the court. What is the rigmarole for?

Oyibo came to our shores and thrust their customs on us, undermining ours, and we, even now that we quite know what game the whites tried to play on us, still follow and hold it so high above ours.

Let's ask ourselves this; the whites who marry in court, do they still go to Church to Wed? I mean todays Oyibo.

Biko, una wey dey live for UK and US make una help us. Do the white people Marry in Court then later proceed to wed in Church again? I doubt it.

Court or Church wedding, (the one they wear white) is their culture, their traditional marriage, just like our own we dey tie wrapper.

What i see from my Bible is dowry, if it's paid, i don dey shag my husband be that, but till then, him no go even see am sef.


My point here has been on marriage, be it traditional or Church. If i insist to wed in Church too (Just to fulfill all righteousness), then i must stay till i say i do.

My point too

It seems we christains in Nigeria are just confused sometimes.

The Mata tata person jare

701ecilana:
Thank God someone sees my point.

My point has always been on the sanctity of marriage, be it church, traditional or registry. God ordained it, so if it must be done, it's principles shd be followed.

Its just annoying that we leave the main issue which is the sanctity of marriage itself and start talking about other things.

Biblically you are not meant to have sex with your spouse before marriage simple .

If you are oyinbo and your customs is just to join at the courthouse you should not have sex before marriage.
Whatever customs or traditions that hold in your place or country as the marriage process, you should not have sex before that marriage.That's the bible. We will now be hiding under the canopy of its traditional I want to do I can sleep with my spouse.

As for church wedding, its more of a feferity in my opinion, if you want to go for it no problem but the hypocrisy among us Christians is that you will see someonr say I got married 2011 and got wedded 2013 and one will be like what's all this. If you can't afford a church wedding fufil the rites collect your cert at the registry and go home with your wife.God honors it.

After you have married the woman and consumated the marriage you will now come back and say you want to do solemnization, what are you solemnizing? Marriage has already been consummated naa.


Sex before marriage is bad in its own self, we just like deceiving ourselves as christains.

Loool, is pregnancy even the issue?

Some churches won't even wed you straight if they know you have had sex with your spouse, you guys will be suspended for a short while asked to repent and pray again and then after sometime they may join you together. It may even be a church blessing.

Christains be twisting biblical standards up and down.

Hope we also know that marriage is not just church wedding , meaning if you intend to do just traditional and registry both of you must not have slept with each other until you are joined.

It baffles me when Christians will say I won't do church wedding ( its not compulsory anyway ) I will just do traditional and then you think because you will do the traditional rites alone ( there's no church elders to breathe down your neck and check if you ve slept with each other or not) and collect your cert from the registry you can go ahead and have sex with your fiance before the rites are fulfilled ?

We deceive ourselves a lot as Christians oo.

The bottom line is this Marriage ( whatever form we want to do church trad whatever ) is honorable and the bed undefiled. So until you pay what you should pay on your wife's head (bride price list parental consent etc etc) you are not supposed to sleep with her simple.

See Christians justifying bad things up and down.


Churches have taken a stand you abide by it or you run and do trad and registry but also know that if you sleep with your spouse before she's handed over by the parents traditionally you have commited a sin and its abominable before God, yes you need to repent and yes there are consequences .

Talk back ke?

Maximum shishi for you.

eyinjuege:
Anyone that thinks having a CS in this day and age as abnormal or wrong is not worthy of being discussed with.
However, having an unnecessary surgery isnt the way forward either.
It all depends on what your obs feels is safe for you.

There should always be a medical indication for a CS, and not just to please your whims. Because its an elective CS doesn't mean there's no medical indication for it. Its usually because your because your obstetrician feels its unsafe for you or the baby to have a vaginal delivery.

Healing and recuperation from a CS takes longer.
I know every pregnancy carries it's own risks, so does every delivery. Having a CS delivery also carries it's own risks. You could react to any of the drugs from anaesthesia, your wound could break down, get infected after surgery, . You have increased your risk of having a blood clot post op etc.
No Dr would advise you to have an unnecessary CS and bring your baby out at 36weeks. More like from 38 weeks, unless it's medically necessary to bring the child(ren) out earlier There's always that risk of the baby staying in the neonatal unit if brought out earlier than necessary from things like jaundice etc.
Having a baby on a specific day still doesnt have to be by a CS either, as labour can always be induced. So thats definitely no sure advantage of a CS.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with a CS btw, but any unnecessary major surgery shouldn't be encouraged.

I agree with you.

It depends on parenting

There's the "my mummy said" set of children. You give them something they ll say my mummy said we shouldn't collect anything from anybody and they will nicely reject it

Some will collect and say my mummy said we should show her anything anybody gives us. If given birthday packs in school they won't touch it at all.

I don't blame parents who give such instructions to their children anyway.

What he did was wrong lesbian or not, you touched a passengers tips? Let him get charged jare.

A lot of Nigerian men don't even know what harasment is, you stand in BRT someone is trying to rub his peepee on you.

I just don't get it.

With all these stories about uber and co its better to stick with those old babas riding yellow and black lagos taxis .

Just curious though what was the evidence, word of mouth?

Well since it seems the OP is talking about relationships/dating I will pass.

If she mentioned wife/marriage in this writeup then I will have something to say.

Now its getting interesting.


One thing I do know about Nigerian academicians is a lot of them never forgive or forget they would wait for you at one point or the other, they know each other in different unis and they will wait for you to get to them before they strike.

I am not saying he's right or wrong but that's what I have observed about our academicians.

Mr "3 spoons of milk" just take care of them for the holidays nau all they need is just food and shelter.

On a more serious note report to the nearesr police station what happened just in case , and feed them what you can afford till their papa comes back for them. Those boys can say you are their relative if they are questioned.

Sorry you hear just manage them, that's if your story is true anyway.

A lot of people just read headlines they don't read the content.

Its a pity.

I am still looking for where it was written that the whole eastate will be destroyed. Its houses that are built on canals or drainages in those areas that will be destroyed.

Sanchez01:
This came out wrong. She lost Jaiye to the cold hands of death and many would interprete this to be that she could sacrifice Jaiye if everything could be restarted.

This is disappointing. She should at least respect the Aboderins, if not for anything.

Exactly , people interprets the things differently some people done weigh what they say at all

Will it kill them if they keep their lives of social media.
Can't you DM him nawa ooo. If they start with her now she ll start crying foul.

Omoluabi16:
hehe. it's funny, the period I ate val u very well was when I lived around ijanikin. Now I moved here around alimosho, and I don't see it. well like you said, maybe it has to do with their distribution.

Hahaha I even thought it will be more common in alimisho because its sort of townish abi is it hinterland interior alimosho

Ishilove:
Me, I'm a gentle geh o

*flutters eyelashes*

Seriously though, I live on the mainland and it is everywhere in my hood.

Afi gentle geh na

That company has issue with distribution jare

Ishilove:
Ah ah! Omoluabi16, so you're indeed in Lagos, albeit the hinterland interior?

You like wahala oo
Leave the guy alone joor

I stay around Ijanikin and its a bit difficult to see val u and we see other brands oo, Butterfield, breadmeal etc but val u you have to carry microscope.

Omoluabi16:
True. I found val u bread to be the best. But I think it's no more I circulation. haven't seen it in 3years.

Its still in lagos but there are some areas you hardly see it. If you live from Ijanikin downwards towards badagry you most likely won't see val u bread, Leventis sales team needs to improve distribution in that area.

You will get it in central Lagos but all these our interior Lagos not quite easy, other loafs are taking their market share.

Val U- sliced is nice not tasted their family loaf(agege bread style)

Breadmeal- I have not seen the sliced one before but the big loaf is on point very nice bread.

Lagos.

Sorry OP but it seems your culture favors your brother, I guess that's why he is the one that is being sent the proceeds of the rent.


He's selfish and feels you all should follow his idea simply because he is the only son, he has this thinking that whatever he says should be final and sadly he's backed by tradition but that doesn't mean he should lack respect for his mum and siblings and also empathy.

Does Igbo tradition say that the mother can't take proceeds out of your late fathers investments? I see no reason why lawywrs can't send the money directly to her or even to your sister in school. Let him go and work nau.

Some people are naturally wicked, they just hide under culture to justify their wickedness, if not how will a son not even give his mother out of proceeds from their inheritance.

I doubt there's anything you can do, you guys should manage to take care of your mum and sis. Let him eat the rent.


Are you people taking any steps to get the cash in bank?

Lool the lady's index finger and thumb didn't touch or complete the circle now.

That's not the sign we see people do, she was holding a question mark between.

Look well

Maduawuchukwu:
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Yes his main problem is why she slept with them and not with him and that is a legitimate problem. The issue is "what does that mean?" Is is that she is not attracted to him or what? That question is very key to a happy marriage. They have dated on three occasions; the first time maybe she was a virgin, the second time she was in Uni and had likely started having sex, the third time she was a confirmed non-virgin who even wanted to settle down with a man who impregnated her and through all these episodes she did not give him sex! Meanwhile the guy is footing her bills. This is a very huge red flag. She is not giving you sex meaning that she might not be attracted to you but you are footing her bills meaning she is gaining from you. The most logical conclusion here is that she is keeping him around for the benefits she gets. This thing happened to my friend so I know what I am talking about. Most likely she treats him shabbily too.

Where did he say he was footing her bills.
What benefits has she gotten from him from the oops narration
Why do you think she must give him sex
How are you sure she didn't regret sex she had with other guys far later and then decided no sex policy was what was best for her


Bros understand one thing she reserves the right to say no to anyman she is not married to concerning the issue of sex at any given time whether virgin or not.

This case is peculiar she was not cheating on him with other guys, there was a time frame of years in in this story so he has got no case.

Sex is the origin of the downfall of most guys so I am not surprised the way everybody is hammering on sex sex sex.

Maduawuchukwu:
On the different occasions that they dated she denied him sex while she was having it or had had it with other people; It is too weak to say that it was because she was a virgin that she denied him sex in the first place and later on that it was because of her bad experience. In a court situation the evidence will be weak. The main thing here is that there is a huge possibility that she is not sexually attracted to him and that is going to make for a disastrous wedding. That she has good qualities is not going to keep the marriage if she goes about cheating cos she has no sexual attraction to him.

You all still do not get the point, OPs problem with this lady is still sex, well we can also say he will go about sleeping with her relatives if he marries her since he has done it before.

She had sex with people after their first encounter and before their second encounter. She didn't cheat and there were difference of YEARS between all these incidents.

Besides anybody male or female has the right to say No to anybody they are not married to at any given time, whether the person is a virgin or not is inconsequential , the moment people understand this the better.

That guys problem is sex and she is very smart not giving him then and even now. Those shouting manipulation are not even aware he's the one doing the manipulating.

The babe even tried considering him for marriage oo, A large percentage of girls will never marry a man who has slept with her neighbor-relative simply because she denied him sex.

He doesn't understand why she didn't sleep with h and slept with others years later and still is not sleeping with him now that they are engaged and this is his major problem.

Sex sex sex lool

Anyway I am a no sex before marriage advocate.

They poured the refuse let them waddle in it.

As if govt will do every thing.

cyberguy72:
But she has been giving it to other guys na.

Has been giving?

She gave after her 2 failed attempts at a relationship with the OP.

So because she denied OP sex and then after some time (years most likely ) she got involved with other guys and had sex and OP finally came back to her and she still has a no sex policy she's a bad person.

How are you sure that its not the experiences she had with those guys that made her say no sex before marriage to the OP the 2nd time and how are you sure that its not because she felt she's too young or not redy forr sex that she denies the OP during their uni and pre uni days because what we are talking about here is years and should be around 6 years or more if she dated her uni boyfriend for 4 years.

His problem is still sex that's all.

forzarush:
just because a lady is not a virgin doesn't mean she goes to bed with men freely. Sex for a woman involves emotions,besides she may have decided to wait,some people who aren't virgins can also be celibate.

Thank you.

See them huffing and puffing coz of sex na wa oo

Op I repeat the problem you have with this girl is sex and she is very smart to say no till marriage.

sherlockhush:
Pls read the op words properly. She dated when was in the university. Who knows by then if she is having sex.

I read it, the initial line said they were teenagers and she refused him sex along the way while they were most likely still young, He slept with her relation which led to their break up and that was before they gained admissiom and they met again after they got admission and the no sex policy came up again which he couldn't cope with.


There is a timeline in this story.

Who knows maybe she was not having sex then.

His major problem is sex .

Lool, you dated her while you both were teens and you expected she will give you sex ? Orishirishi.

I am an advocate of no sex before marriage but I think she was wise enough not to have sex in her teenage years, a smart teenager won't have sex simple.

She got to the university became more matured and entered a 4 year relationship and ended up having sex, getting pregnant and having a still birth and you are pissed that she had sex with 2 other people.

Did you expect her to sleep with you as a teenager.

I can see some boys shouting she doesn't love u, she's there for your money blablabla as if they will encourage any of their teenage sisters to be having sex up and down.


Your major problem is not the still birth because its not even a secret not to talk of being dark, your challenge is that she didn't sleep with you while you were dating and then went ahead to sleep with someone else years later and that is something you can't deal with but you expect her to deal with your sleeping with her relation and you aborting a baby with another girl.

She's smart for saying no marriage no sex because it seems that sex itself is your problem.

So you wanted to be having sex with a girl as a teenager abi and you are pissed of she didn't give u but slept with others years later,

What won't I hear on Nairaland.


Either way No sex before marriage will have sorted all this matter out. That's still the best in all situations.

The only thing I can see is sex sex sef.